Emmanuel United Church is a community of faith
that is called to live the God’s love
as exemplified in the life and teaching of Jesus Christ.
FAMILY? Emmanuel United Church
Blended, bible, nuclear, household, extended, traditional, 871 Upper Ottawa St.
earth, and Christian, what is the word we are looking for? Family!! Hamilton ON L8T 3V4
Combine any of the words with family to form a new relationship.
This is what our family services will be about during Mother’s day to
Father’s day and more about the bonds of relationships formed by
the family ties. How do you think God fits into this mix? How about Administrative Assistant:
this passage; Ephesians 3. I think, God has given us the means by
which to understand the diversity of his kingdom, all families are not
alike. I think this is what gives us the ability to work, play and study
within the community called family. We know God has a sense of
humour why else would creatures such as a platypus, or a kangaroo Organist/Choir Director:
exist; and there are our own personal faults that I’m sure gives God a Richard Crossman
chuckle from time to time. It is these types misfit relationship/ Minister:
characteristics that allow us to accept that each and everyone of us Rev. Helen Prior
is different, yet we can all be part of God’s family. We have the
tools which God gave us to form families and understand that within Inside this issue:
that family nothing is very normal, how could it be? We have all ex-
perienced those family outings and dinners! So without hesitation I
Editorial 1 Website 11
say embrace the “normal” way that family might be presented, enjoy
praising and discussing the kingdom of Christ. Celebrate the family Ponderings from 2 Joan’s Jungle 12
tree as it is part of the forest of God. Gwen the Priory
Annie Aside 5 Classified 16
Pondering Thought-Alberto Guerra
A black friend says to his white friend “White friend, when I’m February 2008 17
Committee news 6-8
born, I’m black. When I’m growing, I’m black. When I’m in in the
sun, I’m black. When I’m cold, I’m black. When I’m surprised, I’m Transition 9-10 March 2008 18
black. When I’m sick, I’m black. When I die, I’m black.
When you’re born, you’re pink. When you’re growing, you’re white.
When you’re in the sun, you’re red. When you’re cold, you’re purple.
When you’re surprised, you’re yellow. When you’re sick, you’re
green. When you die, you’re gray. And despite all this, you have
the nerve to call me a man of colour.”
Excerpt from Es Cuba by Lea Aschkenas
April-May 2008 Volume 2, Issue 2
Ponderings from the Priory
Families come in all shapes oxygen flowing. At the hos-
and sizes. In the coming weeks we will be celebrating pital, Dad was rushed into an operating
different family configurations, as well as consider how room. He was lucky; he survived. But something inside
God has walked with families throughout history as we Dad died. His zest for life was gone. He obstinately
have evolved and met new challenges. I offer the fol- refused to follow doctor's orders. Suggestions and of-
lowing story for reflection, because I have seen a simi- fers of help were turned aside with sarcasm and in-
lar transformation in the Emmanuel church family. sults. The number of visitors thinned, then finally
Take. Read. Consider. Enjoy! stopped altogether. Dad was left alone.
God Bless! Rev. Helen My husband, Dick, and I asked Dad to come live with us
on our small farm. We hoped the fresh air and rustic
atmosphere would help him adjust. Within a week after
The Old Man and the Dog by Catherine Moore"Watch
he moved in, I regretted the invitation. It seemed
out! You nearly broad sided that car!" My father yelled
nothing was satisfactory. He criticized everything I
did. I became frustrated and moody. Soon I was taking
"Can't you do anything right?" Those words hurt worse my pent-up anger out on Dick. We began to bicker and
than blows. I turned my head toward the elderly man in argue. Alarmed, Dick sought out our pastor and ex-
the seat beside me, daring me to challenge him. A lump plained the situation. The clergyman set up weekly
rose in my throat as I averted my eyes. I wasn't pre- counselling appointments for us. At the close of each
pared for another battle. session he prayed, asking God to soothe Dad's troubled
"I saw the car, Dad. Please don't yell at me when I'm mind. But the months wore on and God was silent.
driving." My voice was measured and steady, sounding Something had to be done and it was up to me to do it.
far calmer than I really felt. Dad glared at me, then The next day I sat down with the phone book and me-
turned away and settled back. At home I left Dad in thodically called each of the mental health clinics
front of the television and went outside to collect my listed in the Yellow Pages. I explained my problem to
thoughts. Dark, heavy clouds hung in the air with a each of the sympathetic voices that answered. In vain.
promise of rain. The rumble of distant thunder seemed Just when I was giving up hope, one of the voices sud-
to echo my inner turmoil. denly exclaimed, "I just read something that might
help you! Let me go get the article." I listened as she
What could I do about him? Dad had been a lumberjack read. The article described a remarkable study done at
in Washington and Oregon. He had enjoyed being out- a nursing home. All of the patients were under treat-
doors and had revelled in pitting his strength against ment for chronic depression. Yet their attitudes had
the forces of nature. He had entered gruelling lumber- improved dramatically when they were given responsi-
jack competitions, and had placed often. The shelves in bility for a dog. I drove to the animal shelter that af-
his house were filled with trophies that attested to his ternoon. After I filled out a questionnaire, a uniformed
prowess. The years marched on relentlessly. The first officer led me to the kennels. The odour of disinfec-
time he couldn't lift a heavy log, he joked about it; but tant stung my nostrils as I moved down the row of
later that same day I saw him outside alone, straining to pens. Each contained five to seven dogs. Long-haired
lift it. He became irritable whenever anyone teased him dogs, curly-haired dogs, black dogs, spotted dogs, all
about his advancing age, or when he couldn't do some- jumped up, trying to reach me. I studied each one but
thing he had done as a younger man. rejected one after the other for various reasons, too
big, too small, too much hair. As I neared the last pen a
Four days after his sixty-seventh birthday, he had a
dog in the shadows of the far corner struggled to his
heart attack. An ambulance sped him to the hospital
feet, walked to the front of the run and sat down. It
while a paramedic administered CPR to keep blood and
was a pointer, one of the dog world's aristocrats. But
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this was a caricature of the breed. Years had etched his Cheyenne lying quietly at his feet.
face and muzzle with shades of gray. His hipbones jut-
ted out in lopsided triangles. But it was his eyes that
Dad and Cheyenne were inseparable throughout the next
caught and held my attention. Calm and clear, they be-
three years. Dad's bitterness faded, and he and Chey-
held me unwaveringly. I pointed to the dog. "Can you tell
enne made many friends. Then late one night I was star-
me about him?" The officer looked, then shook his head
tled to feel Cheyenne's cold nose burrowing through our
in puzzlement. "He's a funny one. Appeared out of no-
bed covers. He had never before come into our bedroom
where and sat in front of the gate. We brought him in,
at night. I woke Dick, put on my robe and ran into my
figuring someone would be right down to claim him. That
father's room. Dad lay in his bed, his face serene. But
was two weeks ago and we've heard nothing. His time is
his spirit had left quietly sometime during the night.
up tomorrow." He gestured helplessly. As the words
Two days later my shock and grief deepened when I dis-
sank in I turned to the man in horror. "You mean you're
covered Cheyenne lying dead beside Dad's bed. I
going to kill him?"
wrapped his still form in the rag rug he had slept on. As
“Ma'am,” he said gently, "that's our policy. We don't Dick and I buried him near a favourite fishing hole, I
have room for every unclaimed dog." I looked at the silently thanked the dog for the help he had given me in
pointer again. The calm brown eyes awaited my decision. restoring Dad's peace of mind. The morning of Dad's
"I'll take him," I said. I drove home with the dog on the funeral dawned overcast and dreary. This day looks like
front seat beside me. When I reached the house I the way I feel, I thought, as I walked down the aisle to
honked the horn twice. I was helping my prize out of the the pews reserved for family. I was surprised to see
car when Dad shuffled onto the front porch. the many friends Dad and Cheyenne had made filling the
"Ta-da! Look what I got for you, Dad!" I said excitedly. church. The pastor began his eulogy. It was a tribute to
Dad looked, then wrinkled his face in disgust. "If I had both Dad and the dog who had changed his life. And
wanted a dog I would have gotten one. And I would have then the pastor turned to Hebrews 13:2. "Be not for-
picked out a better specimen than that bag of bones. getful to entertain strangers."
Keep it! I don't want it" Dad waved his arm scornfully "I've often thanked God for sending that angel," he
and turned back toward the house. Anger rose inside said. For me, the past dropped into place, completing a
me. It squeezed together my throat muscles and
puzzle that I had not seen before: the sympathetic
pounded into my temples. "You'd better get used to him,
voice that had just read the right article... Cheyenne's
Dad. He's staying!" Dad ignored me.
unexpected appearance at the animal shelter. . .his calm
"Did you hear me, Dad?" I screamed. At those words acceptance and complete devotion to my father. . and
Dad whirled angrily, his hands clenched at his sides, his the proximity of their deaths. And suddenly I under-
eyes narrowed and blazing with hate. We stood glaring stood. I knew that God had answered my prayers after
at each other like duelists, when suddenly the pointer all.
pulled free from my grasp. He wobbled toward my dad
and sat down in front of him. Then slowly, carefully, he
raised his paw. Dad's lower jaw trembled as he stared
at the uplifted paw. Confusion replaced the anger in his
eyes. The pointer waited patiently. Then Dad was on his
knees hugging the animal. It was the beginning of a
warm and intimate friendship. Dad named the pointer
Cheyenne. Together he and Cheyenne explored the com-
munity. They spent long hours walking down dusty lanes. NIETZSCHE:
They spent reflective moments on the banks of streams,
You need chaos in your soul to give birth to a
angling for tasty trout. They even started to attend
Sunday services together, Dad sitting in a pew and dancing star. http://www.wisdomquotes.com
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For those who might not know Annie,
Emmanuel’s Pastoral Care Dog,
died in her sleep on Friday March 14th.
Among the many tributes
at a Service celebrating Annie’s ministry at Emmanuel, Hamilton Conference Personnel Minister
Jenny Stephens shared with us Canine Life Rules. As her final offering to Emmanuel these might be
good ideals to remember her by.
Remember, if a dog was the teacher you would learn things like:
- when loved ones come home, always run to greet them.
- never pass up the opportunity to go for a joyride.
- allow the experience of fresh air and the wind in your face to be pure ecstasy.
- when it’s in your best interest - practice obedience
- let others know when they have invaded your territory
- take naps and stretch before rising.
- run, romp, and play daily.
- thrive on attention and let people touch you.
- avoid biting when a simple growl will do.
- on warm days, stop to lie on your back on the grass.
- on hot days, drink lots of water and lie under a shady tree.
- when you're happy, dance around and wag your entire body.
- no matter how often you are scolded, don’t buy into the guilt thing and pout... run right back and
- delight in the simple joy of a long walk.
- eat with gusto and enthusiasm. Stop when you have had enough.
- be loyal. Never pretend to be something you're not.
- if what you want lies buried, dig until you find it.
- when someone is having a bad day, be silent, sit close by and nuzzle them gently
JACK LYNCH: Articles/suggestion etc
Arguments over grammar and style are often as fierce as Contact Gwen Gilhooly
those over IBM versus Mac, and as fruitless as Coke ver- E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org
sus Pepsi and boxers versus briefs. Drop a note into the Newsletter mail slot
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ANNIES’ ASIDE You have been spotted, and when you and your
special friend finally meet, you cling together in
joyous reunion, never to be parted again. The
Waiting at the Rainbow happy kisses rain upon your face; your hands
Bridge again caress the beloved head, and you look once
more into the trusting eyes of your pet, so long
From the editor’s pets Boomer, Roscoe and Tara gone from your life but never absent from your
Then you cross Rainbow Bridge together....
To Helen and Laura
Just this side of heaven is a place called
A Rescuer Rainbow Bridge Story
When an animal dies that has been espe- Unlike most days at Rainbow Bridge, this day dawned cold
cially close to someone here, that pet goes and gray, damp as a swamp and as dismal as could be imag-
to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and ined. All of the recent arrivals had no idea what to think,
as they had never experienced a day like this before. But
hills for all of our special friends so they
the animals who had been waiting for their beloved people
can run and play together. There is plenty knew exactly what was going on and started to gather at
of food, water and sunshine, and our the pathway leading to The Bridge to watch.
friends are warm and comfortable.
It wasn't long before an elderly animal came into view,
All the animals who had been ill and old are
head hung low and tail dragging. The other animals, the
restored to health and vigor. Those who ones who had been there for a while, knew what his story
were hurt or maimed are made whole and was right away, for they had seen this happen far too of-
strong again, just as we remember them in ten.
our dreams of days and times gone by. The
He approached slowly, obviously in great emotional pain,
animals are happy and content, except for
but with no sign of injury or illness. Unlike all of the other
one small thing; they each miss someone animals waiting at The Bridge, this animal had not been
very special to them, who had to be left be- restored to youth and made healthy and vigorous again. As
hind. he walked toward The Bridge, he watched all of the other
animals watching him. He knew he was out of place here
They all run and play together, but the day and the sooner he could cross over, the happier he would
comes when one suddenly stops and looks be. But, alas, as he approached The Bridge, his way was
into the distance. His bright eyes are in- barred by the appearance of an Angel who apologized, but
told him that he would not be able to pass. Only those ani-
tent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he
mals who were with their people could pass over Rainbow
begins to run from the group, flying over Bridge. With no place else to turn to, the elderly animal
the green grass, his legs carrying him turned towards the fields before The Bridge and saw a
faster and faster. group of other animals like himself, also elderly and in-
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Con’t A Rescuer Rainbow Bridge Story
firm. They weren't playing, but rather simply lying on "I think I like rescuer's", said the first animal.
the green grass, forlornly staring out at the pathway
leading to The Bridge. And so, he took his place among "So does GOD", was the reply.
them, watching the pathway and waiting.
With all my love, & thanks to my
One of the newest arrivals at The Bridge didn't under- Rescuer.
stand what he had just witnessed and asked one of the May God bless Helen & Laura for I will be
animals that had been there for awhile to explain it to waiting for my family
"You see, that poor animal was a rescue. He entered homegar-
rescue just as you see him now, an older animal with his den&tm=51&gps=115_1288_1020_597&f=00&su=p284.8.150.ip_&tt=2
fur graying and his eyes clouding. He never made it out
of rescue and passed on with only the love of his res-
cuer to comfort him as he left his earthly existance. Committee News
Because he had no family to give his love to, he has no
one to escort him across The Bridge." Building & Grounds
Although it was a tough winter, things ran rela-
The first animal thought about this for a minute and tively smooth this year. We had a few glitches
then asked, "So what will happen now?" As he was
such as an icy parking lot but considering the win-
about to receive his answer, the clouds suddenly parted
ter we had, were able to balance the extra costs
and the gloom lifted. Approaching The Bridge could be
seen a single person and among the older animals, a of salting with safety. We are looking ahead to
whole group was suddenly bathed in a golden light and several projects that may require attention such
they were all young and healthy again, just as they as the windows in the original building but for now
were in the prime of life. it appears to be small things that need taking care
of. While I’m on the subject of taking care of
"Watch, and see.", said the second animal. A second things the spring clean up this year is set for May
group of animals from those waiting came to the path- 31st and it would be great to have a lot of bodies
way and bowed low as the person neared. At each out to make the work load lighter. We will be con-
bowed head, the person offered a pat on the head or a
centrating on painting again but there are many
scratch behind the ears. The newly restored animals
spring duties such as dusting and cleaning those
fell into line and followed him towards The Bridge.
They all crossed The Bridge together. areas that are hard to get to. So please mark this
on your calendar and come out for a day of cleaning
"What happened?" and fellowship.
Rob Gilhooly-Chair B&G
"That was a rescuer. The animals you saw bowing in re-
spect were those who found new homes because of his Christian Development
work. They will cross when their new families arrive.
Those you saw restored were those who never found What are we up to now! Well our last 2 meetings
homes. When a rescuer arrives, they are allowed to we had to cancel because of weather. So I’d say
perform one, final act of rescue. They are allowed to our committee is off to a stormy start for 08. We
escort those poor animals that they couldn't place with have not meet so plans are not set in stone but in
families on earth, across The Rainbow Bridge." our committee, when is anything ever set? I know
that we are planning many of the same actives as
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Committee News Con’t
last year. For 2008, lets start with a big thank you crop) call Tom Lowden 905-389-7137. The Banks
to all that attended the mystery dinner. All mon- will be ready then so that you may grow your crop
ies raised will go toward our new library and fire of money to be harvested in October. .
safe room for archives. We will develop a sub- ·Case for Kids: This year the walkathon will be
committee to discuss designs and ideas on these held on Sunday June 1. Please consider walking
two rooms. Anyone wanting to join the sub commit- with the Emmanuel Walkers it is usually a great
tee please watch the bulletins and newsletter for day at the waterfront at that time of year and
details. the walkers are well rewarded with the knowl-
During May our family services will, as always, pro- edge that they have helped many disadvantaged
vide a whimsical approach to our theme. Moth- children and youth to experience a better sum-
ers/families will join us for fancy sandwiches and mer. The walkers will also be entertained, fed
tea. We are looking at a Sunday of sundaes again and watered at the conclusion of the walk. More
and a brunch of Father’s Day. A special bouton- information will be in the church bulletins as the
niere is in the works for father day as well (hint- date approaches. .
bubble gum) Watch the bulletin for details. ·Wesley Dinner: Since the last news letter the
Gwen Gilhooly—Chair congregation has responded to some of the needs
Fellowship Committee at Wesley by providing food for 250 of the
Wesley clients. (We actually fed 160) The re-
April 20 Hayride at Uncle Porkey’s
maining food was well used during the following
May 4 Car Rally see ad page 12 week. Helen and the choir assisted in the after-
July 2, 16, 30 Summer picnics/ gatherings at noon church service. .
August 13, 27 church at 5:00 p.m. ·Crude Awakening: The movie was shown on
March 30 and during the discussion following the
September 7 Welcome Back Luncheon
movie many ideas about the need to act to miti-
October 5 Soup Luncheon gate the effects of costly oil were discussed.
November 2 Soup Luncheon submitted by Janet Haig This may be a bigger problem than Global Warm-
Outreach and Social Action . ing so please read the separate list of things to
·Food Project: The congregation responded well be done. (If you have a computer
to our request to help Helen lose weight. The you might look at .
“Food Project” now has a monthly income of http://www.crudeawakening.org/primer.shtml#now)
submitted by Tom Lowden
$182.00. When Helen meets her monthly goal the
congregational sponsors pay their share of the Worship Committee
$182.00. When Helen does not meet her goal she 2008 committee
pays the project $182.00. In case you have for- Chair Bob Thompson
gotten the funds will be divided evenly between
Vice Chair Gloria Shinn
Neighbour to Neighbour, Wesley, and Canadian
Foodgrains Bank. .
·Canadian Foodgrains Bank. This will be our third Minister Rev Helen Prior
year of working our front yard garden to raise Clerk Doug Van Duzen
money for this worthy project. The garden will be Bob Fletcher, Gwen Gilhooly, Rob Gilhooly, Jean
planted in May (any suggestions for this year’s
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Good cant. If you are willing to fill this position, please
see any committee member.
The duties of the committee as outlined in Em-
manuel’s constitution are as Follows: Emmanuel’s worship style, from the beginning, has
been traditional. As our congregation ages, it is ob-
1-oversee the order of worship and celebration
vious that we have not been able to attract and hold
2-arrange communion and baptismal services sufficient numbers of younger people (under fifty)
3-prepare the elements for communion to replace those who have died, who are shut-in,
4-consider & approve when appropriate baptisms have moved away or have drifted away.
and weddings The whole point of Helen’s intentional interim minis-
5-arrange pulpit supply try is to guide us in an in-depth self analysis which
will hopefully identify the changes that must take
6-supervise the use of the sanctuary
place if Emmanuel is to survive and thrive into the
7-oversee sanctuary furnishings, memorials and future.
Personally, I am comfortable with tradition. But as
8-recruit and schedule members for ushering, chair of Worship I realize that God, through
greeting and name tag production and distribution Helen’s leadership, may very well call us to a differ-
9-recruit and schedule lay readers ent direction.
10-over see evangelism Lets pray that we are open to this call when it
11-promote recruitment for church vocation and comes. In the meantime, the worship committee is
recommend candidates to presbytery willing to consider your input.
12-name a music committee consisting of organis, Quite often even small changes can make a differ-
choir president and two member of the church ence as an example, on Easter Sunday, the Lord’s
board prayer was recited, not sung for the first time in
When the constitution is next reviewed we would many years. Gloria, a new member of our committee
probably consider some “fine tuning” and possibly pointed out that since the Lord’s prayer is no longer
an addition such as preparation of an annual budget recited in our schools it would benefit our young
for submission to the church board. people to recite it in it’s original form, as a change
from the three musical arrangements we use. I
In addition to the committee we have a number of
Constantly hear the terms alternate forms of wor-
volunteers who perform specific duties on our be-
ship “Contemporary Worship” discussed. As Helen
half. They are: Elaine Aikman, John Aikman, Barb
pointed out, people of my age are not supposed to
Book, Grace Braun, Jim Hyatt, Ian King, Tom Low-
“get” the point of the emerging spirit campaign
den, Dorothy Ronnenberg, Clark Stewardson.
since it is aimed at the younger generation. We old-
The committee will be meeting on the third Thurs- sters need the direction of you youngsters to help
day of each month at 7:30 pm and usually last plot Emmanuel’s future worship style(s). As a first
approx. 1 1/2 hrs. step, we invite you in the younger age range, to con-
There are occasional “emergency meetings” to deal sider joining our committee
with specific items that must be dealt with be- Submitted by Bob Thompson Chair of Worship
tween the regular meetings. They are usually held
following the Sunday services.
You will note that the position of secretary is va-
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Transition Team Report
The Transition Team continues to meet one or two times per month. A reminder that we will be approach-
ing the Church Board to request the appointment of a Joint Search Committee in May, so that Hamilton
Presbytery can have it in place and operational in September. The goal is to have the JNAC report com-
pleted by Christmas and approved early in the New Year, so that the search for a new minister can com-
mence early January 2009, and a call be issued July 2009. The work of the Transition team will continue
throughout all of these different processes, until June, 2009.
Three Stars and a Wish Exercise
In the fall, folks attending church were asked to consider three things they believe Emmanuel United Church
folks do well and write it on a star. Likewise, folks were then asked to dream of something they would wish
for Emmanuel in the future.
Table 1. Three Things Emmanuel Church Does Well.
Category # of % Key words on votes
Fellowship Working together, loving people, Social Time, Activity (almost every sticker
58 74 has the word friendly or fellowship), Social Events, Clubs
Ministry of Music 57 73 Richard, Choir, Cantata, Wonderful Ministry of Music
Food 28 36 Food – Luncheons
Welcoming Newcomers 24 31 Warm, welcome, friendly, & having fun, caring, celebrating, laughter
Outreach 16 20 Wesley – Friends of Community
Pastoral Care 13 17 Support – Care – Crisis met - Visiting
Sunday School 11 14 Program – Teachers
Minister & Service 11 14 Hiring – Program – Leadership – Spiritual
Other 15 19 Building - Structure - Staff - Scouting/ Guiding - Finances
Table 2. Our Wishes
Category # of votes % Key Words
Youth 29 32 youth, young, children, junior
Growth 26 29 more, expansion, growth, larger, full
Community people appreciated, increased spirituality, Christian growth, reflection, wel-
coming all ideas, end of divisions, more love & care, more people partici-
18 20 pating, togetherness, enthusiasm, grow in love
Change to Worship Gospel music, praise songs, use of wider musical talent in congregation,
Service 8 9 real wine, contemporary worship, audio visuals
Programming Be brought closer to God, Bible Study, Activities for 30-50 year olds, more
6 7 mid-week activities
Building repair organ, limit building to “us”, pave parking lot, decorate more spiritu-
4 4 ally
Minister 4 4 minister to all people, dynamic & loving, get them quickly
Outreach & Action 4 4 outreach, community involvement, less pollution
Transition 3 3 wish it would end, hope its successful
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Reflections on the Data
Things that Emmanuel does well should not come as a surprise to anyone - we socialize, sing and eat!
Sometimes all at the same time! Seriously though, Emmanuel is gifted with some amazing talent! And it’s
a healthy sign that you are aware of your gifts. Richard and the choir are truly a great asset to Emmanuel.
The many good cooks and bakers in our midst also make every meal time together a pleasure. Some
groups gather together and very much enjoy each others company.
Emmanuel’s dream can be summed up in two words “MORE” and “YOUTH.” However, it is the next dream
which sheds the most light on why we need to be in a time of transition and why we need to ask some tough
questions. Seventy-four (74) percent suggested that Emmanuel excelled at fellowship, working together,
etc. and 31 percent suggest that Emmanuel is warm and welcoming to newcomers. Yet there are 20 per-
cent on the other end of the spectrum who suggest that there has been division, some of have felt unwel-
comed, there’s been a lack of appreciation, blaming, and a resulting lack of participation. So this suggests
to me that while some groups gather together and enjoy each others company, other people are feeling ex-
cluded. Could it be that the groups that gather together and enjoy each other’s company have lots in com-
mon - age, history, tenure in the congregation, interests, professions, etc.. Are we as a church family all
very similar, and therefore able readily welcome someone identical to us, but not resilient enough to adapt
to anyone slightly differing from us?
When churches get focussed on desiring more youth my first question is always - do we really want the
youth back? Why? For who’s benefit? Do we want the youth in the church so they can have a profound ex-
perience of God’s Easter people? Or do we want them back on our terms, to do the things we believe they
should be doing, so it makes us feel better?
My next question is - not so long ago - Emmanuel had active youth in the church - something went wrong -
has anyone ever tried to gather them together to talk with them to make amends? Has anyone cared
enough to ask a young person why they don’t feel comfortable in our midst any more? Or - what can we as
a community do to make ourselves more youth-friendly?
There are no rules saying that mine is the only reflection, and so I invite any others to take time, look over
the results, ponder and reflect on what they say to you - about who we are at Emmanuel, where we are at
present, and where we want to be in the future. As is normal practice at Emmanuel, if you submit your
ideas - please sign them, and direct them through the Office to the Transition Team. We would appreciate
Respectfully Submitted, Rev. Helen
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NEW DATE! NEW FORMAT! UCW
Tuesday April 29, 2008 at 1:30 p.m.
Come and join us
We are inviting all women of Emmanuel to join us for dessert on Tuesday April 29, 2008 at 1:30 p.m.
This will be followed by a short UCW programme. Come and be a part of the fellowship.
A PROGRAMME OFFERING LEARNING, FELLOWSHIP AND FUN ...
EVERYONE IS WELCOME
TOONIE CLUB - April 1, 2008 at 10:45 am
Come and travel with our own Ian King as he shares some of his traveling experiences on video. Come, sit
back and enjoy this time with Ian and stay for a delicious lunch and have fun playing cards with friends. All
this for a Toonie! All this for a Toonie. Everyone is welcome .
For more information, contact Dorothy Ronnenberg, 905 388-9848
Next May 6, 2008 watch your bullentin for details
The formation of our website is now under way. It is developed for
our members and those seeking a new church home. Check it out.
If your not a computer expert please drop by the office and for a
large cup of tea(2cream) or a can of diet coke Meredith would be
happy to show you the site.
In the next few months I will be learning how to upload the newsletter-
and figure out what members want to have paperless newsletter. As we
become more familiar with the website those who wish to read the news-
letter via the website can do so and opt out of the paper newsletter.
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The Canadian Red Cross partnered
Munro, Karen Running and John with the Ministry of Health and Long
Taylor for preparing a lesson on Term Care of Ontario to create BUG
their scheduled days. OUT! GET THE FACTS ON GEMS.
This free downloadable program will
help students aged 6 - 13 stay healthy.
Our junior Sunday School Available to educators, facilitators and
program continues to move for- families, the program helps participants
ATTENTION ward. Thank you to Erin Web- understand germ, and shares tips and
ster who provided the program techniques to avoid the spread of
germs. Materials include: Facilita-
(grades six/seven to nine/ten) for part of February and most of tor's Guide Participant's activity book-
We now have teachers March. Mrs. Lisa Pfau will be
let Family Guide View
to provide a church school pro- the next unit’s teacher for the www.redcross.ca/bugout
gram for your age group every month of April. Plans are under- submitted by Anna Chen
Sunday. Come on out and way for some upcoming partici-
spend some time in the Youth pation of the children in the Sun-
Room, meet other teens your day morning church ser- ALEX HALEY:
age, and discuss topics rele- vice…..stay tuned! In every conceivable manner, the
vant to you in the world today. See you all at Sunday School! family is link to our past, bridge to
Our continued appreciation Joan our future.
goes out to Rob Gilhooly, Ken
"We dream of a church where new models of shared decision-making and leadership include children
and young teens. We dream of a world where we treat one another in ways that create respect and
understanding for all people."
From "Honouring a Place for All," published by The United Church of Canada, 1997
Car Rally May 4, 2008
The Car Rally will leave from the Church Parking lot with the first car getting
under way by approx. 1:30 p.m. Numbers will be drawn for the departing times
of all vehicles with 5 minute departure times. There will be two routes mapped
out and the driver of each vehicle may choose whether they would like to follow
the distributed "written" clues or perhaps follow the clues provided using coordi-
nates leading them along the route using a GPS (Global Positioning System) device. Both routes will be similiar in
length of completion time and will ultimately end up back at the Church for a delicious supper of Lasagna
and Ceasar Salad provided by your Fellowship Committee. (Donated deserts which you can bring to the Church
would be welcomed) We encourage you to register on a sign up sheet in the Narthex to indicate your participation
in this event. You may register your group travelling together in one vehicle or you may leave your name on the sign
up sheet and you will be pooled with others who are participating. This event is NOT a race, but rather a fun
filled afternoon taking us on a journey around the countryside to see the Apple Blossoms and discover places and
points of interest in and around our area. Participating is a great way to get to know your Emmanuel family! Come
out and have some fun. It is uncertain at time of posting, but a small fee to cover entrance to points of interest
may be necessary. If so it is estimated at approx. $3.00 per person. Questions? Contact Ken Munro @ (905)
389-9295 or email@example.com
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MOTHER – DAUGHTER Emmanuel Bridge Club
POT LUCK SUPPER All is well, the bridge enjoys fun and
MONDAY MAY 12, 2008 6:30 p.m. fellowship. We will end up with a Pot
Luck Luncheon in June. Prizes as well,
Save the date for the annual women’s get- for 1st, 2nd, and of course a booby
together. A signup sheet for your pot luck prize
contributions will be posted in the Narthex
closer to he date
Submitted by Ja net Thompson
Submitted by Elaine Aikman
SPRING GARAGE AND RUMMAGE SALE
SATURDAY APRIL 12, 2008 9 – 11:30 a.m.
Please bring your clean used clothing or usable household items to the church
during the week of April 6 – 11. We cannot accept hard covered books or magazines.
Got lots of items that you have uncovered in your spring cleaning? If you wish,
you can rent a table for your items. Please speak to Jean Lethbridge 905 395 3123
Submitted by Elaine Aikman
Spring clean up
May 31, 2008 9-noonish
Lunch provided and lots of fellowship
The Emmanuel closet boys are threatening to
come out of the closet and wear their French
maid uniforms every Sunday after clean up if
attendance is poor. Meredith and gwen are begging everyone to
show up on the 31st
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To all the mothers HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY
submitted by Meredith Taylor
Anna Quindlen, Newsweek Columnist and Author:
All my babies are gone now. I say this not in sorrow but in disbelief.
I take great satisfaction in what I have today: three almost-adults, two
taller than I am, one closing in fast. Three people who read the same books
I do and have learned not to be afraid of disagreeing with me in their
opinion of them, who sometimes tell vulgar jokes that make me laugh until I
choke and cry, who need razor blades and shower gel and privacy, who want to
keep their doors closed more than I like. Who, miraculously, go to the
bathroom, zip up their jackets and move food from plate to mouth all by
themselves. Like the trick soap I bought for the bathroom with a rubber
ducky at its center, the baby is buried deep within each, barely discernible
except through the unreliable haze of the past.
Everything in all the books I once poured over is finished for me now.
Penelope Leach., T. Berry Brazelton., Dr. Spock. The ones on sibling
rivalry and sleeping through the night and early-childhood education,
have all grown obsolete. Along with Goodnight Moon and Where the Wild Things
Are, they are battered, spotted, well used. But I suspect that if you
flipped the pages dust would rise like memories. What those books taught me,
finally, and what the women on the playground taught me, and the
well-meaning relations --what they taught me, was that they couldn't really
teach me very much at all.
Raising children is presented at first as a true-false test, then
becomes multiple choice, until finally, far along, you realize that it
is an endless essay. No one knows anything. One child responds well to
positive reinforcement, another can be managed only with a stern voice
and a timeout. One child is toilet trained at 3, his sibling at 2.
When my first child was born, parents were told to put baby to bed on
his belly so that he would not choke on his own spit-up. By the time my
last arrived, babies were put down on their backs because of research on
sudden infant death syndrome. To a new parent this ever-shifting
certainty is terrifying, and then soothing. Eventually you must learn to
trust yourself. Eventually the research will follow. I remember 15 years
ago poring over one of Dr. Brazelton's wonderful books on child
development, in which he describes three different sorts of infants:
average, quiet, and active. I was looking for a sub-quiet codicil for an
18-month old who did not walk. Was there something wrong with his fat
little legs? Was there something wrong with his tiny little mind? Was he
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developmentally delayed, physically challenged? Was I insane? Last year he
went to China . Next year he goes to college. He can talk just fine. He can
Every part of raising children is humbling, too. Believe me, mistakes
were made. They have all been enshrined in the, "Remember-When- Mom-Did Hall
of Fame." The outbursts, the temper tantrums, the bad language, mine, not
theirs. The times the baby fell off the bed. The times I arrived late for
preschool pickup. The nightmare sleepover. The horrible summer camp. The day
when the youngest came barreling out of the classroom with a 98 on her
geography test, and I responded, "What did you get wrong?". (She insisted I
include that.) The time I ordered food at the McDonald's drive-through
speaker and then drove away without picking it up from the window. (They all
insisted I include that.) I did not allow them to watch the Simpsons for the
first two seasons. What was I thinking?
But the biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while
doing this. I did not live in the moment enough. This is particularly
clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs. There is one picture of
the three of them, sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a summer
day, ages 6, 4 and 1. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we
talked about, and how they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that
I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get on to the next thing:
dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more
and the getting it done a little less.
Even today I'm not sure what worked and what didn't, what was me and what
was simply life. When they were very small, I suppose I thought someday they
would become w ho they were because of what I'd done. Now I suspect they
simply grew into their true selves because they demanded in a thousand ways that I back
off and let them be. The books said to be relaxed and I was often tense, matter-of-fact
and I was sometimes over the top. And look how it all turned out. I wound up with the three
people I like best in the world, who have done more than anyone to excavate my
essential humanity. That's what the books never told me. I was bound and
determined to learn from the experts. It just took me a while to figure out
who the experts were.
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Ladies celebrate, mother or not, women by Celebrate and embrace in all types of family. Each
our very nature are caregivers and nutruit- week between May 11 to June 15 we will celebrate
family. So make sure you watch the bullentin for
ing. There is no women that shouldn’t cele- all the special event .
brate today. Be proud of yourself this is your
YOUR GOLDEN OPPORTUNITY
Each Sunday there are several opportunities for all of Em-
manuel’s worshippers to participate in the service.
March 10, 1962(Belated) People to make the morning announcements at the beginning of
Allan and Gloria Shinn People to light the Christ Candle. (You don’t need to say any-
thing and we no longer have to rely on a lighter which may or
may not work!)
April 8, 1967
People to read the Scripture passages.
Ed and Grace Braun WE ALSO NEED:
Two or three people to make the coffee and tea before the
service and to clean up after the service. All instructions are
April 11 clearly printed out in the kitchen.
Happy 66th Anniversary Please add your names on the appropriate lists posted in the
Stan & Thelma Neath Narthex. The need for volunteers is on-going.
Your willingness to add your name to the list without being
asked is very much appreciated.
May 22, 1982 Submitted by Elaine Aikman
David and Mary Lelievre
Emmanuel United Church is a community of faith that is called to
live God's love as exemplified in the life and teachings of Jesus
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April 2008 Jesus Loves
Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat
1 2 3 4 5
10:30 Toonie 7pm Transition 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm
6 7 8 Toonie Church 9
7:30pm 10 11 12
10:30am 1pm Bridge Board 7 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm 9-11:30am
Worship 7pm Outreach Badminton Rummage Sale
13 14 15 16 17 18 19
Worship 1pm Bridge 7:30pm B & G 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm
10:30am 7:30 Worship Badminton
20 21 22 23 24 25 26
Worship 1pm Bridge 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm
27 28 29 30
Worship 1pm Bridge 1pm UCW
Schedule of Events
April 12 Rummage Sale Monday 6:30pm– Guides/Sparks/Brownies
Tuesday 7pm –Scouts
Wednesday 7 pm- Cubs
Wednesday 7 pm- Concert Band
Thursday 6:30pm - Beavers
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Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat
Toonie 1 2 3
7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm
4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Worship 1 pm 10:30am 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm
10:30am Bridge Badminton
11 12 13 14 15 16 17
Family service 1 pm Bridge 7:30pm church 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm
10:30am bring 6:30 board Badminton
mom out Mother/Daughter
18 19 20 21 22 23 24
Worship 1 pm Bridge 7:00pm B&G 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm
10:30am 7:30Worship Badminton
25 26 27 28 29 30 31 Clean up
10:30am 1 pm Bridge 1pm UCW 7:30pm Choir 1:30 pm day
Worship Newsletter dead- Badminton
Schedule of Events
May4 Car Rally
Mather’s Day/Family Celebration fancy sandwiches Monday 6:30pm– Guides/Sparks/Brownies
Tuesday 7pm –Scouts
Wednesday 7 pm- Cubs
Wednesday 7 pm- Concert Band
Thursday 6:30pm - Beavers
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