Coping with Anger in an Effective Manner
Anger can express itself in a variety of forms. Some people express anger
in an overwhelming fashion; they shout, curse, and can cross the boundary
to physical expressions. Others keep their anger pent up, but express it
in forms of passive aggression, sulking, bad moods and eventually even
Anger management does not focus on completely getting rid of the emotion
anger. That would be impossible. Instead working on anger management can
help you to guide your reactions so that you have more control in the
situation. Instead of making a situation work by cursing and yelling or
not saying anything for a week, you can control your response to deal
with the necessary situation. It is inevitable that something or someone
will come along that will trigger anger. The response is up to the
So how can one learn to manage and control their anger? There are many
techniques that one can use and the success depends on the individual and
their ability to stick with a method.
Breathing, yoga and focused visualisation are three relaxation techniques
that can be practiced in non-anger situations. Each skill set will
provide the user with a chance to remove him/herself mentally from the
angry situation and take a step back.
If mental removal from the environment proves difficult, physically
leaving the environment can be an aid. Go for a walk, go to the next room
or take some personal time for yourself each day to focus on you.
Another tool in coping with anger, hypnosis, works with focusing on
restructuring thoughts on a subconscious level. Through suggestions based
on dealing with anger in a healthy and constructive matter one can
process new ways of dealing with anger in an efficient manner. After
consulting a professional hypnotist, one can incorporate self-hypnosis
into stressful and aggravating situations.
The three focus areas listed here are a way to begin dealing with anger
and coping with frustrating situations. Relaxation techniques can be
learned with the help of a professional or on your own. Environmental
change can be easily achieved, but is not always available. Hypnosis
should be practiced with a licensed professional in the early stages, but
can be continued independently.
The idea behind anger management is not to eradicate the emotion of
anger. It is to cope with the response so that one can deal with
situations that arise.
Terry Doherty works all over the UK working extensively with individual
and business clients helping them to stop smoking, manage weight, manage
stress, become more confident and help create generative change. Terry
uses the latest techniques of hypnosis, NLP and life coaching skills for
profound change. Contact him at http://www.mind-works.co.uk