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How To Improve Communication Skills
 And Your Personal Style

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Six tips for improving your communic
ation style.
confidence building, self confidenc
e, lack of, gaining, how to be, Pet
er Murphy

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Here are six tips for improving you
r communication style:

1. Knowing how to improve communica
tion skills will come easier once y
ou become aware of your own communi
cation style.

Each person has a unique way of com
municating. Listen to your own spee
ch. What sorts of words do you use?
 Which sort of body language and wh
at tone of voice are you using?

Now, think of someone who, in your
opinion, is a good communicator. Co
mpare your style to theirs. You_ve
just taken an important first step
in how to improve communication ski

2. Now that you are aware of your o
wn style, study the style of those
around you. How do the most importa
nt people in your life converse? Ho
w do they say things? Look for appr
oaches you can model and make your

3. Adjust to the other styles of co
mmunication. Don_t think it is too
late to change your way of conversi
ng because it_s been years. You had
 to learn to communicate in the fir
st place and you can unlearn certai
n behaviors or change them. Sometim
es we get stuck in a communication

A father once was having a hard tim
e with his teenaged daughter. She w
as growing and he thought she didn_
t tell him what was going on in her
 life. They were in a heated discus
sion when he asked, _Why didn_t you
 tell me?_

Her answer was that she had, but he
 was too busy lecturing her to hear
 her. He learned that adjusting his
 style to his daughter would involv
e listening first before jumping ri
ght into solving the problem.

4. To build rapport, during a conve
rsation try and match the other per
son_s movements, posture and verbal
  style. Don_t do everything they do
, but mirror one or two things. For
  example, if the person gives mostl
y short answers to questions, you f
ollow suit.

Or, maybe they talk at a slower pac
e than you usually do-slow your spe
aking speed to match theirs. This m
ay sound simplistic but it is a ver
y potent way to make someone feel v
ery relaxed and comfortable in your

5. The way you communicate at home
may not be the same as in a differe
nt environment. Make sure you chang
e your style to suit the different
setting. Some comments you might wa
nt to tell your best friend, in pri

Other things can be shared in a gro
up setting. Learn how to improve co
mmunication skills by altering your
 style for the appropriate setting.
 Many of us know someone who offers
 far too much information in a grou
p setting.

6. Don_t criticize others for commu
nicating differently. If we all com
municated in the same way, we_d soo
n be bored with each other.

Getting a good grasp of your commun
ication style and finding ways to a
ccommodate other peoples_ styles, i
s a good way to improve your commun
ication skills.

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