Contributed by Batch 266 CYF PCV Mary Rinnert, 2009. Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Program Overview: To educate children ages 6-12 years old about saying “No” when touched inappropriately. To teach them what are appropriate touches and what to do if they are inappropriately touched. Objectives: 1. Understanding that each persons body is special and nobody has the right to make anyone feel uncomfortable. 2. To define the “private” parts of each person. 3. Inform the child on what they should do if they are being touched and they do not feel comfortable. 4. Identify who are “safe” people. 5. Child sexual abuse prevention rules. Materials: Movie on sexual abuse – “Hoy bata! Mahalaga ka!” Manila paper Markers Dolls Time: 2 hours Procedure: Have the children sit on the floor in a circle. The facilitators must be spread out amongst the children in the circle. Introduction: Understanding what is special to each child and that their bodies are special too. Begin by asking the children what is special to them. What do they treasure and list them on the board. How do they protect what is special to them. Ask them why their treasure is special to them. Lead into a discussion that they as children are special too. Ask them why they think they are special. Their body is also special and should be protected. Children have the right to say “No” if they don’t like the way someone else is touching their bodies in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable, scared or sad. Private Parts of the Body: There are certain parts of the body that are “private” and children have the right to say “No” to any person who touches them. These parts are vagina, penis, buttocks and breasts. When these parts are being touched by someone else, including adults even adults the child knows; a child should say “No.” It is important that a child listens to how they feel when they are being touched and if they do not like being touched they should tell the person to stop. Trust your feelings. Who Do Children Tell? Ask what the participants should do if someone is touching them and it doesn’t feel good? Tell the children to talk to one of the facilitators. Who are other good people to tell if someone is touching you and it makes you uncomfortable? Houseparent’s, teachers, social workers, family or clergy, people the child trusts. What happens if someone is touching them that they know really well and trust? Example: a house parent or another child in the center. The child should tell one of the facilitators or social workers. The facilitators will believe them. Children need to be reaffirmed that the facilitators will believe them and take action. Movie: “Hoy bata! Mahalaga ka!” What If Game: During the “What If” Game you can reiterate situations that teach the child what to do if they are inappropriately touched. This is also a great time to explain what the child should do if the abuser threatens them. What If… something was bothering you and you did not know what to do about it? Who might be able to help you? Answer… People you trust, such as a parent, another relative, neighbor, teacher, school nurse, police officer, clergy. What If… someone is tickling you and it starts to hurt? Answer… Tell them to stop. If they will not stop, call for help. If there is not an adult, tell an adult about it later. What if… someone touches your private parts and you tell your teacher and she does not believe you, what do you do? Answer: Tell someone else till someone does something about it. What If… your uncle (aunt) wanted you to sit on his (her) lap and you did not want to? Answer… You can say “NO!” to your uncle/aunt if, for some reason, you do not want to do it. What If… Mommy, daddy or a doctor touched the private parts of your body? Answer… There are times when others may need to touch your private parts. For example, mommy or daddy may touch your private parts when they are bathing you; or a doctor may need to touch you during an examination. But, if the touching hurts or bothers you, tell them. Alternate… Grown-ups do not usually need to touch children in private areas unless it is for health reasons. What If… the caregiver wanted to touch you under your night clothes? Answer… No one has the right to put their hand under your clothes; force you to touch them; touch your body; or touch your private body parts. What If… someone you do not know comes to take you home from school? Answer… Never go with a stranger unless the stranger gives you our special code word. (Select a simple code word and teach it to your child. Make sure the child understands the importance of the word.) What If… you got a “bad feeling” or felt “yucky” when a grown-up gave you a hug or a big squeeze? Answer… Tell the person you do not like it. You have the right to decide when you want to be hugged or touched. Trust your feelings about the way people touch you. What If… you did not want to be hugged by a particular adult? Answer… Say “NO!” to that adult. You may like the person, but you may not want to be hugged at that time. What If… a stranger offered you a ride in a shiny new car? Answer… Never accept rides from a stranger. What If… someone touched you in a way you did not like and offered you a candy bar, a brand new doll or something else you really wanted to keep a secret? Answer… Say “NO!” and tell someone. Create a Child Safety set of Rules: 1. If someone touches their private parts or if a touch makes them feel uncomfortable the child needs to say “NO!” 2. If someone touches their private parts or if a touch makes them feel uncomfortable, sad or scared to ALWAYS tell a facilitator, social worker or someone they trust. 3. If someone threatens them not to tell they still need to tell a facilitator, social worker or someone they trust. 4. If someone touches their private parts or a touch makes them feel uncomfortable it is not the child’s fault! ****Handout candy at the end of the session Bibliography Based off of the Saying “NO” Child Sexual Abuse Prevention from the State of New York – Children and Family Services, Bureau of Early Childhood Services. “Hoy bata! Mahalaga ka!” Provided by the Center for the Prevention and Treatment of Child Sexual Abuse.