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Saving Marriages With Unconditional Love


									In the middle of a session the other day I had a powerful realization. I was asked to
think of a relationship I had with something in the last week that in my mind was the
ideal relationship, and to think of what it was about that relationship that made it

A number of men in the group thought of their cars, tool sheds, families, workmates,
old friends, even relationships with objects such as their television remote, recliner
chair, or favorite pair of shoes. To each of these men, these things felt comfortable,
and simple. The relationships they had with these people or objects was rewarding
and easy to maintain.

When my turn came to identify my ideal relationship, I thought of my dog. My dog
has very simple needs, and it is the ultimate ego-boost for me when I get home at
night and I am greeted in such an enthusiastic fashion. I don't know of any others that
greet me so enthusiastically night after night. No matter how long I have been away
from the house or no matter how my day has been. I call this unconditional love.

So what is unconditional love?

Unconditional love is the type of love that comes without conditions. It is the type of
love that you have for your partner when the romantic, Hollywood-style love is gone.
Once the romantic love is gone you make the transition to "real" love. Real love is
love you have for your partner despite the knowledge that they are not perfect. You
know your partner has faults. You know your partner is not perfect. You know your
partner makes mistakes sometimes, but that's okay. You still love them. This is
unconditional love.

The same thing applies to you however in looking at your partner's faults. You
acknowledge that you are the same. You have faults. You are not perfect. You know
you make mistakes sometimes, but that's okay. That's called self-acceptance, and you
expect unconditional love to overcome the faults and imperfections that people have.

So what do you get from this then? Should we all go out and get dogs to teach us
something about unconditional love? Maybe there is a lesson to be learned here. We
all clutter our lives with trials and tribulations, and there is the temptation to let our
issues rule our lives.

But if you are serious about saving your marriage you need to put the clutter to one
side and let your unconditional love come through. It is okay to have faults and make
mistakes. And love will conquer them all.

Have a think about unconditional love and how you can apply this realization to your

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