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									       the haven
                   programs 2011

gabriola island, bc, canada
“I am grateful to the depths of my being
 for the instructors, the staff, the space
 and surroundings, the programs and
 the bodyworkers at The Haven …
 My life is forever changed.”
                                       Welcome to The Haven
                                       From Rachel Davey, Executive Director

                                                                   welcome to the haven in 2011. This catalogue is full of information                                                       about programs at The Haven and the faculty who teach them. I
                                                                   hope you find it useful, and look forward to meeting you here soon.
1 877 247 9238                                                     Over the past 27 years, thousands of people have come to The                                                      Haven and transformed their lives through the programs we offer.
                                                                   This year we are very excited to be introducing a new four-program
haven foundation                                                   series, Couples Alive (p. 10), which builds upon our very well estab-
board of directors                                                 lished reputation for excellence in relationship work. We also have
Andrew Bing
                                                                   other exciting new programs, which are listed on page 3.
Darrell Chambers                                                 Ranging from two to 25 days in length, our programs address a
Bryan Croeni                                                     wide variety of life issues. Come Alive (p. 11) is our flagship pro-
Wayne Dodge
                                                                 gram and the first one that most people take. Then there are the
Henry Goldbeck
                                       month-long Living Alive Phases I and II and New Horizons Phase III (p. 16) and a host of
Catherine Lord
Hanif Mamdani                          shorter programs focusing on issues such as creativity, sexuality, relationships, communication,
Cathy McNally                          depression, anger, boundaries, and more.
Bob Matthews (Chair)                   As The Haven continues to thrive, we are planning and building for the future. Our five-year
                                       strategic plan is in place — the Couples Alive series is just one of a number of important initia-
executive director
Rachel Davey
                                       tives in curriculum, marketing, facilities and fundraising. • Ext. 235             As a not-for-profit educational institution we continue to raise funds to meet the needs of
                                       financial aid applicants and for the Haven’s physical and educational development. We would
contacts                               love you to be part of this important aspect of The Haven’s future. You can find out how on
Registrars                             page 32. Join us at The Haven in 2011!
Morag Ruckman, Tina Boehm,
Cindy O’Dell • Ext. 1
                                       “With the Haven’s guidance and support, my life has changed so much in such a positive
Front Desk
                                        way. I found me and learned how to be.” come alive participant, 2010 • Ext. 0
                                       “I discovered energy and openness that I never knew existed. When I put that energy
Group Bookings                          into my relationships with people, especially my children, I feel it come back to me
Louise Amuir                            many-fold. It has profoundly changed how I parent.” come alive participant, 2010 • Ext. 222
                                       “The entire program was incredible.” living alive phase i participant, 2010
Catalogue designed by Toby
Macklin. Front cover photo by
Chris Finlayson. Other photos by
Sam Mak (,
Nick Halpin and Chris Finlayson.
Breathing drawing by Peter Joyes.
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                                       Morag Ruckman          Tina Boehm             Cindy O’Dell
Programs at The Haven
Over our 27-year history many thousands of people have partici-        more about the faculty who lead our programs on page 24. In
pated in programs at The Haven. Many have returned again and           addition to the program leaders, groups are often joined by assis-
again and continue to find great enrichment and learning in their      tants, who are graduates of The Haven Diploma programs, and
experiences here. Our programs – even the most ‘academic’ of           interns, who are in training (see p. 3). As well as the full group ses-
them – are experiential and relational in their focus. With our pro-   sions during the day, many programs include small-group meetings
grams’ emphasis on communication and embodiment, people                in the evenings, often facilitated by assistants and interns.
often describe what they learn at The Haven as ‘life-changing’.                                                                                                                                                                                      Eric Bibb and
   At the heart of The Haven are the five-day Come Alive, which                       a typical program day at the haven
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Victor Wooten
we run one or two times every month, and the 25-day Living                                                                                                                                                                                           at The Haven,
Alive Phase programs. These were created by The Haven’s found-                  am            8–9      ·   Breakfast
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     both returning in 2011.
ers Bennet Wong and Jock McKeen before The Haven itself existed                          9.15 – 12     ·   Morning session
and continue to have enormous popularity and impact. We recently
added Being Alive to this series, a short follow-up to Come Alive
which will run three times in 2011. Brand new this year is the four-            pm
                                                                                             12 – 1
                                                                                                           Free time
                                                                                                                                                   New and Returning                                                                    •	 Couples Alive
program Couples Alive series, which digs deep into the experience                             3–6      ·   Afternoon session                       We are excited to announce a major new initiative in 2011: a series of        NEW!   •	 Transforming Anxiety and Stress
of primary relationship.                                                                                                                           programs called Couples Alive (p. 10), led this year by Cathy and Ernie              •	 The Haven Massage Series
                                                                                               6–7     ·   Dinner
   As you will see from browsing this catalogue, there is a huge
                                                                                       7.30 – 9.30     ·   Small groups
                                                                                                                                                   McNally. David Raithby and Sandey McCartney are leading Transform-                   •	 Men’s Gathering
range of other programs taught at The Haven, dealing with issues                                                                                   ing Anxiety and Stress, with its roots in the extremely popular Trans-               •	 Personal Parenting
such as relationships, passion, anger, depression, boundaries,                 NB: Most programs begin at 7.30 on the first evening.               forming Fear and Anxiety. And we have already started bringing Haven                 •	 Connective Touch
communication, parenting, sexuality, and creativity. You can read              Exceptions will be noted when you register.                         events to venues across the country — watch out for updates, we may                  •	 ChiRunning
                                                                                                                                                   be in a town near you!                                                               •	 Life after Separation
                                                                                                                                                      Victor Wooten is returning to The Haven February 7–11. His work-                  •	 Spirit in the Song
Programs Overview                                                                                                                                                                                                                       •	 Field Guide to Your Wild Side
                                                               Most programs are taught by leaders who have trained extensively at The Haven.      shop and concert last year saw The Haven filled with music, creativity
                                                               Programs marked with a G are led by members of our guest faculty.                   and conversation and we expect to be full again this year, so register               •	 Hands-on Poetry
                                                                                                                                                   soon. Eric Bibb has performed here many times, and now he is leading
                                                                                                                                                   a workshop: Spirit in the Song (Sep 4–8).
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        •	 Writing up a Storm: Haiku
communication                       Nonviolent Communication G            Grieving: Change and Growth              Self-Compassion
& relationships                     The Power of Direct Mirroring         Life after Separation G                  Sensational Contact
Boundaries for Couples              Inner Wisdom for Women                Living Alive Phase I & II                Spirit Body, Soul Dance
Being Alive
Coaching: Engaging Relationships
                                    Befriending Your Inner Critic
                                    Pro-D for the Self
                                                                          Living with Passion
                                                                          New Horizons Phase III
                                                                                                                   creative expression
                                                                                                                   Act Natural
                                                                                                                                                   Intern Training
Come Alive                          The Quantum Laugh                     Personal Parenting                                                       Intern training has been an integral part of The Haven for many years,
                                                                                                                   Befriending Your Inner Critic
Communication Fundamentals          Self-Compassion                       Self-Compassion                                                          attracting people from different walks of life and from all over the
                                                                                                                   Drum Talk G
Couples Alive Series                                                      Transforming Anxiety and Stress                                          world. We now have more than 80 people on the intern path. The skills
                                    for women                                                                      Healing Stitches
Couples in Conflict                                                                                                                                they learn here are hard to find anywhere else.
                                    Inner Wisdom for Women                sexuality                                Inner Wisdom for Women
Family Reconstruction                                                                                                                                  Training at The Haven involves in-depth, in-the-moment experience
                                    Stirring the Cauldron                 Conscious Sexuality                      Kids in the Spotlight
Journey to Self                                                                                                                                    of working with groups and individuals on an intensely personal level.
                                                                          Erotic Massage for Lovers                The Quantum Laugh
Life after Separation G             for men                                                                                                        Starting out as program participants, students are introduced gradu-
                                                                          For Play                                 Reflections
Living Alive Phase I & II           Men’s Gathering                                                                                                ally to interning, taking on different leadership roles as their experience
                                                                          Living Alive Phase II                    The Singing Soul G
New Horizons Phase III                                                                                                                             grows. Interns often say that their training experience is a profound
                                    body & movement                       Sexuality and Identity                   Spirit in the Song G
Nonviolent Communication G                                                                                                                         continuation of the work of personal discovery they began as partici-
                                    Being Alive                           Stirring the Cauldron                    Victor Wooten Workshop G
Passion for Couples                                                                                                                                pants in programs at The Haven.
                                    Body, Breath and Energy Training      Timeless Loving G                        Writing up a Storm programs
Personal Parenting                                                                                                                                     Training at The Haven may lead to Diplomas in Haven Counselling
                                    Breathe!                                                                       & Hands-on Poetry
Process of Connecting G                                                   satir method                                                             Skills (DipHCS) or Haven Group Facilitation (DipHGF). These replace the
                                    ChiRunning G
The Power of Direct Mirroring                                             Family Reconstruction                                                    Diploma in Counselling (DipC). More details at
                                    Come Alive                                                            skills development
Relationship Review and Renew                                             Journey to Self
                                    Connective Touch                                                      Adventures in Consciousness G

                                    The Haven Massage Series
                                    Living Alive Phase I & II
                                    New Horizons Phase III
                                                                       energy, healing & spirit
                                                                       Adventures in Consciousness G
                                                                                                          Body, Breath and Energy Training
                                                                                                          Coaching: Engaging Relationships
                                                                                                          Connective Touch
                                                                                                                                                   Youth Leadership
Being Alive                                                            Being Alive                                                                 In 2010, building on the excellent training that has been provided
                                    Sensational Contact                                                   Dealing with the DSM-IV
Bleep of Faith                                                         Bleep of Faith                                                              to youth at The Haven for many years, we presented the first Youth
                                    Spirit Body, Soul Dance                                               Five Elements Practicum
Come Alive                                                             Body, Breath and Energy Training                                            Leadership Diplomas to a number of talented graduates.
                                                                                                          The Haven Massage Series
Communication Fundamentals          life issues                        Breathe!                                                                       The Youth Leadership Diploma (YLD) program provides a remarkable
                                                                                                          Intuitive Healing programs G
Creative Aging                      Anger, Boundaries and Safety       Come Alive                                                                  experience for youth of various ages, backgrounds and talents. The
                                                                                                          New Horizons Phase III
Family Reconstruction               Being Alive                        Creative Aging                                                              program builds on and formalizes the internship opportunities for teens
                                                                                                          Pro-D for the Self
Field Guide to Your Wild Side G     Boundaries for Couples             Depression: Conscious Alternatives                                          that have for many years been a vital part of Kids in the Spotlight and
                                                                                                          Skills 2: Group Leadership
Healing Stitches                    Career Revisioning                 Field Guide to Your Wild Side G                                             Teens Alive. The YLD program offers youth the possibility of meaning-
                                                                                                          Skills 3: Gestalt Plus
Journey to Self                     Come Alive                         Five Elements Practicum                                                     ful volunteer hours to satisfy high school graduation requirements; a
Life after Separation G             Couples Alive Series               Healing Stitches                   children & teens                         positive working experience; support for moving into paid employment
Living Alive Phase I & II           Creative Aging                     Intuitive Healing programs G       Kids in the Spotlight                    (including references); and a way to demonstrate extracurricular or vol-
Living with Passion                 Depression: Conscious Alternatives Living Alive Phase I & II          Personal Parenting                       unteer experience that is valuable in applying for university or other
New Horizons Phase III              Effective Boundaries               New Horizons Phase III             Teens Alive I, II and III                post-secondary education. More details at

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                                                                                                                                                                  Three ways to register •                                         •                         •
Program Calendar                                                                                                                                                                                                 (Toll free) 1 877 247 9238 ext. 1

book early and save!                                                                   March                                                                      June                                                                    September
                                                                               6–11    Come Alive C & E McNally $820 ($920)                                3-5 Life after Separation Adams & Griffin $445 ($485)                    4-8   Spirit in the Song Bibb $640 ($720)
•	 For the first price below register and pay your tuition fees at least                                                                                                                                                          18–23   Come Alive Nicholls & Raithby $820 ($920)
                                                                              10–13    Coaching: Engaging Relationships                                    3–8 Intuition Mastery Winkelmans $765 ($865)
     two weeks in advance. Thereafter the price in brackets applies.
•	   Tuition fees do not include meals, accommodation, or HST.                         Wilder & Hilton $535 ($595)                                        5–10    Come Alive Nicholls & Raithby $820 ($920)                       23–25   Timeless Loving L & S Carter $470 ($510)
•	   See page 29 for accommodation and dining rates.                          11–14    Aloha Principles (Haven Massage Series) Dillon $495 ($555)        10–13    Erotic Massage for Lovers (Haven Massage Series)                23–26   Communication Fundamentals C & E McNally $525 ($585)

                                                                               11-14   Skills 3: Gestalt Plus Ewan $510 ($570)                                    Dillon-Shaw $495 ($555)                                         23–26   The Singing Soul Hatfield $475 ($535)

                                                                              17–20    Inner Wisdom for Women Farrell $485 ($545)                        16-19    Connective Touch Olynyk & Enright $480 ($540)              27–oct 22    New Horizons Phase III Dodge & Olynyk $2820 ($3320)
              2010                                                                                                                                                                                                            27–oct 9 New Horizons Phase III Part A Dodge & Olynyk $1750 ($1990)
                                                                              18–20    Dealing with the DSM-IV R Wong $320 ($360)                        17-19    Field Guide to Your Wild Side Leighton $370 ($410)
              November                                                        19–20    Writing up a Storm: Haiku E Littleton $160 ($180)                 20–24    Couples Alive III C & E McNally $1440 ($1600) per couple
        5-7 Body, Self and Soul (IBP Intro) J & G Fewster $350 ($390)
                                                                              20–25    Come Alive Ames & Clarke $820 ($920)                              24–26    Writing up a Storm: Journaling E Littleton $325 ($365)                  October
       5-8 Being Alive Olynyk, Huntington $525 ($585)
                                                                           31– apr 3 Anger, Boundaries & Safety Gurel $535 ($595)                                                                                                   2–7   Come Alive Wilder & Whyte $820 ($920)
      7-12 Come Alive Holt, Curtin $775 ($875)
                                                                                                                                                                  July                                                              7–9   Intuitive Healing Weekend Winkelmans $355 ($395)
      7-12 Intuitive Healing Five-Day Winkelmans $740 ($840)
                                                                                       April                                                               3–6 Youth Leadership Training (see p.3) Goldbeck $205 ($265)            9–12 Being Alive To be announced $540 ($600)
     11-14 Effective Boundaries C McNally, Huntington $510 ($570)
                                                                                 1–3   Couples in Conflict Sellner $525 ($565)                             3–8 Come Alive Wilder & Whyte $820 ($920)                              10–22   New Horizons Phase III Part B Dodge & Olynyk $1750 ($1990)
     12-14 Couples In Conflict Sellner $515 ($555)
                                                                                 1–3   Spirit Body, Soul Dance Fallis $360 ($400)                         7–12    Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $625 ($725)                      13–16   Bleep of Faith Ames & Leuze $495 ($555)
     12-14 Writing up a Storm: Journaling E Littleton $315 ($355)
                                                                                 1–3   Intuitive Healing Weekend Winkelmans $355 ($395)                   8–10    Stirring the Cauldron Dillon–Shaw $365 ($405)                   14–16   Couples in Conflict Sellner $525 ($565)
     18-21 Skills 1: Personality Styles Dodge & Ewan $495 ($555)
                                                                                 3-8   Transforming Anxiety & Stress                                      8–11    Drum Talk Povah $405 ($465)                                     16–21   Come Alive Ames & Clarke $820 ($920)
     21-26 Come Alive Ewan, Dodge $775 ($875)                                          McCartney & Raithby $835 ($935)                                   13–18    Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $625 ($725)                      16–21   Creative Aging Huntington, G & M Holdgrafer $740 ($840)
     25-28 Anger Boundaries & Safety Gurel $520 ($580)                          8-10   Grieving: Change & Growth Nicholls $425 ($465)                    14–17    Being Alive Wilder & Ewan $540 ($600)                           21–22   Pro-D for the Self E & M-H Littleton $160 ($180)
     25–28 For Play Dillon-Shaw, Dillon $450 ($510)                            8–11    Communication Fundamentals C & E McNally $525 ($585)              14–17    Simply Touching (Haven Massage Series)                          21–24   Conscious Sexuality Dillon-Shaw, Dillon & Nicholls $605 ($655)
     26-29 Self-Compassion Dodge & Ewan $490 ($550)                           10–13    Being Alive Huntington & Olynyk $540 ($600)                                Dillon-Shaw $495 ($555)                                         23-28   Transforming Anxiety and Stress McCartney & Raithby $835 ($935)
28–dec 3 Depression: Conscious Alternatives Nicholls $810 ($910)              14–17    The Power of Direct Mirroring                                     15–17    Hands-on Poetry E Littleton $325 ($365)                    23–nov 17    Living Alive Phase I C & E McNally $2880 ($3380)
                                                                                       Huntington & C McNally $525 ($585)                                17–22    Come Alive Dodge & Ewan $820 ($920)                         23–nov 4    Living Alive Phase I Part A C & E McNally $1855 ($2095)
              December 2010                                                   15–17    ChiRunning Spencer $370 ($410)                                    18–23    Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $625 ($725)                      27–30   Anger, Boundaries & Safety Gurel $535 ($595)
     28- Reflections                                                          15–17    Personal Parenting Goldbeck & Macklin $370 ($410)                 22–24    Couples in Conflict Sellner $525 ($565)                         27–30   Career Revisioning Farrell $485 ($545)
1 jan ‘11 McKeen, B Wong, C & E McNally $490 ($570)                           17–22    Come Alive C & E McNally $820 ($920)                              24–29    Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $625 ($725)                      28–30   ChiRunning Spencer $370 ($410)
                                                                              25–29    Couples Alive II C & E McNally $1440 ($1600) per couple           25–29    Couples Alive IV C & E McNally $1440 ($1600) per couple
                                                                           29–May 2 For Play Dillon–Shaw & Dillon $465 ($525)                         29–1 aug    Anger, Boundaries & Safety Gurel $535 ($595)                            November
              2011                                                                                                                                    29–3 aug    Kids in the Spotlight Goldbeck $625 ($725)                        2-6   Men’s Gathering Fleury & Fraser $740 ($840)

              January                                                                  May                                                                                                                                          3–6 Relationship Review & Renew Nicholls $535 ($595)

        1–6   Come Alive Nicholls & Raithby $820 ($920)                          5–8 Five Elements Practicum Olynyk $435 ($495)                                   August                                                            4–7   Befriending Your Inner Critic Farrell $485 ($545)

    9–feb 3   Living Alive Phase I Dodge & Ewan $2880 ($3380)                    5–8 Effective Boundaries Huntington & C McNally $525 ($585)              8–11    Teens Alive I Nicholls & Raithby $525 ($585)                     5–17   Living Alive Phase I Part B C & E McNally $1855 ($2095)

       9–21 Living Alive Phase I Part A Dodge & Ewan $1855 ($2095)             8–13    Come Alive Holt & LaCroix $820 ($920)                              8–13    Come Alive Chambers & Enright $820 ($920)                        6–11   Come Alive Enright & Olynyk $820 ($920)

      20-23 Career Revisioning Farrell $485 ($545)                            12–15    The Quantum Laugh Ames $495 ($555)                                11–14    Teens Alive II Nicholls & Raithby $525 ($585)                    6–11   Depression: Conscious Alternatives Nicholls $835 ($935)

      21–23   Couples in Conflict Sellner $525 ($565)                         12–15    The Singing Soul Hatfield $475 ($535)                             14–17    Teens Alive III Nicholls & Raithby $525 ($585)                  11–14   For Play Dillon–Shaw & Dillon $465 ($525)

 22–feb 3     Living Alive Phase I Part B Dodge & Ewan $1855 ($2095)                                                                                   14–Sep 8   Living Alive Phase II C & E McNally $2730 ($3230)               11–16   Intuitive Healing 5 Day Winkelmans $765 ($865)
                                                                              13–15 Couples in Conflict Sellner $525 ($565)
     23–28 Come Alive Huntington & Curtin $820 ($920)                                                                                                    14–26    Living Alive Phase II Part A C & E McNally $1700 ($1940)        12–15   Sensational Contact Enright & Olynyk $480 ($540)
                                                                              15–20    Healing Stitches M Holdgrafer & Huntington $740 ($840)
                                                                                                                                                         15–21 The Journey to Self Gomori $1070 ($1190)                           17–20   Living with Passion McCartney & Raithby $535 ($595)
                                                                           15–9 jun    Living Alive Phase I Ames & Clarke $2880 ($3380)
                                                                                                                                                         19–21 Adventures in Consciousness Pulos $415 ($455)                      17–20   Skills 2: Group Leadership Dodge & Ewan $510 ($570)
              February                                                        15–27 Living Alive Phase I Part A Ames & Clarke $1855 ($2095)
                                                                                                                                                         19–25    Sexuality & Identity C & E McNally, Emerson, Owen               18–20   Anger, Boundaries & Safety 2 Gurel $325 ($365)
       7–11 Victor Wooten Workshop Wooten $485 ($565)                         19-23    Men’s Gathering Fleury & Fraser $740 ($820)
                                                                                                                                                                  $895 ($1015)                                                    20–25   Come Alive Dodge & Ewan $820 ($920)
      11–14   Passion for Couples McCartney & Raithby $535 ($595)             20–23    Relationships C & E McNally $465 ($525)
                                                                                                                                                         22–28    Family Reconstruction Gomori $1070 ($1190)                      25–27 Couples in Conflict Sellner $525 ($565)
      11–16   Intuitive Healing Five-Day Winkelmans $765 ($865)               27–30    Living with Passion McCartney & Raithby $535 ($595)
                                                                                                                                                         26–28    Act Natural Geesman & Lucht $345 ($385)                         25–28   Effective Boundaries Huntington & C McNally $525 ($585)
      13–18 Come Alive Huntington & Olynyk $820 ($920)                     27–3 jun Nonviolent Communication Wassman $980 ($1120)
                                                                                                                                                       27–Sep 8   Living Alive Phase II Part B C & E McNally $1700 ($1940)        25–28   Self-Compassion Dodge & Ewan $505 ($565)
      13-18 Body Breath & Energy Training Nicholls & Raithby $875 ($975)   28–1 jun    Process of Connecting Adams & Griffin $840 ($920)
                                                                                                                                                       28–Sep 2   Come Alive Chambers & Holt $820 ($920)
      14–18   Couples Alive I C & E McNally $1440 ($1600) per couple       28–jun 9 Living Alive Phase I Part B Ames & Clarke $1855 ($2095)
      18–21 Haventouch Massage (Haven Massage Series)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                   December 28–jan 1 2012 Reflections McKeen, B Wong.C & E McNally $510 ($590)
              Dillon-Shaw $495 ($555)

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Programs A-Z                                                               Anger, Boundaries and Safety
                                                                           Standing forward to create the life we want
                                                                                                                                                    being alive                                                               Bleep of Faith: Courage in Chaos
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              OCT 13–15 Carole Ames & Bill Leuze
                                                                                                                                                    Applying Haven learnings in your life
                                                                           MAR 31–APR 3, JuL 29 AuG 1, OCT 27–30 Greg Gurel                                                                                                   Develop the courage to embrace life and live it fully. The Haven’s
                                                                                                                                                    APR 10–13 Wendy Huntington & Jane Olynyk
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              co-founder Bennet Wong defined faith as ‘the felt assurance
                                                                           Few emotions are more feared than anger. While some use the              JuL 14–17 Gwen Ewan & Cathy Wilder
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              of the continuity of life’. This program will help you connect or
                                                                           fear associated with unsafe, unboundaried anger expression to            OCT 9–12 to be announced
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              reconnect with your own sense of faith.
                                                                           control, others mitigate their lives by continually trying to avoid
Act Natural                                                                any hint of anger. With either approach, the emotional constric-
                                                                                                                                                    Being Alive is an opportunity to deepen the experience of Come
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              The program is for people who:
                                                                                                                                                    Alive, tailored to the specific needs of each group of participants.
Find yourself in theatre!                                                  tion, physical dis-ease, and relationship dysfunction that result        After taking Come Alive, you may have had both joys and strug-            •	 Want to be open to possibility, and able to accept
                                                                           are life diminishing. Anger is a natural feeling that exists in all of   gles in your efforts to apply new learnings in old relationships and         disappointment
AuG 26–28 Jane Geesman & Sarah Lucht                                       us and when expressed in a safe, boundaried manner is passion-           situations. Being Alive offers a chance to reflect on this and learn      •	 Sometimes feel lost, and yearn for a sense of faith
As an actor, you don’t make up or pretend anything. You com-               ate, life enhancing, and relationship constructive.                      practical ways to move ahead.                                             •	 Associate faith with religion and thus avoid both
mit your full, authentic self to portray the human experience. As          This program is highly useful for people who:                            This program is for you if you have taken Come Alive and want to:
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              •	 Have a strong sense of faith and wish to explore it further
a result, this program will benefit anyone interested in furthering
their journey of self-discovery, as well as those who are curious          •	 Try to avoid confrontations and/or disagreements                      •	 Reflect with others on taking your Haven experience home               format: The program will include group discussion and debate, and
about acting and performance.                                              •	 Have been told they are ‘an angry person’                             •	 Practice being really honest with yourself and others                  opportunities to examine your personal beliefs and how these impact
    It is a popular belief that actors ‘lose’ themselves in their roles.   •	 Are holding anger and resentment for past events                      •	 Practice using the Haven Communication Model                           your experience of the world and guide your behaviours. Tools, ideas
In fact, it is the responsibility of actors to find themselves in their    •	 Feel repressed, depressed, or emotionally numb                        •	 Explore the interconnectedness of the Haven models                     and experiences drawn from a range of sources will be offered to
characters through a process of:                                           •	 Want to get angry but are scared of what might happen                 •	 Explore deep breathing and integrate it into your life                 help you identify, explore and nurture your own sense of faith.

•	 Self-discovery                                                          format: The program offers participants opportunities to both            •	 Try out in advance challenging conversations and actions               tuition: $495 ($555) + accommodation & meals.
•	 Self-revelation                                                         express and witness the expression of safe and boundaried                •	 Look at how you stop yourself from applying what you learn
•	 Relationship with fellow actors                                         anger. Created by the late Joann Peterson, the program follows           •	 Discover ways to move ahead
•	 Engagement with the world of the play                                   a progression: uncovering participants’ beliefs about anger, a           format: Facilitated by members of The Haven’s core faculty, this
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Body, Breath and Energy Training
                                                                           discussion about the origins of anger and its varied spectrum of         program will involve presentation, discussion and experiential
format: Through exercises designed for acting students, includ-                                                                                                                                                               An experiential program in bodywork and energy release
                                                                           expression, and finally a gradual exploration of participants’ own       work. It is a flexibly designed program in which the leaders will
ing improvisation, movement, scene study, and breath work, par-            energetic patterns and opportunities to experience various tools                                                                                   FEB 13–18 Linda Nicholls & David Raithby
                                                                                                                                                    respond to the expressed needs of the group.
ticipants will experience the intimacy and aliveness of the acting         for anger expression. Participants will receive a free copy of Joann
process. The focus of this program is not on final performance, but                                                                                 tuition: $540 ($600) + accommodation & meals.                             This vibrant program embodies the exceptional combination of
                                                                           Peterson’s A Book about Anger, Boundaries and Safety.
on the process of bringing yourself forward, connecting with, and                                                                                                                                                             knowledge and experiential learning that is unique to The Haven.
trusting, your own natural instincts. No prior acting experience           tuition: $535 ($595) + accommodation & meals.                                                                                                      You will you gain a solid foundation in the concepts and tech-
is needed. Just bring yourself and a willingness to play, and be                                                                                                                                                              niques of Haven-style body and energy work, and reap its bene-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              fits in your own life. Skillful integration of body, breath and energy
prepared to discover the natural actor in you!                             Anger, Boundaries and Safety 2:                                                                                                                    work is a powerful personal and professional tool.
tuition: $345 ($385) + accommodation & meals.                              Time to Regroup                                                                                                                                    This program is for people who want to:
                                                                           NOV 18–20 Greg Gurel
                                                                                                                                                    Befriending Your Inner Critic
                                                                                                                                                    (formerly Primal Whisperings)                                             •	 Encounter core feelings, beliefs, memories and behaviour
Adventures in Consciousness                                                It’s amazing how fast our minds can grasp new concepts and how                                                                                        patterns as they are held in the body
                                                                           excited we can get dreaming about all the possibilities. And in          How to get out of your own way                                            •	 Increase the depth and range of their work with people
A Flying School for the Mind                                               order to realize our dreams, we need to use the energy of our
                                                                                                                                                    NOV 4–7 Marlyn Farrell
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              •	 Facilitate a shift from being ‘stuck’ to engaging life more fully
AuG 19–21 Lee Pulos
                                                                           enthusiasm and excitement to translate our ideas into actions.                                                                                     •	 Become more aware of and utilize ‘transformative moments’
                                                                           This process of integrating our thoughts and behaviours is an            Have you ever stopped yourself from doing or having what it is            •	 Develop and use their own intuition, creativity and presence
In this exciting and provocative experiential program, partici-            incredible challenge. Not only are we surrounded by others who           you truly want, by telling yourself you aren’t good enough, smart
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              format: Haven core faculty members Linda Nicholls and David
pants will learn self-hypnosis as the basic tool to explore different      don’t share our vision, we are also confronted with our own tried        enough, young enough, thin enough, talented enough, beautiful
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Raithby demonstrate and encourage creative exploration of
octaves of consciousness. Techniques will be taught to identify            and true patterns that are deeply embedded into who we are.              or handsome enough?
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              personal issues through a variety of energetic and expressive
and change limiting beliefs that can sabotage personal growth,
                                                                           This program is highly useful for people who have taken Anger,           In this program for men and women you will:                               approaches. Supervised practice, group discussion, and personal
prosperity, relationships and healing.
                                                                           Boundaries and Safety (prerequisite) and:                                                                                                          work deepen the experience while feedback both as the ‘subject’
We will then explore more transpersonal realms and experience
                                                                                                                                                    •	 Call out your hidden critic                                            and as the ‘practitioner’ provides a rare opportunity for learning.
the following:
                                                                           •	 Are holding anger and resentment for past events                      •	 Establish a healthy distance between yourself and your critic
                                                                           •	 Feel frustrated or stuck trying to make changes                       •	 Tell your critic what you need and want                                tuition: $875 ($975) + accommodation & meals.
•	 How to develop and expand intuition                                     •	 Want more experience with clearings, boundaries, and using            •	 Transform your inner critic into an ally
•	 Automatic writing                                                          the tools learned in Anger, Boundaries and Safety
                                                                                                                                                     format: Befriending your Inner Critic uses music, visual arts,
•	 Psychometry                                                             •	 Require tools for expressing anger in a relationship                   movement, guided meditation, laughter and story to help men
•	 Former personalities                                                    format: This program offers participants opportunities to con-            and women build (and rebuild) relationship with their inner critic.      dates & tuition to be announced.
•	 Remote viewing                                                          tinue addressing past or present instances of anger and/or resent-        Think of it like mediation, for you and your critic, or facilitating a   Linda Nicholls & David Raithby
•	 A slide presentation and discussion of non-ordinary psychic             ment using the methods learned in Anger, Boundaries, and Safety.          creative meeting of the minds. For two weeks leading up to the
    healing practices in Brazil, the Philippines and Mexico                                                                                                                                                                   Breathe! is a two-day workshop that challenges you to become
                                                                           Clearings and boundaries, the tools designed to prevent anger             program, carry a small notebook and pen with you. Capture the
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              more alive through the practice of conscious and progressive
format: Brief presentations and a theoretical model from leading           from accumulating into significant blocks, will also be explored to      ‘stops’ in your day. Write down each time you hear negative self-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              deep breathing. You can read more about breathing on page 28.
physicists are used to integrate the paranormal — or more aptly,           a greater depth. Techniques for expressing safe and boundaried            talk and notice if you stop yourself from doing something. This is
the para-conceptual — into our everyday reality.                           anger directly between two people will also be introduced.                an exercise in building awareness, not judgment, so just notice.         Check for updated information.
tuition: $415 ($455) + accommodation & meals.                              tuition: $325 ($365) + accommodation & meals.                            tuition: $485 ($545) + accommodation & meals.

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Career Revisioning                                                      come alive                                                              Coaching: Engaging Relationships                                          Connective Touch NEW!
Discover your unique career path!                                                                                                               Making space for people to learn                                          JuN 16–19 Gillian Enright & Jane Olynyk
                                                                        Live life to the full: grow, transform, and connect
JAN 20–23, OCT 27–30 Marlyn Farrell                                                                                                             MAR 10–13 Cathy Wilder & Jennifer Hilton                                  Physical touch is one of the most intimate ways we have of mak-
                                                                        Come Alive is the first program most people take at The Haven.                                                                                    ing connection with another person. From infancy, touch is an
Love and work, said Freud, are the cornerstones of our human-           Created more than 25 years ago by The Haven’s founders Ben              As an emerging conversational style in our lives and workplaces,          essential part of our being alive and thriving. Giving or receiving
ness. In this creative and relational program, Marlyn Farrell invites   Wong and Jock McKeen, Come Alive remains as impactful as ever,          the ‘new’ coaching is very different from the coaching most of us         touch offers us a chance to see into ourselves and make contact
you to experience the personal satisfaction of discovering your         providing understanding and experience that will allow you to           have experienced on the sports field. Cathy Wilder and Jennifer           with another in a vulnerable and caring way.
unique career path and beginning to live your dream.                    transform your life. Come Alive is an invitation to live your life to   Hilton teach a form of coaching that creates space for others in
                                                                        the full.                                                               which they do their work and learning. This requires being with           Each of us has a unique experience of touch. We respond to it in
•	 Take stock of your life accomplishments, personal qualities,                                                                                 the other person from a place of curiosity and heart. It involves         many different ways. We may open or defend, relax or tighten;
    and transferable skills                                             JAN 1–6          Linda Nicholls & David Raithby                         being present and embodied – mentally, spiritually, physically            we can be in our bodies or be completely removed from the
•	 Identify your values and passions                                    JAN 23–28        Ian Curtin & Wendy Huntington                          and emotionally.                                                          experience.
•	 Determine whether your present career offers unexplored
    potential to express these values                                   FEB 13–18        Wendy Huntington & Jane Olynyk                         Coaching conversations can deepen contact and learning in                 This program is an opportunity to explore how we are in touching,
•	 Explore new or enhanced career directions                            MAR 6–11         Cathy & Ernie McNally                                  teaching, leading, managing, helping, parenting, enrolling, or            in a safe and non-sexual arena. You will learn:
•	 Investigate the steps required to bring your dreams to fruition      MAR 20–25        Carole Ames & Susan Clarke
                                                                                                                                                being in primary relationship. This program is for you if you wish        •	 Breathing exercises to come in contact with your body
format: The program includes creative exploration, group dis-           APR 17–22        Cathy & Ernie McNally
                                                                                                                                                to:                                                                       •	 Touch as a form of communication
cussion and personal reflection. Note: Please bring with you nine                                                                               •	 ‘Help’ others without doing their work                                 •	 To honour and express boundaries, both your defenses and
objects that will represent your hobbies, interests and passions,
                                                                        MAY 8–13         Susa Holt & Derek LaCroix                              •	 Create relationships that support another’s learning                      your opening
and a piece of material on which to display them.                       JuN 5–10         Linda Nicholls & David Raithby                         •	 Deepen your capacity to be present with others                         •	 To recognize your physiological and psychological responses to
                                                                        JuL 3–8          Leslie Whyte & Cathy Wilder                            •	 Learn more about who you are and how you are with others                  various kinds of touch
tuition: $485 ($545) + accommodation & meals.                                                                                                   •	 Learn how to make the most of yourself in your interactions            •	 If you are a bodywork practitioner or Haven intern or
                                                                        JuL 17–22        Wayne Dodge & Gwen Ewan                                                                                                             facilitator, how to use your own body knowledge to make
                                                                                                                                                format: In an experiential group setting, we explore through
ChiRunning NEW!                                                         AuG 8–13         Al Chambers & Gillian Enright
                                                                                                                                                exercises, activities and discussion how we can bring body, mind,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                             contact with someone and contribute to a healing process
                                                                        AuG 28–SEP 2     Al Chambers & Susa Holt                                spirit and emotion into focused conversations with others. Super-         format: The learning will be offered in an atmosphere of safety,
Creating the conditions for energy to flow
                                                                        SEP 18–23        Linda Nicholls & David Raithby                         vised practice coaching facilitates the learning of energy/body/          in which you notice and define your own boundaries. This program
APRIL 15-17, OCT 28-30 Donna Spencer                                                                                                            mind-based techniques. Immediate feedback, group dialogue and             is not an exploration of sexual touching.
                                                                        OCT 2–7          Leslie Whyte & Cathy Wilder
ChiRunning® practice helps you focus your mind, lift your spirit                                                                                personal work all support participants to integrate their learning.       tuition: $480 ($520) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                        OCT 16–21        Carole Ames & Susan Clarke
and open up your flow of Chi. It combines the inner focus and                                                                                   tuition: $535 ($595) + accommodation & meals.
flow of T’ai Chi with the power and energy of running, creating a       NOV 6–11         Gillian Enright & Jane Olynyk
revolutionary running form and philosophy that takes the pound-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Conscious Sexuality
                                                                        NOV 20-25        Wayne Dodge & Gwen Ewan
ing, pain, and potential damage out of this sport. It increases                                                                                 Communication Fundamentals                                                Deep body learning for loving self and other
mental clarity and focus, enhances the joy of running, and turns        Come Alive is for you if you want to:                                   Self-awareness in action
it into a safe and effective lifelong program for health, fitness,                                                                                                                                                        OCT 21–24 Gary Dillon, Elfi Dillon-Shaw & Linda Nicholls
and well being.                                                         •	 Know yourself better and experience life more fully                  APR 8–11, SEP 23–26 Cathy & Ernie McNally                                 Our sexuality is the exuberant essential life force that stirs within
                                                                        •	 Feel more deeply, and respond to your feelings                                                                                                 us throughout our lives. Conscious and unconscious taboos, how-
The program will include:                                                  in a productive way                                                  For Ernie and Cathy McNally, the Haven Communication Model
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          ever, mean that we have both a longing for ecstasy and at the
•	 The keys to effortless injury-free running                           •	 Develop health in body, mind, and spirit                             has been a life-changing influence. In this program, they explore
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          same time a fear of letting go into states of arousal and connection
•	 The physics of running without using your legs                       •	 Learn to communicate effectively                                     ways to use it effectively to develop self-awareness and enhance
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          that might help us surrender to loving self and other. Sexual health
•	 Chirunning versus power running                                      •	 Enhance your sense of meaning in life                                your personal and work relationships. They also introduce a wide
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          is essential for physical, emotional, spiritual and relational vital-
•	 Introduction to the Chirunning form                                  •	 Have healthy, loving and fulfilling relationships                    range of other ideas and activities that complement and enrich
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          ity. In this intensive program for men and women we invite you
                                                                                                                                                the model.
•	 Injury prevention techniques                                         format: Participants learn and practice the Haven models of com-                                                                                  to dive into the intelligence of your hidden eros, to play, and to
•	 Personal check-in tricks and tools                                   munication, relationship and self-responsibility and are offered a      The program is for anyone who:                                            let go of unrealistic, outdated, no longer useful beliefs about your
•	 Learning to use your gears                                           range of opportunities for personal learning. Work is done in the       •	 Wants to deepen intimacy                                               sexuality. We offer rich experiences that challenge stale patterns
•	 Core muscle drills and exercises                                     group as a whole and in smaller groups in the evenings. In addi-        •	 Struggles in discussing difficult issues                               in body and mind and in our relationships. Join us if you want to:
•	 Pre-run body looseners                                               tion to group activities and discussions, each participant is offered   •	 Wants to improve their work environment and productivity
•	 Innovative technique drills                                                                                                                                                                                            •	 Appreciate the wide spectrum of human sexuality
                                                                        a time for individual experience in large or small group sessions,      •	 Is training at The Haven and wants to strengthen their                 •	 Confront unconscious beliefs
•	 Learn to run with ease up and down hills                             including breath and body work, gestalt, psychodrama and other
•	 How to conserve energy at any speed
                                                                                                                                                   facilitation skills                                                    •	 Expand beyond old habits of body and mind
                                                                        forms. Come Alive is led by gifted facilitators who have trained at     •	 Wants greater understanding and clarity in both casual and             •	 Open yourself to states of conscious arousal and pleasure
                                                                        The Haven and have many years’ experience leading Come Alive
format: ChiRunning can help you recapture the effortless nature                                                                                    focused conversations                                                  •	 Relax into orgasmic states of mind and body
of running. Developed by ultramarathoner Danny Dreyer, it is            and other programs.                                                     •	 Wants greater self-awareness, particularly of habits/triggers          •	 Experience new sensations while staying present in deep
focused on how you run rather than simply the results of your           tuition: $820 ($920) + accommodation & meals.                              and their sources                                                         states of pleasure
running: it is more process-oriented than goal-oriented. Bring                                                                                  format: The program takes an exciting look at new and familiar
running gear and layered clothing (expect to be outside).                                                                                                                                                                 format: This is an opportunity for adults who are already on a path
                                                                                                                                                ideas, and provides opportunities to engage, practice and learn in        of personal growth. It is an expansive, adventurous, consensual,
tuition: $370 ($410) + accommodation & meals.                                                                                                   a supportive group setting.                                               experimental, experiential and liberating program. Be prepared for
                                                                                                                                                tuition: $525 ($585) + accommodation & meals.                             deep body learning, leaving your limiting primal tensions behind.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          tuition: $605 ($665) + accommodation & meals.
“I love what I see when I look in the mirror! I enjoyed the freedom I felt. You helped me see
 myself, as truly myself. Thank you.” a come alive participant
                                                                                                                                                          Three ways to register •              •      •   (Toll free) 1 877 247 9238 ext. 1

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the COUPLES ALIVE series NEW!                                             Couples Alive IV is for couples who have participated in at least
                                                                          two of the other programs in the series. Exceptions for couples        Couples in Conflict                                                    Dealing with the DSM-IV
These programs are for people in primary relationship who want            who have done extensive relationship work together in other pro-
                                                                                                                                                 JAN 21–23, APR 1–3, MAY 13–15,                                         An introduction to the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual
more, and are prepared to go beyond the familiar to find it, in the       grams will be considered.
safe and respectful company of other couples.                                                                                                    JuL 22–24, OCT 14–16, NOV 25–27 Judy Sellner                           for Mental Disorders
                                                                          tuition: $1440 ($1600) per couple per program. Discounts of
                                                                                                                                                 This program is for couples who are having difficulty resolving        MAR 18–20 Randy Wong
Couples Alive I–III may be taken in any order. Couples who are            $500 per program are available if you take more than one pro-
new to The Haven or have not participated in relationship pro-            gram in the same year and if you register at the same time for         conflicts, whether due to lack of communication, an affair, frus-      The American Psychiatric Association’s standard of classification
grams together are encouraged to begin with Couples Alive I.              other specified programs. See for details.                    tration, years of ‘all work and no play’, or the strain of blend-      has been the source of much debate amongst medical practition-
                                                                                                                                                 ing families. You may be considering whether or not you want to        ers, professional counsellors, social workers and therapists. This
                                                                                                                                                 remain together, or how you can resolve differences and have the       program provides an introduction to:
                                                                                                                                                 kind of relationship you want. You will not be told whether or not
Couples Alive I                                                           Couples Alive III                                                      you should stay together. If you make the decision to separate,        •	 Psychiatric assessment
Communication and Boundaries                                              Living and Loving Day to Day                                           you will be able to do so with your self-esteem intact.                •	 The DSM-IV classification system
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        •	 Diagnostic formulation
FEB 14-18 Ernie & Cathy McNally                                           JuN 20-24 Ernie & Cathy McNally                                        You will have opportunities to:                                        •	 Treatment considerations, including an overview of
 The more we have ‘at stake’ in a relationship, the more challen-         When we imagine ‘falling in love’ we often picture excitement,         •	 Learn skills for dealing with anger and conflict                       psychotropic medications
 ging it can be to speak and listen. unaddressed misunderstand-           passion, discovery and great sex. And when we first fall in love,      •	 Learn how to rebuild goodwill with each other                       •	 Benefits and limitations for the client and the medical/
 ings, unspoken wishes, and recurring struggle-points can breed           this is often what we find! Now fast-forward two, five, ten years      •	 Learn how to regard each other with dignity and respect                psychiatric system
‘score-keeping’, distancing, and resentments.                             or more. For many couples, the thrill of ‘falling in love’ has been                                                                           Participants will have an opportunity to focus on specific
                                                                          replaced by familiarity, routines and predictability. For some, this   format: Each couple will work together as a pair in a small group
This program begins with an in-depth exploration of the essence                                                                                  setting with much individualized attention. In addition, each          diagnoses of interest for a more in-depth study.
                                                                          once-rich find slips into a life-numbing loss.
of communication from a distinctly couples perspective. From                                                                                     couple will be offered a private counselling session. Various exer-    format: This program is for helping professionals, complementary
there, each couple will apply their learnings to the ‘boundary-ing’       Along the way we have missed opportunities to grow from love           cises will be presented to help bring clarity to your relationship,    therapists, students in the Haven training programs, and graduate
process — identifying and expressing wishes, wants and prefer-            to loving. Love is the ‘thing’ we dreamed of; loving is the active     including ‘homework’ to be done outside of session hours. Judy         level students in related disciplines. Previous knowledge of mental
ences — and explore the impact and possibilities for their relation-      experience of tending to the feelings we have within. This pro-        Sellner has taught relationships skills at The Haven for 20 years.     health assessment and the DSM-IV is not necessary. The program
ship of this self-definition.                                             gram is designed to open the doors to the abundance of living-                                                                                comprises informal presentations and dialogue with the facilitator
                                                                          loving opportunities in our everyday life.                             tuition: $525 ($565) per person + accommodation & meals.
This program is for couples who want to:                                                                                                                                                                                and other participants.
                                                                          This program is for couples who want to:
•	 Deepen intimacy                                                                                                                               Creative Aging:                                                        tuition: $320 ($360) + accommodation & meals.
•	 Address recurring and difficult issues                                 •	 Discover the quiet joy of faith-full intimacy                       Embracing the Second Half of Life
•	 Bring greater understanding and clarity to daily conversations         •	 uncover the deep richness in their loving partnership                                                                                      Depression: Conscious Alternatives
•	 Discover the nature of objectification in personal relationships       •	 Have expression of loving be an integral part of life together      OCT 16–21 Mary & Gary Holdgrafer, Wendy Huntington
•	 Increase understanding of reactive triggers and their sources          •	 Identify how we sabotage moments of ease and contact                                                                                       Interrupt depression and access a more joyful life
•	 Distinguish between boundaries and walls, and value both               •	 Create an ambience of kindness and generosity                       What are you going to do with the rest of your life? The second
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        NOV 6–11 Linda Nicholls
•	 Learn to identify and express preferences                              •	 understand the ebb and flow of the desire for connection            half of life can be rich and fulfilling. Although aging is often
•	 Find connection in the tension of disagreement                         •	 Explore the possibilities of curiosity and ‘wondering’              thought of as a time of decline, it is actually a period in which      Although medication is often useful in the treatment of depres-
•	 Recognize and transform entrenched family rules and patterns           •	 Cultivate sustainable interdependent connection                     significant growth occurs. Older brains develop in ways that
                                                                                                                                                 facilitate creative thought and exploration. Perhaps for the first
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        sion, you may want to consider additional or alternative inter-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        ventions. With conscious commitment, it is possible to interrupt
                                                                                                                                                 time, there is freedom to pursue interests and passions set aside      depression. In this program you will examine the personal belief
Couples Alive II                                                          Couples Alive IV                                                       in favour of family and career obligations. There is a rich oppor-     systems that support depression and access your capacity to live
Expanding Awareness and Connection                                        Deepening and Drawing Closer                                           tunity for wise elders to both learn and teach. At the same time       a fuller, more joyful life.
                                                                                                                                                 older people face change, loss and end of life. This program offers
APR 25-29 Ernie & Cathy McNally                                           JuL 25-29 Ernie & Cathy McNally                                        a careful look at creatively embracing the second half of life.        This program is for you if:
When we first meet someone that we often do so on our ‘best               In the isolation of our own relationship, we can often be too          This program is for you if you are:                                    •	 You are experiencing depression
behaviour’. When we are strongly attracted, the stakes go up and          close to the struggles at hand, focus on the details and miss the                                                                             •	 You have worked your way out of depression and want to
we do everything possible to be seen in a positive light. From            essence of our differences. We can also fall into habits, initially    •	 In, or entering, the second half of life                               focus on prevention
these well-intended beginnings we can foster an inner struggle            intended to serve our partnership, that limit intimacy. And we         •	 Anxious about your future                                           •	 You are concerned for someone you know who is depressed
to limit what we show of ourselves by suppressing aspects of our-         can overlook the chance to pause and appreciate who we are and         •	 Longing for meaning                                                 •	 You work with people who experience depression
selves we fear may sabotage the relationship — these aspects are          what we have within and between us.                                    •	 Seeking passion and purpose
part of our shadow. Ironically, the choice to suppress can itself                                                                                •	 Wanting to review and assess your life experience                   format: In these five days of education and experiential learning,
lead to resentment, distance, distrust and anxiety.
                                                                          This program is a rare opportunity to come together with other         •	 Interested in having a positive attitude about growing older        you will gain a wide variety of take-home skills to facilitate either

This program looks at the concept of shadow, the ‘positive’ as well
                                                                          couples in a peer-focused environment to explore, confront and
                                                                          attend to current and recurring relationship issues.
                                                                                                                                                 •	 Attracted to discovering and creating possibilities for yourself    your personal or professional life. You will mobilize your breath
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        and energy, access your feelings and creativity, and enjoy the
as ‘negative’ things we hide from ourselves and one another. Par-                                                                                format: using music, guided imagery, art, stories, quiet reflec-       pleasure of body movement.
                                                                          Working with the whole group, in a foursome with another couple,       tion and other experiential forms you will have an opportunity to
ticipants will identify and share with their partner characteristics of
                                                                          and with facilitators, each couple will have opportunities to ‘roll    consider your past, your life today and to imagine your future. The    tuition: $835 ($935) + accommodation & meals.
their own shadow. Couples will be invited to go beyond ‘good-bad’
                                                                          up their sleeves’ and meet their challenges. In addition, couples      leaders will share their own second half of life experiences and
judgments of shadow and work together to explore ways these
                                                                          will have a private one-hour session with the group leaders.           learning as well as current information on aging. There will be rich
traits can be embraced in their relationship.
                                                                          This program is for couples who want to:                               discussions and time for personal contemplation as well as fun
This program is for couples who want to:                                                                                                         and laughter.
•	 Move beyond destructive patterns in their relationship                 •	 Expand and deepen intimacy                                                                                                                 You may be able claim the cost of tuition
•	 Bring balance and awareness to their self-expression                   •	 Directly address issues in a safe and respectful environment        tuition: $740 ($840) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        at The Haven against your income tax!
•	 Experience personal and relational self-definition                     •	 Identify and practice ways to bring conscious expression to
                                                                             their loving                                                                                                                               The Haven is a certified educational institution under
•	 Create an open environment for all aspects of each person              •	 Have a ‘relationship tune-up’ with other like-minded people                                                                                Sections 118.5 and 118.6 of the Canada Income Tax Act.
•	 Actively build the foundation of their relationship through risk,      •	 Bring ‘more’ to their day-to-day loving                                                                                                    We are also registered with the BC Private Career Training
     compassion and curiosity                                                                                                                                                                                           Institutions Agency.

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Drum Talk                                                              impact of early experiences and learnings. Letting go of what is      other psychological systems. With an emphasis on the crucial role      or issues seemingly beyond our control we must leave something
                                                                       no longer useful provides the freedom to make new choices and         of contact, the program will be useful to those who work with          behind. Rather than destructive and inhibiting, grieving can be
African drumming for creativity, passion and healing                   access deeper recognition and acceptance of your self and others.     people in a wide variety of settings, including interns or group       growth-enhancing.
                                                                                                                                             leaders in Haven programs.
JuL 8–11 Lyle Povah                                                    In this program you can:                                                                                                                     This program is for people who are experiencing loss related to:
                                                                                                                                             Five Elements Practicum includes:
Since the beginning of time, drums have been utilized to cele-         •	 Discover your parents as real people                                                                                                      •	 Relationships – separation, divorce, death
brate, communicate, and express all that it means to be human.         •	 Appreciate and connect with your family roots                      •	 An introduction to Five Elements Theory, Qi (Chi), Yin/Yang         •	 Body and Life transitions – illness, surgery, abortion, aging
This program is for anyone who wants to bring more creativ-            •	 update the past and reduce the negative impact of earlier             theory, and concepts of Micro/Macrocosm, Harmony vs.                •	 Change – career change, relocation, financial status
ity and passion into their personal lives, work or relationships,         experiences                                                           balance, and Dualism                                                •	 Global concern – environment, poverty, war
including:                                                             •	 Let go or transform learnings that are no longer useful for you    •	 A review of each of the Elements, including their spiritual         format: using a range of experiential forms, including the creative
•	 Health care workers and practitioners                               •	 Clarify distorted or limited perceptions and deal with unmet          aspects and key personality characteristics
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    use of ceremony, participants will have opportunities to learn
•	 Seekers on a spiritual path                                            expectations                                                       •	 Identifying imbalance in the Elements, using pulses, colour,        about the grieving process, express their feelings, grieve fully, and
•	 Music therapists and music lovers                                   •	 Move beyond survival pain towards active growth                       smell, voice tone, and language
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    develop a map toward deepening inner strength and wholeness.
•	 People living with chronic illness                                  •	 Access your inner resources and become your own responsible        •	 How to move Qi, including the use of source points and other
                                                                          choice-maker                                                          therapeutic techniques                                              tuition: $425 ($465) + accommodation & meals.
•	 Teachers and coaches                                                                                                                      •	 The Cycle of Change – a process that can be used to identify
•	 Performing artists                                                  format: Satir processes incorporate psychodrama, gestalt,
                                                                                                                                                blockages at the microcosmic level to the macrocosmic level
•	 Community organizers                                                guided imagery, sculpting communication stances, and methods
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Hands-on Poetry NEW!
                                                                       of accessing the unconscious. Work is done in group and in triads.    format: Participants will utilize their rich personal imagery and
format: This group drumming program is suited to first-timers
                                                                                                                                             body experience to connect with the Elements and each other.           A hands-on approach to poem-making
or more experienced players, and will involve sound healing tech-      tuition: $1070 ($1190) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                             The learning process is relational, creative, and practical. Par-
niques, drum circle work, guided imagery with drumming, and                                                                                                                                                         JuL 15–17 Ellery Littleton
                                                                       Family Reconstruction and The Journey to Self are running back to     ticipants should have taken Phase III New Horizons or have some
playful rhythm games.
                                                                       back in 2011. Register for both and receive a $300 discount.          basic knowledge of Chinese medicine.                                   If you like to make things – beautiful, personal things – you will
tuition: $405 ($465) + accommodation & meals.                                                                                                                                                                       enjoy this weekend workshop. Writing poetry is not some eso-
                                                                                                                                             tuition: $435 ($495) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                       Field Guide to Your Wild Side NEW!                                                                                                           teric academic pursuit – it’s a craft and a skill and a creative
Effective Boundaries: Defining the Self                                JuN 17–19 Hilary Leighton (with Louise Amuir & Marlyn Farrell)        For Play: Sex, Eros, Spirit and Intimacy
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    pleasure available to us all. The exercises offered in this program
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    will quickly lead you toward building confidence in your writing
MAY 5–8, NOV 25–28 Cathy McNally & Wendy Huntington                                                                                                                                                                 and experiencing the enlivening joy and playfulness that writing
                                                                       This program is both an experiential and theoretical way to mine      A workshop for couples
The ability to discern, express and dialogue about personal            for a deeper human-nature connection, and help us reawaken to                                                                                poetry can bring.
                                                                                                                                             APR 29–MAY 2, NOV 11–14 Elfi Dillon-Shaw & Gary Dillon
boundaries strengthens our ability to access creativity, energy        our birthright of belonging to a wider community of beings.                                                                                  •	 Recapture the joy of creativity through poem-making
and aliveness and enjoy greater intimacy and clarity in our per-
                                                                       Jung said that human consciousness is how the universe reflects       This program offers couples new ways of igniting their erotic          •	 Speak in your distinct voice about your unique experience
sonal and work relationships.                                                                                                                flame and supports them to remember each other in their
                                                                       upon itself. Indeed, we are not just living on this earth, we are a                                                                          format: The atmosphere of this program is mutually supportive,
This program is for people who want to:                                part of how it lives, are living elements of it. Rather than being    physical wants and gifts.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    open and non-judgemental. If you love words, there is no better
                                                                       apart from it, we are a part of it and therefore, what we do to one
•	 Know and express who they really are                                another and ourselves, we do also to the planet.
                                                                                                                                             The program will benefit couples who:                                  way to express that love than by writing a poem – the language of
•	 Experience greater intimacy in relationship                                                                                               •	 Grieve the loss of erotic play or sex in their relationship         the spirit and of the heart.
•	 Discover, speak, and stand behind their own thoughts,               Topics and experiences will include:                                  •	 Want to sustain and expand their connection                         tuition: $325 ($365) + accommodation & meals.
   feelings and choices
                                                                       •	 Waking our animal senses – sensorial modes of knowing              •	 Want to update their understanding of sexuality
•	 Be proactive and clear when creating new, healthy                   •	 Eco-stories and ecological identity                                •	 Want to open to the flow of life-giving energy
   relationships, following past experiences of abuse and violence                                                                           •	 Want to experience the benefits of erotic energy in their           Healing Stitches
•	 Free themselves from the experience of being trapped by             •	 Exploring ecopsychology and integral ecology
   roles, rules and obligations
                                                                       •	 Wilderness rites of passage, the importance of ritual and             physical, mental and spiritual health                               Release your creative energy!
                                                                          ceremony in coming to life
•	 Develop a new perspective on allergies, chronic fatigue,            •	 Cross species communication, wild mirroring
                                                                                                                                             format: Elfi Dillon-Shaw and her husband Gary Dillon present           MAY 15–20 Mary Holdgrafer & Wendy Huntington
   depression and other symptoms                                                                                                             experiential exercises using breath, voice, movement, sensuous
                                                                       •	 Re-enchantment through play, wandering, and wild poetry            touch and loving-presence meditations from the wisdom teachings        In this program you will use personal awareness as a means of
format: This three-day program combines presentation and               •	 Earth-based transpersonal practices for human development          of Tantra and Taoism, along with ideas rooted in the revolutionary     discovering and advancing your creativity. You will examine your
experiential learning about the discovery and effective implemen-                                                                            edges of modern biological and physical science.                       commitment to the creative process, confront fears and develop
                                                                       format: Through a direct and embodied experience of the world                                                                                strategies for dealing with creative blocks. In addressing the chal-
tation of the boundary-ing process. Participants will also explore
                                                                       around us using soulful and arts-based approaches, we will ripen      tuition: $465 ($525) + accommodation & meals.                          lenge of creating, you will gain a new awareness of your self.
how to establish useful consequences when an expressed bound-
                                                                       toward a more ‘eco-centric’ worldview, cultivate an ecology
ary is not respected. For those who internalize boundary conflicts
into an illness pattern, there will be an opportunity to explore and
                                                                       of compassion, open to the elegance and simplicity of natural                                                                                •	 Discover your untapped creativity and passion
decipher the story expressed in the symptom.
                                                                       rhythms and recover a joyful connection with the land and the         Grieving: Change and Growth                                            •	 Deepen your creative work
                                                                       more-than-human-world. Please bring a timepiece, a journal and
                                                                                                                                             (formerly Separation and Loss)
                                                                                                                                                                                                                    •	 Get yourself out of a rut
tuition: $525 ($585) + accommodation & meals.                          wear weather-ready clothing.                                                                                                                 •	 Deal with the fear of rejection, of your work or yourself as an
                                                                                                                                             Growing through loss and separation                                       artist
Family Reconstruction
                                                                       tuition: $370 ($410) + accommodation & meals.                                                                                                •	 Communicate your message more effectively
                                                                                                                                             APR 8–10 Linda Nicholls                                                •	 Experience joy and playfulness in your work
A process of transformation developed by Virginia Satir                Five Elements Practicum                                               In this program, participants will learn to grieve fully and respon-   •	 Find a spiritual connection in your work
AuG 22–28 Maria Gomori                                                                                                                       sively. Life involves ongoing experiences of attachment and sep-       format: Through experiential learning and presentation, Heal-
                                                                       Chinese medicine for mind, emotions and spirit                        aration, situations of helplessness and disappointment. We face        ing Stitches provides rich opportunities for personal growth and
The objective of the three-generational Family Reconstruction          MAY 5–8 Jane Olynyk                                                   separations and losses through relationships ending, deaths,           exploration. In an atmosphere of safety, we use design, collage,
process developed by Virginia Satir is to revisit one’s family roots                                                                         aging, career changes and geographical moves, children grow-
                                                                       This program focuses on the mental, emotional, and spiritual                                                                                 journaling, movement and guided imagery to release blocked
and to meet with and understand our parents (or major childhood                                                                              ing up and leaving home, fading dreams or the interruption of
                                                                       aspects of Chinese Medicine. Haven core faculty member and                                                                                   creative energy.
caregivers) as people, instead of seeing them only in their stereo-                                                                          life by illness, injury or trauma. Issues broader than our personal
typed roles. It is a powerful psychodynamic process that pro-          Registered Acupuncturist Jane Olynyk offers a theoretical and         lives, such as our environment and the state of our world may          tuition: $740 ($840) + accommodation & meals.
vides an opportunity to update the past and reduce the negative        practical grounding in its use as an alternative or complement to     be fueling our grief. In facing planned or unpredicted transitions,

12                      To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                  To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                                       13
the HAVEN MASSAGE series NEW!                                       Erotic Massage for Lovers                                             Intuitive Healing Five-Day                                             The Journey to Self
                                                                    JuN 10–13 Elfi Dillon-Shaw                                            Maximize the resources of your soul!                                   An exploration of self and family using the Satir Method
                                                                    This program explores the art of giving and receiving erotic mas-     FEB 11–16, NOV 11–16 Phil Winkelmans                                   AuG 15–21 Maria Gomori
Haventouch Massage: An Introduction                                 sage. Founded on the principles of taoist and tantric teachings, it
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Virginia Satir created a number of healing and integrating pro-
                                                                    is for adults in intimate relationships who want to increase their    This program provides leading-edge intuitive self-solution tools,
FEB 18–21 Elfi Dillon-Shaw                                          erotic repertoire and expand the landscape of their love. This        allowing you to break through your ego’s limitations and maxi-         cesses to help make sense of ourselves and each other. Her
                                                                    workshop is for couples who desire to connect with each other in      mize the greater wisdom, intuitive resources and passions of your      objectives were personal growth and congruent communication,
In this program you will explore various modes of transforma-
                                                                    a new way.                                                            soul. This program is for those who want to:                           helping individuals to become ‘more fully human’. This involves
tional touch, and learn about their origins, history and effects
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 appreciating our past and the resources we developed as we
on the body/mind. We will introduce the principles of grounding     •	 Touch with eyes, hands and breath                                  •	 Have free access to their intuitive wisdom and abilities            grew up in our family of origin. Satir processes allow us to give full
and connecting with self and other, while learning the flow and     •	 Explore the intimate geography of your lover’s body                •	 Access intuitive insights and knowledge for self and others         expression to the resources we wish to utilize, and to let go of or
necessary mechanics of touch.                                       •	 Rest in sacred space and open the doors to ecstasy and peace       •	 Know their true identity, passion and purpose                       transform learnings that are no longer useful to us.
The program offers a taste of massage from East and West, foot      •	 Relax into arousal – staying present while opening to energy       •	 unleash intuitive healing powers and increase intimacy
massage and reflexology, Hawaiian Lomilomi, Reiki, and more.        •	 Strengthen the intimate bond through loving sexual touch           •	 Improve mental awareness, clarity, and creativity                   In this program you can:
                                                                    •	 Celebrate your own body through surrendering to sensation          format: This program includes Phil Winkelmans’s exclusive Tools        •	 Gain clarity about your identity, autonomy and boundaries
This program is for people who:                                     •	 Celebrate and witness your partner’s pleasure                      for the Soul Kit. Activities include mind/body/spirit intuitive        •	 Gain deeper recognition and acceptance of yourself and others
•	 Are considering entering the field of massage or one of the      •	 Discover orgasmic potential through movement, breath and touch     exercises; journaling, art and stories; individual and group oppor-    •	 Learn to be self-responsible
     many ‘hands on’ healing arts                                   tuition: $495 ($555) + accommodation & meals.                         tunities for sharing and self-reflection; breath, visualizations and   •	 Let go of learnings that no longer fit
•	 Who want to learn simple touch techniques to share with                                                                                image-streaming processes.                                             •	 Take risks in exploring new ways of living
     family and friends                                                                                                                                                                                          •	 Experience the freer flow of your life energies
•	 Who are curious, who work with people, and want more                                                                                   tuition: $765 ($865) + accommodation & meals.                          •	 Achieve your highest potential
     information about touch therapies, their origins, intentions
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 format: Satir processes incorporate psychodrama, gestalt,
     and effects                                                           For more on massage and other                                  Intuitive Healing Weekend                                              guided imagery, sculpting communication stances, and methods
tuition: $495 ($555) + accommodation & meals                             bodywork at The Haven, see page 28.                              Transform your life from the inside out!                               of accessing the unconscious. Work is done in group and in triads.

                                                                                                                                          APR 1–3, OCT 7–9 Phil Winkelmans                                       tuition: $1070 ($1190) + accommodation & meals.
Simply Touching:                                                                                                                          In this weekend program you will access powerful, intuitive infor-     The Journey to Self and Family Reconstruction are running back to
Giving and Receiving Haventouch Massage                                                                                                   mation centres for greater insight and wisdom. This powerful           back in 2011. Register for both and receive a $300 discount.

JuL 14–17 Elfi Dillon-Shaw                                                                                                                introductory program gives you theory, tools and skills that can
                                                                                                                                          change your life forever. You will leave this program with:
In this program you will learn how to give and receive a simple
                                                                    Inner Wisdom for Women (formerly Primal Nudgings)                                                                                            Kids in the Spotlight
relaxation massage based on principles of grounding and pres-       Arouse your feminine creativity!
                                                                                                                                          •	 A profound sense of a greater, more intuitive and creative you.
ence, while communicating about touch, basic body mechanics                                                                               •	 Clarity about finding your ‘life purpose’                           Children learn about themselves and each other
and structural anatomy.                                             MAR 17–20 Marlyn Farrell                                              •	 Greater strength in all your relationships and activities           JuL 7–12, 13–18, 18–23, 24–29, 29–AuG 3 Denise Goldbeck
This program is for:                                                Build a relationship with your best life guide — your self! This      format: This program includes both written and experiential            This extremely popular program (formerly know as Dance and
                                                                    program is an opportunity to explore your own intuition and           training, providing theory and skills you can access during and        Games for Kids) is in its 22nd year. All five sessions fill up months
•	 People who want to include massage in their home life to         experience the wise and gentle nudging of your inner being. The       after the workshop. We will work in groups and one-on-one as           in advance – so register now!
     share with friends and family                                  program uses music, visual arts, movement, guided meditation,         we explore various intuitive exercises and forms of self-expression.
•	 Professionals, bodyworkers and laypeople who want to add         laughter and story to help women build (and rebuild) relationship     tuition: $355 ($395) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Denise Goldbeck, with a team of youth interns, leads a group of
     new ideas and a fresh outlook to their own work                with their inner nudge or intuition.                                                                                                         children and teens through a creative process that culminates
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 in a special show, presenting music, dance and stagecraft with
tuition: $495 ($555) + accommodation & meals.                       This program is for women who want to:                                Intuition Mastery                                                      a modern and ironic twist. The children explore the movement of
                                                                    •	 Move through a transition                                          The key to your creative powers
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 their bodies and the unlimited range of their imaginations, and
Aloha Principles                                                    •	 Trust themselves to create new possibilities                                                                                              discover aspects of their own and each other’s development.Chil-

for Coordinating Mind and Body                                      •	 Reconnect with a lost part of themselves                           JuN 3–8 Phil Winkelmans                                                dren learn:
                                                                    •	 Build confidence in their ability to care for themselves and be    In this program you will learn to accept and understand the awe-       •	 Self understanding
MAR 11–14 Gary Dillon                                                  with others                                                                                                                               •	 Mutual cooperation and respect
This is a bodywork and movement program rooted in the Hawai-
                                                                    •	 Practice present moment awareness                                  some intuitive power of your soul, the source of all knowledge,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 •	 Social understanding
ian tradition of dance, massage, breath and healing. Principles
                                                                    •	 Cultivate intuition, wisdom and faith                              wisdom and creativity. The program offers:
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 •	 Leadership skills
and exercises are introduced to develop and deepen the har-
                                                                    •	 Deeply enjoy themselves and the women around them                  •	 Five powerful tools, using your senses to tell you things about     •	 How to support others
monious integration of mind and body for greater psychological      format: Arrive the first evening with nine objects that have emo-
                                                                                                                                             yourself you do not know                                            •	 How to contribute to the success of the group
and psychospiritual clarity.                                        tional value for you and represent the female / feminine — things
                                                                                                                                          •	 Word Image Streaming, intuition, creativity, physical healing
                                                                    that remind you of the woman you are, the woman you want to
                                                                                                                                          •	 The opportunity to dismantle the barriers created by lower          In optional, complementary sessions, caregivers learn about:
Movement and bodywork practices rooted in both the heal-
                                                                    be, or women in your life that you respect. This is a beautiful way
                                                                                                                                             levels of consciousness                                             •	 Child development (in their own lives and their children’s)
ing tradition of Huna and that of transformational movement
                                                                    of getting to know each other and facilitates a gentle process of
                                                                                                                                          •	 A chance to program your intuition for accessing future events      •	 The developmental aspects of the program
therapy will be introduced, along with Kahi Loa and Laulima –
                                                                    self-discovery. The next two days are filled with mask-making,
                                                                                                                                          •	 Access to your true purpose and direction
tablework that does not involve oil or disrobing. Attention will
                                                                    dance, writing and more. The activities shine a light on the inner
                                                                                                                                          •	 An opportunity to learn The Art of Intuitive Communication          format: use is made of theatre, music, dance, drama, costumes,
also be paid to evolving the embodied voice in order to empower                                                                                                                                                  make-up, props, crafts, games and imagination to write, produce
                                                                    you, allowing you time to see, admire, ask questions and process      format: This program is a response to people who have asked for        and present a show to an audience of friends and relatives. Older
                                                                    the answers with creative and cognitive awareness.                    a further Intuition program to complement what they have already       children support younger children in dances, songs and dramatic
tuition: $495 ($555) + accommodation & meals.                                                                                             learned. However, the only requirement is some previous experi-        scenes. note: Children stay at The Haven with a parent or guardian.
                                                                    tuition: $485 ($545) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                          ence in personal development.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 tuition: $625 ($725) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                          tuition: $765 ($865) + accommodation & meals.

14                        To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238             To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                                      15
living alive phases i & ii                                             “I learned to make choices every day about                             New Horizons Phase III                                                 Life after Separation NEW!
                                                                        how much I bring myself forward, and how                              SEP 27–OCT 22 Wayne Dodge & Jane Olynyk                                JuN 3–5 Margaret Adams & Rick Griffin

The 25-day Living Alive Phase programs offer you a chance to            much I hide away. To be fundamentally                                 Part A SEP 27–OCT 9, Part B OCT 10–22                                  When a primary relationship ends, we often find ourselves lost,
investigate who you really are and how you live your life. In a sup-                                                                                                                                                 scared and overwhelmed. Many aspects of our lives are thrown
                                                                        more honest with myself and others in the                             New Horizons Phase III is designed as the integrative, conceptual      into turmoil, and it is hard to move forward. Yet this is also a
portive and respectful environment, you will be offered experi-                                                                               complement to Living Alive Phases I and II. It is an exploration
ences designed to heighten your awareness of your physical,             moment. To keep checking in with myself                               of the many concepts by which each person is defined and con-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     time of tremendous potential and new learning, where we have
intellectual, emotional and spiritual self. The understanding you                                                                                                                                                    a chance to define ourselves in ways that more truly reflect who
gain in these programs will enable you to make more informed
                                                                        and others.”                                                          sequently defines him or herself. Through understanding these          we are.
                                                                                                                                              ideas, participants can broaden the options available to them
decisions about yourself, your life and your relationships, and to                                                                            in creating their own world. The program is intended both for          Through presentations, exercises and group interactions, this
live your life more fully.                                                                                                                    people wanting to further their own personal growth as well as         program looks at how to move through the painful, stuck places
                                                                       Living Alive Phase II                                                                                                                         and find new life after separation.
The Living Alive Phase programs are for people who:                                                                                           health professionals, teachers and other ‘people helpers’ want-
                                                                                                                                              ing to broaden and deepen their theoretical framework and skills.
•	 Want a deeper understanding of themselves                           An exploration of Self and Other
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     This program is for:
•	 Want to enrich the sources of meaning in their lives                AuG 14–SEP 8 Cathy & Ernie McNally                                     In this program, you will be exposed to a wide variety of ideas,
•	 Feel stuck in old patterns of behaviour that are destructive or                                                                            systems and thought structures — ways of viewing the world. You        •	 Individuals who have been impacted by a relationship breakup
     no longer useful                                                  Part A AuG 14–26, Part B AuG 27–SEP 8                                  will question prejudices, fixed ideas and ideologies. By investigat-   •	 Those who find themselves unable to move beyond anger or
•	 Are at a point of change                                            Living Alive Phase II focuses on how we see ourselves, how other       ing the nature of your own assumption system, you will have an            pain
•	 Want to engage more fully in their lives                            people see us, and the ways we establish and maintain our rela-        opportunity to free yourself from the idea that there is one par-      •	 People looking to learn more about what went wrong in their
                                                                                                                                              ticular truth. By articulating your own system of belief, you will        relationship so they won’t repeat the same mistakes
                                                                       tionships. The program is designed to give you a deep experi-
Living Alive Phases I and II are two parts of a whole, and are nor-    ence of yourself as you interact with others, whether in close and     be able to make conscious decisions about what aspects of it to        •	 Individuals wanting to understand some basic principles of
mally taken in sequence. For participants who cannot take a full                                                                              keep, discard or change. Highlights of the program include:               good relationships and how to apply them for the future
                                                                       intimate encounters or more casual ones.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     •	 Those who have felt very isolated in their separation process
25-day program at one time, the programs can be taken in two
parts, Part A and Part B. Part A must be taken before Part B.          During this program, you will have opportunities to:                   •	 Traditional Chinese Medicine. The philosophy of acupuncture            and want to meet others going through similar issues
                                                                                                                                                 and Traditional Chinese Medicine is very different from Western
                                                                       •	 Discuss relationship issues such as commitment, dependence             thought. It offers a different perspective for the application of   format: We will look at moving through the separation process
                                                                          and independence, jealousy, vulnerability and defensiveness,           healing practices to one’s self and to others.                      through experiental exercises, internal exploration and group

Living Alive Phase I
                                                                          security and self-discovery.                                        •	 The Body and its Energy. An in-depth presentation of the            process.
                                                                       •	 Invite a person who is significant to you to enroll in the three-      theory and practice of various body-oriented therapies              tuition: $445 ($485) + accommodation & meals.
Self-awareness in depth                                                   day Relationships section of the program (see description on           introduces participants to concepts and experiences of energy
                                                                          p. 20), or work with a partner from the Phase group.                   blockage and release. The implications for illness and health
JAN 9–FEB 3         Wayne Dodge & Gwen Ewan                            •	 Examine your relationship to gender, sexuality, sensuality,            will be addressed.
                    Part A JAN 9–21, Part B JAN 22–FEB 3
                                                                          intimacy, spirituality, and personal strength, through              •	 Methods for Change. A variety of techniques will be presented       Living with Passion
                                                                          presentations, discussion, movies, and fantasy exercises (see          and practiced, such as gestalt, group dynamics, psychodrama,
MAY 15–JuN 9        Carole Ames & Susan Clarke                            Sexuality and Identity, p. 21).                                                                                                            Rediscover your zest for life!
                                                                                                                                                 bioenergetics, bodywork and communication skills. This will be
                    Part A MAY 15–27, Part B MAY 28–JuN 9              •	 See yourself as others see you and try out new ways of                 useful both to those who work with people as helpers and in         MAY 27–30, NOV 17–20 David Raithby & Sandey McCartney
                                                                          presenting yourself, with extensive use of video and group             participants’ own growth process.
OCT 23–NOV 17       Cathy & Ernie McNally                                                                                                                                                                            Passion involves intense feeling, aliveness, and contact – as well
                                                                          feedback                                                            •	 Lively Discussions. Readings, presentations and experiences         as the possibility of deeper personal and professional fulfillment.
                    Part A OCT 23–NOV 4, Part B NOV 5–17                                                                                         will provide material for discussions in which participants can
                                                                       format: This program involves extensive work in the large group,                                                                              Expand your capacity for a fuller and richer engagement with all
Living Alive Phase I focuses on participants becoming aware of                                                                                   use one another as ‘sounding boards’ to help clarify and share
                                                                       including time for self reflection, and work with partners, plus                                                                              that life has to offer.
their patterns of behaviour and energy. Insights and skills are                                                                                  their ideas and assumptions about life.
                                                                       regular evening small-group sessions. A wide range of activities
developed to help participants transform the patterns they wish                                                                                                                                                      This program is for you if you want:
                                                                       is offered in a safe and respectful environment where personal         format: The program consists of daily lectures and discussion
to, and release blockages in their energy. During this program, you                                                                           sessions, skill practice, smaller group time plus some reading and
                                                                       choice is always respected. Participants also have the opportunity
will have opportunities to:
                                                                       for individual appointments with the program leaders.                  films. Learning is both conceptual and experiential. Although a
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     •	 An enriched and vigorous life
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     •	 An alternative to well worn, self-defeating ruts
•	 Know yourself and your patterns of behaviour more fully                                                                                    reading list is provided, each person will decide how much or how
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     •	 Movement beyond obsession and apathy
•	 Discover your own personal resources                                tuition: $2730 ($3230) Part A or B $1700 ($1940)                       little to read. Although it is highly recommended to take this pro-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     •	 A wider range of feeling and expression
•	 Improve your communication skills                                   + accommodation & meals.                                               gram following the Living Alive Phases, it can be taken at any time,
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     •	 Greater self-compassion
•	 Explore your fantasies and imagination to make them work for                                                                               bearing in mind individual needs, requirements and capabilities.
   you                                                                                                                                                                                                               format: This dynamic program will offer you both experiential and
                                                                                                                                              The program comprises Part A and Part B, which can be taken
•	 Embrace the hidden aspects of who you are                           “I liked the respectful approach with                                  together or separately. Part A must be taken before Part B.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                     conceptual learning as you redefine passion, explore, and unearth
•	 Work in a group environment to learn new information about                                                                                                                                                        those patterns of belief and behaviour that limit your passion. In
   yourself                                                             participants in all the themes and activities                         tuition: $2820 ($3320) Part A or B $1750 ($1990)                       an atmosphere of support we facilitate body/breath release work,
•	 Incorporate increased self-awareness, interpersonal skills and                                                                             + accommodation & meals.                                               closed-eye exercises, gestalt work, group discussion, body/energy
   insights into your daily life                                        presented, the recognition of where                                                                                                          mapping exercises and other energetic methods of self-expression.

format: This program offers a wide range of experiences, in             participants were at, the consistent                                                                                                         tuition: $535 ($595) + accommodation & meals.
addition to presentations and discussion, in a safe and respect-        encouragement for all of us to try the tools                          “This program was life changing and I am                               A free copy of David and Sandey’s A Book about Living with Passion
ful environment. Participants work in large group and in smaller
groups, and also have the opportunity for individual appointments       we were learning ... This is a lab, Cathy and                         still in a pattern of immense change.”                                 is included with this program.

with the program leaders.                                               Ernie would say. As a couple, they have a
tuition: $2880 ($3380) Part A or B $1855 ($2095)
+ accommodation & meals.
                                                                        special touch in delivering this program.”

16                       To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                  To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                                       17
Men’s Gathering NEW!                                                  Passion for Couples                                                       The Power of Direct Mirroring                                          Pro-D for the Self
MAY 19–23, NOV 2–6 John Fleury & Duncan Fraser                        Put the spark back in your relationship!                                  Developing honest, nurturing relationships at home and work            A program for teachers and educational assistants
Our long held beliefs about ourselves as men and about other          FEB 11–14 David Raithby & Sandey McCartney                                APR 14–17 Wendy Huntington & Cathy McNally                             OCT 21–22 Ellery & Mary Helen Littleton
men can have a tremendous cost to our lives and our spirit. By
bringing these beliefs into the light and sharing them openly we      Create a more energetic and meaningful relationship, in which              In this program, participants learn about and practice direct         Developed by teachers for teachers and educational assistants,
can begin to see how they serve us and how they get in our way.       you and your partner can remain true to self, stay in contact, and         mirroring, a style of feedback that nurtures honest, intimate rela-   this is a Pro-D Day with a difference. Emphasizing personal well-
                                                                      enrich your intimacy. Whether you are in a new relationship or             tionships. Early in life, we adopt messages from others as the        ness, this unique program offers a selection of activities to help
‘The good, the bad and the ugly’ all live inside us, waiting to be    wanting to re-invigorate a long term relationship – this workshop         ‘truth’ about ourselves. If these remain unexamined, they can          you:
 recognized. From the intimate exploration of our true beings,        offers you the opportunity to purposefully cultivate greater depth
 deepening and lasting friendships can emerge.                        and range in relating.
                                                                                                                                                 shape our lives in unhealthy ways. An understanding of this pro-      •	 Reduce stress
                                                                                                                                                 cess helps in relating, parenting, health, making congruent deci-     •	 Relax and explore
This workshop is for men who:                                         Choose this program if you and your partner want to:                       sions, managing employees, and working with colleagues and            •	 Create fresh energy, at home and in the classroom.
                                                                                                                                                 team members.
•	 Want a deeper felt sense of connection to themselves                                                                                                                                                                format: The program will include journal writing, yoga and medi-
   and others                                                         •	 Share interests, feelings, wants and desires                           This program is for you if you want to:                                tation, with plenty of opportunities for sharing and discussion.
•	 Want to live ‘in their bodies’                                     •	 Have greater expressiveness and dynamic communication
•	 Want to look at their shadow and know its truth                    •	 Learn how to include the other without losing self                     •	 unhook from depending on others for self-definition                 Spouses and partners are welcome to join you for this opportunity

•	 Want to understand how they create friends and enemies             •	 Discover greater aliveness in your differences                         •	 Be less defensive and reactive in significant relationships         to relax and explore in a nurturing, supportive environment.

•	 Desire congruence between head and heart                           •	 Have fun and create shared activities                                  •	 Form your own opinions rather than abandon yourself to those        Don’t forget to check the availability of Pro-D financial support
•	 Want to bring more of themselves into their lives                  •	 Explore energetic and physical contact                                    of others                                                           from your Administration or Teachers’ Association/CuPE local.
                                                                      •	 Discover how boundaried anger can deepen passion                       •	 Increase your flexibility and creativity
format: This workshop offers a variety of methods, from journal-      •	 Find purpose and direction together                                    •	 Express your inner experiences more clearly in relationships        tuition: $160 ($180) + accommodation & meals.
ing to movement meditation, breath work to campfires, poetry to                                                                                 •	 Improve health and well-being for yourself and others
family mythology – all designed to aid the participant in recogni-    format: This is an active and engaging program with presenta-             •	 Explore and reduce habitual self-hatred and self-doubt              The Quantum Laugh
tion of self and other. There will be time to sit, talk, eat, walk,   tion, discussion, insightful dialogue, relational activities, energetic
                                                                      release work, and practical tools and skills for passionate relating.     format: This program is an opportunity to reflect on the ways
dance and breathe.                                                                                                                                                                                                     Shifting with humour
                                                                      Each couple’s privacy is respected; you will always have the choice       we limit our full expression and creativity and assess the ‘fit’ of
tuition: $740 ($820) + accommodation & meals.                         of what and when to share. A free copy of David and Sandey’s A            our preconceived beliefs about self-esteem, body and self-image.       MAY 12–15 Carole Ames
                                                                      Book about Living with Passion is included with this program.             Through a range of experiences, we will exercise our capacity to
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Humour, and its expression through laughter, can facilitate
                                                                                                                                                update messages that no longer fit, and practice direct mirroring.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       shifts both at the mental/belief level and at the physical/cellu-
Nonviolent Communication:                                             tuition: $535 ($595) per person + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                                tuition: $525 ($585) + accommodation & meals.                          lar level. The ability to view life with humour allows us to access
A Process of Life                                                                                                                                                                                                      our energy, insight and creativity. A measure of our depth and
                                                                      Personal Parenting NEW!                                                                                                                          breadth as individuals is our ability to laugh at our situations, our
MAY 27-JuN 3 Penny Wassman                                                                                                                      Process of Connecting                                                  world and ourselves.
                                                                      Creating relationships while raising children and teens
This program is designed to support the ongoing development of                                                                                  MAY 28–JuN 1 Margaret Adams & Rick Griffin
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       This program is for you if you are:
Nonviolent Communication (NVC) consciousness, whether par-            APR 15–17 Denise Goldbeck & Toby Macklin
                                                                                                                                                Many relationships start out with great promise; we are deeply
ticipants are new to NVC or relatively experienced. You’ll have       This program is for parents, grandparents and caregivers who              connected to our partner and believe we will live happily together
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       •	 Interested in shifting your energy, mood and perspective
an opportunity to practice NVC with guidance, compassion, and         want to explore and improve their relationships with their chil-          for the rest of our lives.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       •	 Willing to laugh at yourself and your world through a reframing
support. Your aim may be to broaden awareness in your personal                                                                                                                                                            of your experiences
                                                                      dren. This process will have a positive impact on their children’s
life, teach the process to others, impact positive social change in   growth, their own sense of self, and their connections with part-
                                                                                                                                                During the years we often find ourselves more distant, struggling      •	 Looking for new ways to express passion and access creativity
the world … or all three.                                             ners and other significant adults. Our emphasis is on developing
                                                                                                                                                to find meaning in a relationship that began with such connec-         •	 Seeking ways to enliven your relationships and expand your
                                                                                                                                                tion and possibility. This program will help to bring understanding       ways of connecting
•	 understand the spiritual dimension of human needs as you           personal, empathetic relationships between adults and children,
                                                                                                                                                to what went wrong, and offer useful ways to work through the          •	 Curious about exploring more of your emotional landscape
   become the bridge between the outer dimension — the                and between adults.
                                                                                                                                                stuck places, providing participants new opportunities to create a
   pain and chaos of our human conditioning — and the inner                                                                                                                                                            format: This is an experiential program offering opportunities
                                                                      Personal Parenting offers you opportunities to:                           deeper understanding of their partner and themselves.
   dimension — the true authentic self                                                                                                                                                                                 to investigate and instigate humour in forms such as slapstick,
•	 Increase your awareness of your own inner chatter —                •	 Learn to adapt the Haven Communication Model for children              using Attachment Theory and other approaches, this program             improvisation, movement and games. You will explore, create,
   projections, moralistic judgements, right/wrong thinking,             at different stages of development                                     will present a practical model for participants to hold themselves     play and puzzle with what’s funny and what isn’t, and why humour
   blame, criticism — and learn to embrace it honestly and with       •	 Express deep feelings around parenting and learn to                    and their partner in a more loving, sustainable way and help           is such an underrated form of therapy. This is not for the faint of
   compassion as you own the difference between the chatter              incorporate responsible expression into your daily life                make sense of their conflicts.                                         heart — be prepared to laugh out loud!
   and what you are truly observing                                   •	 Develop compassion for yourself as a parent                            This program is for couples who are:                                   tuition: $495 ($555) + accommodation & meals.
•	 Enhance your own empathic power as you learn to really listen      •	 Explore how your own childhood impacts your parenting
   to others whether or not you agree with their choices in life      •	 Discover your own attachment style and its interaction with            •	 In a primary relationship together and want to deepen their
•	 Express yourself freely, authentically, compassionately and           the styles of your children and your partners                             connection
   naturally                                                          •	 Create in your adult relationships a healthy environment for           •	 Feeling stuck and distant, and uncertain how to create change
                                                                         your own growth and that of your children                              •	 Doing OK, and wanting to keep their relationship healthy
format: Beginning with an opening circle for sharing and con-                                                                                   •	 Considering separating
necting, the program will continue with a full-day NVC review.        format: The program will include presentation of ideas and infor-
                                                                                                                                                •	 Going through a trauma, such as an affair, illness, loss
The balance of the week will deepen the process for all, with an      mation and time for group processing and questions. There will
                                                                                                                                                •	 Tired and/or frustrated with repetitive unresolving conflict        You may be able claim the cost of tuition
emphasis on the spiritual foundation of the NVC process, natural
and authentic expression, transforming pain, and deepening
                                                                      be opportunities to practice communication and to explore and
                                                                      express feelings through breath, movement and other experiential
                                                                                                                                                •	 Wanting to begin their new relationship on a strong foundation      at The Haven against your income tax!
empathy skills. Be sure to bring ideas, props and musical instru-     forms. Come with your parenting partners if you can.                      format: The program is presented in a clearly understandable
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       The Haven is a certified educational institution under
ments if you have them for the ‘No-Talent Show’.                                                                                                way through engaging presentations and experiential exercises
                                                                      tuition: $370 ($410) + accommodation & meals.                                                                                                    Sections 118.5 and 118.6 of the Canada Income Tax Act.
                                                                                                                                                that are either done with relationship partners or alone.
tuition: $980 ($1120) + accommodation and meals.                                                                                                                                                                       We are also registered with the BC Private Career Training
                                                                                                                                                tuition: $840 ($920) per person + accommodation & meals.               Institutions Agency.

18                      To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                     To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                                     19
Reflections                                                            resentment, emotional isolation, non-supportive behaviour and           •	 Open and deepen their communication                                  •	 Create lyrics and tell stories in your singing
                                                                       ultimately, embattled separation. With the tools offered in this        •	 Focus on their body process while in communication                   •	 Experience new roles and genres in your music-making
Bring in the new year at The Haven!                                    program willing partners can work through difficulties to create        •	 Experience static and non-static energy, grounding, and              •	 Access fresh possibilities through improvised movement and
                                                                       rewarding and growing relationships. This program is for:                  energetic boundaries                                                    free-form writing
DEC 28 2011–JAN 1 2012
                                                                       •	 Couples wanting to increase their intimacy                           •	 Explore their beliefs about the body                                 format: This program is a creative and powerful way of improvised
Bennet Wong, Jock McKeen, Ernie & Cathy McNally
                                                                       •	 Couples, friends or colleagues whose relationships have grown        •	 use body experiences to free up habitual patterns                    music making and of being alive in the world. By turns edgy, hilari-
Reflections is The Haven’s New Year celebration. It is an oppor-          stale or unhappy
                                                                                                                                               •	 Distinguish sensations from feelings, to open and create a           ous, challenging, and deeply moving, each moment is an original
                                                                                                                                                  greater range of sensational responses, and awaken to contact
tunity to look back on the year that has passed, and forward to        •	 Separated or separating couples who want clarity                                                                                             composition that is unrehearsed, precious, and irreplaceable. It’s
the next. Join us for a fabulous mix of learning, friendship, heart-   •	 Individuals wishing to explore how intimacy can be developed         format: Sensational Contact includes activities such as draw-           also profoundly fun! There are no wrong notes and there’s nothing
felt conversation, and laughter.                                       •	 Family members, friends, and co-workers who wish to                  ing, self-regulatory energy exercises, dramatic forms, movement,        to memorize – just breathe and sing.
•	 Mornings spent together in self-formed discussion groups               improve their relationships                                          visualizations, group sharing, and presentations. Energy models         tuition: $475 ($535) + accommodation & meals.
•	 Afternoons in a wide range of activities created by participants    •	 People wanting to improve their communication, resolve               presented include: the chakra system; the medical model of
     for participants                                                     differences, and make their relationships more meaningful            neurological systems; Traditional Chinese Medicine; extra-sensory
•	 A New Year’s Eve Follies performance and party                                                                                              perception; the Haven models; and body tracking techniques.             Skills 2: Group Leadership
                                                                       format: People who come with partners or family will work in
format: The Haven’s founders Bennet Wong and Jock McKeen join          their own primary relationships. Those who attend alone will be         tuition: $480 ($540) + accommodation & meals.                           NOV 17–20 Gwen Ewan & Wayne Dodge
Ernie and Cathy McNally in facilitating this long-standing, innova-    partnered with others. There will be presentations exploring the
                                                                       principles and development of relationships, with special atten-                                                                                This program explores aspects of leading various types of groups,
tive and invigorating Haven tradition.
                                                                       tion given to common difficulties along the path of intimacy.
                                                                                                                                               Sexuality and Identity                                                  including group formation, designing group experiences and
tuition: $510 ($590) + accommodation & meals                                                                                                   AuG 19–25 Cathy & Ernie McNally, Bob Owen & Ruth Emerson                interventions for common problems and issues. It is intended for
                                                                       tuition: $465 ($525) per person + accommodation & meals.                                                                                        clinicians and those who supervise staff or lead groups in settings
                                                                                                                                               Sexuality and Identity offers the opportunity to explore a unique       such as volunteer agencies, as well as students in The Haven’s
Relationship Review & Renew                                                                                                                    and enlightening approach to the nature and nuances of sexual-          training programs, and Haven assistants and group leaders.
                                                                       Self-Compassion:                                                        ity. This program provides insights, experiences and information
For individuals, couples, pals, families, and work teams                                                                                                                                                               Participants in the program will:
                                                                       Making Friends with Your Self                                           intended to dispel misunderstandings and inaccurate beliefs that
NOV 3–6 Linda Nicholls                                                                                                                         surround sexuality. The ‘identity’ aspect of the program will offer     •	 Increase their discernment in group situations
Most people begin relationships with dreams and expecta-
                                                                       NOV 25–28 Gwen Ewan & Wayne Dodge                                       each participant an opportunity to discover the particular flavour      •	 Recognize when to use various methods of work in the group
tions. You may now be wanting to enhance the fulfilment you            The joy and good humour of self-compassion stand in contrast            and style of their own sexuality. This program is for you, if:          •	 Learn how to use counter-transference clues to understand
are already experiencing. Or instead, you may be struggling,           with the harshness of self-hate. This program explores both ends        •	 You are interested in discovering more about your sexuality             events in group
defensive, apathetic or baffled. In this program you will learn        of this polarity. It will benefit anyone who has tried to be the per-   •	 You wish to better integrate sexuality into your life                •	 Learn at least one intervention that is helpful for each group
constructive dialogue, and take part in illuminating relational        son they ‘should’ be and, in the process, lost touch with the per-      •	 You want to deepen your sexual experiences, to feel more                situation examined
experiences with your partner(s). This is an opportunity to review     son within. The program offers an expansion and exploration of the         excitement with your intimacy                                        •	 Increase their leadership competence
what has and has not been working for you and explore possibil-        Haven Selves Model that is presented in Come Alive. However, you        •	 You want to explore the spiritual aspects of sexuality               format: This program includes presentations and discussion, as
ities for renewal.                                                     do not have to have done Come Alive to learn from this program.         •	 You’ve had confusing or painful sexual experiences                   well as demonstration and practice. Participants are encouraged
This program is for people in all sorts of relationships who:          This program is for you if you:                                         •	 You work in the field of sexual education and/or therapy             to look at their own experience to develop understanding of work-
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       ing successfully with others in group settings. The group formed
•	 Want to enrich their relationship                                   •	 Recognize self-harming patterns in your health or relationships      format: In a respectful and confidential atmosphere participants
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       by participants in the program itself provides a valuable learning
•	 Want to define and refine boundaries with each other                •	 Have found outward success but inner emptiness                       will join in group discussions and lectures, augmented by video
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       ground of group process.
•	 Want different options for handling disagreements                   •	 Experience destructive addictive tendencies                          and movies. Current information regarding STDs, safe sex prac-
•	 Want to strengthen the foundation of a new relationship             •	 Experience self-hate                                                 tices, contraception and personal orientation will be presented in      tuition: $510 ($570) + accommodation & meals.
•	 Are separated or separating and want clarity                        •	 Care for others, but not yourself                                    a frank and thoughtful manner, with time for open dialogue and
•	 Want to find or rekindle the spirit between them                    •	 Want to become your own best friend                                  discussion. There will be men-only and women-only discussion
                                                                                                                                               sessions to talk about gender-specific topics of interest. Styles and   Skills 3: Gestalt Plus
format: You will be offered information and personal experiences       format: using music, guided imagery, gestalt, art, stories and          methods of sexual expression, and ways to explore these in a safe       MAR 11–14 Gwen Ewan
that involve your body, mind and soul in the creation of mean-         other experiential forms, you will have an opportunity to learn         and respectful manner will also be discussed.
ingful relationship. People will work primarily in the partnerships    about the paths that lead you away from yourself, and explore                                                                                   Gestalt refers to three different things: a practice or exercise
                                                                       paths that can direct you towards self-acceptance. We will explore      tuition: $895 ($1015) + accommodation & meals.                          sometimes referred to as ‘two chair work’; a school of psycho-
that they attend with. Those who come individually will work with
others.                                                                blame and victimhood, patterns of striving that lead to self-hate,                                                                              therapy; and the concept of the ‘wholeness’ of a picture or situa-

tuition: $535 ($595) per person + accommodation & meals.
                                                                       and a variety of ways we can move toward self-compassion.               The Singing Soul:                                                       tion. This program examines all three, with most time focused on
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       gestalt as an exercise. The program will benefit clinical counsel-
                                                                       tuition: $505 ($565) + accommodation & meals.                           Improvisational A Cappella                                              lors, and Haven interns, assistants, and group leaders.
Relationships                                                                                                                                  MAY 12–15, SEP 23–26 David Hatfield                                     Participants in the program will:
                                                                       Sensational Contact
Transform the ways you relate                                                                                                                  The Singing Soul is for people who are ready to let go of ‘get-         •	 Recognize several different types of gestalt exercise
MAY 20–23 Cathy & Ernie McNally
                                                                       The body in communication                                               ting it right’ and embrace letting it just happen. Participants         •	 Develop their skills in leading gestalt exercises
                                                                       NOV 12–15 Jane Olynyk & Gillian Enright
                                                                                                                                               will gain mastery in the skills of the improviser: deep listen-         •	 Learn what to do when work ‘falls apart’
This three-day program provides information and experience by                                                                                  ing, spontaneous expression, fluid awareness of self and others,        •	 Practice their leadership skills
which significant relationships can be improved and new relation-      This program focuses on the role of the body in how we com-             accepting ambiguity, and trusting intuition. People with impro-         •	 Develop greater insight to their own personal issues
ships can be established in healthy ways.                              municate. Communication is often assumed to be primarily a              visational abilities add significant value to creative problem solv-
                                                                       mental activity, an exchange of ideas, thoughts, and only occa-         ing, addressing difficult conversations, community building, and        format: Through lectures, discussion, and practice, participants
Most people live their lives in relationship to others, be they        sionally, feelings. Yet it is our bodies that attend to collecting      the transformation of conflict. Strengthen your abilities to:           become familiar with leading gestalt exercises of several different
partners, friends, business colleagues or other members of their       information and sensing our internal and external world. Our                                                                                    types. In addition, students will have opportunity to discuss com-
family. However, many of us are ill-prepared to maintain these         bodies respond to all our interactions.
                                                                                                                                               •	 Sing spontaneously, freely, skillfully, and without doubt            mon issues that arise in leading gestalt work with individuals.
relationships. Frequently, even what began with the best of                                                                                    •	 Accurately hear pitch, rhythm and musical form
intentions can spiral into confusion, poor communication, mutual       Sensational Contact is for people who want to:                          •	 Fly with others in soulful, freewheeling counterpoint                tuition: $510 ($570) + accommodation & meals.

20                       To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                   To register and for regularly updated program information visit or call 1 877 247 9238                                         21
Spirit in the Song NEW!                                                 format: In an atmosphere of consensuality and confidential-            format: In Timeless Loving, Steve and Lokita Carter will use            Victor Wooten’s workshop is an opportunity to:
                                                                        ity, women will have the opportunity to experience themselves          lecture, breathing techniques, meditations, energy work, visu-
SEP 4–8 Eric Bibb                                                       as sacred sexual beings. Knowing that erotic exploration can be        alization and ritual to help transform your life and loving into a
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       •	 Learn from one of the world’s finest musicians and teachers
                                                                        fraught with barriers of shame, tension and anxiety, we respect        truly magical experience! This workshop is open for couples and
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       •	 Recognize how you block yourself from achieving and
Writing songs is an exciting way to update our connection to our-                                                                                                                                                         expressing what you want, in music, in other forms of
selves and the people around us. Spirit in the Song is a creative       these as each woman’s individual space is honoured.                    individuals. Same-sex couples are welcome to join the program.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          creativity, and in your life
                                                                                                                                               Couples work exclusively with each other unless desired otherwise.
workshop designed to explore the liberating process of following        tuition: $365 ($405) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                               Individuals, please register early to keep a gender balance.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       •	 Learn new ideas for shifting these patterns – things you can do
an inspired idea on an inner journey to the birth of a new song.                                                                                                                                                          instantly in the moment and tools you can practice every day
Led by well-known singer/songwriter/guitarist Eric Bibb, a long         Teens Alive I, II & III                                                tuition: $470 ($510) + accommodation & meals.                           •	 Access your full creativity and the range of your resources
time friend of The Haven, this workshop offers an opportunity to                                                                                                                                                       •	 Jam with and listen to a great group of musicians, both pros
                                                                        Identity, relationship and independence for teens                                                                                                 and beginners
meet new friends and share the joy of finding ‘the spirit in the                                                                               Transforming Anxiety and Stress NEW!                                    •	 Explore the connections between music, other forms of
song’ together.
                                                                        Teens Alive I AuG 8–11; Teens Alive II AuG 11–14                                                                                                  creative expression, and life
                                                                                                                                               Potential to advance your life
format: A piano or keyboard will be available. Please also bring        Teens Alive III AuG 14–17 Linda Nicholls & David Raithby
your portable instruments. Experienced songwriters and new-                                                                                    APR 3–8, OCT 23–28 David Raithby & Sandey McCartney                     format: Join Victor Wooten for four days of music, learning and
                                                                        Teens have an important opportunity in these programs to                                                                                       sharing. Bring your instruments, your voice, your brushes – how-
comers welcome!
                                                                        develop a stronger sense of ‘self’. If you can learn to com-           This new, five-day program has its roots in the extremely popu-         ever it is that you express your life! Victor will be performing a
tuition: $640 ($720) + accommodation & meals.                           municate clearly from strength, you can improve and deepen             lar Transforming Fear and Anxiety, which ran at The Haven and in        solo concert on the evening of February 10. Workshop participants
                                                                        friendships and relationships and learn to be emotionally self-        other locations for many years. Transforming Anxiety and Stress         attend the concert free of charge.
                                                                        supporting rather than dependent on family and others. Teens           broadens the focus to include stress, an issue many struggle to
Spirit Body, Soul Dance                                                 Alive is designed to encourage you in this process.                    manage in their busy lives.                                             tuition: $485 ($565) + accommodation & meals.
Spirituality through movement                                           Teens Alive is for people from 14 to 19 who want to:                   We invite you to take the risk to face your anxiety, and make use
                                                                                                                                               of its potential for changing and advancing your life. In addition,     Writing up a Storm: Haiku NEW!
APR 1–3 Catherine Fallis                                                •	 Be comfortable speaking their truth in a responsible way            you will understand more about how you get stressed, and learn
In most ancient and indigenous cultures, movement is an inte-           •	 Develop stronger self-esteem and self-acceptance                    practical methods for managing your stress.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Poetry and popcorn
gral part of worship and the ritual celebrations of community life.     •	 Be less defensive and more outgoing                                                                                                          MAR 19–20 Ellery Littleton
Many of us have lost touch with the power of our moving bodies          •	 Make relationships work                                             Many people find anxiety and stress troubling or even debilitat-
to enhance our connection to deeper sources of both individual          •	 Deal with conflict                                                  ing. People use a variety of self-defeating behaviours in order to      “Writing haiku is like eating popcorn,” Allen Ginsberg once said.
and collective wisdom. In this program, creative movement, ges-         •	 Discuss topics such as vocation, school, sex, music, violence,      avoid them, including becoming numb or out of touch. However            “Once you get started, it’s hard to stop.” There is something deli-
ture, and sign, are seen as expressions of the wholeness of life,          drugs, parents, family, authorities                                 we know that suppressing anxiety and stress creates ill health and       cious – addictive, even – about writing haiku, the traditional
and the sharing of personal and community awareness.                    •	 Have fun and get to know other teens                                other problems, including relationship difficulties. In fact, anxiety    Japanese three-line poem, with its remarkable capacity to cap-
                                                                        •	 Enjoy The Haven’s beautiful surroundings and its oceanside          and stress are evidence of exceptional, challenging and poten-           ture the universal in the moment. In this program, fun exercises
This program is for people who would like to:                              facilities – swimming pool, hot tub, gym, air hockey, pool          tially transformative energies at work.                                  quickly get you writing haiku and other forms of Japanese poetry,
•	 Have a more embodied experience of their spirituality                   table, video games, and music and dance facilities
                                                                                                                                               Choose this program if you want to:
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        such as Renga, a unique form of group haiku writing. Japanese
•	 Bring movement into their worship and religious life                 format: Teens Alive is divided into three parts, which run back to
                                                                                                                                                                                                                        poetic forms offer great potential for subtle, incisive expression of
•	 Experience prayer and meditation through the body and                back and build one on another. Participants can attend one, two,
                                                                                                                                               •	 Learn more about anxiety and stress                                   experience and awareness.
   movement                                                             or all three parts; they can be done all in one year, or over two or
                                                                                                                                               •	 Become aware of these at a body level                                •	 Discover the pleasure of writing poetry in a relaxed
•	 Explore illness or injury as a spiritual journey                     more years. The only requirement is that they be done in order.
                                                                                                                                               •	 Develop insight into your anxiety and stress patterns                    environment, looking at life through a sharply focused lens
•	 Celebrate life in community with others                              Teens will stay at The Haven with a parent or guardian. You must
                                                                                                                                               •	 Learn guidelines for change                                          •	 Included will be a brief discussion of the history of haiku, and
                                                                        be 16 or over to take Teens Alive III.
                                                                                                                                               •	 Have a personal experience of transforming anxiety and stress            the influence of Zen.
format: Experiences will include individual movement meditation                                                                                •	 Find direction and purpose in life
and prayer, small group work using movement with words, and             tuition: $525 ($585) per program + accommodation & meals.              •	 Discover more excitement and joy                                     format: This program starts at 1.30 pm. Hours are: Saturday
whole group circle dances. Processes will be drawn from mindful-                                                                                                                                                       1:30—5:30 pm and 7:30—9:30 pm; Sunday 9:15 am—noon.
ness practices, sensory awareness, and Authentic Movement. No                                                                                  format: In an atmosphere of respect and support, this program
previous movement experience is necessary. Each participant is          Timeless Loving                                                        offers practical skills and concepts, insightful dialogue and feed-     tuition: $160 ($180) + accommodation & meals.
invited to bring a piece of writing – poetry, scripture, song, or any                                                                          back, breath and energy work, visualization, individual focus, and
                                                                        An introduction to SkyDancing Tantra                                   experiential exercises.
short passage that has personal and spiritual meaning.                                                                                                                                                                 Writing up a Storm: Journaling
                                                                        SEP 23–25 Lokita & Steve Carter                                        tuition: $835 ($935) + accommodation & meals.
tuition: $360 ($400) + accommodation & meals.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       A journaling workshop for men and women
                                                                        This popular experiential workshop is a fun and safe way to begin
Stirring the Cauldron                                                   your tantric journey, become a better lover and create deeper          A Workshop with Victor Wooten                                           JuN 24–26 Ellery Littleton
                                                                        intimacy and more love in your life. Learn ancient tantric tech-
                                                                        niques – including ritual, communication, and energy conscious-        FEB 7–11 Victor Wooten                                                  You will ‘write up a storm’ in this richly creative program, which is
An erotic workshop for women
                                                                        ness – to integrate spirituality into your life and lovemaking.        Victor Wooten is described by many as the finest bass player alive.     part writing seminar, part intensive journaling workshop and part
JuL 8–10 Elfi Dillon-Shaw                                               Celebrate being fully alive in your body, heart, spirit and mind. In                                                                           story circle. The writing exercises offered are deceptively simple
                                                                                                                                               He is the author of The Music Lesson: A Spiritual Search for Growth
This weekend retreat is for women of every age and lifestyle who        a safe and loving environment, we explore:                             through Music.                                                          but powerful and effective, and can lead you to writing about
                                                                                                                                                                                                                       yourself, your life and your most important experiences in a new
want to taste the full energetic potential of their erotic body. Sex-   •	 Weaving spirituality, love & intimacy                               This four-day workshop is for musicians and non-musicians alike.        and vivid way in an atmosphere of safety and confidentiality.
ual energy flowing through the body allows for a more fulfilling        •	 Intimate communication skills                                       Drawing on music for inspiration and examples, Victor Wooten
erotic life, whether we are in relationship or not. The purpose of      •	 Breath: the key to expanding connection and pleasure                will present and explore ideas around creativity and the art of         The process allows you direct access to the wellspring of your own
arousing this energy is to strengthen our Chi — life energy — for       •	 Full-body orgasm                                                    living. Whether you play music or not, the workshop will offer          inner wisdom, which is a wonderful source of good straight feed-
healing purposes, erotic autonomy, and just plain fun!                                                                                                                                                                 back, advice and spiritual direction. Come and write up a storm!
                                                                        Developed by best-selling author Margot Anand, SkyDancing Tan-         stimulation, pleasure, challenge and food for thought. His work-
•	 In celebration together we will support each other to let go of      tra is a unique spiritual path for modern lovers, blending ancient     shop in 2010 was a phenomenal success, with the entire Haven            And have a lot of creative fun along the way.
     old ways of living in our body                                     teachings with modern psychological knowledge from humanis-            property alive with music, discovery and conversation.                  tuition: $325 ($365) + accommodation & meals.
•	 Through exercises from the tantric and taoist traditions, we         tic and transpersonal psychology, as well as the most advanced
     will experience the flow of sexual energy                          teachings from clinical sexology.

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The Haven Faculty                                                              Ian Curtin BComm, DipC, MTC is President                           Catherine Fallis PhD, RCC, DipC has used                       Rick Griffin has practiced as a clinical
                                                                               of IC Possibilities Consulting Inc., a com-                        movement and the expressive arts in her                        psychologist for over 35 years. He has
                                                                               pany specializing in facilitating dialogues                        work for more than 25 years in private                         focused on how relationships work, what
Haven faculty members are among the finest                                     within and between organizations, rela-                            practice and in the public school system                       brings about and maintains intimacy, and
                                                                               tional leadership and teamwork, and the                            in the Vancouver area. She studied Dance/                      how relationship problems can be repaired.
leaders, educators and facilitators in the world                                                                                                  Movement Therapy at the Naropa Insti-                          Viewing relationships as a primary avenue
                                                                               art of living change. Associated with The
                                                                               Haven for 18 years, he has assisted and led                        tute in Boulder, Colorado, and has a PhD                       through which we learn about ourselves,
                  Margaret Adams has co-led relationship                       Come Alive since 1999.                                             in movement therapy and spirituality from                      he co-leads programs for couples with
                  workshops with Rick Griffin (see facing                                                                                         the California Institute of Integral Studies                   Margaret Adams, his partner of 28 years.
                                                                               Elfi Dillon-Shaw RMT, DipC is a registered
                  page) for the past 25 years. She believes                                                                                       in San Francisco.
                                                                               massage practitioner, bodyworker and                                                                                              Greg Gurel RPC became involved with
                  strongly that the attachment we form in                                                                                         Marlyn Farrell CLSC, DipC has worked as
                                                                               educator with more than 20 years’ experi-                                                                                         Anger, Boundaries and Safety in 1994, led
                  our primary relationship helps us to live                                                                                       a trainer of lay counsellors and employ-
                                                                               ence fostering pleasure and well-being.                                                                                           then by the program’s creator and Haven
                  longer and create a safe and meaningful                                                                                         ment facilitators, and has 15 years’ experi-
                                                                               She is The Haven’s Bodywork Coordinator                                                                                           Director of Education, the late Joann
                  life. Margaret and Rick have been work-                                                                                         ence leading creativity-based healing
                                                                               and teaches programs on sexuality, body                                                                                           Peterson. With his passionate enthusiasm
                  ing on their relationship for 28 years and                                                                                      workshops. Associated with The Haven
                                                                               practices and stress management, fre-                                                                                             for anger exploration and his fun nature,
                  are continually expanding their learning by                                                                                     since 1984, she has worked with such
                                                                               quently with her husband Gary Dillon. She                                                                                         Greg now leads Anger, Boundaries and
                  exploring issues as they arise.                                                                                                 diverse groups as professionals, at-risk
                                                                               has worked at The Haven since 1983.                                                                                               Safety and runs a private counselling prac-
                 Carole Ames MTC, DipC, BES has worked                                                                                            youth, and people with mental illness.                         tice in Vancouver.
                                                                               Gary Dillon MA has studied psychology,
                 with people and process for 30 years, first
                                                                               theology, and movement therapy, espe-                              John Fleury DipC has a 30-year associa-                        David Hatfield has taught improvisational
                 as a professional planner and later as a
                                                                               cially Esalen massage and Hawaiian sha-                            tion with The Haven and brings this lived                      a cappella workshops since 1997 in Can-
                 group leader, counsellor and consultant.
                                                                               manic bodywork. He has wide experience                             experience to the workshops he now                             ada, the uS and New Zealand. He was
                 Associated with The Haven since 1990, she
                                                                               in Taoist and Western esoteric transforma-                         leads. His kindness and directness are well                    the conductor of the improvisational choir
                 brings her blend of pragmatism, humour
                                                                               tions of Eros and offers a vision of sexu-                         known to many who visit The Haven. He                          House of Song. His experience ranges from
                 and compassion to programs including
                                                                               ality and spirituality moving together. He                         co-leads Men’s Gathering with Duncan                           street performance to off-Broadway, from
                 Living Alive Phase I, Come Alive, and Bleep
                                                                               teaches at The Haven and internationally                           Fraser, utilizing a range of energy tech-                      fully choreographed to fully improvised.
                 of Faith with her husband Bill Leuze.
                                                                               with his wife Elfi Dillon-Shaw.                                    niques to assist men in becoming more                          He holds a diploma in Jazz Studies.
                                                                               Wayne Dodge MD, MPH, DipC is a family                              alive and loving.
                  Eric Bibb was born into a musical family                                                                                                                                                       Jennifer Hilton CEC, CertHCS has provided
                  and has been singing, songwriting, and                       physician in Seattle, Washington. He has                           Duncan Fraser MTC, DipC is a passion-                          facilitation and coaching to people in
                  performing since a young age. Surrounded                     been the Clinical Director of an 18-practi-                        ate and compassionate facilitator who                          a variety of positions in organizations.
                  by greats like Pete Seeger, Odetta, Paul                     tioner Medical Clinic and currently admin-                         has been associated with The Haven since                       She delights in relationship building and
                  Robeson, and his father Leon Bibb, he                        isters the AIDS program for a large medical                        1988. He has taught Haven principles in                        enabling people to achieve their potential
                  learned music and life at the feet of people                 organization. Associated with The Haven                            Canada, uSA, Japan, and Europe. He has                         through expanding self-awareness. Jen-
                  who were masters of both. He leads Spirit                    since 1981, he leads Come Alive, the Liv-                          now created a sanctuary for healing in his                     nifer has a Graduate Certificate in Execu-
                  in the Song, an exploration of music and                     ing Alive Phases and other programs, often                         home on Gabriola Island. Duncan brings                         tive Coaching from Royal Roads university
                  creativity.                                                  with Gwen Ewan.                                                    joy and enthusiasm to his work. He co-                         and is working towards her Haven Diploma.
                 Steve and Lokita Carter are the princi-                       Ruth Emerson MD, DipC is a family phys-                            leads Men’s Gathering with John Fleury.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Mary Sullivan Holdgrafer MEd, DipC, is
                 pal lineage holders of Margot Anand’s Sky-                    ician from Seattle who works for a large                           Jane Geesman MFA has 25 years’ experi-                         a skilled creativity and meaning coach and
                 Dancing Tantra method in the uS. They                         not-for-profit health plan. She has been                           ence as an actor, director and teacher                         group facilitator, and an accomplished
                 have been teaching Tantra and ecstatic liv-                   associated with The Haven for more than                            and has trained and led programs at The                        contemporary quilt artist. Working espe-
                 ing since 1999 and are the directors of the                   25 years, contributing her time, skills,                           Haven since 1993. She is on the faculty                        cially with women in mid-life and beyond,
                 SkyDancing Tantra Institute uSA. They are                     knowledge and energy to the development                            of the Portland Actors Conservatory. Jane                      she uses creativity as a means of per-
                 founders of the Institute for Ecstatic Living                 of many programs, including Relationships                          has a reputation for creating a safe and                       sonal growth and healing. With kindness,
                 and leaders of SpiritWorks Church for Spirit-                 and the Sexuality and Identity section of                          dynamic environment for people inter-                          warmth and gentle humour, she has taught
                 ual Partnerships. They lead Timeless Loving.                  Living Alive Phase II.                                             ested in the craft of acting and in gaining                    at The Haven for more than 10 years.
                 Al Chambers has a PhD in Therapeutic                          Gillian Enright RMT, MTC, BA, DipC, Cert                           confidence on stage and in life.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Gary Holdgrafer PhD is an accomplished
                 Counselling, a Masters in Counselling                         Ger is an accomplished teacher in body                             Denise Goldbeck MA, DipC is complet-                           educator and group facilitator. Professor
                 Psychology, a Diploma in Counselling and                      dynamics and owner of Inspired Health                              ing her PhD in Developmental Psychology.                       Emeritus of the university of Alberta, he
                 a degree in Business. He has worked for                       Centre in Nova Scotia. Her 23 years of                             Over the last 25 years she has created a                       has made a successful transition in early
                 25 years in therapy and psychology, has                       trauma counselling have led to her passion                         method using theatre, dance and music                          retirement from a professional career to a
                 taught at universities and colleges and                       in evoking the awakening of the body’s                             to help children understand their own                          rich variety of other meaningful pursuits.
                 leads programs throughout Asia and Can-                       full expression of life. Associated with The                       development. Kids in the Spotlight is in                       He co-leads Creative Aging with his wife
                 ada. He is also a trained Trauma Counsel-                     Haven for 20 years, she leads Come Alive                           its 23rd year at The Haven. She also leads                     Mary and Wendy Huntington.
                 lor. He has led Come Alive for 14 years.                      and Sensational Contact.                                           Personal Parenting, with Toby Macklin.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Susa Holt ND, PA-C, DipC is a naturopathic
                  Susan Clarke MA-ABS, DipC has worked                         Gwen Ewan MA, MATS, DipC, RCC is an                                Maria Gomori MSW, DipC, PhD is the                             physician with over 20 years’ experience
                  for 20 years leading and facilitating groups,                AAMFT clinical member who has worked in                            world’s foremost practitioner and teacher                      blending western allopathic and alterna-
                  conducting conflict resolution, and teach-                   mental health, education and addictions for                        of Satir processes. She is an Approved                         tive medicine and body/mind awareness.
                  ing communication effectiveness. Her                         over 30 years. Associated with The Haven                           Supervisor with the American Associa-                          Associated with The Haven for more than
                  journey through a life-threatening illness                   since the mid-1980s, she teaches several                           tion of Marriage and Family Therapy, and                       20 years, she recently received a Mas-
                  has given her a depth of experience and                      programs in addition to Come Alive and                             a retired Associate Professor of the univer-                   ter’s degree in Organizational Design and
                  a commitment to living life to the full. She                 Living Alive Phase I, including Self-Com-                          sity of Manitoba. She studied and worked                       Renewal, and has a special interest in
                  leads Come Alive and Living Alive Phase I.                   passion and the Skills series, often with her                      with Virginia Satir for over 20 years and                      designing and supporting systemic change
                                                                               long-time friend Wayne Dodge.                                      has taught at The Haven since 1983.                            in organizations, groups and individuals.

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     Wendy Huntington PhD, MA, LMFT, DipC                          Toby Macklin MA, DipHCS has assisted in                            Bob Owen DipC, LMP, CMHC is a massage                             Leslie Whyte MTC, DipC, DipAc has a pri-
     is a family therapist, group facilitator, and                 Come Alive, Being Alive, the Living Alive                          practitioner and certified mental health                          vate practice in counselling and acupres-
     teacher. She specializes in addiction issues                  Phase programs and Anger, Boundaries &                             counsellor. His marriage to Ruth Emerson                          sure in Nanaimo, BC. Leslie is interested
     and works clinically with people in groups                    Safety, in Canada and China. He has co-                            is the inspiration for his work with couples.                     in the awareness of our body, mind and
     and in private practice. Associated with                      led parents’ groups as part of Kids in the                         Associated with The Haven for 25 years,                           emotions and the impact this has on our
     The Haven since the early 1990s, she has                      Spotlight for several years, and now leads                         Bob and Ruth were instrumental in the                             well-being. She has been associated with
     led Come Alive, Living Alive Phase II, and                    Personal Parenting with Denise Goldbeck.                           development of Relationships and the Sex-                         The Haven for nearly 20 years and has
     other programs at The Haven since 2000.                       He lives on Gabriola Island with Rachel                            uality and Identity section of Living Alive                       assisted and led Come Alive since 2000.
                                                                   Davey and their two children.                                      Phase II.
     Derek LaCroix QC, PhD, DipC prac-                                                                                                                                                                  Cathy Wilder PhD, MEd, RCC, DipC is a
     ticed law for many years and has been an                      Sandey McCartney MA, DipC is a skilled                             Lyle Povah is a singer, percussionist,                            creative and compassionate group leader,
     entrepreneur and a corporate executive.                       facilitator, educator, trainer and thera-                          guitarist, writer, recording artist and chil-                     counsellor and coach. Her capacity for
     He is the Executive Director of the Law-                      peutic counsellor with 30 years’ experience.                       dren’s entertainer with a special inter-                          embodying a deep range of human experi-
     yers Assistance Program of BC. Since 1987,                    She co-leads several Haven programs with                           est in African drumming. He has studied                           ences and feelings has opened pathways for
     Derek has made personal development,                          her life-partner of 25 years, David Raithby,                       and performed worldwide and is a pion-                            others in personal transformation and pro-
     spiritual growth, and working with others                     and teaches at the Vancouver Island uni-                           eering educator in areas related to health                        fessional development, resulting in greater
     his life focus. He has led and assisted                       versity Centre for Continuing Studies. Asso-                       and creativity and community building. He                         health and more satisfying relationships.
     Come Alive since 1994.                                        ciated with The Haven since its foundation,                        leads Drum Talk at The Haven.                                     She leads Come Alive and other programs.
     Hilary Leighton MEd is a natural educator,                    she also maintains a private practice.
                                                                                                                                      Lee Pulos PhD is an internationally rec-                          Philip Winkelmans MA, PhD has facili-
     a perennial learner, and a tireless advocate                  Jock McKeen MD, LicAc(uK), co-founder                              ognized clinical psychologist in private                          tated his Intuitive Healing programs at The
     for a more sane society. She studied Eco-                     of The Haven and Faculty Emeritus, is an                           practice and Clinical Assistant Professor                         Haven for eight years. For over 30 years he
     psychology at Naropa and is entering her                      accomplished presenter and author. An                              Emeritus on the Department of Psychiatry,                         has studied and taught systems for enhan-
     doctoral studies in the field. She is com-                    emergency physician, he studied acupunc-                           uBC. He is the author of Miracles and Other                       cing intuition, inspiration, and creativity
     pleting training in IBP at The Haven, is a                    ture at the College of Chinese Acupuncture,                        Realities, Beyond Hypnosis, The Biology of                        through psychospiritual technologies. He
     certified Laughter Yoga Leader, a Myers-                      Oxford, uK. He has co-authored a num-                              Empowerment and The Power of Visualiza-                           is author of The Art of Purposeful Being:
     Briggs facilitator, and Director of Continu-                  ber of books with Ben Wong, including The                          tion. He leads Adventures in Conscious-                           Your Destiny Project.
     ing Studies at Royal Roads university. She                    New Manual for Life, The Relationship Garden,                      ness at The Haven.                                                Bennet Wong MD, FRCP(c), co-founder
     leads Field Guide to Your Wild Side.                          and A Book about Health and Happiness.
                                                                                                                                      David Raithby DipC, MEd, RSW began his                            of The Haven and Faculty Emeritus, stud-
     Bill Leuze DipC has followed a lifelong                       Cathy McNally BSc, DipC is an accom-                               career in family, youth and critical care                         ied at the Menninger School of Psychiatry
     spiritual quest, developing a grounded                        plished communication specialist with                              settings, and has worked in personal and                          before practising as a psychiatrist special-
     approach to spirituality and an embod-                        over 30 years’ experience in management,                           professional development for 35 years.                            izing in problems of youth and adolescents.
     ied experience of faith. After working on                     training, consulting, and counselling. Since                       David has been associated with The Haven                          After establishing a complementary med-
     staff at The Haven for 20 years he recently                   1998 she has led Come Alive, Living Alive                          since 1979. Since 1992 he has taught num-                         ical practice with Jock McKeen, they col-
     moved into IT management in the BC heli-                      Phases I and II, and many other programs,                          erous programs, with his life-partner of 25                       laborated in developing The Haven. They
     copter skiing industry. Bill co-leads Bleep                   often with her husband Ernie McNally. In                           years, Sandey McCartney, and his friend                           created Come Alive, the Living Alive Phases,
     of Faith with his wife Carole Ames.                           2011 she and Ernie are leading The Haven’s                         and colleague Linda Nicholls.                                     and a number of other programs.
                                                                   first Couples Alive series.
     Ellery Littleton BEd is a former teacher                                                                                         Judy Sellner PhD, DipC is a successful                            Randy Wong BSc, MEd has worked for
     and counsellor with over 30 years’ experi-                    Ernie McNally DipC has worked with                                 teacher of group process and psychol-                             Adult Mental Health Services in Victoria
     ence as a professional writer. He has writ-                   people personally and professionally for                           ogy, and an author. She has been in pri-                          since 1993, providing community based
     ten many articles, a novel and two books of                   over 40 years. His ability to communi-                             vate practice in Vancouver for 25 years,                          counselling in an interdisciplinary team
     poetry. He has long experience with inten-                    cate with humour and heart make him a                              working with individuals and couples. She                         setting. Randy incorporates into his work
     sive journal-writing, creating a supportive                   sought-after group leader and counsellor.                          has been associated with The Haven since                          warmth, humour and a keen interest in
     atmosphere for journaling groups. A long-                     Since 1998 he has led Come Alive, Living                           1988, teaching Couples in Conflict several                        intra- and interpersonal process and
     time student of Zen Buddhism, he has been                     Alive Phases I and II, and other programs.                         times a year.                                                     dynamics.
     associated with The Haven since 1983.                         This year he and his wife Cathy McNally are                        Donna Spencer is a Certified ChiRunning                           Victor Wooten is described by many
                                                                   leading the first Couples Alive series.                            instructor who has been running for 27                            as the finest bass player alive and is the
     Mary Helen Littleton BA, BEd is a teacher
     with 30 years’ experience and a relaxed                       Linda Nicholls DipC, MTC, PhD is a gifted                          years and coaching for 11. She completed                          author of The Music Lesson: A Spiritual
     and accessible instructional style. She has                   leader, drawing on her life experience,                            her instructor training three years ago                           Search for Growth through Music. A five-
     practised and taught specialized kinesiol-                    diverse business background, and expert                            with Danny Dreyer, the founder of ChiRun-                         time Grammy award winner, he is known
     ogy for 16 years, is a Certified Instructor                   counselling skills. She has taught inter-                          ning, and has taught under the supervision                        as a soloist and a member of Béla Fleck &
     of Touch for Health, and a practitioner of                    nationally for three decades. In addition to                       of a master Instructor. Several Haven pro-                        The Flecktones. He teaches widely, includ-
     the Bowen Technique. A long-time student                      Come Alive, Linda has taught myriad pro-                           grams have furthered her understanding of                         ing his Bass/Nature Camps at Wooten
     of Zen Buddhism she has been associated                       grams at The Haven over some 25 years,                             body sensing and balance.                                         Woods in Nashville, Tennessee.
     with The Haven since 1983.                                    often with David Raithby or Maria Gomori.                          Penny Wassman is a founding director of
     Sarah Lucht BA, AEA, SAG combines 25                          Jane Olynyk DTCM, BA, DipC is a sea-                               the BC Network for Compassionate Com-
     years as a professional actress and acting                    soned counsellor, eastern medical prac-                            munication and a certified trainer for the
     teacher with 13 years of training and lead-                   titioner, and group facilitator. She is a                          international Center for Nonviolent Com-
     ing programs at The Haven. She studied                        licensed acupuncturist with a Diploma in                           munication. She offers programs across
     theatre at the university of Oregon, with                     Chinese Medicine. She leads Five Elements                          Canada to corporate and government
     further studies in Los Angeles and London.                    Practicum, Sensational Contact and Con-                            groups, First Nations people, educators,
     She is on the faculty of the Portland Actors                  nective Touch, as well as Come Alive and                           parents and students, care providers, sen-
     Conservatory.                                                 New Horizons Phase III.                                            iors’ groups and prison inmates.

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Massage and other Bodywork                                                                                                                       Accommodation and Dining
Various forms of massage and other bodywork are available at The         To find out more, contact our                                           The Haven offers a range of comfortable rooms and suites for program participants
Haven. Our bodyworkers are exceptionally gifted and have exten-          Bodywork Coordinator                                                    and group guests. All accommodation is designed to be shared by two or more people,
sive personal experience of Haven programs, both as participants         Elfi Dillon-Shaw on                                                     though private rates are available. We make every effort to meet the needs of all our
and facilitators. They will work with you respectfully, relationally,    1 877 247 9504                                                          guests, but cannot guarantee specific rooms.
and in support of your learning at The Haven. For many people            or 250 616 8175
bodywork sessions are an integral part of their Haven experience.                                                           We offer three types of room: Basic, Forest view, and Ocean view.
Call in advance to find out which of the following are available
                                                                         For reflexology contact Suzanne                                         •	 Basic rooms are simply furnished, comfortable and economical. They have two singles
during your stay and to book a session:                                                                                                             or one double bed, and a private bathroom. They do not have a TV.
                                                                         250 668 9937
Massage Therapy • Reflexology • Lomilomi Hawaiian
                                                                                                                    •	 Forest view rooms are located in attractive forested areas of the Haven property.       A Basic room
Bodywork • Cranio-Sacral Therapy • Structural Integration                Please book in advance.                                                    Larger than our basic rooms, they have two or more beds, a TV and private bathroom.
Jin Shin Do Acupressure • Four-handed Lomilomi Massage                   You may also enjoy The Haven                                            •	 Ocean view rooms and suites offer spacious, well-equipped and comfortable accom-
Transformational Movement Therapy                                        Massage Series programs (p. 14).                                           modation looking out over the beach and waters of Taylor Bay. There is a TV in each
                                                                                                                                                    room, a full kitchen or kitchenette, and private bathroom. Most Ocean view rooms
                                                                                                                                                    have a deck.

Breathing                                                                                                                                                         Off Peak Season
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This article is adapted from The Haven: Ideas in Action, which           may include anger and sadness as well as pleasure, joy, loving,
                                                                                                                                                          Basic private $115               private $136
also describes the principal models we teach at The Haven.               creativity, and more. Conscious deep breathing is a great tool in
                                                                                                                                                                Shared $77                 Shared $88
You can download the booklet from and                 living a rich and full life.
get hard copies by contacting The Haven. If you want to know                 There are many ways of breathing, adapted to a variety of pur-         Forest view private $148               private $170
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            A Forest view room
more about the models referred to in this article, Ideas in              poses. The style we most often teach at The Haven involves taking                      Shared $94                 Shared $105
Action is a great place to start.                                        deep full breaths through an open mouth, breathing into both your          Ocean view private $185                private $215
                                                                         belly and your chest. Inhale deeply then let the air ‘fall out’; then                 Shared $113                 Shared $128
Deep breathing is taught and practiced in Come Alive, Being Alive,       breathe in again. Try to keep your breathing ‘circular’, without
Living Alive Phases I and II, New Horizons Phase III, and many           long pauses at the top or bottom of the breath. We recommend                – prices include breakfast, lunch and dinner –
other Haven programs, including Breathe! and Body, Breath and            lying on your back with your arms at your side and knees raised.
Energy Training.
    Breathing is an important part of each of the models we
                                                                                                                                                 •	 Prices are in Canadian dollars and include taxes.
teach at The Haven. As we use the Haven Communication Model,
                                                                                                                                                 •	 Prices are per person per night and include three buffet-style meals a day.
breathing will help us in the clarity of our perceptions and
                                                                                                                                                 •	 Pets are allowed in a small number of rooms, with a surcharge payable.
thoughts, in fully experiencing our feelings, and in sharing our
                                                                                                                                                 •	 Smoking is not allowed in any room or on shared decks.
experience with others and really hearing what others say to us.
                                                                                                                                                 •	 There is a $10 per day non-resident fee for guests staying in accommodation
                                                                                                                                                    outside The Haven.
Breathing is also a very useful step in learning self-compassion as
presented in the Haven Selves Model.                                                                                                                                                                                                        An Ocean view room
    The Haven Resonance Model is a picture of how, as we grow up,
we tend to freeze or rigidify the natural flow of energy with which
we are born. As we do this, we limit our connection with universal           You can breathe alone or with a partner. Your partner can           Caring for our Environment
energy and with each other. One way we achieve this rigidity is by       either sit with you and offer coaching, encouragement and con-
holding our breath or breathing only shallowly. When we begin to         tact, or you can breathe together at the same time.                     The land which The Haven now occupies was traditionally known as the Green Place.
breathe more deeply, we begin to ‘unfreeze’, loosen up, and reac-            Occasionally, and mostly in early sessions of breathing more        The Haven is committed to maintaining and strengthening this tradition.
tivate our energy and our connection with others.                        deeply, people experience muscular spasms, cramping or rigidity,        •	 Our beautiful gardens are organically worked.
    The rigidity we create in our lives expresses itself in many ways,   especially in their hands or around the mouth. This is not danger-      •	 Plants are locally purchased and propagated and are hand watered (without
including in our bodies. As we hold our breath, we also hold and         ous, but can be uncomfortable and alarming if you do not know              sprinklers). The lawns are not watered in the summer.
tighten our musculature. This is sometimes referred to as ‘body          what is happening. Caused by a lowering of carbon dioxide levels        •	 We preserve the natural habitat for wildlife as much as possible, maintaining
armour’, which we create to protect ourselves from perceived             in the blood, it indicates that you are breathing enough for now,          protected old-growth areas.
threats in the outside world. In terms of the Power and Strength         and should back off for a few minutes. You can reverse the pro-         •	 The entire property has been inventoried and assessed, to protect our rare and
model, this is a power-based, defensive approach to the chal-            cess by quieting your breathing. If the cramping is severe or per-         endangered trees and plants.
lenges of life. While it can give us a sense of security and control,    sistent, breathe slowly into and from a paper bag until it passes.      •	 We manage our limited water resources responsibly, through collecting rain water and
it also limits our growth and cuts us off from other people and a        As you continue regular deep breathing, your body will likely              using different water qualities for our various needs.
whole range of experiences.                                              adjust to the increasing amount of air you are taking in, and this      •	 Throughout the property you will see notices asking you to help us in water
    Often as we breathe we have a physical experience of this            will no longer be a problem.                                               conservation, for example by eco-aware showering.
armour loosening and shifting – our bodies may tingle or vibrate             The benefits and challenges of this kind of breathing are con-      •	 In our kitchen we are committed to providing healthy, nutritious food and minimizing
or want to move in other ways. We may experience feelings that           siderable. We encourage you to experiment with integrating more            waste. We buy ingredients locally whenever possible to reduce fuel consumption, and
we have previously ‘held down’ or make sounds that we have pre-          breath into your life and to notice, acknowledge, accept, and              we order in bulk, using organic fair-trade products as much as we can.
viously ‘swallowed’. Sometimes we experience anxiety and resis-          appreciate yourself in the experience. The more you can do this,        •	 Paper, bottles, cans and plastics are all recycled.
tance in this process. If we continue breathing, however, we can         in all aspects of your life, the more you will grow and develop         •	 Rather than sell bottled water, we provide free triple-filtered local drinking water.
also experience the strength that comes from discovering and             your own strength to live your life fully, responding resourcefully
accepting our natural qualities, resources and energies. These           to its challenges and in connection with others.                                                                                                                   The Heron building in the Haven garden

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                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Getting to The Haven is easy!
Group Bookings                                                              Facilitation Services                                                               Inspiring the Spirit of
The Haven is the perfect, natural setting for conferences, meet-
                                                                            for corporate and professional training
                                                                            Members of The Haven faculty offer facilitation services
ings, planning sessions or retreats. Our facilities offer groups of up      for corporate and professional training, addressing
to 100 people the opportunity to focus on important issues, away            issues such as:
from the office environment, and free from the distractions of the
city. Our stunning oceanfront location is 20 minutes by ferry from
                                                                            •	 Conflict resolution
Nanaimo and within easy traveling distance from Victoria and
                                                                            •	 Team building
                                                                            •	 Effective communication
                                                                            •	 Wellness
     Facilities we offer include:                                           •	 Relational leadership                                                                                                                      The Haven is on beautiful Gabriola Island,
•	 A range of meeting rooms set up to suit your needs.                      •	 Resilience                                                                                                                                 one of the southern Gulf Islands of British
     Our auditorium can seat 180.                                           It is also possible to combine your meeting with a                                                                                            Columbia. People come to The Haven
•	 Comfortable accommodation, private and shared,                           custom version of one of our programs, tailored to the                                                                                        from all over North America, as well as
     for up to 100 guests.                                                  specific needs of your group.                                                                                                                 from Europe and Asia.
•	 Phones in all rooms, with voicemail.
•	 Buffet-style meals in our waterfront dining room.                                                                                                                                                                         Gabriola Island is
•	 Wireless internet access on most of the property.                                                                                                                                                                      •	 20 minutes ferry ride from Nanaimo
•	 A data centre with internet access and word processing                                                                                                                                                                 •	 20 minutes by float plane from
   facilities.                                                                                                                                                                                                               Vancouver Airport south terminal
•	 Hot tub, gym and seasonal outdoor swimming pool.                                                                                                                                                                          Nanaimo is
•	 The Haven’s bodyworkers, offering a variety of ways to                                                                                                                                                                 •	 20 minutes by float plane from
   de-stress, relax and revitalize.                                                                                                                                                                                          downtown Vancouver or Vancouver
•	 Coffee, tea and other refreshments.                                                                                                                                                                                       Airport
A number of Haven faculty members are available to facilitate                                                                                                                                                             •	 1½ to 2 hours from Vancouver by ferry
meetings and workshops. For information and for room and facili-                                                                                                                                                          •	 1½ hours from Victoria by car
ties prices please contact Louise Amuir. Accommodation and               For more information see our
                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Vancouver is
                                                                         website or contact Louise Amuir:
meal prices for group guests are given on page 29.                                                                                                                                                                        •	 4½ hours flying time from Toronto
                                                                or Ext. 222.                                                                                                                     •	 4½ hours flying time from Chicago
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          •	 9 hours by plane from London, uK
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          •	 13 hours by plane from Hong Kong
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          For more detailed information, please
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          see our website and the websites of the
       The Haven lodge from Taylor Bay                                                                                                                                                                                    transport providers.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Useful contact information
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          the haven               1 877 247 9238
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          bc ferries              1 888 223 3779
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          tofino air              1 800 665 2359
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          harbour air             1 800 665 0212
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          greyhound bus           1 800 661 8747
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          air canada              1 888 247 2262
                                                                                                                                                                        Espresso drinks, brewed coffee, baked
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          nanaimo shuttle         1 250 619 9297
                                                                                                                                                                        treats and more. Serving quality coffee
                                                                                                                                                                        with passion and persuasion in a vibrant          gabriola taxi           1 250 247 0049

                                                                                                                                                                        and lively atmosphere.

                                                                                                                                                               | 250.247.0008
                                                                                                                                                                        Madrona Marketplace 500 North Rd.

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Join us in creating The Haven’s future!
Ever since Ben Wong and Jock McKeen founded The Haven nearly 30 years ago, we have
explored the idea that relationships are a great place for growth to happen.
To finance specific parts of our work — for example, to offer bursaries to those who
could otherwise not attend our programs and to invest in the physical and educational
development of The Haven — we rely on our relationships with generous people like you.
If you have benefited from your relationship with The Haven, you can ensure that
others benefit too by making monthly donations to Haven Foundation or Friends of
Haven Foundation (for US donors).
•	 You can become a Haven Friend with a monthly donation of $5–$49
•	 You can become a Haven Partner with a monthly donation of $50 or more
We also welcome annual donations.
•	 You can become a Haven Friend with a donation of $50 a year or more
•	 You can become a Haven Partner with a donation of $1000 a year or more
The Haven is a not-for-profit, charitable organization and can provide both Canadian and
uS tax receipts.
Join us in creating The Haven’s future!

Find	out	how	you	can	be	part	of	this	growing	relationship	at	/giving
or	contact	Rachel	Davey	on	1 877 247 9238 Ext. 235 or

The Financial Aid Program a recipient’s view
                                  LeighAnn Vaughan first came           The very process of applying for a bursary was an important
                                  to The Haven in 2005, for a pro-      experience for LeighAnn. She had become very isolated in her rela-
                                  gram with Linda Nicholls. She         tionships and in her community. Reaching out for help was a risk
                                  describes it as a life-altering       and took courage — in her past, asking for things had been dan-
                                  experience. Mostly, she realized      gerous. When Rose Hunter, The Haven’s Bursary Fund Manager at
                                  in those few days a potential for     the time, contacted her to say she was delighted to offer a bur-
                                  connection and relationship she       sary, LeighAnn says it was like someone reaching out a hand to
                                  had never thought possible. From      her when there didn’t seem to be other hands to hold. To her it
                                  then on, she says, there was no       was a message that it was OK and safe for her to tell her story and
                                  turning back.                         express her life.
                                  However, it was not until 2009        Today LeighAnn remains committed to herself and her son, work-
                                  that it became financially pos-       ing with her ex-partner on joint custody, and beginning to find new
                                  sible for LeighAnn to do more         connections in a community where she had previously felt iso-
                                  programs at The Haven. With her       lated and alone. “The Haven taught me it was safe for me to reach
                                  primary relationship disintegrat-     out to connect,” she says. “I was touched back every time I found
ing and with a young son to look after, she was determined not to       enough courage to reach out. This was the beacon of light The
repeat the same patterns in her life. She applied for and received      Haven shone through the darkness that surrounded my life. I can-
bursaries to do Come Alive and Living Alive Phase I. As a result, she   not overstate the importance of this support in my life.”
says, she has integrated a huge amount of learning into her life, to
her own benefit and in her relationships, especially with her son.
                                                                            At the time of writing, we have just launched our annual
She has worked out practical, creative ways to help her son                 Fall Fundraising Matching Campaign for our Financial
through difficult times. Together they are learning about it being          Aid program. Every dollar you donate will be matched up to
OK to feel sad or angry, for example, without having to get rid of          a maximum of $25,000. Go to for more
or change anything, and how they can remain connected to each               information.
other in these experiences.

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“Come Alive gave me the tools to reach in and
 to see myself with new eyes and a new heart.”
discover                                The	Haven
                                        240	Davis	Road
                                        Gabriola	Island,	BC

the haven                               Canada	V0R	1X1
                                        Tel.	 250	247	9211
                                        Fax	 250	247	8454
                                        Toll	Free	 1	877	247	9238
 The Haven is a personal and  
 professional learning centre on
 beautiful Gabriola Island in British   the haven vision
 Columbia, Canada. Our programs         The Haven is an exceptional
 create opportunities to grow,          institution creating a relational world
                                        where every person is whole and
 transform and connect. People          responsible for themselves and their
 leave with skills to be fully alive,   environment, and where all life is
 have healthy relationships and         met with dignity and respect, open
                                        curiosity, and loving compassion.
 communicate effectively.
                                        our organizational values
                                        •	   Loving
                                        •	   Freedom
                                        •	   Integrity
                                        •	   Respect
                                        •	   Joy
                                        •	   Self-responsibility

                                        our teaching principles
                                        •	   Curiosity
                                        •	   Self-responsibility
                                        •	   Communication
                                        •	   Relationship
                                        •	   Embodiment
                                        •	   Experiential	Learning
                                        •	   Personal	Fulfillment		
                                        •	   Inclusion

                                        The front cover shows a stained glass window in the
                                        dining room at The Haven, dating back to before
                                        1983, when Ben Wong and Jock McKeen bought
                                        Taylor Bay Lodge and founded The Haven. The back
                                        cover shows the view over Taylor Bay from
                                        The Haven. There are often herons on the beach.
                                        The front cover photo is by Chris Finlayson; the other
                                        cover photos are by Sam Mak.

                                        The inside pages of this catalogue are printed on
                                        FSC-certified 100% post-consumer recycled paper;
                                        the cover on FSC-certified 50% post-consumer,
                                        50% pre-consumer recycled paper. Printed
                                        by Hemlock, named the Most Environmentally
                                        Progressive Printer in Canada, 2010.

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