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					             BULLY PREVENTION AND

                  Overview: Bullying CAN Be Stopped!

Boulton has adopted the most effective Bully prevention program available:
                  The Olweus Bully Prevention Program.
It complements and supports Peacebuilder Behavior Management.
                  Dr. Olweus' research indicates that
            the three most effective deterrants to bullying are:
                  #1 INCREASED SUPERVISION
                 #3 EMPOWERING THE VICTIMS
         Parents! We need your support in all three of these areas.
#1 Increased Supervision

  Adult Supervision is
  the Best Prevention
    . . . And the Best
         Bullies rarely bully in full view of an authority figure.
                          What You Can Do:

•   Make sure your children are well supervised before and after
•   Support the school in their efforts to increase supervision as the
    children arrive and leave school.
•   Sign up to help increase supervision during lunch recess. This only
    needs to be once or twice a year. Sign up at back to school night, parent teacher
    conferences, or anytime! Just call or stop by the office to sign up.

•   Lunch Recess Supervision: When your day arrives, check in at the office first thing. You can
    wear a safety vest so children will recognize you . . . or simply wear the paper volunteer badge.
    Lunch recess goes from approximately 11:30 - 1:00 p.m. but you do not need to come for the
    entire time. Come for as much time as you can, we appreciate any help you can give us.
    All you need to do is walk around the playground where the playground duties have a hard time
    supervising: up on the hill, behind the portables, on the front and side of the buildings, make a
    sweep through the buildings to make sure children are not hanging out in the bathrooms or halls,
    and feel free to spend some time playing a game with your child and their friends if you wish. If you
    come across a child who is hurt, or students who are arguing or fighting, you do not need to
    handle it . Simply take the involved students to the duties, or inform a duty to come to the child or
    children. And THANK YOU!!
        #2 Empower Bystanders to Help the Victims!
                   Bystanders are Not Neutral!!
                                               •But if they speak
• If they do                                   up and lend a
  not                   Their weight decides
                                               helping hand to
  intervene,            who has the power!
  they lend                                    the victims, the
  power to the                                 scales will easily
  bully through                                tip in favor of
  their silence!                               eliminating
                             What You Can Do!
Encourage your children to speak up and help
   the victim. It is a myth that anyone can be witness
    to bullying behavior and say they "didn't do
    anything!" If they did nothing . . . they just told the      Reward your children for helping
    bully and the victim that the behavior they saw was          the victims: Praise them. Let them hear
    o.k. by them, or not a big enough deal to say                you telling others about how proud you
    anything about.
                                                                 were of them when they stood up for the
    It is EXTREMELY important that our bystanders not            victim.
    only speak up, but that they actively help the victim:

                              Hey! That’s not                 Support the school if your child
                              funny! C’mon Bill               occasionally receives consequences for
                              and Nancy, let’s                not intervening! This is a new policy. It will help
                                                              us discourage the children from being complacent. It
                              take John and play              will make a phenomenal difference in motivating the
                              over near the duty!             bystanders to step in and help, as well as
                                                              discouraging the bully!
         “Bullying Back” is not an option!
  Teach your children how they can help the victim without bullying back:
They can tell the bully to stop.
They can step between the bully and the victim.
They can take the victim away to play somewhere else and do something else.
They can invite the victim to be their friend and include them in subsequent
They can go with the victim to report to a duty.
They can report to the duty themselves.
They can help ask other bystanders to help.
They can help the victim obtain and fill out a bully report.
            #3 Empowering Victims
                 You can Help Your
Just say no to feeling
                       Children: Just say no to
inferior!                         tattling-Use honest
                                  reporting instead.
  Just say no to
  “bully backs!”
                                      Just say no to
  Just say no to
  caring about what
  the bully thinks!
               Why “Bullying Back” does not
                    empower children.
• Bullying back might stop the bully from bothering one or two
  children. But more often than not, it just enrages the bully and
  causes him to increase his “power” through more aggressive means,
  or through increased numbers.
• Bullies are good at picking children who they know can't or won't
  fight back.
• If a child bullies back, it is no longer a bullying problem, it is
  simply a fight. The adults cannot determine or know who was at fault
  to begin with and your child will be punished right along with the
  bully. Even if they are an equal match to the bully, physically and/or
  emotionally, this is very discouraging to children and adds to their
  sense of helplessness.
• (IMPORTANT NOTE: Remember “Safe School" violations must be
  reported immediately-do not have your child put it on the bully report
  and wait. Report first . . . and add it to their bully report later!)
• No real or pretend weapons.

• No drugs, tobacco or alcohol.

• No fighting, harassment or
• No disruptive behavior in a
  classroom or school activity.
     The Definition of Bullying:
• 1. The bullying
  behavior has gone on
  over time

• 2. There is an
  imbalance of power in
  favor of the bully.
Reporting Empowers Victims
 What you can do and Why:
•   Help your child keep a record of the bully’s behavior.. Keeping a record is the
    best way to prove that 1. the bullying behavior has gone on over a period of time. It
    also is a great way to show that 2. your child has not “bullied back.” If your child is
    not fighting back, and the bully is still aggressive (whether physical or relationally that
    also proves there is an imbalance of power.

    You can use the report provided in the link--but it does not have to be that fancy.
    Help your child list dates and behaviors. Younger children can simply put tally marks
    on a calendar . . . Even kindergartners know how to do that! It is not hard, but it
    does take effort and patience and the children NEED our HELP!
•   Teach your child the difference between Tattling and Reporting:
    Tattling is a ploy to get attention and is actually a form of bullying. It is not based on
    honestly reporting what is going on. But reporting is based on honesty and on caring
    about what is best for everyone: the victim, the bully, and the entire atmosphere in
    the school.

•   Reward your child for properly reporting bullying behavior! Children who
    properly report need to be supported and rewarded! Typically there is no
    reinforcement for telling . . . Teachers, duties, and parents are overwhelmed with
    countless “verbal” reports everyday. Children sense their annoyance. We cannnot
    make a change if we do not all work together to make the rewards for reporting much
    bigger than not reporting . . . Or than the negative reinforcers that come from tattling.
                        Paper is Power
                    Keeping a record is very effective.
                   It accomplishes a number of things:
•   1-It eliminates the attention kids get from tattling.

•   2-It shows the victim-and the adults- exactly what is happening. Children are
    naturally prone to distorted thinking. If the victim is minimizing, it will help
    them know they need help. If the victim is exaggerating, it will help them see
    how things really are.

•   3-Knowing they have a plan and can get the help they need is often times all
    children need to feel empowered. Bullies can sense when a child will not put
    up with their abuse.

•   4-It eliminates the need to fight or bully back. Children will begin to learn that
    they will be heard and supported.

•   5-It makes it possible for adults to properly punish the bullies and get them
    the serious help and interventions that they need.
Using Power Behaviors empowers Victims!
           What you can do:
         Encourage your child to use power behaviors!
      Make a checklist of power behaviors they have tried.
              Help your child practice using them!
        Using power behaviors can put a stop to the bullying
      and prevent your child from being victimized in the future.
                       Wouldn’t that be nice?

  •    #1 Change Your Attitude ________
  •    Quit caring about what other people think ___
  •    Be confident and brave ________
  •    Look up not down ________
  •    Use a loud voice (shout if you need to so others can hear you and will see what is
       going on) ___
  •    Use I statements: I don’t like it when you say you are my friend and then won’t let me
       play. It makes me feel left out. I want you to tell the truth.) ________
  •    Call the bully by his/her name _______
  •    #2 Change the Balance of Power ________
  •    Don’t play alone________
  •    Play near the duty ________
  •    Ask bystanders for help ________
  •    Seek a wise person ________
  •       Who did you talk to? __________________
  •       ______________________________________
  •    #3 Change Your Response ________
  •    Try being nice
  •    Ignore. How many days? ________
  •    Avoid. How many days? ________
  •             Play with someone else ________
  •             Play something else ________
  •             Play somewhere else ________
  •    Other things I have tried: ___________________
  •    _________________________________________
  •    #4 Report. ________
Once the Victim Has Done His/Her Part . . .
        We Must Support Them!
• By properly reporting and not bullying back, the
  victims have done the bully and the entire school
  and neighborhood a HUGE favor. They are true
  heroes and peacebuilders!

• Now the true bullies can be properly identified
  and soundly punished. Remember, a true bully
  is in serious need of quick interventions . . . It is
  their future that is most at risk.
         Boulton’s Policy for Bullying
•   First offense: Teacher intervention, including a student letter of apology or
    treaty. A written plan of action needs to be written for bullying.
•   2nd offense: Child is sent to another classroom/plan is revised as needed.
    The parent is called.
•   3rd offense: Teacher will write up a Behavior Referral and send the child to
    the office. The administration will review the plan, call the parent or hold a
    parent meeting .
•   4th offense: Out of school suspension. This will either be at-home or
    between schools, depending on the principal’s discretion.
•   REMEMBER: Safe school Violations need to come directly to the office
    with a Behavioral Referral.
  What you can do if your child receives negative
           consequences for bullying:

• Be involved in the decision making
• Support the decisions.
• Follow up with negative consequences at
  home. (Be careful, usually when a child is involved in bullying, they
   find negative consequences rewarding! Yelling, spanking, threatening, etc.
   not only do not work in the long run, they are often rewarding to a bully.
   They can also turn abusive if you do it over time! Work together with the
   school to find consequences that feel punishing to your child, but are also
   not abusive. Usually, a complete lack of attention works the best.
   Increased chores are also great.)
             IMPORTANT NOTE:
• Follow negative consequences with positive statements expressing
  your faith in the child’s true good nature and ability to change.
• Children . . . even bullies . . . actually want to be good. It is up to us
  as parents and educators to provide them with strong enough
  POSITIVE REINFORCEMENTS for good behavior and strong
  enough NEGATIVE REINFORCEMENTS for bad behavior to make
  it easy for them to BE GOOD!
• “It is also most important to constantly give children a chance to try
  again. It allows them to feel that they still have a chance and
  indicates your faith in the child and his ability to learn.” –Rudolf
  Dreikurs, M.D.
       Thank YOU!!!
• Working together . . . We can put a stop to
  bullying and provide ALL the children with
  the best possible atmosphere for learning!

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