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Surviving The 5 Stages Of A Break Up by djsgjg0045


									There 鈥檚 no denying how painful a break up is. No matter how long the
relationship lasted, the fact remains that coping after a break up can be very difficult.
You will feel a roller coaster of emotions 鈥?anger, pain, revenge, hope, relief. The
effects of a breakup are almost the same with every person but they vary based on
how the person reacts and handles the consequences.
  When you love someone so much, he becomes part of your system. When you 鈥檙 e
single, you do things on your own but, when you get into a relationship, you let him in
to your life. This is why separating ways get too painful. The process of detaching
him out of your system can take quite awhile. Here are ways to help you survive the 5
stages of a break up.
  Denial. He tells you that it is best for both of you to part ways. The first emotion to
hit you is shock. Is he serious? But you 鈥檝 e been the best girlfriend that you could
ever be for two years, he could not be serious! It takes time for things to sink in.
Believing that things are finally over does not happen in an instant. At some point,
you would hope that he takes back everything that he said. But when he starts to pack
his things and you find yourself alone every night, the misery sinks in 鈥?you are
alone and you are no longer together.
  Anger. Once you realize that your relationship has ended, anger starts to take over.
How dare him dump you for another woman? You cook him dinner, you do his
laundry, you walk his dog every day 鈥?how dare him do this to you? You 鈥檝 e
invested too much time and emotions in your relationship 鈥?only to be dumped?
  Bargaining. After intense anger, you start to bargain. Okay, he ended the relationship.
You know that you are over. You have a lot of questions waiting to be answered. You
are still angry. But, you can 鈥檛 deny the fact that you 鈥檙 e still madly in love with
him. One night, you call him up and pop the big question - can we give ourselves a
second chance?
  Revenge. He says no 鈥?no there is no second chance. For the second time, anger
sets in. But this time, it 鈥檚 not just anger, you want revenge. You want him to hurt
as much as you do. The 鈥渞 evenge 鈥?strategies may vary from one person to
another. Some women would opt for a hair cut, get made-up just to see the it 鈥檚
-your-big-loss look on her ex 鈥檚 face. Others get into rebound relationships in the
hope of making their men get jealous over their new found love.
  Acceptance. Among the 5 stages of a break up, acceptance is when you come to
terms with peace of mind. After a few weeks or months, you were able to look at the
brighter side. It still hurts so bad but the break up gave you the chance to become a
better person and focus in your career.
  You can find thousands of advice on how to get your ex back on the Internet. But the
only way to get over a broken heart is to believe that you can. Dealing with the 5
stages of a break up can be tedious and very painful. But, sometimes, you won 鈥檛
realize that you 鈥檙 e strong until the only option that 鈥檚 left is for you to be
  The author is one of the top freelance technical writer from the Philippines. To date
she worked in two of the Philippines most reliable advertising agencies. Her core
competencies include magazine, newsletter, blogs/web content, marketing
communications (production of product brochures and concepts), corporate
communications (press releases and corporate profiles), script writing (commercials,
short films and documentaries) and fiction (short stories).
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