Fulfilling the Promise of Adoption by vgw19124


									            Fulfilling the Promise of Adoption                                                                                                       Spring 2005
         It’s not too late to register for Barker’s 60th Anniversary Conference,
       “Fulfilling the Promise of Adoption,” which will be held on Saturday,
       March 5, from 9 AM to 4 PM in Rockville, Maryland, at the Shady Grove
       Conference Center. The conference features two nationally acclaimed
    authors and adoptive fathers: psychologist, Dr. Michael Thompson
 (The Pressured Child); and journalist Neely Tucker (Love in the Driest Season).
 Break-out sessions include panels of adopted persons, birth fathers and birth
 mothers, and adoptive parents. For an additional fee, onsite child care is
 available. Please call Sue Culver for more information: 301–664–9664, or
 email info@barkerfoundation.org. The registration form may be downloaded
 from Barker’s website: www.barkerfoundation.org. Our gratitude to the
                                                                                        Pictured, left to right: Vita, Chipo and Neely Tucker
 Freddie Mac Foundation for sponsoring the conference!                                                      Photo: John Jones

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                                                                                                                                                                                  Connected Lives . . . Creating the Art Project                                                                     New Barker Staff Invites
         From the
                                                                                                                                                                          When I was first asked to put together an art committee for Barker’s new office                                           You to Make a Difference!
     Executive Director                                                                                                                                                   space, two Barker moms immediately came to mind: Diane Brooks, an art quilt and
                                                                                                                                                                          wearable–art designer; and Alice Corbett, a classically–trained artist. As longstanding                                  The Barker team welcomes two new additions
                                                                                                                                                                          volunteers and parents of teenagers, we found irresistible the chance once again to share                                in 2005. Kimberly Watkins joined Barker in
                                                                                                                                                                          our creative energies on behalf of Barker, PLUS catch up on our own families!                                            January as Executive Assistant to Marilyn Regier.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Kimberly’s responsibilities include development,
                                                                                                                                                                          Back in July when we began this art project, we were somewhat overwhelmed by how                                         event planning, and administration. Prior to
                                                                                                                                                                          many blank walls there were. So we visited galleries and consulted with outside                                          joining Barker, she founded and ran a nonprofit
                                                                                                                                                                          professionals. Over time, we came to trust our own creative instincts. Diane became                                      organization that taught youth financial literacy,
                                                                                                                                                                          excited about incorporating sepia–toned photographs of Barker children into a                                            building successful relationships with local banks
                                                                                                                                                                          multi–colored quilt, to convey the idea of history while uniting children from many                                      to support her organization’s mission. In her spare
                                                                                                                                                                          different countries. She was totally surprised to learn much later that the pattern for                                  time she continues to teach young people and
                                                                                                                                                                          this particular quilt is actually called “Trip around the World.” And so the quilt Diane                                 work with local schools to focus on youth
                                                             Open House Co–Chairs, Sonya Ali & Meg Miller, survey Barker's new office space.                              created is now displayed in Barker’s reception area, offering a warm welcome to all.                                     entrepreneurship. Kimberly lives in Silver Spring
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   with her husband and son.
                                                               Come Visit Barker’s New Home                                                                                                                                                                  Alice came to our creative
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             process thinking about the depth      Juanita Holland, Ph.D., also joined Barker
Sixty years is a remarkably long life for an    SAVE THE DATE! On Sunday, April 10 from 1–4p.m., Barker invites you to an                                                                                                                                                                          in January as the Senior Writer and Grants
adoption agency. Indeed, there are only         “Open House” to see the new main office at 7979 Old Georgetown Road in                                                                                                                                       and breadth of the adoption
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             experience. The broad spectrum        Coordinator. As Grants Coordinator, she will be
a handful of agencies that have Barker’s        Bethesda. This family event, chaired by Sonya Ali and Meg Miller, will include good                                                                                                                                                                growing the base of foundation support that
longevity. Since 1945, the agency has           food, a raffle drawing, an art “quilt” project for children to participate in (that will                                                                                                                     of life experiences in adoption
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             could be represented by               nourishes vitally important Barker services. Juanita
touched the lives of countless individuals,     later be displayed in the office) and balloon sculptor for the kids. The afternoon will be                                                                                                                                                         has been writing successful grant proposals for
and in 2005, we are planning a number of        an opportunity to visit with old friends, make new ones or to just catch up on the                                                                                                                           a spectrum of hues and
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             light–dark values, contrasting with   major area nonprofits for the last five years.
events designed to bring the Barker family      changes that have taken place at Barker over the past year.                                                                                                                                                                                        She brings writing skills honed as an historian
together throughout the 60th anniversary                                                                                                                                                                                                                     each other and creating a
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             background for children’s faces.      and published writer to advocate on behalf of
year. Some of these events are more             Volunteers are needed for the Open House. If you would like to help with the                                                                                                                                                                       Barker’s domestic, international, and post–adopt
ceremonial, some more informal. But all are     quilt project, or if your child would like to be present for the “ribbon cutting,”                                                                                                                           From this concept came our idea
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             of mixed–media, multi–colored         programs. Along with raising a son and many
intended to foster connections among the        please email Meg Miller at megbendermiller@comcast.net. If you have questions, you                                                                                                                                                                 pets, Juanita continues her scholarly work, writing
members of the greater Barker “family.”         may also call Kimberly Watkins at Barker, 301–664–9664, ext. 210; or send her an                                                                                                                             “quilt–canvases” featuring photo
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             collages of Barker children           and teaching African American history.
                                                email at: kwatkins@barkerfoundation.org. Please also feel free to invite family or
As we embark on this eventful year, one of      friends who may be interested in adoption to attend the open house.                                                                                                                                           transferred to fabric and canvas,
                                                                                                                                                                    Barker's wonderful Art Committee tests out a wall as a potential "home" for one of its    representing Barker’s domestic       Kimberly is building the pool of Barker
the most encouraging recent developments                                                                                                                            creations. Pictured, left to right: Diane Brooks, Alice Corbett, and Maureen Golden.                                           volunteers, most immediately for the March
is the reemergence of the “volunteer spirit”    Additional information on the Open House will follow in the mail in the next                                                                                                                                  and international families.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   5th conference, the April 10th Sixtieth
in Barker families. Volunteerism seemed for     few weeks.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Anniversary Open House, and the June picnic.
a time to go out of style, perhaps from some                                                                                                                              And I was struck by how meaningful it has been for each of us personally to be part of
                                                         — by Meg Miller                                                                                                  a project which reflects so much of what Barker is all about–lives connected by adoption.                                Please contact her if you’d like to volunteer for
confluence of demographic shifts, women                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            these dates, or to help out with other Barker
in the workplace, staff turnover at Barker,                                                                                                                               Over the course of many hours, our work and our lives became intertwined, much in
                                                                                                                                                                          the traditional way of coming together to stitch a quilt, but enhanced by the special                                    activities (kwatkins@barkerfoundation.org).
and quite simply—apathy. We are a small                                                                            Pictured are the children and staff of the                                                                                                                                      Juanita is always interested in hearing
staff and very dependent upon and grateful                                                                                                                                perspectives we share as adoptive parents. Not only have we created truly unique
                                                                                                                   Samaritan Children's Home in Sri Lanka.                                                                                                                                         from those who may have contacts in or
for the volunteers who have recently come                                                                                                                                 artwork which we hope will touch many, but we also experienced once again why we
                                                                                                                   The orphanage is run by Dayalan Sanders,                                                                                                                                        information about the foundation community
forth, especially eager to make Barker’s 60th                                                                                                                             and other families connected by adoption cherish our continuing relationships with
                                                                                                                   brother of Barker adoptive parent, Kanya                                                                                                                                        (jholland@barkerfoundation.org). Your input
truly special.                                                                                                     Sanders. The home was destroyed in the recent
                                                                                                                                                                          each other and with Barker. Come see for yourself on April 10!
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   can be instrumental in helping Barker to win the
                                                                                                                   tsunami, but every single orphan was saved                          — by Maureen Golden                                                                                         funding we need to provide critical assistance to
Someone has observed that ceremonies are                                                                           after a dramatic rescue by Dayalan. The
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   birth mothers, children, and adoptive families.
“the punctuation marks of life, which help                                                                         Barker Foundation sent a donation for the
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   Both Juanita and Kimberly look forward to
us to pause and possess our lives, rather                                                                          rebuilding of the home. Interested readers may                                                       News in Brief                                                              getting to know the larger Barker family in the
than being simply rushed along by them.”                                                                           visit www.samaritanchildrenshome.org
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   coming year.
So, with all the gratitude of one who is                                                                                                                                  We welcome Angelika Balik as Domestic Program Assistant and bid farewell to
both an adoptive parent and an adoption                                                                                                                                   her predecessor, Meagan Lyon, who has entered a graduate school program.                                                                       Pictured, left to right:
professional, I invite you to pause, reflect,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Kimberly Watkins, Marilyn Regier, and Juanita Holland
and celebrate this wonderful year, while                                            With Sympathy                                                                         If you have an interest in Barker’s first Birthland Tour to Colombia this summer,
also recommitting your energy and your                                                                                                                                    please email Colleen McLain at cmclain@barkerfoundation.org.
resources to the task of ensuring that               We send our heartfelt sympathy to two Barker families who mourn the loss of
                                                     loved ones. Jennifer Hammer, beloved wife of Tom, and mother of Adam and                                             We are compiling a Barker Cookbook and welcome recipes from our families. Please
Barker is there for future generations.                                                                                                                                   submit contributions to Dionne Johnston by April 2: djohnston@barkerfoundation.org.
                                                     Samantha, died on November 22. Jennifer's spirit was an inspiration to many,
                                                     and her devotion to Barker was evident through her many volunteer activities.
                                                     We also send condolences to the family of Col. (U.S. Army Ret.) Hayden
                                                                                                                                                                          Thanks to Barker parent, Karen Lerner, for making available a a speaking opportunity
                                                     Estey, father of Victoria Burch and John Estey. Col. Estey died December 13                                          at Cedar lane Unitarian Universalist Church's Sunday Forum series. Marilyn Regier gave
                                                     and was preceded in death by his wife. Barker is grateful to the Hammer and                                          a symposium lecture on January 16, "Ethical Challenges in Contemporary Adoption
                                                     Estey families for designating Barker as a memorial gift recipient.                                                  Practice." Please let us know of any additional opportunities for Barker staff to get out
                                                                                                                                                                          into the community!

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