POSITIVE BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION FOR CHILDREN AND ADOLESCENTS by jhh76664

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									POSITIVE BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION FOR CHILDREN AND
                  ADOLESCENTS

    WRITTEN BY: DR. MARNY ZIMMERMAN HOHL
Discipline is a great topic. Positive behavior modification can take many forms,
including the loss of minor privileges once a child’s mental history has been established.

For example, a child that has witnessed violence may present with many undesirable
symptoms such as breaking things or acting out violently. Now, that does not mean that
this child should not have consequences for his/her actions. We need to come up with the
best way possible to modify this child’s behavior into more positive actions, giving them
appropriate coping skills to lead a successful life.

Obviously, uncontrollable behaviors related to medical conditions would never be
punished. That is why it is important to detail a personal positive behavior modification
plan for those that need it. This would include uncontrollable behaviors versus the ones
that the child does have some control over. Kids are smart…if they think they can get
away with everything – they will!


So how do we modify negative behavior into positive?

   1. Take each time a child act’s out is an opportunity to teach them something
      positive. Yes, dealing with kids is frustrating. But these children came to us with
      an established pattern of thoughts, primarily that adults cannot be trusted. Life
      has proved this to them already. It is up to us to prove them wrong. Let’s show
      them that they are unconditionally loved through words and actions.

   2. As established, physical punishment is unacceptable. Physical punishment is
      controlling through fear, which really doesn’t teach the child anything other than
      their preconceived thoughts of adults are correct. We need to work hard to avoid
      instilling more negative behaviors, as these children will parent one day how they
      were parented. Let’s give them the positive tools to do a great job!


   3. Tell the child specifically what you want them to do. Instead of scolding
      “Jose” for writing on the table, why not say “Please write on the paper so the table
      stays neat and tidy”. That way, you gave clear direction; he knows what you want
      and the reason for it. Just saying “stop drawing on the table” doesn’t fill in the
      blanks for the child.

   4. Never yell or demean the child. Yelling creates an atmosphere of bullying a
      victim. In all likelihood these children may have never experienced positive
      behavior modification, and yelling, pointing, using demeaning words are all
      counterproductive. The staff should act how they want the children to act,
      respectful.
5. We should have the general rules (for example) of lunch time posted on the
   wall in the dining area. This way, the tias can discuss the formal rules with the
   children, and they are posted on the wall as a reminder. Make the poster fun, not
   scary. It could be colorful, and I would suggest the children help make it. That
   way they learn, and can be proud of it when they see it. It should contain positive
   messages like “the youngest children in the family are in line first”, ect. In the
   “rules” specific problems like hitting should be pin pointed. It could say “hitting
   is not acceptable and there are consequences for this action.” Consequence could
   be a time out (ages 3-4 = 1 minute time out, 10 year old = 5 minutes) or my
   personal favorite is to give the child two – three options for consequences, and
   have them choose their own. This need to be age appropriate and the termination
   of an outing should not be included in the consequences. Never take away
   anything that would be damaging to the child’s self esteem or something that they
   really rely on (like a child’s doll that they sleep with).

6. Give the children choices. Allow them to make small mistakes first so when
   they grow up, they don’t make the big ones. And in reality, the word “mistake”
   shouldn’t be used. There are no mistakes, just the opportunities to make different
   choices!


7. Praise the children for positive behaviors. These children want to please the
   adults that care for them. When a child is seen doing something positive, they
   should be verbally praised. Also, the other children will hear the praise and are
   likely to mimic the behavior. This also works the same for children who seek
   negative attention due to previous experiences (generally abuse/neglect) – if they
   see a tia providing a response they are accustomed to hearing, you can bet they
   will go to her and behave badly. It goes both ways.

8. Create an environment of unconditional love, understanding a safety. This is
   crucial to the behavior of the children, because it will show them that they can
   trust us. We will not run away, abuse or abandon them at the first sign of
   negative behaviors. Instead, we will embrace them for the individuals that they
   are, and love them through the transition stages.


9. Have more than one outlet for expressing their feelings. Paper and crayons
   should always be available to the children to express how they are feeling. Non
   verbal communication is key to the inner psyche, especially when the children are
   young.
   10. Foster self respect and self esteem. This is achieved through praising positive
       behaviors, and ensuring children have access to things that really make them
       happy. If one child draws a picture, put it up so everyone can see it. Make a big
       deal out of it! It’s a unique masterpiece, by a budding artist. Fostering self worth
       and self esteem is paramount to the children’s future success.


   11. The tias should talk to each child about why they are perfect and special.
       This should not be a generic statement…the kids will know this immediately.
       These words need to come from the heart, and the individual saying it really
       needs to mean it. All children need to know that they unique individuals, perfect
       and special in their own ways, and that their future potential is limitless. The only
       limits children will have on themselves are the ones we place there. Let these
       kids grow up thinking they can and will achieve anything they put there minds to!

   12. Have a specific debriefing time with the tias on a weekly basis. A caregiver
       that feels unappreciated or overwhelmed is counterproductive. We need to create
       an excellent working environment for the staff and positive alternatives for
       difficult children when the tias run out of ideas.


 Scheduled regular weekly outings are an excellent way to motivate the kids, giving them
all something to look forward to. This could also be used as a teaching tool (for example,
we clean litter off the beach because we want to have a healthy ocean for turtles and fish
to live in)

With good intentions, a sense of humor and unconditional love and understanding,
positive behavior modification is an excellent method to instill responsible behaviors and
teach life skills to children, regardless of socioeconomic status.

And while there may be times where your patience is tried, always remember that
children are products of their environment and will model your behaviors. To raise
children is a privilege and a blessing that should never be taken for granted.

								
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