Why Wont He

							Why Won't He?
So, I've been dating my boyfriend for four and a half years and we've know each other
for seven years. We have lived together for a year and a half and get a long so great.
 Two Decembers ago, he took me ring shopping. He brought up the subject and
asked me if I wanted to look at rings. I got to try them on and see how sparkly they
were on my finger and I started getting really excited wondering when he would pop
the question. It's been two years since this an dhe still has not asked. The subject
has come up a few times since and he seems to shut down when it came up and just
says he's not ready. He says he does want to get married and start a family though.
We almost bought a house together this Summer when our lease was up and I told
him I did not want to enter such a commitment without at least being engaged and so
we decided to sign a lease for another year after him telling me again he's not ready.
After this happened, I debated leaving him and getting on with my life. I'm 26 and
he's 28, which isn't old, but after all that has happened and how long we've been
together, I figured he would know and be ready by now. After discussing this with my
mom and a few friends, I decided to stick around and just not mention the "m" word
until this Summer when out lease is up again and when we had originally planned on
buying a house, and then say "hey, either we need to get married or I leave." We
have an amazing relationship besides the fact that I'm confused about his feelings on
marrying me and I don't want to loose him. My main question is, am I stupid for
sticking around and giving it this much time? I know that this may seem silly to
people who think marriage is over-rated, but it's important to me and I know he does
want to get married and have a family eventually. What do I do?!
The second side of this relationship advice story can be found here:
Why Won't He?




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