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									How to Be Irresistible to Colleges
Author: Eric Dawson
Author: Lynda Herring
Table of Contents

Prologue: How this book is different
1: The Glamour of Falling in Love: A few thoughts about the hype
2: So…Who Are You, Anyway? The importance of knowing yourself with ten questions to help
3: Timing is Everything: The calendar
4: Checking Out the Field: Knowing your resources
5: Setting up your Little Black Book: Creating a balanced list of good matches
6: Pre-Date Primping: Course work, standardized tests, and EA/ED
7: The First Date: The interview and visits
8: Meet the Parents: How to let your parents have a say without their dominating your every waking
9: The Love Letter: The application, essay, and other paperwork
10: How to Play the Game: Diversity, athletics, legacy, first-generation college, development office
11: Paying for Dinner: Financial aid
12: The Wait: Waiting for an answer
13: Mixed Messages—The Wait List
14: Dealing with the Hurt: Rejection
15: Taking a Break or "Finding Yourself": The “gap” year
16: Love the One you’re With: Making your choice and liking it
17: Marriage: How to succeed in college: tips from former students
18: When Divorce is Necessary: The transfer Our Random List

Likening the search for the perfect college to the search for the perfect mate—both are confusing,
stressful, and important—this guide full of real-world examples and advice from students and college
admissions deans, makes the admissions process clear to both students and their parents. Offering
answers to the applicant's common questions—What should I expect in an interview? What should I do if
I am wait-listed? How can I improve my scores?—the relatable resource explains how all the pieces work
together—from “pre-date primping” (course work and standardized tests) and “the first date” (the interview
and visits) to “the love letter” (personal essay), “paying for dinner” (financial aid), and “mixed
messages” (the wait list). This guide goes step-by-step through the college admissions process, offering
honest stories, tried-and-true advice, and humorous cartoons to make this serious process more
palatable, while dating tips at the end of each chapter continue the analogy and keep the tone light and

We’ve all seen it in the movies: the passionate embrace, the steamy
kiss on the beach, the slow-mo dating montage set to romantic
music. And, as we all know, these movie depictions are exactly how
relationships play out in reality—just as we know that once we get into
the one and only college for us, our lives will be fi lled with happiness
forever and all time.
Okay, you might note the sarcastic tone, but there’s a reason for it.
We’ve seen even the most jaded students get caught up in the whole,
“If I only make it into Hubba Bubba University, then my life really will
be complete. I just know it.” This attitude about college is an attitude
that says something about the very essence of human nature itself: we
want the things that are just out of reach. We imagine that once we
attain the car/stereo/school/job, then we’ll be happy, and everything
will fall into place.
Some big-name researchers in the fi elds of psychology, sociology,
and economics are now quantifying and confi rming this very notion—
that people want to want. Most people seem eternally stuck in “unsatisfi
ed” mode; indeed, dissatisfaction seems part of our very essence.
Which gets us back to the divorce thing. Along with the high rate
of college transfers. And the scary number of middle-aged guys buying
red Porsches.
Don’t worry, though; this opening salvo isn’t intended as any sort
of treatise on spirituality in the modern world. It’s only meant, rather,
to force us all to examine ourselves and our motivations a little more
closely. What is it we want, and why do we want it—in the romantic
world, in a college, or in anything, for that matter?
At this very moment, you need to throw out any glamorous visions
you have about college. Think it’s easy? Think you have a realistic view
of colleges and the whole admission process already? Ask yourself this:
Have you ever used the word “prestige” when talking about schools? If
you have, then you’ve already bought into the hype. If you look up the
word in the Oxford English Dictionary, you’ll discover that the defi nition
we typically use today (“blinding or dazzling infl uence; magic; glamour;
infl uence or reputation derived from previous character, achievements
or success”) is merely a secondary meaning. The word actually
comes from the Latin “praestigium,” meaning, quite simply, “illusion,”
with its full defi nition being “illusion, conjuring trick; a deception, an
imposture.” And the adjective “prestigious” doesn’t fare any better if
examined a little more closely: “practicing juggling or legerdemain;
cheating; deceptive, illusory.” So the next time someone tells you he’s
only looking at “prestigious” colleges, you can just smile to yourself
because you know better.
But hey, you’re thinking, who cares about a little-known piece of
etymological history?
The hype, however, goes much deeper. The oft-quoted U.S.
News & World Report college rankings seem scientifi cally sound. After
all, just look at the impressive rows of statistics lined up neatly, one
after another. Such graphics and numbers certainly wouldn’t lie, right?
Right?? But if you study those same numbers carefully, they’ll shift
before your very eyes.
Author Bio
Eric Dawson
Eric Dawson and Lynda Herring are both college counselors and teachers at Kent Denver School in
Englewood, Colorado. They both live in Denver, Colorado.<br/>

Lynda Herring
Eric Dawson and Lynda Herring are both college counselors and teachers at Kent Denver School in
Englewood, Colorado. They both live in Denver, Colorado.<br/>

“This is a great book that discusses many of the confusing, conflicting, and sometimes intimidating
questions associated with the search for that perfect college match. Yet the authors address those
matters in a way that avoids all of the preachy arrogance that I have found in so many other books that
have attempted to address the same topic. Because the authors have such a wealth of experience with
so many applicants and their families, they do not need to resort to ill-informed preaching. Instead, they
often support their observations and suggestions with the strong examples that only very experienced
counselors can provide.”

“At last, an engaging and entertaining student-centered college guide. Only Lynda and Eric can draw the
relationship between the dating game and the college admissions game and in doing so, empower
students to find colleges which are a great match for themselves. From debunking myths such as the all-
knowledgeable and "scientific" U.S. News and World Report college issue to educating the reader with
more reliable advice and tools such as the National Survey of Student Engagement, this is a great guide
which will inform and entertain you. If that doesn't work, you can use it to help you find the right mate.”

“Finally, a guide book that speaks in the language of a college-bound student! A fun, refreshing approach
that humanizes the admissions process."

“Inspiring and demystifying, this volume offers powerful and practical advice to all embarking on the
journey that is the college search. If you decide you want to buy only one college guide, this would be an
excellent choice!”

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