Tips on Surviving Marriage Separation When you've been married to the one you love for months, years or decades - marriage separation can be very, very difficult.Â This is especially true if you didn't seek the marriage separation.Â There is a whole spectrum of feelings that you can experience - from grief and shock to confusion, anger, pain and sadness.Â Marriage separation is just plain hard, but you can get through it.Â Here are some tips on surviving marriage separation.Â Â Use the Time to ReflectÂ Â A marriage separation does not mean the end of your marriage.Â It can be a great time to reflect on the relationship and where the problems started.Â Although there may have been many, many different arguments and disagreements, is there a central time or event that the problems came from?Â By identifying the root problems in the relationship, you can help repair the damage that has been done and prevent the same problems from happening again.Â Â Step into Your Spouse's ShoesÂ Â Â Another thing that can really help you figure out how to fix your marriage is stepping into your spouse's shoes.Â Think about the things that bother your spouse and why?Â What are some of the things you do that upsets or hurts your spouse?Â Be empathetic and try to realize why they are upset by these things and what you can do to fix it.Â Remember this later when you get the chance to speak with them so you can explain that you've been thinking and what you plan on doing about those same things.Â This will make your spouse realize that you really do care and that you want to make things better.Â Â Create a Plan of ActionÂ Â The next thing you can do to survive your marriage separation is create a plan of action.Â Based on the reflecting and thinking you've already been doing, what can you do to save your marriage?Â You may have discovered that the problems began because the two of you have a problem communicating.Â So, you would need to create a plan to help the two of you communicate better and more effectively.Â You may have discovered things about yourself that could be improved - then you will want to create a plan to deal with those things.Â Think about the different things you can do to save your marriage, whether it's goals and following through or marriage counseling.Â Again, remember these things so that you can discuss them when you're able to speak with your spouse.Â When you do discuss things with your spouse, don't make ultimatums.Â Simply describe to them the things you've been thinking about and reflecting on and see what they think about it all.Â Chances are they've had some time to reflect themselves and may have some important points to make as far as saving the marriage.Â Â When you take the marriage separation as a time to reflect and work out the different problems that caused the marriage to come to this point - you can effectively work to fix those problems.Â By following the advice and tips in this article, you can create a marriage saving plan and work to build back the health, happiness and strength of your marriage. Divorce is life-changing and difficult processes so don't go through it alone. Get the help you need so that you can heal your pain and control your destiny. Visit http://www.xstilla.com, a new divorce support site for people just like you. Read our informative articles or communicate with other members via our interactive forum. Get the online divorce support help you need now.