Path to Recovery
of Child Sexual Abuse (P. 1)
Gabriela Morquin, M.Ed
•Participants will learn the
definition for child sexual abuse.
•Participants will recognize the
statistics related to its frequency
in the Rio Grande Valley.
•Participants will differentiate
the symptoms in adulthood as
how they relate to the three
stages of healing.
Defining Child Sexual Abuse
• Sexual abuse is when any person, adult or child,
forces, tricks, threatens, or coerces a child to
have ANY kind of sexual contact with him/her.
• Showing pornographic pictures or films
• Telling explicit sexual stories
• Touching children inappropriately
Stages of Healing
Victim Survivor Thriver
• Does not deserve nice things • Overwhelmed by past
• Low self • Hopeless
esteem/shame/unworthy • Uses outer world to hide from
• Hyper vigilant self
• Alone • Hides their story
• Feels selfish • Believes everyone else is
• Damaged better and stronger
• Confusion & numbness • Often wounded by unsafe
• Creates one drama after others
another • Places own needs last
• Believes suffering is the • Uses inappropriate humor,
human condition including teasing
• Depressed • Lives in the past
Relating To The World as a Victim
• Caretaker/rescuer • Walking time-bombs
• Hider • The only thing that
• Take me, I’m yours helps is dying
• I’m tough, nothing • My head aches, hug
hurts me me
• Lost soul • If it hurts, I know
• Struggling for reasons & chance to • Not afraid to tell their story to safe
• Sees self as wounded & healing • Learning how to protect self by
• Learning to use tools to learn to share, check, share
relax • Feeling some relief, knows they
• Seeking help need to continue in recovery.
• Naming what happened • Beginning to laugh
• Learning to grieve • Feels associated painful feelings
• Hopeful instead
• Stays with emotional pain • Increasing awareness of pain and
• Comes out of hiding to hear others
& have compassion for them & • Aware of patterns
• Glimpses of self-acceptance & fu
eventually self. without others.
• Gratitude for everything in life • Lives with an open heart with self
• Sees self as an overflowing & others
miracle • Places self first realizing that is the
• Gratitude for new life only way to function & eventually
• Proud of healthy self caring help others
• Was wounded and now healing • Finds joy in peace
• Grieving at current losses • Seeing humor in life
• Living in the present • Uses healthy humor
• Faith in self and life • Healthy boundaries around toxic
people, including relatives
• Understands that emotional pain
will pass & bring new insight • Lives in the Now
• Sees reality as their projection & • Enjoys personal relationship with
owns it. the God of their understanding
• Feels authentic & connected, • Aliveness
• Gil Eliana Outgrowing The Pain, 2003, Dell Publishing, New York, NY.
• The Morris Center, Survivor To Thriver, 1995, The Morris Center,
• San Francisco, CA.
• Gil Eliana Helping Abused and Traumatized Children: Integrating
• and Nondirective Approaches, 2006 The Guilford Press, New York, NY.
• Whitfield Harris Barbara, From Victim to Survivor to Thriver, www.
Path to Recovery:
Adult Survivors of Child
Ileana Herrera, M.S., LCDC, LPC