Checklist Important Phone Numbers If you are going to leave, try to take as many of these things with you Friends: as possible: ________________________ ❏ Change of clothes ❏ ID/Drivers license ________________________ Relatives: SAFETY ❏ Family passports ❏ Green cards or visas ________________________ ________________________ PLAN ❏ Family birth certificates ❏ Money/credit cards ❏ Bank books ❏ House and car keys ❏ Medications ❏ Address book ❏ Photographs ❏ Medical and immunization records ❏ Social Security Card ❏ Welfare ID ❏ School records ❏ Marriage certificates ❏ Child’s toys ❏ Letters addressed to you and your spouse This publication was adapted from publications by the Dallas County District Attorney's Office. It was produced by IRCO with funds provided by Multnomah County ❏ Other: ____________ Department of Community and Family Services in Portland, Oregon. English Rev. 4/01 You can choose to leave or to Preparing to leave Safety at home and work stay with an abusive person. It is your choice, and your choice alone. • Plan where you will go if you leave • Change the locks on your doors. Here are some suggestions to help you, home, including a safe place you Secure all windows. whatever decision you make. can go to in an emergency. • Discuss a safety plan with your • Have a bag ready with clothes, children. Incident money, and important papers. Keep • Tell your child’s school, day care, it in a secret place ready if you need etc. who has permission to pick up • If there is a fight, try to be in a to leave quickly. your child. room with an exit and not in the • Think of ways to increase your • Tell neighbors and your landlord that bathroom, kitchen, or near independence (learn English, get a your partner no longer lives with you weapons. job, open a bank account in your and they should call the police if they • Practice how to get out of your name). see him near your home. • Keep phone numbers and some • Think of ways to stay safe if the home safely. Which doors, money with you for emergencies. police do not come right away. windows, elevator, or stairs would • Plan leaving very carefully. • Think of a safety plan for when you be best? Leaving your batterer is the most go to work or go shopping. What • Tell a neighbor to watch for signs dangerous time. would you do if you saw your of violence and ask them to call the batterer when you were out? police. Children’s Safety Plan • Consider getting a Restraining Order. • Have a code word to use with your A Restraining Order is a piece of children, family, and friends to let Teach your children: paper from the court telling the them know you need the police. person abusing you to stop or to have ✔ that the violence is not their fault no contact with you, and telling the Emotional Health ✔ how to stay out of the fight police to arrest the person if they ✔ how to call the police violate the Restraining Order. • Find someone you can talk to freely ✔ where to hide safely in the house • Keep your Restraining Order with and openly to give you the support (for example under the bed or in the you all the time. Call the police if you need. closet) your partner breaks the Restraining • Find someone to talk to who knows ✔ how to get out of your home safely Order. about domestic violence resources. ✔ which neighbor or relative to go to • If you have to talk to your partner, for help think of the safest way to do this. Remember: you don’t deserve ✔ that they have a right to be safe • If you are thinking of going back to to be hit or threatened. your partner, talk to someone about your options.