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adolescent behavior and Bad Kids is often one source! You can check if this applies to your child!

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									Family Parenting, Teenagers: A reason for anti-social and "bad" behavior
in children and adolescents is virtually never covered! Could this all
stem from this source?

On several occasions, we read about parents who are unable to control
their children or adolescents or adolescents in general difficult.
Frequently, the advice focuses on how to control or cajole children into
cooperation. Sometimes children are so difficult to monitor them on anti-
depressants can be addictive long life.

The subject is not new by any means, but violence or anti-social behavior
exhibited appears to be increasing. As a parent coach and parent I come
across this quite frequently. Working with parents / carers and
professionals in the social services sector, we have developed a program
that has strong evidence to make a positive breakthrough, especially when
started early, from 7 years.

We also found that this is a very useful guide for parents of toddlers or
children who are doing well.

Xchange program has been partially reproduced below, and we hope it will
help any parent who has difficulty. If you need help or have any comments
please contact us.

The Xchange Program is divided into 2 sections. The following educational
programs that can be done at school or at home and can be applied to
children of all ages. You may have to vary your explanation in
understanding your child or children or simply apply the program's main
objective in the daily life of the family.

Part 1:

Xchange has been based on the simple principle of the foundation of our
society. Exchange is the very fabric of our society. People that are not
traded are frowned upon in our society, criminals.

The vast majority of our society works. We must work to contribute to
some form of power and agreed to receive valuable form of exchange:
money.

There is no employer who is willing to give us money for nothing and
there is a shop willing to give us the goods for no money. So to make a
living, we must work first, or find a form of goods or services that
people are willing to exchange money with us. To explain that to a child
or adolescent, we use a specific technique that is effective and
feasible, the simple explanation is generally not sufficient. We do not
want to lecture, but get the child to understand this fundamental
principle.

In addition, you may have already observed the babies, toddlers from the
age of 1-3, they showed great desire and impatience-ness to help. From
doing the laundry, cooking everything they have observed that you do they
will try to "copy" to do. Usually there are attempts, sometimes funny,
they may get less entertaining when he washes his socks in the toilet. We
must allow him to help, always, as is his way of showing us that he wants
help or contribute to the household.

If we stop a child this age, found its Ness-loan help is gradually
reduced and finally, nobody can explain to him why his help is not
wanted, it will stop trying to help. He learns to accept that it is not
helpful to his mother, father parents.

The basic instinct or attitude to contribute   and exchange is innate in us
all. Mom helps me, I help mom, naturally. So   if we return to the idea
above exchange, job 4 silver, 4 silver goods   we find it starts from day
one. He can see from a day to help you grow,   it can not wait to help you.

In order to re-educate the child and it is indeed valuable to us and
society, we must allow re-discover the truth. This is better as shown
below. Watch your child transform.

Part 1:

Xchange has been based on the simple principle of the foundation of our
society. Exchange is the very fabric of our society. People that are not
traded are frowned upon in our society, criminals.

The vast majority of our society works. We must work to contribute to
some form of power and agreed to receive valuable form of exchange:
money.

There is no employer who is willing to give us money for nothing and
there is a shop willing to give us the goods for no money. So to make a
living, we must work first, or find a form of goods or services that
people are willing to exchange money with us. To explain that to a child
or adolescent, we use a specific technique that is effective and
feasible, the simple explanation is generally not sufficient. We do not
want to lecture, but get the child to understand this fundamental
principle

Step 1:

Explain what the means of exchange: you give something for nothing in
return. Make a few examples: The money for groceries, money for holidays,
money for a haircut, the money to play the game station, teaching the
children of teachers and in return receives money, a taxi driver driving
people to their destination ...

Get the child or children to make specific examples on the use of money.
When you feel that they have understood, proceed to next step.

Step 2:

Consider the examples above again and ask the children:

(Get their response and to show that nobody wants to give something for
nothing or for services far wrong /.)
If you paid for a play-station game but it did not work would you want
your money?

If you paid for a haircut but the barber refused to cut your hair, would
not it?

If you want to go to school but the taxi driver drove you to doctors,
would you pay?

If you join a football club, but you did was play cards, do you want your
money?

If mom asked you to clean the dishes and you did not, would it be fair to
ask for more pocket money?

Again bring the child to his own examples.
The important point to understand here is that nobody wants to give money
for nothing, or is an employer willing to pay for work done or not bad
products manufactured.

Step 3:

When the above is clear, you get a large piece of A3 paper is ideal in a
classroom or group settings, ask each child with a large piece of paper
and large pens.

Rotate the paper, the landscape, and draw on the left, halfway down a
side sketch of a person representing the child himself, and on the right
side of paper draw a sketch papa Mom and any other member of this family.

Here then comes the key question to ask:
What dad / mom gives you? When the child responded to draw an arrow from
parent to child and write on top of the arrow.
The question: What do you give your dad / mom?
When the child responded to draw an arrow from itself to the parent and
write the answers below the arrow.



Child / Teen <----------------- food ---------------------------- -------
- Parent

Child / Teen -------------------- cleaning toys --------------------->
Parent

Again, bring it to find as many things as possible. It's a good idea to
provide some answers to the top. Dad gives you a house to live, Mama is
your food .....

NB It may sometimes be preferable to separate Mom and Dad or
fosterparents and make each person
individually.
It is somewhere along the 3rd step it will brighten, smile or show some
awareness of what
happens here. The idea exchange is entered.

NB Generally the children to name go to school and doing well in school
as a contribution to their parents. It is worth stressing that this is
not entirely correct, they go to school for themselves, one day they will
need their education to their lives.

Step 4:

Find ways with him about what he could do to help a little to the family.
Pushing it to contribute actively on a daily or weekly basis.

See the change happens, sometimes the transformation is amazing.

Our parent coaches recommend. We work with parents, teachers and schools
and Social Services Consultant to improve the parenting skills of parents
and assist with their child / adolescent problems. After all, no matter
what happens in the world for our children and future generations deserve
a fair chance.

								
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