Three Ways Automatic Thinking Fuels Anger

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One thing an anger management class should help you to understand is that we all use mental
shortcuts that oftentimes are very helpful, but sometimes end up fooling us into
misunderstanding a situation and getting angry because of it.

What do I mean by mental shortcut? Well, if you really had to think through every single thing
that happened to you it wouldn’t take very much for your brain to go into overload. So, Mother
Nature has provided humans with the ability to use a sort of automatic processing that helps to
cut down on the amount of brain power needed to understand everything that is going on around
us.

Mental shortcuts are so natural that most people aren’t even aware when they are happening.
When taking an anger management class most people have an “a-ha” moment when these
shortcuts are explained to them and instantly recognize that they do indeed use them themselves
and they have caused them to become angry.

The first thing to understand is that everything that almost everything you experience goes
through an evaluation process that looks a bit like this:

Trigger leads to Shortcut leads to Reaction

Scientific research has identified a dozen or so shortcuts that people use. Most of us have two or
three that we use more often than others. Dealing with shortcuts is actually very easy and, once
you become aware of yours it takes about five minutes of practice a day for 8 weeks or so to stop
using them.

Anger management classes teach how to avoid shortcuts in three steps. Step number one is to
become aware of what your shortcuts are. A couple of the most frequently used shortcuts are
described below. Step two is to come up with different questions that challenge the automatic
thought. Step three is to remind yourself several times a day of the shortcuts you use and what
questions you should use to challenge them.

If you practice this anger management technique you will be surprised at how easily you begin
to catch yourself going to the mental shortcuts and how quickly you can begin to think of things
in a different light. With practice, you will literally begin to see a difference within a week or so.

Lets take a quick look at three of the most common shortcuts that I’ve seen in my anger
management classes:

1) The Negative Telescope is when you could have a ninety nine good things happen to you but
you focus in on the one thing that didn’t go the way you wanted it to. Sadly, this happens a lot
with couples in long term relationships and is often the cause of many fights.

2) The psychic is when you think you know what someone is thinking or what his/her intentions
were without you being told by him/her. You just assume that you know where a person is
coming from. This is also frequently seen in couples. The funny thing is sometimes the longer
you know someone the less you really know them because you are constantly reading their mind
instead of talking to them about what’s really going on.

3) Shoulds are when you think something or someone “should” be a certain way or there is
something wrong. How many times have gotten angry and thought to yourself: “I wouldn’t get
mad if s/he would do it my way”? Even though the word should is not used the implication is
that there is only one way to do something and any other way is wrong or upsetting.

Learning and changing your automatic thinking can very quickly help you with an anger
management problem.

To learn what the other shortcuts that cause anger problems are and how you can begin to change
them you should check out more on my Court Ordered Anger Management. Lots of good stuff
here!

Dr. Joe James is a psychologist who has taught anger management classes for over fifteen years.
He is the developer and owner of several internet based anger management classes.

				
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Description: One thing an anger management class should help you to understand is that we all use mental shortcuts that oftentimes are very helpful, but sometimes end up fooling us into misunderstanding a situation and getting angry because of it. This article identifies three of the most commonly used mental shortcuts that contribute to anger problems.