Family Parenting, Teenagers: A reason for anti-social and "bad" behavior in children and adolescents is virtually never covered! Could this all stem from this source? On several occasions, we read about parents who are unable to control their children or adolescents or adolescents in general difficult. Frequently, the advice focuses on how to control or cajole children into cooperation. Sometimes children are so difficult to monitor them on anti- depressants can be addictive long life. The subject is not new by any means, but violence or anti-social behavior exhibited appears to be increasing. As a parent coach and parent I come across this quite frequently. Working with parents / carers and professionals in the social services sector, we have developed a program that has strong evidence to make a positive breakthrough, especially when started early, from 7 years. We also found that this is a very useful guide for parents of toddlers or children who are doing well. Xchange program has been partially reproduced below, and we hope it will help any parent who has difficulty. If you need help or have any comments please contact us. The Xchange Program is divided into 2 sections. The following educational programs that can be done at school or at home and can be applied to children of all ages. You may have to vary your explanation in understanding your child or children or simply apply the program's main objective in the daily life of the family. Part 1: Xchange has been based on the simple principle of the foundation of our society. Exchange is the very fabric of our society. People that are not traded are frowned upon in our society, criminals. The vast majority of our society works. We must work to contribute to some form of power and agreed to receive valuable form of exchange: money. There is no employer who is willing to give us money for nothing and there is a shop willing to give us the goods for no money. So to make a living, we must work first, or find a form of goods or services that people are willing to exchange money with us. To explain that to a child or adolescent, we use a specific technique that is effective and feasible, the simple explanation is generally not sufficient. We do not want to lecture, but get the child to understand this fundamental principle. In addition, you may have already observed the babies, toddlers from the age of 1-3, they showed great desire and impatience-ness to help. From doing the laundry, cooking everything they have observed that you do they will try to "copy" to do. Usually there are attempts, sometimes funny, they may get less entertaining when he washes his socks in the toilet. We must allow him to help, always, as is his way of showing us that he wants help or contribute to the household. If we stop a child this age, found its Ness-loan help is gradually reduced and finally, nobody can explain to him why his help is not wanted, it will stop trying to help. He learns to accept that it is not helpful to his mother, father parents. The basic instinct or attitude to contribute and exchange is innate in us all. Mom helps me, I help mom, naturally. So if we return to the idea above exchange, job 4 silver, 4 silver goods we find it starts from day one. He can see from a day to help you grow, it can not wait to help you. In order to re-educate the child and it is indeed valuable to us and society, we must allow re-discover the truth. This is better as shown below. Watch your child transform. Part 1: Xchange has been based on the simple principle of the foundation of our society. Exchange is the very fabric of our society. People that are not traded are frowned upon in our society, criminals. The vast majority of our society works. We must work to contribute to some form of power and agreed to receive valuable form of exchange: money. There is no employer who is willing to give us money for nothing and there is a shop willing to give us the goods for no money. So to make a living, we must work first, or find a form of goods or services that people are willing to exchange money with us. To explain that to a child or adolescent, we use a specific technique that is effective and feasible, the simple explanation is generally not sufficient. We do not want to lecture, but get the child to understand this fundamental principle Step 1: Explain what the means of exchange: you give something for nothing in return. Make a few examples: The money for groceries, money for holidays, money for a haircut, the money to play the game station, teaching the children of teachers and in return receives money, a taxi driver driving people to their destination ... Get the child or children to make specific examples on the use of money. When you feel that they have understood, proceed to next step. Step 2: Consider the examples above again and ask the children: (Get their response and to show that nobody wants to give something for nothing or for services far wrong /.) If you paid for a play-station game but it did not work would you want your money? If you paid for a haircut but the barber refused to cut your hair, would not it? If you want to go to school but the taxi driver drove you to doctors, would you pay? If you join a football club, but you did was play cards, do you want your money? If mom asked you to clean the dishes and you did not, would it be fair to ask for more pocket money? Again bring the child to his own examples. The important point to understand here is that nobody wants to give money for nothing, or is an employer willing to pay for work done or not bad products manufactured. Step 3: When the above is clear, you get a large piece of A3 paper is ideal in a classroom or group settings, ask each child with a large piece of paper and large pens. Rotate the paper, the landscape, and draw on the left, halfway down a side sketch of a person representing the child himself, and on the right side of paper draw a sketch papa Mom and any other member of this family. Here then comes the key question to ask: What dad / mom gives you? When the child responded to draw an arrow from parent to child and write on top of the arrow. The question: What do you give your dad / mom? When the child responded to draw an arrow from itself to the parent and write the answers below the arrow. Child / Teen <----------------- food ---------------------------- ------- - Parent Child / Teen -------------------- cleaning toys ---------------------> Parent Again, bring it to find as many things as possible. It's a good idea to provide some answers to the top. Dad gives you a house to live, Mama is your food ..... NB It may sometimes be preferable to separate Mom and Dad or fosterparents and make each person individually. It is somewhere along the 3rd step it will brighten, smile or show some awareness of what happens here. The idea exchange is entered. NB Generally the children to name go to school and doing well in school as a contribution to their parents. It is worth stressing that this is not entirely correct, they go to school for themselves, one day they will need their education to their lives. Step 4: Find ways with him about what he could do to help a little to the family. Pushing it to contribute actively on a daily or weekly basis. See the change happens, sometimes the transformation is amazing. Our parent coaches recommend. We work with parents, teachers and schools and Social Services Consultant to improve the parenting skills of parents and assist with their child / adolescent problems. After all, no matter what happens in the world for our children and future generations deserve a fair chance.
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