To daughter --- How do we grow up (Zhuantie) ?Links in this article the reason why is because I have a 8-year-old daughter, she is growing up day by day, it is tender with her curious eyes in the observation and imitation of the world. Whenever I see her translucent dark eyes, I have deep concern and fear, fear that such a society will pollute the purity of color, even this fear deep into my dream, And I have no choice, or helpless. The future, only hope that society can treat a child With good will, let them be happy childhood. I hope my children a healthy personality, natural and easy, good value, also the social harm is not dirty, like. ? Wang has recently been feeling unwell, more and more white hair, and lethargic. Often dream of the recent death of a dream, but today open the computer, michael jackson's death came. This is my memory of this generation of youth who, from Leslie to michael, one fading trace of vitality. They go back to heaven is not the age of large, somewhere seems to be fate. I am a pessimistic person, Kande Tou death, no fear of their own, but worry about her daughter. Daughter is only four years old, needs a father and mother grew up with her. In the first half to buy a huge life insurance, I was never superstitious, but if I passed away, at least support her mother took her to the adults. However, such a miserable state morals and human life as the dark, if the Pharaoh died young, how to learn how to get her to the principles and techniques. The Internet is a great invention of mankind, and if humans do not die, the Internet can not disappear. Daughter, I wrote in this virtual space, if your father can support the adult day we will grow together, to explore how to grow up in this world. If, unfortunately my father died young, and her mother tell your father and your expectations of this world experience. Section I, snobbery and apathy Dad I remember last time you told her mother what the kindergarten teacher scolded some of the children wearing bad, give the children something more tape posted on the mouth. This is your first lesson in life need to know: snobbery and apathy Dad had to give you find a good environment, the replacement of three kindergartens, charges only 600 yuan from the ordinary kindergarten to charge 2,000 yuan a private kindergarten. Dad is not found the ideal one. I can understand that each have such a kindergarten teacher and things there, I know you're a clever girl, will not trouble the teacher, so I do not worry you were the teacher punished. But I worry that you were discriminated against teachers. So I'll buy you a lot of expensive clothes, my father scolded last grandmother, a foot-long T-shirt actually be more than two hundred yuan, I know you heard. However, my daughter, I know that this thing will give you a snob spiritual harm. I do not want you to grow up with such a desperate pursuit of material injury, but the spirit of the pursuit of those well-off boys incomplete. So, dad to buy you these things. But one day if you can understand that brand-name clothes are not able to bring happiness, if you are smart enough and temperament, you can use ordinary clothes with out your beauty. I am not able to educate you about now, because you can not bear the eyes of adults and snobbish. Those cold, those adults make of children's cold naughty things, and my father to give you change in an environment. Dad has come to understand, this land all the kindergartens in this category are likely to enrich the adults, so my father decided to give up here, had walked into the cause of, to another piece of land, but the adults I know it would be This will not give children cold. Dad I hope you will understand that people can choose their own lives, choices and their lives were. This is one thing about snobbery in your lifetime, you will encounter. You will encounter different people and things. China and you will encounter no right to have the right to discriminate against people who discriminate against the poor rich, poor, poor discrimination, discrimination against the civilian elite, Shanghai and Beijing discrimination against outsiders, outsiders discrimination against rural people, rural people discriminate against Montagnards, the mountain people discrimination Montagnards. In other countries, you will meet people of color discrimination whites, blacks discriminate against whites, yellow yellow race discrimination, discrimination against Chinese, the Chinese people. For these things, you, as a yellow, as the descendants of a non-elite, as the descendants of a small businessman, as an intellectual offspring; First, do not discriminate against yourself, because you are in this world God has given parents the best gift is the mind and life and other kinds of people who are equal; second, absolutely not to discriminate against others, because you do not have this power, this pride is not the middle of the evolution of the human mammal behavior. Daughter, you know, when I know you will be confident in the future life of the world, freedom and healthy living, and those wise people who have values, peers, understand the beauty of the world is the freedom and dignity, then this life is father, an achievement most proud of. So, when you come into contact with those snobbish people, we must narrow the mind away from these people, do not belong to these groups themselves. Snob will not give you the feeling of happiness will only bring you an instant feeling of vanity, this feeling can lead you into a path of freedom, so that material and vanity slavery your life, your life will not be free . The snobbery from money and power. This thing is a medium of money, that is, do you shake the car into the machine where the coins are in the supermarket to buy chocolate that note. But it is not your pride. You can get this thing to work for your living expenses so that you move around in the world more free, but it can not determine your fate, can not give you pride. Right this thing is evil, despite some people called to give the right thing, but this power is given, and to serve us. Rights holders who are not worthy of our admiration. So, my daughter, you should know right after the adult is not worthy of respect and admiration. Therefore, rights-based snobbery is shameful. If you can understand, my daughter, you will have the obligation and every free man to restrain the power of it and hold it does not harm human freedom and human interests. Dad sleep late tonight, but not as a few days before that draft to the two points in time, but do something you love to do: father songs, listening to michael jackson's classic songs. Dad saw you writhing in listening to music when dancing, and your mom could not help but smile. Reminds me of my youth, like the singer and song, that is the soul of music and songs were trembling. At that time, we enjoy the music be your grandfather, and teachers to stop, I can not understand your grandfather and my teacher, and now I do not understand, but I forgive them. Because they grow up to become archaic, lost the curiosity and excitement about life. So, if you like what kind of music and singers, even if Dad did not understand do not understand, it will not interfere with you, this is your happiness and freedom. If the father did not succeed in taking you to another piece of land, then the father, and your teacher will be to negotiate, let them interfere in your preferences. If teachers can not convince, we replace the school, and even to give up such schools. I had thought to leave your current kindergarten, but I think another problem, you need communication, you need a child with the environment. And your classmates with a lot of word recognition game calculate how much better than digital. So, Dad promised you that we will find a free environment for you to grow up in nature. Dad with the nature of this life, or, read the article did not permissive, but you can read, right? Section II, the real world Father and mother to interact with you as much as possible the real words, do not lie to you, do not coax you. Although only four years old I know you have to understand many things. Mom and Dad are your friends, we never see you as a child, but as an individual. But from the start you reading, you will be exposed lies. School teachers and those books, there are many lies there. I think you understand that these teachers used to lie for various reasons and to establish their own teacher authority. Among them there are a few traditional idealistic teacher, teaching, but most have been contaminated mind, accustomed to materialism and lies. You are an independent person, do not need to look up to see their position, they say to be good at identifying. We will keep moving up to the real society and see the world in what way in the operation. But if you live in the country, if you accept this rhetoric father, is likely to be treated as aliens, hurt, confused. So, if we can not go out, you should learn to camouflage their own school. Or we can talk like that, like stay in their own home and study author. The real world is the freedom of a person can choose, but not everyone wants to know the real you. Dad is a stupid person, after a three-year-old, did not realize how the real world is like. I'll take you to the zoo last week and her mother watching the animals, you see their Daisha it? Because they are domesticated, raised the water in those fake rockery. And we will not enter this circle. My child, you know a person's life, no matter how cruel, how painful, how the winds and twists and turns, by your choice, no one can call the shots for you, whether father, mother, teacher, or what asshole, no people have that right. Dad can do is to tell you this right to freedom in your hands, is given to, no one can take away. Daughter, talking about human nature, you will read about in the Three Character Classic, a man's nature is good. The father's understanding, the world's men are born evil. Everyone is selfish and greedy, and only in a society can be rich, people are free and independent, sound and impartial legal, evil have checks and balances, this time to be able to gradually meet the requirements of good. Confucian culture, but why this idea? Confucius They lost because the other way, to restrain the evil of human nature. The Chinese are a group of lawless mob, the Chinese society has always been a lack of faith in secular society? Do you know what her daughter secular society? The meaning of secular society is that people just busy with selfishness, greed, material, vanity, snobbery, insignificant these things. Confucian culture had to rely on two things to bind people's ugly, first, the history of the Qing were to stay, because the influence of Chinese culture by intellectuals and literati decay more cruel and greedy. Only the so-called history of the Qing were left to be able to bind them to their vanity to be a person of integrity; Second, the good people at the beginning of spiritual support, constraints, ordinary Chinese people can maintain this kind of concept, to restrain evil behavior. When a person do bad things, they will be able to bind to the reputation of such unconscionable behavior of the wicked. However, his daughter, the society, both have lost effect spells. Grew up in the process you must be careful, especially Chinese. The haunt of the Chinese people must pay attention to, whether you're at home or abroad. I do not advocate but not against you to believe in religion, faith makes the heart pure, but my father has been impossible to believe any religion, because I do not feel the existence of any ghost. Section III, on those issues of faith All beliefs are derived from fear. Daughter, father, when you were born, the business frustrated, always a bad mood. Once mother and speculators, were you hear, I see you leaning against the door on the fear of eyes. Since then, my parents will not fight in front of your face. Each individual seeks to rely on your grandmother often said: I have Mom and Dad, you do not have parents. Break up with somebody, pride sweet. Grandparents also had father and mother, but were easily old, died vicissitudes of life, people will die. When people began to realize that death, I began to fear, fear that an unknown future. Those who are good at inciting the people, the spirit of a powerful man, trying to be saved from the human body and control of the whole human person, people began to use religion to create fear and call it faith. Daughter, if your mental strength is strong enough, you do not believe that the world has never been superstitious. People do not need to rely on the afterlife to save his own soul, and all salvation in this life to complete. And this life is the only life you treasure in this life, the end of free and independent life, the most demand and enjoy the beauty of this world, to explore the mind and wisdom to keep the curiosity of the world, love to love you and enjoy your sex life will make you successful and happy. Those so-called fair, the so-called nation first, the so-called spreading the wealth around and sacrifice their worldly possessions for a number of free and independent, and even sacrifice your life and health are all nonsense. What if some people say these words to you, which ones as Christ-like face with a mask of noble who said these words to you, my daughter, you have to stay away from, stay away from these evil people and things! There will be many people to believe that, because they are weak, need a sense of security, the need for a group, can offer some people tied to the middle of the memorial table, beheaded and spraying precious life and freedom. All evil comes from faith, all faiths from the fear, the fear from all the weak, weak from all the evil in human nature, greed, and doing nothing! ?Daughter, you realize that the father of the conflict? Dad did not believe in nature spirits and religion, but the world needs to let some of the spirits of the evil heart of hearts feel fear; but also makes people more evil and those beliefs. Who were driven people, people ready to sacrifice, suicide or murder, and others who end by and do not respect themselves and other people's lives, can you believe led them to the community to a better stage? History of all violent revolution, never in history and a better, only worse, as a reincarnation, never emerge! Dad too far, and these are you can learn things, but not too seriously. I would rather you love Travel, go around the world enjoy the exotic scenery; I would rather understand you find your heart, intellect and soul can communicate with the boys, spend a better life. Here, about love and marriage, to say something? Section IV, the things about love Daughter, I have experienced days of youth, so I know a teenager you may start Qingdouchukai on which person, how do you deal with this? With her mom and dad will accompany date to see the boy in the distance is not trustworthy, good old days at youth in love with you a taste of sweet. Daughter, you want to know the results? Girls do not love most of the results, it is just a journey, but a better pure, no impurities. I do not agree you are a teenager having sex, because your body has not developed well; but if you are over eighteen years of age, if you decide to enjoy sex with her boyfriend, and my father did not oppose and constraints, just to give you recommendations pay attention to safety. If not psychologically prepared to deal with the difficult things, and when the weight of marriage, pregnancy and abortion are the most harm to the girl thing. Many boys have only vanity, showing off their sexuality, but not know how to care girlfriend, definitely have to identify and stay away from these superficial boy. In a number of emotional experience, you will encounter a person, you are willing to spend entrusted himself and his life; but perhaps, your life can not meet the right person, this is no regret. Because you are a complete person, not Adam's rib. Even if you entered the marriage hall, to maintain their independence and personal integrity, and is the only right thing to do. The marriage is not forever. But if you can weather life, the stubbornly persists for the rest of this life, this is a fortunate thing. Indeed, life is pain, and sometimes takes two spent together. ?Recently I saw some news story about a primary school teacher in northern ask for gifts to the children, and children of a poor family Hengmeilengdui things. Dad shudder. Daughter, you have to remember that this is not what we want teachers and education, they can not give you anything of value. If one day the teacher do this to you, you have to tell Mom and Dad, we immediately transfer or drop out. I heard there is a suburb in Shanghai, Meng Mu Tang, although I am not very deep feelings of Confucianism, but look at their attitudes towards teaching and educating more traditional sake, we either abroad or to a similar school to study Meng Mu Tang . Legally speaking, the Department of Education have the right to mom and dad take you to the regular school, but my father years after the business time, it is to understand how to treat the law. Chinese tradition is not the right to decide the law, but there is unreasonable non-compliance with the traditional laws and rules. But if we are abroad, you have to learn to respect rules and laws, but also respect the right to have the election law. This is a different world, a different approach.