The Stress Emotions Anger and Fear by sammyc2007

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									The Stress Emotions:
  Anger and Fear

      Chapter 5
―To be free is not merely to cast off
one’s chains, but to live in a way that
respects and enhances the freedom of

                      —Nelson Mandela
             Anger and Fear

• There are two emotions specifically
  associated with the stress response:
  – anger
  – fear
• Anger produces the urge to fight.
• Fear promotes the urge to run and hide.
          The Anatomy of Anger

The Colors (Manifestations) of Anger
Impatience    Rage            Hostility
Prejudice     Sarcasm         Cynicism
Jealousy      Envy            Guilt
Frustration   Resentment Fear

        The Anatomy of Anger

• Rage Reflex – aggressive nature of all
  animals for survival.
• Anger and unmet expectations
• Emotional Literacy (intelligence) – ability
  to express emotions in a healthy way.
• Anger is an energizing emotion, fear is
  an energy-draining emotion
• Gender similarities/differences
  Correcting the Myth of Catharsis

Not all venting of anger is good or healthy!
1. Cast anger in the right direction
2. Expression must offer a sense of self-
   control (not revenge)
3. Expression of anger must be
   understood by others
4. Expression must not antagonize others
Should be direct and diplomatic.
   Four Mismanaged Anger Styles
Unresolved anger becomes a control
  – The Somatizer
  – The Self-punisher
  – The Exploder
  – The Underhander
             The Somatizer

Suppress rather than express (soma=body)
• Temporomandibular joint disorder (TMJD)
• Migraines
• Rheumatoid arthritis
• Hypertension
• Liver problems
• Many women (but not all) tend to be
          The Self-Punisher

Expressed as self-punishment for guilt of
• Excessive eating
• Excessive sleeping
• Excessive exercise
• Shopping
• Cutting (self-mutilation)
             The Exploder

Hostile, often displaced and intimidating
• Road rage
• Phone rage
• Violent behavior (e.g., Columbine HS)
• Excessive swearing
• Type A - CHD
          The Underhander

Passive-aggressive behavior (sabotage)
• Sarcasm
• Late for meetings
• Not returning phone calls
• Padding one’s expense account
• Seeking revenge
          Creative Anger Strategies
•   Know your anger style
•   Learn to monitor your anger
•   Learn to de-escalate your anger
•   Learn to out-think your anger
•   Get comfortable with all your feelings—express them
•   Plan ahead
•   Develop a strong support system
•   Develop realistic expectations of yourself and others
•   Learn problem-solving techniques
•   Stay in shape
•   Turn complaints into requests
•   Make past anger pass: forgiveness
          The Anatomy of Fear

The Colors (Manifestations) of Fear
Doubt              Anxiety
Suspicion          Agitation
Worry              Paranoia

         The Anatomy of Fear

• Fear is a learned reaction (conditioned)
• Rational vs. irrational fears
• When is fear appropriate?
• When is fear unwarranted?
           The Anatomy of Fear
           (Basic Human Fears)

•   Fear of failure
•   Fear of rejection
•   Fear of the unknown
•   Fear of death
•   Fear of isolation
•   Fear of the loss of self-dominance
        Strategies to Overcome Fear
Fear must be confronted (diplomatically) to be
   – Behavior Therapy - Systematic desensitization
   – Realistic expectations
   – Learn to stop making excuses and stop beating
     yourself up
   – Plan for the future, rather than worry about it—
     be proactive!
       A By-Product of Anger/Fear

• High use of anti-depressants in America (33%)
• Depression—Anger turned inward?
• Symptoms:
  - Overwhelming sadness - Perpetual blues
  - Prolonged grieving  - Feeling melancholy
  – Others ______________________________
       Depression: Antidepressants
         Only Treat Symptoms

“A chemical cure cannot heal emotional
                             —Susan Skog
 Author, Depression: What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You

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