the newsletter of the EaglE St. John’s of Lattingtown Winter 2010~11 “Hamlet’s BlackBerry” velopment between persons. This Advent and Christmas let us be creative with tHougHts for advent and cHristmas preserving our mental and emotional I love reading a certain newspaper and and thus our soul space. Can I suggest its book review. One book caught my eye we think about some of these questions recently with this title. It is by William at this time of year: Powers. The sub title is “A practical phi- losophy for building a good life in the - Do I need to send this email or digital age”. It is a fabulous book and very text or phone call? thought provoking. It is a good book for - What about talking with the per- this time of year too. It is a very spiritual son “in person” instead? book. At the core is an argument which says life now is all about connection but - Do we think about the existing we have forgotten how to disconnect. email box of those we send email to and Anyone who has seen the Social Network how much is already there? movie especially knows about the power - Do we need to send all the emails of connection! The writer of this book we do? however says we need to learn how to be disconnected and that disconnection is equally important. - Do we think about the tone of what we send and its length? CONTENTS It has bothered me for some time that - Does email and phone use foster many people seem so preoccupied with a respect for people and their lives? Hamlet’s Blackberry 1 technology, cell phones and computers - Do we think about how the Confirmation Olivia Brown 2 especially. The art of being focused and respectful and giving people the benefit person may be feeling in receipt of our Confirmation preparation 2 of a non technologically interrupted eye email or message and how might our Parish Poetry Group 2 ball to eyeball conversation is becom- email impact them? Little Portion Franciscans 2 ing a dying art. Ringing and buzzing of Danny Davison 3 - Do we think about how a hand- gadgets can be seen to be so often an written positive lovely and encouraging Veterans Visit St John’s 3 intrusion robbing life of quality atten- letter/postcard can lift someone’s spirit 144th Annual Convention 4 tiveness. The desire to be connected is and touch them deeply? out of control. The writer says that emails The Convention Logo 4 especially tap into our private space and - E cards are may be an excep- 58th Annual Country Fair 5 can crowd out and affect the life of the tion rather than an alternative. Would Fair Thank You Party 5 soul. Through technology the human we rather have a home made card from need for internal quietness, not being someone than something across the in- Thank you Father Michael 6 pre occupied and the desire for mental ternet especially if made by young rela- Thoughts From the Road 6 space and room for the soul to thrive, is tives and the card dripping in glitter? Harry Potter in Advent 7 attacked left right and center. He argues - Do I need to use technology less Godly Play 7 that disconnecting from technology is of equal importance to connecting. for my spiritual health? For my well be- Christmas Music Program 8 ing? Is it crowding out precious time and Parish Hall Dinner Theater Technology and connectedness are making us too preoccupied? Resounding Hit! 8 gifts if under our intentional control - Let us ask ourselves whether we Christmas Card 9 and thoughtful usage. They can ben- efit people, churches and business of are as vigilant with praying as we are St. John’s Winter Schedule 9 course. These can all also have such with using technology? Bobbe Maass 10 negative “soul consequences” in terms - Is technology helping our spiri- St John’s Bids Farewell to of impairing focus and how it can crowd tual life and spiritual development or Rev. Michael Sniffen 11 out precious time for soul development, hindering it? Baptisms, etc. 12 personal creativity and relationship de- continued on p. 3 winter 2010~2011 issue 2 confirmation of olivia Brown Fr. Simon, Oliva Brown (center), Bishop Larry, family and guests confirmation PreParation satisfied that they express a mature faith and are ready to be presented to the bishop, the priest will let the at St. John’s begins during Lent as per the tradition parents know of the next upcoming confirmation date of the Ancient Church. Confirmands are expected to given by the Diocese of Long Island (Either October or attend a service on Ash Wednesday and they will then May, traditionally). Bishop Provenzano will now also be be enrolled in Confirmation Preparation on the fol- celebrating confirmations in individual parishes, but it lowing Sunday (the first Sunday in Lent). The age for is unlikely that he will be at St. John’s of Lattingtown in Confirmation in our Diocese has been lowered to 13, the next 18 months. but remains at the discretion of the local priest. It is more important that the confirmand be able to express A schedule of confirmation preparation sessions will be a mature faith than be of the exact age. available in the Spring prior to enrollment. Thanks very much for your interest in Confirmation Preparation at When the priest who is preparing the confirmands is St. John’s of Lattingtown. Watch the parish bulletin and website for details of of the services held in the parish that day and young a new bi-weekly weekday program beginning in the people’s confirmation preparation will continue until New Year. For our younger members this will be part of their confirmation itself. It is hoped that our new group their on going confirmation preparation. In our parish will act as a key group for those young people who adults and young people will be enrolled together as seek confirmation as well as those who want to belong candidates for confirmation on Ash Wednesday at any to a lively youth group. S+ ParisH Poetry grouP & daniel scHnorBus little Portion friary franciscans Fr. Simon, Vicki Fox, Elizabeth Henderson, Cecily Pennoyer, Fr. Brother Max, Father Simon, Brother Richard Jonathan Michael, Suzanne Dillenbeck, Daniel Schnorbus (facilitator) Brother Max was recently a guest preacher. winter 2010~2011 issue 3 danny davison ~ rest in Peace The parish said farewell recently to faithful parishio- ner, friend and vestry person who died since our last Eagle publication. The Rector and Assistant Rector had the privilege of being alongside Danny and Katusha and the Davison family as Danny passed into God’s closer presence. Danny died peacefully and full of faith after his illness and in dying as in life he was an example of what it means to be a Christian. We will miss Danny and offer our condolences to Katusha and all the family. May our living and dying speak of the same love of God, spirituality and faithfulness of this most faithful servant of God and God’s Church. Simon+ Hamlet’s BlackBerry (cont’d) Danny Davison circa 1980 - Would we be better praying more and in silence bad of technology. In the parish we have established with God and spending less time on the computer firing a Technology for Mission Development Group where emails? we shall be putting technology to the service of God’s mission here to enhance spirituality and connection. We - Is God sending us the equivalent of a spiritual are not promoting salvation by technology but in the email with a red exclamation mark saying URGENT: service of the spiritual. Spiritual development, soul development needed! Barney the Golden retriever and I wish you from the This Advent and Christmas I am going to be on a retreat Rectory an Advent, Christmas and New Year that are good and disconnect from as much technology as possible and give space for soul things, nourishing things that for the good of my soul and that of others. I shall use help everyone of us to be more present, more thought- it essentially and very sparingly. Jesus managed and ful, more loving and more prayerful. Disconnection has the disciples did and they were very effective commu- spiritual value not only connection! Let’s value both and nicators and community builders too. This will be my show that we do! spiritual discipline. Happy Advent, Christmas & New Year from the Rectory If you are a parishioner who does not like some of technologies impact be encouraged and let us have a Your friend and Rector dialogue as parishioners and pilgrims on the good and Simon+ veterans visit st JoHn’s Locust Valley veterans from the American Legion, Howard Van Wagner Post, #962, were part of a special Veteran’s Day service recently at St John’s of Lattingtown. Commander Robert Snyder (retired) said a few words in support of all vet- erans and presented Rev Simon Foster with a certificate of appreciation which read “In recognition and sincere ap- preciation of outstanding service and assistance which contributed to the advancement of The American Legion programs and activities dedicated to God and Country.” Father Simon, Roger Welden, Joe Rydzewski, RB Peelle, Past Commander Robert Snyder, Bill Wood, Father Michael winter 2010~2011 issue 4 Michael+, Bishop Larry and Simon+ at Convention 144tH annual diocesan convention The 144th Convention of the Diocese of Long Island took place on a fine weekend in November. I was the lay delegate from your parish and I can report that “The sun is shining high over the entire Diocese.” I was alone amongst hundreds of people since Father Simon was a managing official on the dias and Father Michael was a teller for the numerous votes required to fill the positions for elective office. I wasn’t lonely, just alone, which gave me the chance to observe, listen, concentrate and communicate without distraction. Several practical and legal matters were addressed and voted on. Although they are important to the give them hope. Education is the great need to give functioning of the Diocese, I won’t report on them. I opportunity to live out of their impoverished isolated found the spirituality filling the room much more in- state. He will ordain a woman next year who has been teresting...and important. I can report three incidents asking for twenty years only to be rejected.They are that may explain it. However there was an intangible essentially forgotten, but they take to the Episcopal element that can only be described as fresh air blowing church and derive hope from it. I saw missionary work through our diocese which, I think, I just can’t explain. in a whole new light...helping people achieve the spiri- You decide. tuality that they want. Our Diocese (all of Long Island) has “Companion After addresses by the Honored Guests from the Diocese Relationships.” Our last Companion Diocese Companion Dioceses, Bishop Provenzano celebrated Relationship has ended. Bishop Provenzano believes the Eucharist and addressed us. He began by saying that developing companion relations “across pro- this is a manifestation of his dream to be a pastor vincial borders, as part of the process of of ONE diocese. Don’t think he’s sitting in developing the cross-cultural nature of a plush office in Garden City. He’s on us! communion” is an “important part of our His focus is on duty, stewardship and mission strategy.” The idea is that we, mission. He has, or will, visit all par- from our position of relative safety ishes (even one with only 12 families and prosperity, share the knowledge I’m told) who have not been visited. of Christ to strengthen the people in oppressed areas who seek the love His direction to all of us is to of Christ, against all odds. act as missionaries to show some, to introduce to others, the love of The first companion is the Diocese Christ. If we do he promises that we of Torit in the Sudan, represented by will be proud of our mission. It won’t it’s Bishop, accompanied by his wife in be done with huge budgets, Bishops a beautiful African dress. Bishop Oringa, or complexity, or serving the needs of in good English, asked us to pray for them. an antiquated structure, but with our love In that war torn country they want to become of serving God’s people were we find them. a separate nation so they can be free and peaceful. Tithing is still in, yet it’s a truth that money always How can they do that, be free and peaceful? It seems follows mission. that their best bet now is to use the energy within the soul, to pray. The youth of Sudan, in Torit, are tired of The Bishop gave us all pins saying: “One Diocese war. The women rely on the Bible to fight the devil so One God One Dominion One Mission.” With him we there is peace. The sharing we can do is through the are living together in the cause of Christ. So be it. spirit, not our dollars. In strengthening them we will JoAnn Browne, Parish Delegate strengthen our selves. Nothing lost and a lot gained. The second new companion Diocese is that of Ecuador Central. Bishop Luiz Ruiz, speaking through an inter- preter, relayed that his Diocese has 21 parishes and 16 tHe convention logo missions made up of indigenous people. He explained Used on signage, book covers and pins, was created by that years ago Peruvians and Columbians came as imi- the Comittee of Dispatch on Business which our Rector grants. They remain so, so poor; they have a very hard chairs and designed and executed by parishioner life. He believes that they need special pastoral care to Duncan Naylor. winter 2010~2011 issue 5 58tH annual country fair “We’re all quite mad, you’ll fit right in.” It was a perfect September day for the 58th annual St Some of the younger girls dressed as Alice and, several John’s Country Fair. People came out in record numbers adults wore Mad Hatter hats and there was at least one to partake of the various opportunities for family fun. white rabbit. There was a parade of those dressed in Several new booths were added this year, balloons, ice character to the music from the Disney film. The music cream, fudge and Spin Art tie dye T shirts, along with of the day was provided by Master of Ceremonies, St the traditional booths that have become John’s Music Director, Eric Milnes. part of the history of the fair. Parishioners and the community came together to make The Silent Auction, Cream of the Crop, the fair a big success. For many years pa- Peddlers Market are very most popular rishioners have worked hard for months booths with adults, as is the Books tent prior to the fair to create a memorable which has grown over recent years to add day. CD’s DVD’s and vinyl records. Handmades has also grown to include Christmas items. Rev Simon Foster, Rector of St John’s, Children’s clothes, books and toys were officially opened the fair at 10am with a plentiful as were Sporting Goods, Jewelry prayer. Fair Chairperson Victoria Crosby and Furniture. introduced Glen Cove High School sopho- more Sabrina Ali who sang ‘America The There were new children’s games in ad- Beautiful.’ Later in the morning the Gordon dition to bouncy rides and a magic show Highlanders paraded and played rousing in the afternoon, with plenty of food at bagpipes. breakfast and lunch allowed families to make it a whole day’s outing. The Drum This year the church returned to the tra- Circle has become a very popular tradition, dition of a story book theme of Alice in not only with children but adults too. Wonderland, which was evident in the large cut outs from the recent version of the film star- Funds raised by the church fair help support out- ring Johnny Depp, placed around the tents. Church reach, and in the past have donated to the North Shore volunteers wore Alice in Wonderland stickers that said Sheltering Program and the Glen Cove Soup Kitchen among others. fair tHank you Party Gerda Andersen receivng a plaque A thank you cocktail party was held re- in recogniton of her cently in the Parish Hall at St John’s of years of service as Chairperson of the Lattingtown for the parishioners who had Silent Auctition. helped to make the St John’s 58th annual fall fair such a huge success. A DVD by Barry Rivadue was playing, showing high- Fair articles lights of the fair. by Victoria Crosby Chairperson of the Silent Auction, Gerda Andersen, was honored for her many years of dedication and tireless work. Rev Simon Foster and Fair Chairperson Victoria Fair Preview Crosby presented Gerda with a certificate Cocktail Party of appreciation. The Silent Auction tra- ditionally has the largest revenue of the fair and this year made $30,000. In 2011 Gerda will step down as Chairperson, but continue to work on fine jewelry and art. Katherine Marshall will become the Silent Auction Chairperson. The fair gross income is $92,039. The fair expense is $21,000. The net thus far is $71,038. Victoria and Gerda as Vestry members and Outreach Chairs have met with Rev Foster to discuss the disburse- ments of the funds, which will be further discussed at Agape meetings. winter 2010~2011 issue 6 tHank you fatHer micHael On November 21st the parish family said goodbye to our Assistant Rector Father Michael Sniffen after his three and a half years among us. Bishop Frank Griswold was with us that day too and we thanked God for Michael and his gifts and ministry here and thanked God for Bishop Frank’s ministry as Twenty Fifth Presiding Bishop of The Episcopal Church. We also baptized Tucker Flaim, son to Ben and Kate Flaim who had been married here. We had a wonderful celebration morning with festive refreshments to follow. “Father Michael was the right assistant rector for the right time in parish history and we have so benefited from Michael’s skills as a preacher of the Gospel of love and justice, as skilled teacher, for his youth ministry oversight and as a pastor. We are all going to miss him but wish him and Joanna his wife who we will also miss much, a happy and grace filled time at St Luke and St Matthew Brooklyn “ said Fr Simon our Rector. “Thank you Fr Michael for the privilege of having you here and for the blessing you have been to your rector as colleague and friend and to so many. We assure you Bishop Frank Griswold and Father Michael of our prayers and look forward to visiting your new parish and to welcoming you back at St. John’s.” prayerfully discerning the way ahead in terms of the lay and ordained ministerial shape for the future for the Much work has gone on intentionally in planning for parish’s on going continued growth and development this transition to enable all ministries to continue that under my leadership and as a place for mission, educa- Fr Michael had oversight responsibility for. Fr Simon tion and outreach.” our Rector said “ I and the Bishop and our Vestry are tHougHts from tHe road healing? Is there a favorite pastime that you have not enjoyed for too long? Now is the time to pay attention It has been a pleasure to share thoughts and reflec- to these things. As God moves closer to humanity in tions on the seasons and my own faith journey in each the incarnation, we are encouraged to participate in the edition of the Eagle over these past 3 years. My articles freedom and new life that Christ offers us. Preparing for have been titled, “Thoughts from the Gatehouse.” Now Christ’s arrival by rediscovering the blessings we have that I have moved out of the Gatehouse and have not packed away is a worthwhile exercise. quite moved into the Rectory in Clinton Hill, it seems appropriate to share some “thoughts from the road.” As I continue to unpack boxes both literal and figura- tive, I find myself so grateful for the people in my life Moving is certainly a dramatic experience that requires who have encouraged me to be faithful to God and to a great deal of physical, emotional and spiritual energy. myself on the pilgrim road. I thank all of you for the Joanna and I have found this to be true! I find many wonderful send off from St. John’s on November 21st. connections between the experience of moving and the The service and the reception were uplifting, empow- season of Advent. Now that we are at the “unpacking” ering and a sign that Christ is indeed moving among stage here in Brooklyn, we are discovering things we us even as we prepare to receive him more fully this forgot we had and enjoying them all over again! Each Christmas. Thank you for your generosity toward me box seems to have a few surprises (most of them, and Joanna in the parish leaving gift. We are so grateful pleasant). We are putting many of our possessions to to you. Until we meet again, may God hold you in the new use and discovering where they might fit into our palm of God’s hand. new lives. During the season of Advent, we are invited by the Church to unpack things we have not payed at- Your partner in unpacking the Good News, tention to in a while and discover how God is moving in our lives in new ways. Is there a box somewhere in your Michael+ internal life that you have not looked into for a while? Is there a relationship you would like to spend time winter 2010~2011 issue 7 If you would like to volunteer to be part of the magic or bring a tasty treat for the pot luck on either night please contact Kate at firstname.lastname@example.org or at the office at 516.671.3226 ex15. sunday scHool - godly Play Winter schedule is on the web winter 2010~2011 issue 8 ParisH Hall dinner tHeater resounding Hit! on to his next calling. The professional soloists and full choir ensemble demonstrated, once again, what a One hundred and twenty people filled the Parish Hall treasure we have at St. John’s, as these vocalists help on November 7th as Eric Milnes and the choir of St. lead our worship each Sunday morning. John’s presented the inaugural program of “Music at St. John’s” for this church year. A wonderful, home- The responding consensus was, “MORE, MORE, made Italian feast proceeded the musical presenta- MORE!” tion, as we crowded around tables to enjoy the deli- cious offerings prepared by all members of the choir So, the choir invites you to our next Music at St. John’s and Mary Williams, Jan Hagner and Sue McFarlane. event, again, in the Parish Hall, a Christmas Cabaret. It will be a seasonal mix of Holiday refreshments, Excerpts from Broadway shows spanning 5 decades Christmas caroling, and of course, more musical de- provided a delectable smorgasbord of musical treats. lights from the choir, soloists, and Eric Milnes, our director. Sunday, December 19th, 7:00 pm. Highlights were Kathryn Harlow’s personally adapted rendition of “All That Jazz”, Duncan Naylor’s swinging A suggested donation of $20.00 makes it all pos- take on “Mack the Knife,” Carla Beale charming all with sible. Will you please join us? And do let the office “I Feel Pretty” and Victoria Crosby’s moving perfor- (671-3226) know you intend to come. It will help us mance of “You Will Never Walk Alone.” A surprise solo make the preparations which will insure a wonderful singing debut at St. John’s came from The Reverend Christmas fellowship opportunity for all! Michael Sniffen, a memory we will cherish as he moves winter 2010~2011 issue 9 Merry Christmas and Happy New Year from the Rector, Eric, Karin, Mary, Kate, Duncan and Humberto st. JoHn’s winter Program scHedule 5th January for 8 weeks New Continuing Education Program led by Rector . Title: Reflecting together about dec. 12th Advent 3 – 8:00 & 10:30 service, the Unity: in scripture, in Church tradition, between the Reverend Steve Pierce will be the guest preacher. The denominations and faiths and between the human be- Rev Steven D Pierce is Minister of Congregational ings, the planet and all the creatures. Program begins Care, Marble Collegiate Church, NYC at 10:15 through 11:30 each Wednesday for 8 weeks in dec 18th 9am Greening of the Church the Rector’s office. Each Wednesday Morning Prayer will 9am Vestry Meeting be said at 9am and Eucharist at 9:30 in the Chapel. All are welcome at these services as well as the program. dec 19th Advent 4 8am Eucharist 9am Pancake Breakfast Jan 9th Baptism of Jesus Sunday at 8 and 10:30 10:30 Lessons & Carols Guest preacher: The Rev. Dr. Cecily Broderick, 7 PM Christmas Cabaret – music Vice President of Pastoral Care, Episcopal & hors d’ouevres in the Parish Hall Health Services, Diocese of Long Island. dec 22nd Christmas Confessions 11thru 12 Jan 13th 1pm Hutton House Lecture by Fr. Simon or by appointment(day or evening) Jan 16th 9am Parish Breakfast and conversa- dec. 24th 2:30 Christingle Workshop and pageant costuming tion about the Bible with the Rector 4:00 Christingle Service and Christmas Pageant for Jan 17th Martin Luther King Jnr Day – de- young and young at heart tails to be announced. 6:00 & 11:00 First Eucharist of Christmas Jan 18th through 25th Week of Prayer for Christian Unity. dec 25th 8am Said Eucharist & 10am Eucharist with Carols for Christmas Day Jan 23rd Ecumenical Sunday (Christian Unity Sunday) dec 26th 8 & 10:30 services as usual: Holy Family Sunday January 2nd Epiphany Sunday and Prayers for the New Year at 8am and 1030 winter 2010~2011 issue 10 Francis Greene Doerge being announted with oil at Holy BoB and BoBBe maass Baptism Bob and Bobbe Maass, most faithful parishio- ners and communicants are on the move to Port Washington around New Year so as very much loved and cared for parishioners we send them our best wishes, love and prayers. What faithful- ness! What hard workers for St John’s and the churches they have attended over the years. I and Fr Michael and the whole parish wish you happi- ness, joy, strength and peace as you move and look forward to you still being very much part of our church family Simon+ The Amsterdam, Apartment 460, 300 East Overlook, Port Washington NY 11050 Edna Sykes, Home Communicant, at her 100th Birthday Thomas “Tucker” Cranwell Flaim on Thanksgiving Sunday with Mom & Dad, Ben and Kate Flaim, Father Michael, Bishop Frank and Father Simon Dear Rev.Michael, We miss St. Johns! We miss you! We promise to attend mass when we are able to spend Saturday evenings over “Grandma” and “Grandpa’s” house. We thank you once again for such a joyous Christening of my daughter Sky Liang. Our friends and family members could not say enough about how special your sermon was and how connected & included they all felt as a result of your words and sentiments. We look forward to seeing you in the near future and con- tinue the spiritual life that you initiated for our Sky. She is happy to be a member of God’s family and our home discussions and prayer and bible readings continue to fascinate and inspire her. God bless you and yours. We look forward to seeing you at services! Love, Barbara Hadjiargyrou winter 2010~2011 issue 11 st JoHn’s Bids farewell to rev. micHael sniffen Rev. Michael Sniffen, who grew up in Bayville, and has been Assistant Rector at St John’s Episcopal Church of Lattingtown for more than three years, is now the Priest-in-Charge at St Luke and St Matthew Episcopal Church in Brooklyn. His last Sunday at St John’s, the Sunday before Thanksgiving, was a celebration of his ministry. The Right Reverend Frank T. Griswold, former Presiding Bishop and former Bishop of Chicago, was visiting St John’s that day, and gave the sermon. The Rector, Simon Foster, thanked Michael for his years as Assistant Rector and his work in the parish, particularly with the Sunday school, his innovative programs and youthful enthusiasm. Following the service Father Michael was presented with a gift from the church and a large cake was served which said “Thanks Be to God.” Wardens of the Vestry Tom Gimbel and Carlyle Dunaway thanked Father Michael for all he has brought to St John’s. by Victoria Crosby the newsletter of return service St. John’s of Lattingtown requested 325 Lattingtown Road Locust Valley, New York 11560 phone 516.671.3226 fax 516.671.6097 email email@example.com web site stjlat.org Rector: The Rev. Simon Foster office hours Monday-Thursday 9 a.m. - 1 p.m. Friday 9 a.m. - noon If you would like to talk to the Rector about anything, need priestly ministry or would like to receive Holy Communion at home or in hospital due to sickness, please call to make an appointment. BaPtisms tHe ministry team at st JoHn’s ministers of music: Francis Greene Doerge a parish which seeks to live the Reed McCormac Morris Eric Milnes (Director) with choir Baptismal Covenant (pg 304, Book of Thomas “Tucker” Cranwell Flaim members. Common Prayer) ministers: administrative suPPort: confirmation Karin DeMario, Kate Scefonas, Every congregant, parishioner and Olivia Brown Mary Syracuse, Duncan Naylor, participant in parish life. Humberto Marichal assistants to tHe ministers: ParisH leadersHiP team: funerals & memorials Diocesan Bishop - Father Simon Foster, Rector Nancy Spinning Powers Lawrence ‘Larry’ Provenzano Churchwardens and Vestry Daniel Pomeroy Davison Rector - Simon Foster members: Tom Gimbel, Carlyle Florence M “Bubs” Hoffman Dunaway, Gerda Andersen, JoAnn Browne, Victoria Crosby, Glenn Dorsey, Vicky Fox, Nicole Engels, Jim Large, Peter Marshall, Bob McLane, Liza Picoli, Nancy Polk and Larry Ward.