102 Dating Tips To Help You Find The
Love Of Your Life
102 Dating Tips to Help You Find the Love of Your Life
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Dating Tips for Women
1. Remember to keep your ears open more than your mouth. Your date is not one
of your girlfriends, and he probably would enjoy a chance to talk about himself and
his interests for a little while too. If he seems uninterested in sharing, it may just be
that he’s quiet. Ask questions to get him talking about himself and what interests
him.
2. Get dressed up. Nothing says “I’m not interested” quite as loudly as showing up for
a date poorly dressed. You don’t have to be a fashion diva, but make a little extra
effort to show your date that you took time with him in mind. Dress appropriately for
the activity of the day and always be prepared for the unexpected.
3. Avoid talking about your past dates and ex-partners. Should the relationship
progress past a few solitary dates, you might be in a place where it is ok to talk about
these people, but in general you should steer clear of mentioning them as much as
possible. If you do mention previous partners, you are risking giving your date the
impression that he might never live up to your memories or that you are still hung up
on an ex.
4. Do not be rude. This includes being rude to your date, the babysitter, your waiter
and the woman behind the counter at the coffee shop. Use your best manners and be
polite as much as possible. Remember that the goal is to make a good impression!
And expect the same in return. Pay attention to how your date talks to you and to
others and whether they treat others with respect.
5. Watch your language. While a man may be impressed at his new buddy’s ability to
curse like a sailor, chances are that he does not want to hear the same from a lady
friend. If you want to be respected, you need to act as though you deserve respect
after all.
6. Don’t keep him waiting. Remember that old saying about being fashionably late?
No? Good! It’s not nice to keep your date waiting and being late can demonstrate
disrespect and disorganization. If you cannot avoid being late, be sure to call as soon
as you realize that you will be running behind.
7. Avoid talking politics. While you may be passionate about your favorite political
candidate, there is a good chance that a political discussion could ruin a perfectly fun
evening. It is important to avoid arrogance on a date and although you may feel
strongly about a specific issue or candidate there is no guarantee that you are right.
So you are definitely better to avoid hot topics altogether.
8. Never cancel a date last minute, unless you are cancelling as a result of a family
emergency. If you know that you need to cancel, it is important to give the other
person plenty of notice so that they can reschedule the time. If you don’t, there is a
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good chance that your date will not be understanding, ruining your chance of seeing
them again in the future.
9. Make your date feel as though he is the only person in the room. Remember that a
date is about two people getting to know one another. Therefore, you should focus all
of your attention on your date. This will make the other person feel special and
important. Also, make sure that you maintain eye contact with your date as much as
possible throughout the evening to show attentiveness.
10. Be classy, but avoid extravagance. It is important to look classy on your dates, but
to avoid being overly showy. Even if you have a pair of 2 carat diamond earrings you
should not necessarily wear them on the first date. However, you should try to avoid
wearing jeans unless you are going to an amusement park or a baseball game.
Business casual attire is almost always appropriate for a first date, and it shows that
you care about how you look and respect yourself.
11. Don’t worry so much about the future. There are some times when two people are
simply not going to be attracted to one another. Even if you find your date to be
completely unattractive, you should still show him the courtesy of making the
evening enjoyable. Smile, be polite and have a good time. There’s no rule that you
can’t just be friends.
12. Don’t’ lie. Honesty is always the best policy, and unless you want your date to find
out some time in the future that you based the beginning of your relationship on a
series of lies, it is far better to be honest from the beginning. After all, don’t you
expect the same level of honesty from your date?
13. Make sure that your date feels comfortable. If you notice that your date is feeling
uncomfortable for any reason, it’s a good time to either change the subject or possibly
suggest moving to another activity or location. Ask yourself why your date might be
uneasy and do whatever you can to make him feel more comfortable.
14. Be witty and cute! There’s nothing wrong with a few witty comments. It’s
important to show your date that you can be both smart and attractive. Be sure to keep
your conversation on topics that are not opinionated or aggressive and you are certain
to charm anyone listening.
15. If you don’t like your date the first time, either resolve to give him a second shot
or just be honest. It’s unfair and rude to leave the door open to future dates if you are
simply uninterested. Don’t promise to call unless you intend to call. And don’t lead
him on. Sometimes one person feels chemistry that the other person does not, and it
is unfair to take advantage of the other person’s feelings. It is far better to just be
honest.
16. Don’t date other people when you are in a relationship. If you do, be completely
honest with the guy. Remember that you would expect that same level of honesty. It
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is important for your date to realize that there may be nothing more than a single date
as a result of your prior involvement.
17. Look great but not uninviting. Beautiful hair and light makeup go a long way no
matter what you are wearing. Focus on looking your best at all times, but be natural
and be yourself. Make sure that your clothes fit properly and if that shirt is wrinkled,
iron it before you head out for the evening!
18. Keep dates brief. If you want to keep your men interested, you should keep your
dates brief so that they have to call for another date if they want to spend more time
with you. Open ended dates are okay as well, that way you have the opportunity to
end the date when you are ready or to continue it for a longer time if you are both
enjoying the evening.
19. Stay in shape. When you are on the dating scene, it is important to stay as healthy
and fit as you possibly can. After all, although they may not plainly state it, your
dates are going to be just as interested in your looks as they are in your brains. Don’t
be obsessive, but pay attention to what you eat and get plenty of exercise. This way,
you will be looking and feeling your best.
20. Don’t always say yes. Even if you are going to be sitting at home petting your cat on
Friday night, a Thursday night dinner invitation may be too short of notice! Don’t
say yes to every date, or at least not to the proposed time. This will help you to find
out which men are interested for real and which are just bored and without plans for
the following evening.
21. Never make assumptions. If you have a question for your date, it is important to
simply ask the question. It is far better to have the real answer than to make
assumptions, because should the relationship continue you may find yourself
continuing to hold incorrect assumptions.
22. Avoid possessive men as much as possible. If you are on a date and the guy starts
getting possessive, this is most likely a sign of insecurity. Give him a chance to
change the behavior by pointing it out or just resolve that he’s not the right guy for
you and move on.
23. Keep an eye on his shoes. The shoes that a man wears are a good indication of how
well he takes care of himself. If he shows up in ragged shoes, unless you are going
hiking, you should be on the lookout for other similar signs. Remember that everyone
has a bad day now and again and don’t be too critical the first time his appearance is
lacking. But, if he is constantly disheveled, you might want to think about what else
in his life is not in order.
24. Be careful to never come across as completely available or desperate. Even if you
haven’t had a date in months there is no reason to tell him that. Let him pursue you
and show him that you’re worth chasing. Don’t say yes every time he calls and give
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him the impression that you’re busy occasionally so that he doesn’t think you’re
sitting at home waiting for his every call.
25. Concentrate on fun and savor every date. Getting nervous about the second date
while you’re still on the first is a bad move. Stop obsessing, and just enjoy the time
that you are spending with Mr. Wonderful. And remember that even an awesome
first date might not guarantee a good second date.
26. Show some class. Remember that while men are going to be attracted to you
physically, it is more important that they are attracted to your class if you are looking
for something a little more serious. Show your intelligence, your ability to be caring
and sensitive and don’t be afraid to mention the last book you read. It’s not all about
your looks; your brains are just as important to anyone worth keeping around!
27. Don’t put up with being second best. If you are on a date with a man whose eyes
have spent more time wandering than they have on you, then find a way to make a
quick escape. Thank him for the evening and don’t give him the chance to waste any
more of your time. In general, it is best not to just walk out in the middle of a date
because it’s rude. However, in a particularly uncomfortable situation, it might be
better for you to leave on your own.
28. Look for men who know who they are and what they want. Many women will tell
you that there’s nothing more attractive in a man than confidence. If you are looking
for a confident man, seek those who seem to have a presence that says they know
who they are and where they are going with their lives. And remember that just
because a man does not have your ideal job or income level, it doesn’t mean that he’s
not worth getting to know better.
29. Laugh at his jokes. Generally - unless your date tells you a joke that is completely
tasteless - it is polite to laugh at his jokes. Remember that this might be his way of
making you feel comfortable. You should do the same in return! Even if you just
heard the joke an hour earlier, laugh and make him think you’ve never heard it
before.
30. Keep the conversation flowing. Even the worst dates can end up well thanks to good
conversation. Have a few questions in mind to spark your date’s interest. Just try not
to make it seem like a job interview. If you’re out of practice, consider trying out your
questions on a friend ahead of time. Sometimes, it’s easier to ask questions that you
are not asking for the first time.
31. Be confident. We all get nervous on first dates, it’s expected. But once the date has
actually started, be confident and show your confidence in yourself. A good way to
show low confidence is to remain silent throughout the date. Don’t do it! Be yourself
and show your date that you are having a good time.
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32. Be yourself. Don’t try to fool anyone by pretending to be something or someone you
are not. Remember that if the first date goes well, you might find yourself spending
more time with this guy in the future. Let him know who you are from the very
beginning, otherwise if he finds out later that you aren’t who you pretended to be, the
relationship could come to a screeching halt.
33. Use excellent table manners. Even if you go to a casual place for dinner, take the
time to show your date that you are a lady. Put your napkin on your lap, don’t eat
with your fingers unless you are eating finger food and always keep your mouth
closed while you chew! If your mother was sitting at the table, would she be proud of
you?
34. Stay away from overly personal questions. The first date is about getting to know
the other person, but there are some topics that are better left for later dates.
Remember that if things go well, you will have plenty of chances to ask personal
questions later. And sometimes, the fewer details your date has about your personal
life the better, particularly if the date does not go as well as you had hoped.
35. Always say thank you. Even if the date turned out to be a nightmarish experience it
is important to thank your date for taking time to spend with you. A thank you at the
end of the evening is an excellent open door for your date to ask you out again or for
you to end the evening quickly if you would prefer not to see the other person again.
36. Pay attention to how much you are drinking. Whether it’s wine with dinner, beers
with friends or martinis after a show it is important to maintain your senses when you
are on a date. Getting drunk puts your safety in question and it could result in you
saying or doing things that you might very well regret later on.
37. Always tell someone who you are with and where you are going. This is
particularly important on a first date. Whether you tell a friend or a family member,
just be sure that someone knows where you will be. Should anything bad happen,
they will have a way to locate you quickly.
38. Get to the point if you have no intention of going on another date with someone.
If you simply have no intention of seeing this guy again, tell him that. Being nice is
not always the best policy. A good approach is to thank your date at the end of the
evening and then to explain that you are simply feeling no chemistry between the two
of you. Be aware that he may ask for a second chance. You need to decide in
advance whether or not this is something that you would consider.
39. At the end of the evening, if you are not interested, don’t tell him you’d prefer to
be friends. That is of course, unless you have decided that there is some type of
chemistry between the two of you. Chemistry does not always have to be romantic,
and if you think there’s a chance for friendship then there’s no harm in it. But be
honest and give him the opportunity to say no.
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40. Be soft but firm with your rejection. Men are not the best signal interpreters. It is
better to be forthright and honest, particularly if you do not want to see him again.
Otherwise, you are setting him up to be hurt and putting yourself in a situation where
he may not get the subliminal messages you are sending.
41. Know what you are looking for. If you have a good idea of the type of partner you
are looking for, you are destined to be looking for a shorter period of time than
someone who doesn’t know what they want. Don’t date men just to say you have a
date. Be discriminative and only date those men who have what you are looking for.
42. Keep the first date as casual as possible. It is important to remember that the first
date is about figuring out whether or not you’d like to spend more time getting to
know the other person. But at the same time, you need to make every effort to keep
the date as casual as possible. Your goal is to find the right person for you and you
will not figure this out in one single date. Take the time to get to know your date and
then decide whether or not this person seems to really have what you are looking for.
43. Before the date, worry less about making a good impression and more about
how you are going to feel about the other person. You will be looking and feeling
great and you need to allow yourself to spend the evening figuring out what you think
of the other person.
44. Don’t feel the need to settle. After women are on the dating scene for a while, they
may begin to question whether they are simply being too picky about the men in their
lives. Don’t fall into this trap! Until you find Mr. Right, continue to look. And, never
settle for someone simply because you think you’ll never find the right one for you.
45. Pay attention to the small things. Be careful not to come across as cold or uncaring
to your date. After all, men are looking for someone to love. If you don’t come
across as lovable there is a good chance that he will assume you aren’t. Men like
feminine women, so be sure to try to show your feminine side as much as possible!
46. Be challenging. Men prefer to be challenged in relationships, so that they do not
become bored. This is not to say that you should try to compete with your date, but
be interesting and unique. A challenged man is a man who will try to rise and meet
the challenge. So be interesting and keep him chasing for some time to come.
47. Men are looking for commitment. In general, most men are looking for women
who want to commit to them. They want and need someone to confide in and trust. If
you are not interested in a commitment, it is important to be honest from the
beginning to avoid hurt feelings. This is something you may not discover for a few
dates, but be on the lookout for the signs if you are looking to avoid a long term
commitment.
48. Use your eyes. Eye contact is very important. Your eyes can speak at length on your
behalf! If you are interested in someone, make and keep eye contact with them as
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much as possible. First, make direct eye contact and then let them catch you making
sideways glances. Let him catch you! Then turn your eyes downward and smile.
He’ll pick up on this signal that you are interested.
49. Be aware of your body language. If you are interested in your date, never sit with
your arms crossed. If you are cold, you might want to make a comment about it if you
do have your arms crossed for warmth though. One sure way to show interest is to
keep your hands moving gracefully, possibly over to remove that piece of lint from
his jacket.
50. Be cautious. Safety is something that you need to pay particular attention to when
you are dating. Always go to public and well-lit places for your first date and make
sure that you have a safe way home should the date turn sour. Never drink and drive,
and pay attention to how much alcohol you are drinking when you are out with
someone you do not know very well.
51. Consider giving out your email address rather than your phone number. Email
addresses are easy to change, as opposed to phone numbers. When you meet a man
for the first time and he asks for your number, consider giving him your email address
instead. If by some chance he becomes a stalker, you can simply get a new email
address. Never give out your home address to someone you don’t know.
Dating Tips for Men
52. Be witty with your pickup lines. The first time you approach a woman; don’t try
to impress her with intelligent conversation right from the start. Instead, you need
to focus on being cute and clever so that you can get her phone number or at least
give her yours. Cliché pickup lines may seem like the way to go, but you’d be
better finding a genuine opener that she probably has not already heard a thousand
times.
53. Be completely real. Women have a way of recognizing a phony guy. Therefore,
it is important to always be yourself instead of trying to impress a woman by
being something that you are not. Even if they fall for it in the beginning they
will figure you out in time.
54. Keep her guessing. Women like a challenge as much as men. Therefore, it’s not
necessary to work hard to show her just how much you like her. Let the
relationship bloom over time and just enjoy the trip! Don’t be secretive or avoid
her questions however, when she shows interest in your life by asking questions it
is important to give her the answer.
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55. Avoid awkward silences. When you’re chatting with a woman, be careful to
avoid the awkward silence when there is a lull in conversation. Have some witty
lines in mind for keeping the conversation moving. Having a witty one liner will
most likely get the ladies laughing and make you stand out from the rest in just a
few seconds.
56. A single compliment is often the best way to get the attention of a busy
woman. For example, if you are grocery shopping and you see a woman you’d
like to meet consider approaching her and giving her a very simple compliment to
start up a conversation. After a few minutes, ask her for her phone number and
tell her you’ll call later to continue the chat. Don’t forget to call when you say
you will, otherwise she may get the wrong impression.
57. If you say you’re going to call, call. This is a common mistake that many men
make. If you tell a woman that you are going to call at seven p.m., they will be
waiting for your call. Making them wait, or never calling, is rude and most
women will become quickly uninterested in a man who doesn’t follow through.
58. Send flowers. Women love to receive flowers and any day is a good day to send
or hand deliver a seasonal bouquet. Women are most impressed when a man
seems to know just the right flowers and just the right occasion. And remember
that women like surprises, so send her flowers when she’s least expecting it.
59. Be emotionally prepared. Many men forget that even the first date could be the
start of a long term relationship if things go well. Prepare yourself mentally for
the idea that the first, second or later date could be the night where you fall in
love. Being unprepared can leave you less open to the woman that you are dating
and give her the impression that you’re either not interested or just not ready.
60. Don’t start dating immediately after a break-up. After ending one
relationship, it is a bad idea to start another one right away. If you do, then the
negative feelings you may be experiencing, or the shadow of your former partner,
may loom and keep you from truly enjoying the dating experience. So take some
time to regroup and make sure that you’re ready before you start dating again.
61. Be prepared for rejection. Dating is a scary proposition for men and women
alike. There is always a risk that you will enjoy being with your date more than
she enjoys being with you, or that you will feel chemistry that she does not.
Remember that rejection is part of dating and that everyone feels rejection at one
point or another during their lives.
62. Be positive. Women are not interested in men with low self-esteem or those who
seem to have a completely negative outlook. Show your lady the value of
positive thinking. And don’t try to fake it! You need to adopt an overall positive
attitude to show her what you have to offer.
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63. Be unique. There’s no rule to say that the first date must always be dinner and a
movie. If you have a favorite art gallery, museum or jazz club, consider taking
your date to one of the places that you truly enjoy. Be unique and make your date
an evening to remember for both of you.
64. Don’t be arrogant. Women do not generally fall for men who are full of
themselves so avoid spending the evening rattling on about your accomplishments
and possessions. If you do, then your date may think that you are simply putting
on an act to impress her. Be your