Li Zaixun

							Li Zaixun

Li Zaixun Counselor Change Your World
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                            Wen / Yan Jing Source: Beijing Youth Daily
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Most people know Lizi Xun, I am afraid all night by a CCTV program
"psychological interview." He wears go ld wire screen in glasses,
a dark suit, dark hair pattern silk into chaos, the image is quite refined. Colored face
struggling visitors, he slightly Sichuan accent, tone soft, Promises.
Screen under the Sino-Japanese Friendship Hospital Li Zaixun psycholo gical Division
Director, in psychotherapy for 15 years. Today, the rising ratings made him a Hospital
"star," Doctor, psychological clinics are overcrowded week,
hanging on the number of people without phones ringing off the hook ... almost ...
In fact, several years ago, Li Zaixun became radio and television programs over
specially invited expert psychological profile for a range of health fashion magazines
write articles, and published more than answers to psychological problems of the
album.
So, this mental illness for the crowd of people to solve is how to enter this field, then
what about the role of counselor do?

■ training, he thought that a girl was mistakenly sent to a mental hospital, did not
expect after listening to the head doctor, smiling, had a split personality disorder that
is

A medical student, each acquired a disease on its own has the disease was highly
suspected. Study of tuberculosis, he was not the lungs, learn hepatitis, the liver and
strongly feel pain, and even eyes appeared yellow spot.
That year, West China Medical University in the classroom, a professor of psychiatry
students described above to this interesting. Professors tend to explain this is neurosis,
caused by the highly sensitive. This incident led to Li Zixun on the initial interest in
psychology.
A person under psychological, to construct some kind of symptoms, and in the flesh to
truly experience this symptom, which he then said of Li Zixun Gandao fantastic.
Suggesting creation of symptoms, as his early understanding of psychology. Later,
went to psychiatric practice, a girl suffering from split personality disorder who shot
him demonstrate the psychological mystery is so complex and complicated world ---
"The girl told us that her stepmother suffered persecution, it was off to a
mental hospital to. She took out his diary to us, which records how to play her
stepmother. Illegible handwriting of different levels, with the ink color not the same.
We fully believe her, because she is very normal contact with us, and often holding a
Big English learning opportunities. "
Practice team members that found a miscarriage of justice, immediately report to Dr.
Xiang Shangji. Did not expect after listening to the head doctor laughed and to ld them
from being cheated, and also allow them to carry out home visits.
"Completely inconsistent with the actual situation, all girls imaginary.
Diary is made out of her, she is still working out his arm to hurt India. But she feels
that her hypothesis, people tell Shihai to cry, to completely themselves as being
persecuted in that imaginary girl. "
When Li Zixun know girls are not interested in deceiving them, but the division in the
dual personality, his inner world of the people had a strong interest. But in the early
80s of last century, the few books on psychology, textbooks only on the content of
neurosis.
"I always like to study the inner activities, often strangers passing around a
great curiosity to know what their kind of story behind it. Therefore, in the rural
decentralization and time college student, I wrote a lot of Prose and fiction.
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Nevertheless, the graduation Lizi Xun did not apply to psychiatric. Gentle character,
he does not like to psychiatrists who feel that they are more casual, white lab coat,
often do not buckle, so when the case study on smoking, but also his feet on the desk.
More important is that the mental hospital is not enough humanity, high walls and
barbed wire everywhere, doctors often involves violence, especially when the onset of
mania when the patient must be forceful in its under control. These are for Li Zaixun
unacceptable.

■ with the department of women doctors choose drugs he mentioned poison, make
him regret forever

After graduation, Li Zaixun allocated from Chengdu to Beijing, to enter the Chinese
Academy of Medical Sciences Cancer Hospital, and later transferred to the
Sino-Japanese Friendship Hospital. In the Sino-Japanese Friendship Hospital in
clinical doctors, female doctor with the department's suicide gave him a
great touch, and to promote clinical psychology, he began to get involved.
"The female doctor was 25 years old, and her boyfriend to propose to her
after the break up the United States. Our desk next to, she always asked me, Dr Lee
why he broke up with me? Old haunt her for some time We speak a few male doctors,
and we avoided to avoid arousing suspicion on her old. In fact, she suffered from
severe depression, with suicidal tendencies, implore the fact that we speak to release
the pressure, but none of us do not realize. "
Let Li Zixun more repentant that female doctors have asked him about what taking
drugs can cause death, and her choice of poison is just that when his mention
medicines.
This year, the hospital's doctors and nurses to four people committed
suicide, so that the hospital was very surprised. At the same time, the Ministry of
Health asked all hospitals to open mental patient, Li Zixun that the news and actively
seek to training opportunities, go to Peking University School of Medicine 6 studies
psychology and eventually became a doctor of psychological subjects only.

Hospital choice Lizi Xun is not without reason, though when he was just a small
hospital doctor, but patients are getting along very well, won the trust. Had a neurotic
female patients compared to the courtyard of the many doctors feel a headache, once
doctors have changed her attitude, she felt that his condition has worsened. In the face
of moderation and patience Lizi Xun, female patients feel that their condition
improved day by day, in order to express gratitude, praise him to write around it.
Li Zixun that is not how brilliant his medical skills, but the innate ability of empathy
is better to identify with the suffering of others.
"Man's body has self- healing ability, good doctors can stimulate
this ability attitude. If a patient received a doctor, trust him, and disease will be a good
fast, these phenomena are all areas of psychology."
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  ■ psychologist should not play a saving role of love or charity

However, the early 90s of last century, most peop le are also very familiar with
counselors, even had a mental illness can not think of going for medical treatment, so
the psychological Branch Opening Li Zaixun little after the patient, the hospital to
subsidize him let him cater to healthy people.
Many of the same hospital doctors work very supportive Lizi Xun, if ward patients of
emotional problems and sent him to the consultation. "I was not a real
psychologist, is to understand some psychological knowledge, to some psychological
counseling, more or rely on the use of antidepressant drugs."
At the time of the treatment process, "physician-patient
relationship" model is still relatively strong, from the United States
Professor Zeng Wenxing training classes, let Li Zixun get a new understanding.
"A disabled boy because of the hand had a strong sense of inferiority, as
well as obsessive-compulsive disorder and social phobia. I gave him several weeks of
treatment did not reduce, has taught only talked to him once, he has shown a
significant change, the first lift, and talk too loudly. "
Boy told Lizi Xun, he and Dr. Zeng's remarks did not mention the
inferiority complex issue that has approachable and empathetic doctors made him feel
safe. Through this relationship of mutual respect and trust, he obtained his mental
ability to solve problems.
Li Zixun realized that, psychologists, counselors or if playing a rescue charity caring
for people, it would put people who visit the location of mercy, rather than up from
the level of human understanding of each other and accept each other. This has
inspired his career in the future, Li Zixun also "plain, honest,
modest," as his own consulting style, demands that they are not posturing,
not to play the authority, but pay attention and visitors to establish an effective
therapeutic relationship.
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■ "You get this disease very well, I suggest you continue to have to
go" --- this therapy when people know nothing

Engaged in psychotherapy for 16 years, despite the accepted cognitive behavior
therapy (hypnosis training), analytical psychotherapy, systemic family therapy and a
series of professional training, Li Zixun Quedui fond of systemic family therapy, has
been pushing parent-child relationships, marriage issues exploration and research,
evaluation insiders was the best one of the family therapist. On Li Zaixun, this all
stems from the first German senior psychotherapist training programs, a German
psychologist as he opened up a whole new world of psychology.
"80's last century, a German woman named Ma Jiali doctors to
come to China, cross-cultural study of Chinese people and the psychological
differences between the Germans. Read Chinese for a year, she prepared a mental
hospital in China to practice, but Almost all of the mental hospital refused her. Ma
Jiali is dedicated to find a lot of places, and finally in Kunming to see the status of
mental patients in China. She felt that China should have a group of their own
counselors, with a more humane approach to mental patients. returned to Germany
after the Ma Jiali, initiated a fund-raising activities, initiatives concern the field of
mental illness in China, and established the German Institute for Psychological
treatment for China to cultivate a group of doctors involved in psychological
treatment. Meanwhile, she also organized a large number of German teachers to teach
in China free of training. "

In 1997, Li Zixun attended the first Sino-German senior therapist training program, a
system of family therapy group of students. In the three years of training in
psychology expert from Germany to bring Li Zixun advanced, ahead of the
psychological theory.
"Counselors help the clients the results, sometimes could cause problems
are curable, and chronic. Because once the doctors assumed that a vision for the party,
he will go to achieve their own assumptions, then the party just as tied to the chariot
on and had to move along the Yi Sheng assumptions. Zixun division due to mental
assumption of yes an ideal state, Zai Dang Shiren real benefit in Bingbuyiding right,
so the parties Fanerchengwei accompany counselors Shixian ideal victim. "

In order to prevent the paradox created, the German system the family therapist
developed perturbation theory, should not force the parties how to do it but with the
constant flow of clients for emotional disturbance. However, ten years ago, people do
not fully understand such thinking.
"Systemic family therapist, Dr. Simon held in Hangzhou, the first session
of family therapy seminar, he gave the example of their treatment. A child afflicted
with certain mental illnesses, he said the child, you are the sick well, change your
family situation, I suggest you continue to have to go. Chinese people satisfied that he
will not only feel sympathy for a sick child, but to encourage children not to cure. In
fact, this is the reverse perturbation theory, an advanced treatment technology But
then people know nothing. "
Now, this may seem ridiculous reverse perturbation technique is often applied to the
treatment process Lizi Xun. Under the guidance of a teacher in Germany, he gave up
on hypnosis and interest in sexology, threw himself into the world of psychology.
Drawing on the theory of the essence, he felt as if overnight, become a master.

■ If a person's comprehension was good enough, then look at a life- long
benefits counselor

Li Zixun love their career, 10 years his weekly reception in his consulting room in all
kinds of families, well aware of the problems of troubled families. Children suffering
from social phobia or obsessive-compulsive disorder, unable to attend school
regularly; adolescent children and their parents appear hostile, or even to show violent
tendencies; parents over-control to children's naive of personality
development, reliance by nature ... ... parents often come to the clinic will encounter
this problem, after many years of exploration and accumulation of Li Zixun from the
tried and tested solution.

He has to be a boy suffering from obsessive-compulsive disorder treatment, doctors
did not repeat the other common symptoms of obsessive-compulsive disorder and
taken to fight the way, but to his family and the boy to see the benefits of the
symptoms, or even ask their parents to the son of learning &quo t;to do things
organized "in one month not to him as patients. A month later, the
boy's symptoms reduced, anxiety is also completely eliminated.
Of violence towards children, because their defense is always aware of a high, even
before being pulled counselors refused to meet, Li Zixun first change is their parents.
His parents are aware of their past educational methods, although correct, but valid,
must be flexible, can cause children to take positive and effective behavior change.
"For example her son every day in the net bar, parents can not prevent his
behavior, but be concerned about his physical. My mother prepare for her son in a
plastic bag placed inside the change, water, biscuits and even a towel, toothbrush, and
then write a note. son carrying the bag to the Internet cafe, his footsteps will be
getting heavy. The passing out bags of information parents concerned about his son.
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As for those dependent too strong for children, Li Zixun Fandao that attachment to
mother a child so much as it is attached to the child in the mother, the mother should
first hand over the rights, children can make decisions independently.
Li Zixun that psychological problems are primarily in dealing with issues, into a rigid
way of thinking. Good counselor will make a sudden change in the visiting
party's view of the world, learning to observe a more effective way and
solve problems, and in this way to apply to life.
"A person's comprehension was good enough, then look at a
life- long benefit counselors. Counselors to help you see a problem from different
sides of various aspects of learned the technology, then experienced the conflict, and
you will see another point of view or inverted the look, the natural heart problems
solved. "

■ psychologist members of support groups for him to do analysis, pointed out the
relationship between father and son the negative impact on his career

Psychologist is not a savior, as have emotions. Only when they look at the same time
as the parties, as well as an eye in the alert to observe myself.
"If the parties to a painful counselors there, he would be the other excited,
and he is suffering. Therefore, counselors should be kept to self-experience, testing
their own problems, out of their pain, so that their more open view to see the problem.
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First entered the field of psychology, the Li Zaixun and colleagues around them to
establish a self- help groups, self-experience and mutual supervision, to help their
mental capacity to grow. In support groups, the Li Zaixun share his father's
relationship with the change.
"My father was a high degree of order and rules of the pursuit of people
and I slack, the two once the conflict much like strangers in the home. Until the 16th
years old, I went to the farm Ji delegated the father to send winter clothes to see his
old look, my heart felt a sudden pain. That aside your traditional moves he suddenly
told me that a lot of intimate. He said to me strictly because of fear that I ask for
trouble, if I trouble, his inability to protect me ... ... "
Li Zaixun first felt his father's demanding the following hiding with a
beloved children's hearts. Since then, his genuine respect from the heart
and understanding of his father, father and son relationship into a dispute by the
differences in the coexistence of complementary. Until now, what his father said he
listened carefully, even if he does not agree, and sometimes "play the
fool."
Members of the Panel raised to Lizi Xun, the father's guilt so that he knew
people who become like his father, the surface easy to close, in fact, maintained a
distance relationships in the face of different views doe s not endorse, nor to dispute .
These are obstacles in the course of his consultation with the parties to the
establishment of deep therapeutic relationship. The same time, childhood attachment
to mother, to the exclusion of his father, he was in front of female visitors easy access
to a sense of security, sometimes unconsciously reveal intimate feelings, although this
contributes to a good therapeutic relationship, but in the separation phase of his
treatment may bring a sense of each other's wounds.
In the self- help groups received psychological supervision, guidance Lizi Xun went
smoothly today. Now he often other psychological counselors supervise.
"In fact, he studied under psychological counseling get a lot of visitors, it
also is a growing resource. I am in counseling, once found himself unable to remain
neutral, they feel, ask yourself why. Mature counselors are constantly aware of to
think about their own suffering, and then find an effective, appropriate manner release,
he never grew up. "

■ If you share the pain, then pain then become your resources; If you try to quickly
eliminate it, then you expand the pain

Because recognition of counselors are ordinary people, Li Zixun think most of the
emotional distress and mental illness is ultimately resolved by the parties themselves,
can also entirely out of their predicament.
"Maybe I belittle the role of counselors, however, if the parties to the
addition to the apotheosis of counselors, their rehabilitation may be more
useful."
Lizi Xun said that he personally endorsed the concept by changing to adapt to the
environment, this is the face of psychological conflict effective way of self- regulation.
"All the pain with the concept of system on your choice. Our actions,
thoughts and desires are often limited by their own concept of the system can not
arbitrarily life, which resulted in pain. If you change the concept of psychological
distress and more will be dead, those who own devices, it does not take responsibility
and risk is rarely trouble people. "
"Therefore, all the mental suffering is meaningful, all the experiences of
life are important, psychological pain is in the growing self to go through. If people
understand the emotional disturbance is a natural state of human existence, As the
replacement of day and night, like happy and sad, cheerful, and depression are
alternating. You can imagine the emotional distress for the unexpected from the
'guests', he makes you feel uncomfortable, but he is not your
family , will eventually go.
"Most people's psychological conflict resulting from cultural
conflicts. Culture to become a very non-polar world, the disorder becomes order of
society, to have the animal nature of man from nature and stripped a society behave,
just like Chekhov described by the "yard installed in sets of
people," we are forcibly put into the culture of people set houses, packed in
sets of houses you can not suppress the pain. If you share this pain, then pain will no
longer worry you, and have actually become your resources; if you do not agree with,
always trying to quickly eliminate it, then you expand this pain. "

In Li Zixun view, counselors have provided only a direction or a recommendation,
more like a library for people to access information. The people share a psychological
point of view, if we could try to apply these ideas to life, then one day will find
themselves become detached.


Li Zixun small files
Graduated from the Sichuan West China Medical University, Peking University
Institute of Mental Health Mental Master and psychological professiona l education,
and German senior therapist training program of the first students.
Sino-Japanese Friendship Hospital Director counselors.
    Spirit of the professional practitioners, Beijing Counseling and Therapy Licensing
Board, a former director of the Chinese Medical Association Psychosomatic Medicine,
Peking University clinical psychology graduate student tutor guidance.
    In Beijing International MBA, Peking University, People's Congress,
psychology and other institutions to do the professio nal seminars. Related: team
dynamics, innovative thinking, personal growth, psychological techniques to solve
problems, parent-child relationship and education programs.
    Forward       to    "accompany         children    grow    up,"
"mind flying," "marriage troubles,"
"Happiness begins in the mind" and other books.
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