No more Funerals by ggy86211

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									No more
Funerals
      When I die, no obituaries, no funeral, no "burying"/graveside
services. Just cremate me!

        Use the ashes as fertilizers for roses, trees or feed the fish with
them.

        If I did not make an impression on you while I was alive.......

    In this last year I have watched families greive AND spend
money (even having to borrow money) to cover funeral expenses.

        Most of those funeral insurances are a joke.

     I have seen anger, bitterness and resentments when one or
more family members did not pay their "fair" share.

      I have seen soul crushing shame because the families could
not afford "better".

     Better? Almost $25,000 in one case, more than $21,000 in
another case.

      I have seen terror in the faces of these family members at the
thought of no one showing up. I watched people maxing out their
credit cards to buy "appropriate" clothing.

     I have seen screaming fights between a husband and wife
because the husband would not stand up against his family, to make
them stop spending huge money. Money that each of the children
and their spouses would have to pay.

       I have seen little back stabbing parties between family
members, where the family members changed side from morning
until night.

      I have seen family members worry themselves sick trying to
figure out where the money for the next death in the family is going to
come from.

    I have seen ridiculous demands for money from the city, for
example $500.00 per funeral if the funeral is held on a weekend.

      This forces many people to lay off from work or miss school to
attend the funeral. People who come from a long distance to attend
the Friday services have to leave before the next weeks "burying".

     It is strange how many resentments that causes!

     The funerals were planned for Friday, usually afternoon, so that
most people would not miss a whole day of work.

      It may come as a shock to know that many people do not get
paid funeral leave, especially not if they are not direct family.

     Here in America we have a large protion of our seniors
reaching 80 and 90 years old and many of them are begining to die
off.

       I know of many elderly people who are spending $200.00 and
$300.00 almost every month, to buy flowers to send to the funerals of
their friends.

      If the person who just died was your friend would they want you
to spend 1/5 to 1/4 of your monthly income on flowers for their
funerals? You can buy paper, "silk" and plastic flowers and create a
beautiful display for less than $10.00.

     The plastic will last and look good for a long time. Remember,
cemetaries have groundskeepers and they remove dingy or wilted
displays.

      I have seen and heard people sniveling about going to a
funeral at a "borrowed" church, because the regular church was
already booked.

       Funerals are not for the dead. Funerals are for the living, those
left behind.

      Most of the real greif I have seen has been mostly anger. Anger
at having been left behind.

    How about having a big picnic, when the weather is nice, sort of
a memorial picnic. How about for all of the families who have lost
someone over the winter, sort of a memorial picnic for several or
many.

      A public setting , like a city park, on a weekend, with toilets and
trees. Let the childern run and play, and the adults can visit and
reminise.

     Families could gracefully bow out of a near financial disaster.
They could have some time to breath after the death, and something
major, warm and alive, to look forward to.

      This is something for churches and communities to seriously
consider. All to often the numbers of sicknesses, suicides and
"natural" deaths rise after the death of a loved one.

      I fear two major causes are financial burden and shame.

      Usually with death, sudden or expected, our survivors are
surrounded by people, for a few days, making all of the preperations,
then the funeral, most people begin leaving, then the burial and
everyone is gone.

     The survivor is alone with the bills and the paperwork, the
personal effects and the memories.
     The first day, the first week, the first month, the first year slaps
them in their faces.

      Check back with them, especially that first year. Do not wallow
in the past. If they choose to bring up something, let them and in a
few minutes direct their attention to the present, to the future.

     Yes, people need to greive but we need to live, to live in the
present, looking forward.

     Many "envioromentalists" will love this decision of mine. One,
my ashes will be "returned" to the earth, not taking up space in a
cemetary or mauselum and two, no wasted fuel for the funeral
processions to the church and to the burying.




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