Give Yourself Permission by aihaozhe2


									Have you ever felt deep inside like you know exactly what you want and need to do
for your own highest good, but yet don't do it? Perhaps you feel an undercurrent of
guilt or that you "shouldn't" or wonder "what will people think?"? Yet, if at that same
moment some big fairy godmother came by and gave you permission, you would
jump at it in a heartbeat.

Well, I'm here to tell you that there's no fairy godmother, and there is no mythical
authority on high that is going to drop by and bestow this permission on you. You
need to give yourself permission.

Give yourself permission to do what you most need and want to do. This is not about
becoming a narcissist and making the world orbit around you. Absolutely not. We are
all connected and it always matters to act in a way that serves your highest good and
the highest good of all. However, if you leave yourself dying on the vine, how does
that serve you? How does that serve others? When you play victim and martyr to the
cause you sell yourself short and ultimately rob others of what you most want to give

For example, there is the age old excuse Mom's use as to why they can't take any time
for themselves-"But the kids need me!" Yes they do Moms, but if there is no YOU left
to give, they are getting ripped off because they are only getting a burned out,
exhausted, and perhaps even resentful (consciously or unconsciously) YOU.

Or, another example, this time from the workplace. You know you need to take a
break midday for lunch in order to work at your best. Yet, you never do because
"there's too much to do" or "other people in my department don't" or "the boss doesn't
like us to take lunch". Well, is it more important to tend to your health and well-being
knowing that you will be far more effective to serve the business if you take a break
or is it better to wander around, whine about it, and essentially serve the lowest good
for both yourself and the business? You get to choose.

One of the favorite rules I was taught by a successful woman who knew how to get
things done AND build good relationships was "I'd rather ask for forgiveness than
permission." Now I'm not talking about going off the deep end here or doing
something wildly out of integrity, illegal, immoral, unethical, etc. I'm talking about
doing what you CAN do. Moving those dreams forward. Getting your needs met in a
healthy way. Not waiting for someone to come and save you or give you permission
to live your life.

What is one thing you've most wanted to do (or perhaps NOT do) that you keep
hemming and hawing about because you don't feel you "should" or you're waiting for
permission? It might be taking some quiet time for you each morning. Maybe a date
night each week with your partner. Perhaps you want to speak your mind on an
important issue at work or start a project that others keep dragging their feet on. You
might even be just eager to cancel some obligations on your calendar

Whatever it is - give yourself permission to just do it. I guarantee you'll feel glad you
did. Remember regrets are more about what we don't do than what we do do. So give
yourself permission to take back the reigns of your own choices.

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