How to Motivate Yourself by aihaozhe2


									For the last thirteen years, in each two-day workshop, I've asked my clients if they
love themselves, if they think they're perfect. No-one answers "Yes". It's damn
difficult to motivate yourself if there are things about yourself that you don't like. And,
indeed, chances are that there are things that you don't like about yourself that you've
been meaning to change but never do. After all, research shows that most people have
similar New Year's Resolutions from one year to the next! And, on top of all that,
people then read so-called self-help books and try to talk themselves into feeling good
about themselves and being motivated.

Self-affirmation is pretty much a waste of time. Positive self-talk bombards the
conscious mind with feel-good statements that don't make the conscious mind feel
good! Because the conscious mind feels nothing - it just thinks - around 50,000
random thoughts each day. And most of those random thoughts are either useless or
self-destructive. Your barking up the wrong tree.

It's your subconscious mind you want to get in touch with. It's your subconscious
mind that harbours your self-doubts and your misconceived self-perceptions. It's your
subconscious mind that uses those incorrect self-perceptions to create your everyday
behaviour - your perceived strong points, your perceived weak points and their related
self-defence mechanisms. It's your subconscious mind that was programmed with
your view or yourself and the world during your so-called formative years, your
childhood, when you were "young and impressionable". And, nowadays, today, it's
your subconscious mind's out of date (many years out of date) self-view that creates
your daily life.

Years - decades - of work in the fields of humanistic, behavioural, clinical and neuro
psychology all prove this conclusively. Your subconscious mind, which is visual, took
snapshots of the things that impressed you when you were young and impressionable.
Those snapshots were programmed into your subconscious and those programs run
today to enable you behave automatically through what psychology calls automaticity.
Automaticity is great for getting habitual repetitive tasks done without you having to
think about them. But your whole life is habitual and repetitive, your work colleagues
and your nearest and dearest are so familiar to you that everything you do to them, for
them and with them becomes habitual and repetitive. So, in fact, automaticity
"enables" you doing almost everything without thinking about it. You don't even have
to bother to turn up!

And that's why the University of Chicago will tell you that you only put 1% of you
into the here and now. No wonder most people don't love themselves - they don't
know themselves. How could they, they're not all there!

So, to motivate yourself you need to stop automatic behaviour. You do this, quite
simply, by starting small. Stop doing little things automatically and, sooner or later,
you'll start doing really important things mindfully too. Tomorrow morning, brush
your teeth with the hand with which you don't habitually brush your teeth. The result
will be that you will be more "all there" than normal and you will have started to
disrupt your repetitive pattern of normal mindless living. This, in turn, will draw more
of your subconscious mind's attention into the present moment, so that less of your
subconscious will pay attention to the out of date snapshots that have been, up to now,
dictating your automatic behaviour.

You don't have to talk yourself into being motivated - the normal person isn't listening
anyway! You simply have to be a little more present than normal - more than 1%
present. Then you will suddenly realise that you feel better, are more effective, more
efficient and that little bit more turned on. Motivation becomes a useless concept -
because concept is all it is. You feel motivated - you feel turned on - you experience
the difference between being dead from the neck up and being more alive.

And when you are more alive, more turned on, more alert and more present, you have
presence. Presence makes you more impressive. So, not only might you motivate
yourself, you might motivate a few people around you too!

Try it tomorrow morning - you've nothing to lose - and so much to gain.

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