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The Five Phases Of Feedback

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Summary:
You may have heard about the five p
hases of grief. Psychological profe
ssionals have outlined the pattern
of emotions that humans cycle throu
gh during the grieving process. As
a writing professional, I’ve discov
ered the five phases of receiving f
eedback. Any writer who is advancin
g in their career has been through
the sometimes shocking experience o
f having her work critiqued. Cyclin
g through these five feedback phase
s is normal. Getting stuck in any o
f them, however, could br...


Keywords:
writing,feedback,revision,success,c
oach,writer,critique


Article Body:
You may have heard about the five p
hases of grief. Psychological profe
ssionals have outlined the pattern
of emotions that humans cycle throu
gh during the grieving process. As
a writing professional, I’ve discov
ered the five phases of receiving f
eedback. Any writer who is advancin
g in their career has been through
the sometimes shocking experience o
f having her work critiqued. Cyclin
g through these five feedback phase
s is normal. Getting stuck in any o
f them, however, could bring your w
riting career to a painful halt. Se
e if you recognize yourself at any
of these phases:

Denial. Defensiveness sets in. How
could they say that about your char
acter? Can’t they see how perfect s
he is? You go home and rant to your
 spouse about how clueless your cri
tique group is. You shore up a line
 of defense and tick the points off
 on your fingers while your beloved
 nods and smiles.

Depression. What? Your draft isn’t
perfect? After all that work… you r
ealize that your blossoming talent
doesn’t hold up without some prunin
g. You may hole up for weeks, or mo
nths, in this phase, daunted by the
 real work of writing: revision. Yo
ur balm: forays to the library and
to read all those other successes.

Integration. You’re still alive, an
d is that a glimmer of desire to ha
ve another look at your manuscript?
 Take a deep breath and look clearl
y at the comments you received. Whi
ch feedback can be integrated and w
hat needs to be chucked?

Enthusiasm. Okay, you know what to
do now. You’ve found some grace and
 you’ve taken the criticism. Outlin
ing a plan for revision, you’re rea
dy to go. You’re over the worst of
it. You’re even kind of excited abo
ut it. You can write a bestseller!

Acceptance. You move into work mode
 and start working through the deta
ils.

You realize that writing is suitabl
e work for those who can handle the
 long haul. You recommit to the wor
k of being a writer. There’s a lot
to do, but with support you can wri
te this thing!
To move through the five phases mor
e effectively, here are some tried
and true methods that I have used w
ith my coaching clients.

To handle the denial, ask yourself
this simple question: “What’s true
about this feedback?” Take a step b
ack from the work and be as objecti
ve as you can. Is it true that ther
e is a lot of exposition in your no
vel? Is it true that your character
s don’t seem developed enough? Maki
ng this kind of assessment strength
ens your skills as a writer. Taking
 your work apart, piece by piece, w
ill allow you to delve into the cra
ft of writing.

For the overwhelming emotions that
drive you to hide under the covers,
 try giving yourself an acknowledgm
ent. This simple coaching tool can
help you to recognize your progress
, and what you have done right. An
acknowledgment could look like this
: “You gave the draft as much as yo
u could when you wrote it. Look at
how far you have come since you sai
d you wanted to write.” Working thr
ough the emotions goes more quickly
 if you are able to talk them out w
ith a compassionate listener.

Call up your writing buddy or coach
 and give space to the feelings tha
t without expression might keep you
 trapped for months.

When you get to the integration pha
se, give yourself a pat on the back
. You’re maturing as a writer. Real
izing that writing is more than the
 first flush of inspiration is a po
werful step toward success. Give yo
urself a better chance at success b
y outlining a plan, creating a sche
dule, and sticking to the work of r
evision.

Enthusiasm is the fun part of the p
rocess. Here you reconnect with som
e of the original passion for the p
iece, but with the added commitment
 and knowledge that you are willing
 to show up to make your writing sh
ine.

In the final phase, the flare and s
park of enthusiasm settles into a w
arm, steady fire.
You are fueled by the respect   you h
ave for yourself for sticking   with
it, for your love of writing,   for y
our admiration for others who   have
done this work and triumphed.

If you do find yourself stuck, if g
etting feedback has stopped you col
d, get help. Meet with a writing bu
ddy to talk out the feedback. Talk
long walks and ponder your commitme
nt to the work. What drives you to
keep going despite the challenges?

Understanding your motivation to wr
ite, and to write that particular p
iece, will help you to move through
 the five phases of feedback more q
uickly. Receiving feedback graceful
ly is part of any writer's process,
 so make it work for you!

				
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