Love by primusboy


									Love, Liking and Attraction
Have you heard or read stuff about, how to tell if someone likes ya? I
believe many of us do, and of course we're all curious to know what are
the signs and behaviors that others display when they are attracted to
The keyword here is ATTRACTED.
You see, I kinda get amused when I see so many places giving a list of
the things that are supposed to tell you what to look for when someone is
interested in you. Well first of all, only some of the things stated are
actual signs that show someone is attracted to you. Those are the signs
that cut straight to the core and tell that he or she is undoubtedly
attracted to you. The rest of the signs are... well, they only show that
they like you. That's all.
When people like you, it doesn't always mean that they are interested in
you. When they are interested in you, they don't always show that they
like you. In fact, in many cases, they may even behave as though they
don't like you!
Well anyway, the idea that I had in mind for this post is to write about
love, liking and attraction. I'll talk about love first.There are
different types of love. Yes we all know about the greek words of the
four major types of love. Agape (Spiritual and sacrificial love), Phileo
(Friendship and Kindness Love), Eros (Romantic and Sexual Love) and
Storge (Kinship and Familial Love).
But when I'm talking about love, I will ask what is the type, the level,
the intensity and the depth of the love? Those are the four factors that
defines it.
There are different types of love. You can love someone as a friend, you
can love someone as a cousin/sister/brother. You can love someone with
the love of the lord. You can love someone as a superstar you adore. You
can love someone as the love of your life.
There are different levels of love. How much agape is present in that
love? Agape varies in different amounts. To what extent do you have the
person's best interest at heart. To what extent do you naturally consider
their needs without first being conscious of yours? How much care do you
have for them?
There are different intensities of love. The amount of passion, the
amount of fire and the amount of energy that you have in your love for
that person determines the intensity of that love. How much force is
there, how much power and how much focus? Is it like a flood of warm
sunlight shining on that person or is it like a laser beam completely
targeted and burning ferociously with such intensity and fire?
There are different depths of love. How deep does that love go? Is it so
deeply in rooted layers within layers that it's almost next to impossible
to remove? Can it come one moment and go the next, or will it remain
forever even to the very ends of time and space?
About liking and attraction. There is a difference between liking someone
and being attracted to someone. There is a difference between loving and
being in love. There is a difference between affection and attraction.
There is a difference between compassionate love and passionate love.
So what is the difference that makes the difference, for all the above?
It is simply this:
You can find yourself attracted to a number of people but you can only be
in love with one. You can love many people, but you can only be in love
with one. Why is that so? Because there's only room for person in your
heart at any one time. If there are two, it means one is the real one and
the other is not. Or else for one to come, the other must go. It's THE
special place of your heart. Heart of hearts or heart within hearts.
Secret heart.
I hope you don't misunderstand me here. It's the special place for a
relationship with a love partner or soulmate, although there are many
special places for other kinds of love as well, even God's love in your
secret heart.
There is a DIFFERENCE between LOVING and being IN LOVE. Being IN LOVE is
a different KIND OF LOVE. It is the KIND OF LOVE meant for MARRIAGE, THE
ONE and ONLY. That is God's design. That is why everyone desires THE ONE.
You can LOVE MANY but you can only be IN LOVE with ONE.
As for love itself, you can't say really say one kind of love is better
than another. Sometimes a love that loves too much and loves too deeply
can hurt so much. Sometimes it's better to love with a carefee kind of
love because it can't really be hurt too much. Both kinds of love are
real but different.
They say never love a love that hurts. And never hurt a love that loves.
But you will always hurt a love that loves somehow in some way, but it
will continue loving because it is a love that loves. And when you truly
love a person a lot, it can hurt because you do not just desire for the
person but you desire the person as well.
And you'd also choose someone who not only loves you but also wants you,
wouldn't you? Don't just marry someone you can live with, marry someone
you can't live without.
But don't be someone who is needy and insecure. Be someone who is
powerful, complete and whole. That in itself is attractive.
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what governs every area of life and destiny. Enoch Tan has a personal
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