How to Give Good Advice by kch10832


									                                                                                                                                       9 Iyar

                                                                                                                                      23 April

                                                                              How to Give Good Advice
                                                                                                   By Rochel Holzkenner

                                                                               A doctor and a lawyer were at a cocktail party when the doctor was
                                                                          approached by a man who asked advice on how to handle his ulcer. The
                                                                          doctor mumbled some medical advice, then turned to the lawyer and
      In the second of this week’s two Torah portions, Kedoshim,          remarked, “I never know how to handle the situation when I’m asked for
the Torah records G-d’s command: “Sanctify yourselves and be              medical advice during a social function. Is it acceptable to send a bill for such
holy, because I am the L-rd your G-d.”                                    advice?” The lawyer replied that it was certainly acceptable to do so.
      Our Rabbis taught that this injunction refers to the realm of            The next day, the doctor received an invoice from the lawyer: $200 due
the permissible, those areas which the Torah neither specifically         for legal consultation.
forbids nor allows.
      The Torah asks us to exercise self-restraint in every aspect of          “Before the blind, do not put a stumbling block”—Leviticus 19:14.
our lives, counselling us to forego even permissible pleasures, if             What are the everyday implications of the Torah’s cautionary remark
they are not truly vital to our service of G-d.                           about sensitivity towards a blind man?
      For example, we must restrain ourselves from partaking of a              Here are some that come immediately to my mind:
particular food (kosher, of course), if our craving to eat it arises           · Not discriminating against people who are handicapped.
solely from a desire to satiate our animal appetites and not for the           · Not exploiting people when they are vulnerable.
sake of nourishing our bodies.                                                 · Not setting out alcohol in front of a recovering alcoholic.
      The first Chabad Rebbe, Rabbi Shneur Zalman, originated a                · Taking responsibility for other people’s spiritual wellbeing and not
wise saying on the subject:                                                         tempting them to sin.
      “That which is forbidden is forbidden; that which is                     When you give someone advice, don’t let personal agenda be a part of it.
permissible is unnecessary.”                                              Rashi, the Torah’s foremost commentator, says that I’m wrong about what’s
      In this manner, constantly exercising good judgment and             being insinuated here. Personal liability is a topic that’s already been laid out
restraint, the Jew sanctifies every minute detail of his life and         in the Torah in graphic detail; by now it’s obvious that G-d doesn’t let us
imbues his entire being with holiness.                                    hurt people who are at a disadvantage. In fact, we also can’t hurt people who
      This process of sanctification plays a pivotal role in preparing    are not disadvantaged, and we must make restitution even if damage was
the world for Moshiach, for the Messianic Era will be characterized       done unintentionally.
by the open revelation of G-dliness throughout the entire creation.            So, Rashi wants to know, what’s the new mitzvah that G-d’s teaching us
      At that time, G-d will allow His very essence to be revealed        here?
within the physical world, which will have been totally transformed            He quotes the Talmud:
into a fitting dwelling place for the Divine Presence.                         Someone who is blind in the matter at hand, you should not give advice
      This complete transformation of the material world into a           which is unsuitable for him. Don’t say, “Sell your field and buy a donkey,”
place in which G-dliness is readily apparent may be explained by          while you [plan on] setting him up and taking [the field] from him.
the following analogy:                                                         The Torah is saying: don’t give someone dishonest advice. Not
      When a person is at home, he permits himself to express his         necessarily bad advice, just dishonest.
true personality. His manner is relaxed and open, for he feels free,           Let’s look at the example: “Sell your field and buy a donkey.” Not
unencumbered by the constraints of society.                               necessarily bad advice. In some cases, a donkey can be more valuable than a
      When, however, a person goes out into the street or his             field; it works hard, produces offspring and is mobile. It may be a good idea
friend’s home, his behaviour is more circumspect. Not only are            to trade in the old field. But what’s problematic about this advice is the
his actions necessarily circumscribed, but his ability to express         hidden agenda; it’s dishonest because it has the best interests of the advice-
himself is also limited to a great degree.                                giver embedded within it. He wants that field.
      When Moshiach comes and ushers in the Final Redemption,                  The Torah is not telling us that we shouldn’t hurt other people—that’s
G-d will finally be “at home” in the physical world, and the              obvious! It’s not even telling us that we shouldn’t give fictitious advice. The
holiness that exists within all of creation will be revealed in its       example about the donkey and field seems quite benign. And Rashi chooses
entirety.                                                                 this example since it’s hard to discern whether the advice is good or not. But
      Torah and mitzvot are therefore insufficient, by themselves,        what’s easy to discern is that it is good for the advice-giver.
to transform the world and ourselves into a proper vessel for                  So what the Torah is really telling us is this: When you give someone
such a revelation of G-dliness.                                           advice, don’t let personal agenda be a part of it. Even if you’re not exploiting
      For it is possible for one to adhere to the letter of the law and   the other person with your advice. Even if your advice may be beneficial for
still perceive himself as an entity separate from G-d.                    him, if you stand to gain from it, then it’s murky advice.
      When a Jew extends and broadens his service of G-d to                    It’s quite natural to look at any situation and search for personal benefit.
include those areas beyond the realm of ritual law, he elevates           But G-d says that that’s not being a mentch. That’s not an authentic way to
both himself and his surroundings to unparalleled spiritual heights.      communicate. “Love your neighbour as yourself!” When he asks you for
      By removing his own ego from the equation, he leaves room           advice, put yourself in his shoes, invest yourself in his dilemma as if it were
for only G-dliness and sanctity to fill the void.                         yours. Then you can give some quality advice.
      (Based on the teachings of the Lubavitcher Rebbe)
                                                              smiled as he saw this, then turned his head to                            take over.” Yet, no sooner had the words left
                                                              me, and in his soft, broken Spanish asked,                                his lips when someone shouted, “Hey, there’s
                                                              “Cuando voy a morir?”—”When will I die?” I                                a rhythm!” We looked at the monitor. Slowly
                                                              stood dumbfounded, and then realized he’d                                 at first, then with increasing frequency, QRS
                                                              misunderstood our explanations and thought                                complexes started to appear. “There’s a
                                                              we needed all his blood to save his sister.                               pulse!” one of the residents cried out, “I’ve
                                                                  The situation seemed humorous until a                                 got a pressure!” said another. Within moments
                                                              stunning fact hit me. This child, this precious                           his vital signs had stabilized. Then, for what
                                                              child, with hardly a moment’s hesitation, had                             seemed like an eternity, no one spoke, me
                                                              been willing to sacrifice his life to save the                            staring at Paul, and they staring at me.
Love in a Heartbeat                                           sister he loved. At that moment, I stood in                                    Paul began to move, and gag against the
By Dr. Blair P. Grubb                                         awe of this boy. As I looked down at him, his                             endotracheal tube. He opened his eyes, turned
     Many years ago, after graduating from                    face glowed with a kind of radiance, and                                  his head, and looked straight at me. The head
medical school, I worked for several months                   despite his fear, he seemed at peace.                                     nurse gasped and dropped her clipboard to
in a clinic in El Valle, a little town in the                                                                                           the floor. The resident who had first felt a
central highlands of the Dominican Republic.                  The Calling                                                               pulse, a young Arab, looked pale, and uttered,
The staff at the clinic consisted of me,                                                                                                “Allahu Akbar” (G-d is Great), while my
                                                              By Dr. Blair P. Grubb
another physician fresh out of school, and a                                                                                            colleague muttered over and over, “My G-d,
                                                                   From the very first I liked him. Paul was a
nurse—all under the supervision of a doctor                                                                                             My G-d. . .” I took Paul’s hand, leaned over
                                                              bouncy, broad-smiling, 5-year-old, trusting
who’d just completed his residency. Together,                                                                                           to kiss his forehead, stroked his hair with my
                                                              and innocent. Born with a D-transposition of
the four of us lived and worked in a cinder                                                                                             hands, and wept.
                                                              the great vessels, he had undergone a Senning
block building with two examination rooms, a                                                                                                 Shortly thereafter he was moved to the
                                                              repair not long after birth. All had been well
small surgical area, a waiting room, and some                                                                                           ICU, extubated, and made a full recovery. For
                                                              for years when suddenly he would feel a
tiny sleeping quarters.                                                                                                                 the next several weeks I was the focus of a
                                                              pounding in his chest and then lose
     Since the nearest hospital was more than                                                                                           number of good-natured jokes, the principal
                                                              consciousness. The episodes were becoming
an hour and a half’s drive away, we offered                                                                                             one being that before anyone could end a code
                                                              more frequent and lasting longer. Through
the only medical care for the entire region.                                                                                            they had to page me to come and yell at the
                                                              Holters and EP study we found he had atrial
Despite our meager stores of drugs and                                                                                                  patient not to die. After a while, people began
                                                              flutter and sick sinus syndrome. We placed a
equipment, we saw nearly seventy patients                                                                                               to forget the event. After all, they said, it had
                                                              pacemaker and started him on drug therapy.
each day and treated nearly every conceivable                                                                                           just been coincidence, the code team had done
                                                              The episodes stopped.
disorder. People would literally walk barefoot                                                                                          well, the drugs just needed some time to
                                                                   Young Paul soon became my favourite
for a day to come to our clinic, and often were                                                                                         work. Perhaps, perhaps . . . . But those of us
                                                              patient. I looked forward to his visits, where
hopelessly ill. I felt as if I’d somehow been                                                                                           who were there will somehow remember it
                                                              he would jump into my arms, hug me, and
transported back in time to a different reality,                                                                                        differently.
                                                              kiss me on the cheek. He would present me
far from the one I had known.                                                                                                                I spoke with Paul that next day after the
                                                              with pictures he had painted, and I would
     Although I spoke workable Spanish,                                                                                                 code. He was still groggy, yet hugged me
                                                              present him with a pen or mug advertising
communication was often difficult because                                                                                               tightly, I asked if he could remember anything
                                                              some product. “How’s my little buddy?” I
many of our patients were French-speaking                                                                                               that had happened. He sat still for a moment,
                                                              would ask as he charged into the clinic.
migrant workers from Haiti who spoke                                                                                                    collecting his thoughts. “It was dark, and I
                                                              “How’s my big buddy?” he would respond as
Spanish haltingly. Once, a young Haitian                                                                                                was floating, like I was underwater or
                                                              he bounced into my arms.
woman was brought to us in a state of shock                                                                                             something. I wanted to move but I didn’t
                                                                   Then, one morning when Paul was 7, I
after her arm was mangled by a threshing                                                                                                know where.” He paused for a moment.
                                                              received a stat call to the emergency room.
machine. We rushed her to our makeshift                                                                                                 “Then I heard someone calling my name, and
                                                              Paul had collapsed at school, a paramedical
operating room and poured IV fluids into her                                                                                            then I was moving toward it and it got lighter
                                                              squad was bringing him in. He was in full
as we struggled to control the bleeding. Her                                                                                            and lighter.” His little boy eyes stared deep
                                                              arrest; I was there the moment he arrived.
hematocrit was so low it barely registered on                                                                                           within me. “It was you who called me wasn’t
                                                                   The code team, with me directing, worked
our equipment. She needed blood badly and it                                                                                            it?” “Yes Paul,” I replied, “It was me.” “We’re
                                                              like a well-oiled machine. Everything went
was clear that we were going to lose her                                                                                                still buddies, right?” he asked. “We’re still
                                                              like clockwork, except that Paul wasn’t
without it.                                                                                                                             buddies,” I said, and held him tight.
                                                              coming back. As the moments wore on I began
     The sole method we had for giving blood                                                                                                 That was all many years ago. Most of the
                                                              to feel a growing sense of desperation, which
was a direct transfusion from one person to                                                                                             people who were there that day have moved
                                                              shortly became a sense of panic. I ordered
another. With our rudimentary blood-typing                                                                                              on to other positions, other places. But Paul
                                                              more magnesium to be given. As CPR
kit, the only potential donor we could find                                                                                             and I are still here, and we’re still buddies. He
                                                              continued onward and almost an hour had
was her younger brother. His Spanish was                                                                                                has blossomed into the fullness and energy of
                                                              passed, my thoughts began to run wild. “Oh
poor, but he seemed to understand when we                                                                                               young manhood, while the lines on my face
                                                              G-d,” I pleaded in my thoughts, “Please not
explained that we needed to take some of his                                                                                            have grown deeper, and my hair continues to
                                                              this one. Not him.” I began screaming in my
blood to save his sister. He turned a little                                                                                            turn gray.
                                                              mind, “Paul, don’t die!” Suddenly, without
pale, sat silent for a moment, and asked if                                                                                                  When I saw him last in the clinic we
                                                              even realizing it, tears welling up in my eyes,
there was any other way. “No,” I replied, and                                                                                           spoke of cars, colleges, and careers. He
                                                              I was screaming out loud, “Paul, don’t die!
he slowly nodded his head in agreement.                                                                                                 proudly announced to me he would choose a
                                                              Oh please don’t die!”
     We placed an IV in him and began                                                                                                   pre-med program. “How did you happen to
                                                                   The code team was shocked at my
transfusing his sister. Almost immediately, she                                                                                         choose that?” I inquired. “Oh,” he replied,
                                                              outburst, and one of my colleagues put his
started regaining her colour. Her brother                                                                                               “Let’s just say it’s a calling.” And at that, we
                                                              hand on my shoulder saying, “I think I better
                                                                                                                                        both laughed.

  Published by The Chabad House of Caulfield
  in conjunction with the Rabbinical College of
  Australia and N.Z.
                                                  ISSUE 927

  P.O. Box 67, Balaclava Vic. 3183 AUSTRALIA                     A person need not worry about what will become of his business activities when Moshiach comes. On the contrary, he can rest
  Phone (03) 9525 8190                                           assured that all the activities that he carried out according to the Torah’s guidelines - even those that are not directly associated with
  Email:                          the Torah and its mitzvot (commandments) - are of value. However, this also points to the importance of a person keeping the
  The Lamplighter contains words from sacred                     fundamental purpose of his business activity in mind, and making sure that his efforts are directed to revealing G-d’s honor.
  writings. Please do not deface or discard.                     (The Lubavitcher Rebbe, 13 Iyar, 5751)
                                                                                                                                   At a gathering in 5750 (1990) the Rebbe spoke
                                                                                                                              about the need to maintain possession of every inch
                                                                                                                              of the Land of Israel, saying:
2nd of Tammuz, 5715 [1955]                                                                                                         “Just as the Jews are G-d’s chosen people,
Sholom uBrocho [Peace and Blessing]:
       After the prolonged interval, I was pleased to receive your letter, though I have been receiving your regards
                                                                                                                              Eretz Yisrael [the Land of Israel] is G-d’s chosen
through Rabbi S-.                                                                                                             land, a holy land given to the Jewish people, those
       I was especially pleased to learn from your letter that even when business was not all that could be desired for       living on the land at present, and those who are
a while, you have maintained your Tzedoko [charity] at somewhat more than “Maaser,” [10%, i.e., the commandment               presently living in the Diaspora. No one is entitled
to tithe of earnings for charity] which showed that your faith in G-d did not weaken, and G-d does not remain in debt         to give up any portion of Eretz Yisrael to gentiles.
and rewards generously, so that before long one can see that one’s faith was justified.                                       Maintaining possession of these lands is the only
       Since you have again been elected to a prominent communal position, I trust that you are using all your influence
both in a wider circle, as well as among your relatives and friends, to strengthen their faith and confidence in G-d          path to peace. Succumbing to the pressure to
and feel certain that all G-d does is for the good.                                                                           surrender them will only invite additional pressure,
       You mention in your letter that an opportunity has presented itself to you for a good transaction with the Ministry    weakening the security of the Jewish people and
of Supply, but you find yourself hard pressed for cash.                                                                       exposing them to danger. Heaven forbid that the
       Based on the saying of our Sages (Bobo Basro, 15b) that money from a G-d-fearing man brings Hatzlocho                  government in Eretz Yisrael should consider
[success], I am enclosing a check for $18.00 from one of the funds established by my father-in-law of saintly
memory and still under his care, to be applied in your business for Hatzlocho.
                                                                                                                              surrendering any portion of Eretz Yisrael which G-
       I was very gratified to read in your letter that the new Mikvah [ritualarium] is making good progress, for Taharas     d has granted us.”
haMishpocho [the laws of Family Purity] is the foundation of our people and a condition of the Redemption, as it is                On 10 Shevat, 5752 (January 15, 1992) Israel’s
written “And I will sprinkle on you pure water” (Ezekiel 36:5), and explained also in the Brayso, end of Tractate Sotah.      President Moshe Katzav (at that time
From which one can appreciate the great Zechus [merit] of those who are active in this cause...                               Transportation Minister) met with the Rebbe at
       Wishing you success in your business and to use the money on healthy and happy things.                                 Sunday dollars. The Rebbe blessed Mr. Katzav and
       With blessing,
                                                                                                                              then said:
16th of Shevat, 5716 [5716]                                                                                                        “I recently heard a strange and frightening
Greeting and Blessing:                                                                                                        rumour regarding talks and impending decisions
     I received your letter of January 17... I was gratified to read that last year was thank G-d, a good year for you and    by the Israeli government concerning surrendering
was a considerable improvement on the previous year. I hope you will be strong in your faith that the Alm-ghty will           parts of the Land of Israel. They are currently
help you also in the future, and that business will continue to improve steadily. May G-d help that you live up to the
                                                                                                                              discussing a five year plan [Madrid talks] which
saying of the old Rabbi, Baal HaTanya [author of the Tanya, Rabbi Shneur Zalman, founder of Chabad Chasidism],
that G-d gives the Jew material things and the Jew converts the material into spiritual.                                      they describe as ‘autonomy.’ However, the
     With reference to the amount of tzedokah, I have already written to your before that one should try to give (a little)   semantics are meaningless because the plain truth
more than Maaser.                                                                                                             is that these talks fall under the explicitly stated
     May G-d give you much Yiddish nachas [Jewish pride] from all the members of your family.                                 Torah prohibition of not granting favours to the
     With reference to the question of age in the matter of the shidduch [match, i.e. prospective spouse] of your             nations, which includes the prohibition of ceding
brother, you probably know the adage that a person’s age is not judged by the birth certificate, but one is as old as
one feels. Similarly, in this case, if the person in question is generally more youthful than her age, the difference
                                                                                                                              any part of Eretz Yisrael. These talks will eventually
should not be a handicap. Needless to say, it depends on whether your brother is attracted to her. However, mutual            lead to the actual surrender of parts of the Land of
attraction must often be cultivated.                                                                                          Israel. It then follows that even holding such talks
     With blessing,                                                                                                           constitutes a rejection of G-d and His Torah, of
                                                                                                                              Eretz Yisrael and the holiness of the Land.
12th of Sivan, 5717 [1957]                                                                                                         “Discussions of autonomy plans are just a
Greeting and Blessing:
      I received your letter of May 30th, and I was pleased to read in it that you so quickly saw the fulfillment of G-d’s    prelude to surrendering parts of Eretz Yisrael - and
promise, “Test me now herewith, saith our G-d... if I will not open for you the windows of heaven, and pour you out           not just small territories... You understand Arabic,
a blessing more than enough.” (Malachi 3:10). Thus, your pledge of £500 to Kfar Chabad, has been returned to you              so go and ask the Arabs what their intention is in
many fold. It is a pity that you did not pledge more, so that the benefit would have been so much greater. I trust,           discussing a five year autonomy plan. They will tell
however, that this will be a lesson for the future, to remember how trust in G-d is well rewarded.                            you that their intention is that they will actually be
      With reference to what you write about your worries that after a period of five years there will not be any business,
                                                                                                                              given parts of Eretz Yisrael for the purpose of
you probably are aware that there are many merchants who know of the saying of the Sages, “He who increases his
worldly possessions, increases worry,” nevertheless, they are trying to increase their worldly goods, taking a chance         establishing a Palestinian state...”
at increasing thereby their “headaches.” I assume that you are no exception. I mention this so that you will not take              May we immediately see a cessation of murder
too much to heart the “headaches” of business, since they are the effect of “increasing wealth.” As long as you will          and bloodshed in the Holy Land and peace
keep the channels and vessels open to receive G-d’s blessings, these channels and vessels being all matters connected         through-out the world with the revelation of
with the Torah and Mitzvoth, G-d will surely send you His blessings...                                                        Moshiach, now!
      With blessing in all the above,

 A year after the Exodus, G-d instructed the people of Israel to bring the                            Passover” (Pesach Sheini) for anyone who was unable to bring the offering
 Passover offering on the afternoon of the fourteenth of Nissan, and to eat                           on its appointed time in the previous month. The day thus represents the
 it that evening, roasted over the fire, together with matzah and bitter herbs,                       “second chance” achieved by teshuvah, the power of repentance and
 as they had done on the previous year just before they left Egypt. “There                            “return.” In the words of Rabbi Yosef Yitzchak of Lubavitch, “The Second
 were, however, certain persons who had become ritually impure through                                Passover means that it’s never a ‘lost case.’”
 contact with a dead body, and could not, therefore, prepare the Passover
 offering on that day. They approached Moses and Aaron...and they said:                               On this semi-festive day we don’t say Tachanun, and it is customary to eat
 ‘...Why should we be deprived, and not be able to present G-d’s offering in                          Matzah. It is best to eat Shmurah Matzah if possible.
 its time, amongst the children of Israel?’” (Numbers 9).
 In response to their plea, G-d established the 14th of Iyar as a “Second
                                                                                                                    THOUGHTS THAT COUNT
                                                                                                                    You shall observe My decrees and My judgments, which man shall
                                                                                                                    carry out and live by them (otam) (Lev. 18:5)
                                                                                                                    In this verse the word “otam” (alef-tav-mem) is written without a vav,
                                                                                                                    leaving the same three letters as the word “emet,” meaning truth. From
                                                                                                                    this we learn, by way of allusion, that a person who reveres the truth
                                                                                                                    and is always honest with himself and others can rest assured that he
     The home of Rabbi Eliezer Lippman in the small town of Tiktin,                                                 will “live by them” - be blessed by G-d with a long life. (Degel Machane
Poland was a magnet for all sorts of individuals. Whether a wealthy                                                 Efraim)
man en route to his various business dealings or a destitute vagabond                                               You shall not go about gossiping among your people (Lev. 19:16)
alighted on his doorstep, it mattered not. He and his wife would accept                                             There is nothing in the world as revealing as when a person opens his
wayfarer into their little inn and treat everyone with utmost hospitality.                                          mouth; it divulges to all who he really is. (Zohar)
     One day, Rabbi Lippman and his pious wife heard a ruckus outside
                                                                                                                    You shall be holy, for I am holy (Lev. 19:2)
their home. A large group of vagabonds had surrounded their home.
                                                                                                                    “Holy, but not removed from the world,” comments the Ktav Sofer.
     The door creaked on its hinges as Rabbi Lippman hurried to open it
                                                                                                                    Man is enjoined to imitate G-d, the source of all holiness, who actively
for the band of strangers. The men were dressed in rags and tatters,                                                involves Himself in all aspects of His creation. G-d wants us to live a
their beards had grown wild and their faces were weathered from the                                                 holy life within the physical world, not to be ascetic.
sun and pinched with hunger. With compassion, the righteous couple                                                  A saying exists that a wealthy man’s son never has to worry about
received them warmly, led them to a table and served them a warm                                                    making a living. Likewise, G-d reassures His children, the Jewish
nourishing meal with refreshing drinks.                                                                             people, that holiness and sanctity are well within their grasp. “For I am
     When they had satisfied their hunger and felt somewhat reinvigorated                                           holy”—”I have enough holiness to go around for everyone.” (The Rebbe
from their wanderings, the visitors presented their request. “We wish to                                            of Alexander)
bathe, to clean ourselves from the dirt and grime that has accumulated
on our bodies throughout our long and difficult journeys,” they explained.                                          And you shall love your neighbour as yourself; I am G-d (Lev. 19:18)
     The couple, their faces glowing with joy, readily agreed to provide                                            This verse may also be read: “And you shall love your neighbour”—”as
                                                                                                                    you are yourself.” G-d holds us to the same standards by which we
all that they needed. They hurried to the bathhouse to heat large quantities
                                                                                                                    judge other people. If we show love for our fellow Jews, G-d will show
of water for their guests and then hauled the water back to their inn.
                                                                                                                    the same love for us. (Otzar Hachaim)
Upon returning, they noticed, among the group, one pauper who appeared
agitated. Ill and deformed, his pinched and lined face was sickly and                                               You shall not stand idly by the blood of your neighbour (Lev. 19:16)
weak, and his entire body was covered with painful, unsightly sores                                                 This prohibition also applies in the spiritual sense. If one encounters a
and boils from head to toe. In a weak voice, he was pleading with his                                               Jew in danger of “drowning,” it is forbidden to stand by and do nothing.
companions to help him wash himself, but, repulsed from his ugly                                                    Rather, we are obligated to do all in our power to save him. If you ask,
sores, no one was willing to do so.                                                                                 “Who am I to engage to saving souls?” Rashi comments that “It is
     A wave of pity washed over the innkeeper’s wife. Poor man, she                                                 forbidden to watch someone die when you can rescue him.” The fact
thought. How terrible he must feel. Surely, a good warm bath would                                                  that you have become aware of the other person’s situation is proof that
rejuvenate him and fill him with fresh new energy and vitality.                                                     you will be able to save him. (Likutei Sichot)
     “Come, my dear man,” she said to the leper. “I will give you a bath.”                                          You shall fear, every man, his mother and his father (Lev. 19:3)
Careful not to place undue pressure on the unfortunate man’s many                                                   The obligation to fear and honour one’s parents applies not only when
gashes and lesions, the kind woman respectfully washed his entire                                                   one is too young to stand alone and needs their guidance and support.
body and then gently dressed his wounds.                                                                            Rather, the mitzva applies even later, when one has matured and become
     When she had finished, the grateful guest turned to her and said, “In                                          a “man,” for even then parents must be afforded the proper honour.
return for your kindness, let me give you my blessing. May you merit                                                (Ketav Sofer)
sons like me.”
     The woman was greatly taken aback. Sons like him? A leper, covered                                             C H A B A D H O U S E OF C A U L F I E L D L U B A V I T C H
entirely in dreadful sores? The thought filled her with distress. But
suddenly, the stricken man, his fellow travellers and the wagon they                                                                  PARSHAS ACHAREI-KEDOSHIM
had arrived in, vanished from before her very eyes.                                                                                       10 IYAR • 24 APRIL
     Rabbi Eliezer Lippman turned to his wife. “G-d has put us through a                                              FRIDAY NIGHT:          CANDLE LIGHTING:                    5:26 PM
test,” he murmured softly.                                                                                                                   MINCHA:                             5:35 PM
     And indeed, Heaven had tested them to earn a truly divine gift. The                                                                     KABBOLAS SHABBOS:                   6:10 PM
pious couple was rewarded for their unusual hospitality with the birth of                                             SHABBOS DAY:           SHACHARIS:                         10:00 AM
two saintly sons, Rabbi Elimelech of Lizhensk, who was later the devoted                                                                     LAST TIME TO SAY SHEMA:             9:37 AM
                                                                                                                                             MINCHA:                             5:20 PM
pupil of the Maggid of Mezeritch, the successor of the holy Baal Shem                                                                        SHABBOS ENDS:                       6:23 PM
Tov, and Reb Zusya of Hanipoli, a great Chassidic master.
                                                                                                                      WEEKDAYS:              SHACHARIS SUN-FRI:                  9:15 AM
                                                                                                                                             MINCHA:                             5:30 PM
                                                                                                                                             MAARIV:                             6:15 PM
                            CANDLE LIGHTING: 23 APRIL 2010
                           Begins                                                                            Ends
                           5:26 .........   MELBOURNE ..............................................         6:23
                           5:25 .........   ADELAIDE ...................................................     6:20
                           5:06 .........   BRISBANE ...................................................     5:59
                           6:20 .........   DARWIN ......................................................    7:09
                           5:03 .........   GOLD COAST .............................................         5:55
                           5:30 .........   PERTH ........................................................   6:24
                           5:06 .........   SYDNEY ......................................................    6:01
                           5:13 .........   CANBERRA ................................................        6:08
                           5:12 .........   LAUNCESTON ............................................          6:11
                           5:28 .........   AUCKLAND .................................................       6:24
                           5:22 .........   WELLINGTON .............................................         6:20

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