Want Back Your Ex?
Follow This 9 Step Guide And Your Ex
Will Pled You To Get Back Together!
Sometimes people feel like they have not done
everything they can to maintain a healthy
relationship with their partner and the result is a
split that results in hard feelings on the part of
everyone. When one regrets prior behaviors,
they may ask, "How do I get back my ex?" It
is possible if one is willing to follow certain
STEP 1- Analyze Your Behavior
First, realizing the behaviors which caused the breakup is the first step to any
relationship recovery. If one can identify what went wrong, it is much easier to
change one's own behaviors than to expect one's partner to change to fit your
needs. This is an important point to understand; you either have to accept the
other person for who they are or you must move on because it is unlikely they
will change their behavior unless they come to understand how it contributed to
STEP 2 – Stalking Is Not The Solution
There is a fine line between stalking and pursuing and understanding the
difference is of the utmost importance. Chronic text-messages, phone calls, and
unannounced visits will do little more than scare the other person away.
Therefore, when "on the chase, " make sure that it is done with love rather than
with a need to control. Trying to control others can quickly produce a sense of
being smothered and that is the last thing needed to win back the love of one's
STEP 3 – Listen, Listen, Listen,..
Listening to the other person is
paramount to ensuring a successful
relationship. We all have habits
other people hate, but by
acknowledging they are weaknesses
and working on them, one can go a
long way to creating a persona that is
inviting and attractive.
For instance, if one's partner has
always been uncomfortable with the
fact they don't work out, then joining
a gym can demonstrate a willingness to change. It will create a healthier lifestyle
for you and may be the impetus your ex needs to see that you did listen and are
willing to make changes that will bring you closer together.
STEP 4 – Deal With Emotions
An important issue that one must come to grips with before doing anything is to
accept the negative emotions and depression accompanying a breakup then
learning to deal with them.
»This is a time when feelings will be intense and overreacting is common. »
To cope, one might do such things as write down all the negative emotions that
have erupted, including everything that you wish you had said, then burning
them. As the flames rise, one needs to also allow the negativity to burn away
leaving only good memories and positive feelings toward the ex.
STEP 4 – Be Positive
One way to regain positivity in one's life is
by appreciating everything abundant in life.
These might include such things as good
health, a roof over one's head, food in the
refrigerator, and a loving family to provide
support during trying times. Just learning to
appreciate a sunny day and working on a favorite hobby again can serve to
provide positive reinforcement and improve one's mood.
After all, people are naturally drawn to those with a positive attitude,
including an ex.
STEP 6 - Socialize
It's also important to learn to socialize again. Although this may initially be a
challenge, because the last thing you want after a breakup is to mix with people,
relearning this skill is important. Many relationships break up because, as you
become more involved as a couple, you have a tendency to break ties with
former friends. As a result, socializing serves two purposes, it not only
redevelops skills that may have lapsed during the time you were together, it also
rebuilds communication skills needed to ensure the longevity of any
STEP 7 – Be Successful
Demonstrating that you can make it with or without a significant other in your
life is also important. An ex doesn't want to be attached to someone that appears
"needy" and incapable of taking care of personal needs. Learning to cope with
daily life and showing you can come out on top is of primary importance to an
ex, especially one who has felt in the past like they have been "carrying the
load" for the both of you. If they see you are successful in everyday life on your
own, they will be more likely to reevaluate why you broke up.
STEP 8 – Acknowlege Your Relationship
It's also important to acknowledge that individuals, as well as individual
relationships, are all different. Therefore, what works for one couple will not
necessarily work for the next. Selecting strategies that are individualized to meet
your needs are very important. This will require some research on your part
from which you can select the recommendations that best fit your individual
situation. Unfortunately, there is no "one size fits all" guide for relationships and
the sooner one can acknowledge this limitation the better.
STEP 9 – Trust and Respect
Trust and respect are required in any relationship so determining where you
stand in your ex's eyes will help establish if reconciliation is possible. This can
be especially problematic if infidelity was an issue. Rebuilding trust takes time
and commitment and may create additional challenges that are difficult to
overcome. If one has resolved to win their ex back, they will need to prove,
through actions, that they are really dedicated to change.
Experts in the field agree that researching strategies, making a realistic plan of
action, and sticking to it often brings the most positive results. If followed there
is a 90% likelihood that one can expect to win their ex back. This starts with
figuring out what was missing in the relationship initially then resolving to do
what it takes to fix it.
Many times rebuilding a broken relationship requires the assistance of experts in
the field who can help identify problems and provide guidance. Relationships
are chemical in nature and, therefore, require an understanding of the complex
nature of how they come about and survive over the course of time. Everything
from communication skills, to body language, to behavior, and psychology are
involved and, unless an expert in the field of relationships, seeking the advice of
others can help couples over the rough road that leads to long-term commitment.
When asking, "How do I get my ex back?" the answers are not as easy as it may
appear. Ultimately, one generally only gets only one chance to rebuild a
relationship. However, if committed, the outcome is well worth the effort it
takes to regain the bond with that important person in your life.