Page 8 Thursday, March 5, 2009 The Westfield Leader and The Scotch Plains – Fanwood TIMES A WATCHUNG COMMUNICATIONS, INC. PUBLICATION HUNG UP!! Martha E. Dimmick, Beloved Teacher; Active In Various Civic Organizations – Obituaries – Wife Seeks Advice In Creating Martha Elizabeth Dimmick passed by her students, parents and col- Anthony Abbruzzese, 95, Technician; Harmony With Mother-in-Law away on Wednesday, February 4, at leagues alike. By Milt Faith, Executive Director her home in Easton, Pa. with her devoted sister at her side. After leaving teaching, Martha con- tinued her civic involvements by re- Was Active With Senior Organizations Youth and Family Counseling Service In 1950, Martha arrived in Scotch maining active in her home commu- Anthony Abbruzzese, 95, of ter, Theresa Lonzak, and his aunt, Plains and for the next 40 years she nity of Easton, Pa. until the time of Fanwood died on Monday, March 2, Pauline Faso. A Distraught Daughter-in-law to obtain employment, return home shared her many gifts and love of her death. at Overlook Hospital in Summit. He also was predeceased by his Writes: I can’t take my mother-in- at reasonable times, be decent and teaching with the families in her town. A private service was held on Fri- Born in New York City, he was siblings, Giovanni “Pooch” law’s controlling behavior. I don’t cooperate with family duties, etc. She was joined in 1957 by her sister, day, February 6, in Easton. raised in South Plainfield and had Abbruzzese, Alfred “Buddy” want to argue, because she can be I do not feel that a threat of rejection Ethel Dimmick, who taught first grade March 5, 2009 lived in Plainfield before moving to Abbruzzese and Janet Nehilia. very sweet to my husband and me, from home and family is helpful, since and retired along with her in 1990. Fanwood 59 years ago. The funeral will be held and is a good grandmother, whenever Noah seems to be asking for help. A She also became active in many Helen A. Turteltaub Mr. Abbruzzese had been on Saturday, March 7, at she isn’t critical or demanding or good friend, Father Bill Morris, once organizations, such as the College Helen A. Turteltaub died on Thurs- employed as a technician 8:30 a.m. from the Memo- teaching our daughter “good eti- reminded me that Tough Love includes Club of Fanwood-Scotch Plains, the day, February 26, at her residence in with Auster’s Appliance rial Funeral Home, 155 quette.” I know you can’t change cer- the word “love” in its name. To him, Scotch Plains Historical Society and Scotch Plains. Co. in Westfield for 39 South Avenue in Fanwood. tain people, but how can I make our and me, this means being firm with the Republican Club. Born in Brooklyn, N.Y., Helen had years before retiring. He A Funeral Mass will be visits more comfortable? having expectations re change (in feel- Martha was respected and admired lived there and in Bayonne before was an active member of offered at 9:30 a.m. at St. Answer: If you remember the fol- ing and behavior), yet caring and avail- moving to Scotch Plains in 1981. the Tri County Seniors and Bartholomew the Apostle lowing three things, you’ll feel a lot able when the other person responds. A life member of Hadassah, she was the South Plainfield Trav- Roman Catholic Church, better. When visiting your mother-in- Reach out to your son with care, yet Eleanor Ebersole, 78 a former member of Temple Emanuel eling Seniors and enjoyed 2032 Westfield Avenue in law, remember to: 1) be quick, 2) be expect cooperation and change. Eleanor “Ellie” Ebersole, 78, of of Bayonne and Brandeis Women. traveling with his special Scotch Plains. Interment quiet, 3) be gone! It works! A Questioning Young Lady Writes: Fanwood died suddenly on Wednes- Helen was the beloved wife of the friend, the late Susan will follow at Fairview A Distraught Mother Writes: My I am to be married in August. I am day, February 25, at Overlook Hospi- late Leo; the devoted mother of Lois G o c h a l . A n t h o n y Anthony Abbruzzese Cemetery in Westfield. husband and I disagree on how to very happy with my fiancé, but some- tal in Summit. A. Silbergeld of Westfield and Stanley Abbruzzese Visitation will be from 2 to handle our 19-year-old son, Noah thing has come up recently that con- Born and raised in Woodbridge, W. Turteltaub of Scotch Plains; the His wife, Louise Merrill 4 and 7 to 9 p.m. tomorrow, Friday, (disguised name), who quit college cerns me. I’ve talked to my family she had lived in Westfield before dear mother-in-law of Ronald Abbruzzese, predeceased him in 1982. March 6, at the funeral home. and has been unable to keep a job for and friends, and they feel I am in for moving to Fanwood in 1952. Silbergeld and Sheila Turteltaub, and Surviving are his children, Vincent In lieu of flowers, donations may any period of time. He occasionally trouble unless I resolve this problem. Mrs. Ebersole had been employed the loving grandmother of Adam, Abbruzzese and his wife, Ginny, and be made to St. Jude Children’s Re- smokes pot and is out late with girls. My fiancé wants me to sign a pren- as a receptionist for Dr. David Will- Gyll, Todd, Marc and Beth and great- Marilyn Rutishauser; five grandchil- search Hospital, 501 St. Jude Place, We have been unable to get him to uptial agreement. I am very uncom- iams in Plainfield prior to retiring. grandmother of Alexa, Zoe, Daniel, dren, Kimberly Mason and her hus- Memphis, Tenn. 38105-1942 obey the boundaries we have set up fortable and opposed to this. And his Earlier, she worked in the business Lily and Langston. band, Dean, Scott Rutishauser, Mark (www.stjude.org) or to “Autism regarding his staying out late and mother drew up the agreement! He office at NJ Bell and, later, as a sales Services were conducted on Sun- Rutishauser and his wife, Jessica, Speaks,” 1060 State Road, Second coming home at all hours, not being also talks about getting a house near associate and floral designer at day, March 1, at Menorah Chapels at Greg Abbruzzese and Todd Floor, Princeton, N.J. 08540 able to hold a job, etc. his mother so she can baby sit when Scotchwood Florist in Fanwood. Millburn in Union. Interment took Rutishauser, and six great-grandchil- (www.autismspeaks.org). For addi- My husband and I have been in- we have children. We have never Surviving are her husband, Alan; place at the United Hebrew Cemetery dren, Kelly, Kara and Kevin Mason, tional information or to express con- volved with people who are part of discussed having children, how her son, Richard, and his wife, Nancy; in Staten Island, N.Y. Madyson Abbruzzese and Morgan dolences, please visit Tough Love, a group which estab- many, etc. her brother, Alvin Rymsha, and her March 5, 2009 and Ryan Rutishauser. He also is sur- www.fanwoodmemorial.com. lishes rules on how to remain firm My questions to you are: (1) I op- granddaughter, Kristin. Doris M. Watts, 80 vived by his brother, Robert; his sis- March 5, 2009 and consistent with oppositional chil- pose a prenuptial agreement and refuse A memorial service took place on Doris M. Watts, 80, died on Satur- dren. Recently, Noah has confided in to be part of it. Isn’t this my right? Sunday, March 1, at the Memorial day, February 21, at her home in Lisa A. Dedousis, M.D., Medical Resident; me that he is depressed and confused, Doesn’t it also mean Bob (disguised Funeral Home, 155 South Avenue in Scotch Plains. and he is tired of his dysfunctional name) isn’t taking my feelings into Fanwood. Born and raised in Jersey City, she Was St. Peter’s College and NYU Alumna life. He has agreed to see a therapist. consideration? (2) I feel it is inappro- Those who wish may make dona- had lived in Elizabeth before moving Lisa Anne Dedousis, M.D. of Jer- hold, N.J. and Naples, Fla.; her brother, However, my husband feels Noah priate for his mother to be part of this tions in her memory to the Fanwood to Scotch Plains in 1973. sey City died tragically in an auto- John T. Dedousis, Jr., M.D. and his is manipulating us, and he feels that agreement. Don’t you agree? I am Memorial Library, North Avenue and Mrs. Watts had been employed as mobile accident on Wednesday, Feb- wife, Elaine, and her two nieces, Alexis the Tough Love approach will work – uncomfortable with Bob’s “plans” to Tillotson Road, Fanwood, N.J. 07023. assistant director of The Arc of Union ruary 11, with her fiancé, Mark and Jaime Leigh Dedousis. tell Noah he has a limited time to involve his mother in our future to the For additional information or to ex- County prior to retiring in 1993. Ear- Pogue, M.D., in Jackson, Miss. A Memorial Mass will be offered shape up; if he doesn’t, he’s out of the extent that he is – without talking to press condolences, please visit lier, she had worked for Colonial Life Born and raised in Jersey City, at 6:30 p.m. tomorrow, Friday, March house, and we will have no future me. Isn’t this a problem in communi- www.fanwoodmemorial.com. Insurance Company. Lisa attained her bachelor’s degree 6, at the Our Lady of Mercy Church, contact with him, no holidays nor cation? (4) My friends feel I should sit March 5, 2009 Surviving are her husband, Donald from St. Peter’s College and her 40 Sullivan Drive in Jersey City. celebrations spent together. Isn’t this down with Bob and talk about his Rose M. Retcho, 75 G. Watts; her son, Bruce, and his master’s degree in nutrition from Because of the Season of Lent, flow- too tough, too extreme? insensitivities and lack of sharing. This Rose M. Retcho, 75, of Port Read- wife, Jennifer; her daughter, Linda New York University. She was ers will not be accepted in the church. Answer: Your son needs to be in a could put a real dent in our future. ing made her transition on Saturday, Watts, and three grandchildren, Mat- awarded her medical degree from St. Donations may be made to the counseling situation, and I hope he Don’t you agree? Maybe I should re- February 28, at Robert Wood Johnson thew, Jessica and Nicole. Christopher’s School of Medicine in Plainfield Area Humane Society, 75 will follow through in seeing a thera- evaluate my marriage plans? University Hospital in Rahway. Services were held on Saturday, England. At the time of her death, Rock Avenue, Plainfield, N.J. 07063; pist. Firm rules and boundaries should Answer: (1) Yes, yes, (2) Yes, yes Born in the Bronx, N.Y. on March February 28, at the Memorial Funeral she was a first year medical resident the Jersey Animal Coalition, 298 be set up, and he must cooperate: try (3) Yes, (4) Yes, YES! 16, 1933, she had lived in New York Home, 155 South Avenue in Fanwood. at Jersey City Medical Center. Walton Avenue, South Orange, N.J. for many years before moving to New Jersey in 1963. Memorial donations may be made to The Arc of Union County, 42 Fadem Surviving are her loving parents, John and Madeline Dedousis of Free- 07079, or to Mothers Against Drunk Driving, 511 E. John Carpenter Frwy, Parkinson’s Group to Hear Her husband, William Retcho, Road, Springfield, N.J. 07081 No. 700, Irving, Tex. 75062. predeceased her. Surviving are 10 loving children, (www.arcunion.org). For additional information or to Networking Event Set To express condolences online, please visit www.fanwoodmemorial.com. Talk on Exercise Options Dennis, Denise, Steven, Robert, express condolences, please visit Tonight In Township March 5, 2009 WESTFIELD – The Westfield Disease Association, Mr. King earned Elizabeth, Kevin, William, John, www.fanwoodmemorial.com. SCOTCH PLAINS – The Scotch Parkinson Support Group will hold a Bachelor of Science degree in Physi- Lisa and Elaine; a sister, Margaret March 5, 2009 Plains Business and Professional Richard P. Smith, 83 its next meeting on Monday, March cal Therapy from the State University Rowe; 16 grandchildren; five great- Association (SPBPA) and the Richard P. Smith, 83, of Westfield 9, at 1:30 p.m. in the Parish House of New York Health Science Center grandchildren and her beloved pets. Fanwood Business and Professional died on Monday, March 2, of causes Lounge of The Presbyterian Church in Brooklyn and a master’s degree in A Funeral Mass was offered yes- Hiking Club Offers Association (FBPA), Inc. will hold incident to age. in Westfield, located at 140 Mountain neurological rehabilitation from Long terday, Wednesday, March 4, at the Variety of Activities their first networking night of 2009 Surviving are his nephews, David R. Avenue. People with Parkinson’s dis- Island University. Holy Trinity Roman Catholic Church AREA – The Union County Hiking this evening, Thursday, March 5, Smith of Lafayette, Colo. and Ronald J. ease and/or their caregivers are in- Mr. King worked as a physical in Westfield. Burial followed at Club offers a variety of hiking and bicy- from 6:30 to 9 p.m. at the Scotch Smith of Sandy, Utah, and his niece, vited to attend. therapist at Beth Israel Medical Cen- Fairview Cemetery in Westfield. cling activities, most of which take place Plains Rescue Squad headquarters, Julia Ann Rossiter of Draper, Utah. David King, a clinical specialist at ter in Manhattan for 12 years prior to Arrangements were under the direc in central and northern New Jersey. Mem- 1916 Bartle Avenue. Funeral services will be held to- the Kessler Institute for Rehabilita- his current position. tion of the Gray Funeral Home, 318 bership dues are $10 per year. Prospective Business coach Neil Pinkman of morrow, Friday, March 6, at 2 p.m. at tion, will provide a presentation en- Light refreshments will be provided. East Broad Street in Westfield. members may try out the club by taking Paradigm Associates will discuss “See- the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter titled “From Therapy to Community: The Westfield Parkinson Support In lieu of flowers, a donation to part in up to three outings before joining. ing New Opportunities in Tough Day Saints, Ward Chapel, 1781 How to Exercise with Parkinson’s Group meets regularly on the second the charity of one’s choice will be For a complimentary schedule, which in- Times.” There will be a $10 charge for Raritan Road in Scotch Plains. Visi- disease.” Monday of each month, except during cludes a new member application, call non-members that can be applied to a tation will take place at 1 p.m. He will explain how a physical thera- July and August. It provides speaker appreciated. Union County Parks at (908) 527-4900. March 5, 2009 new membership in either the SPBPA Arrangements are under the direc- pist can help individuals with programs, a lending library and other or FBPA. To respond, contact Steve tion of the Dooley Colonial Home, Parkinson’s develop their own exer- information and support for those cop- Goldberg at (908) 322-1800 or 556 Westfield Avenue in Westfield. cise program and also how exercises ing with Parkinson’s disease. firstname.lastname@example.org. March 5, 2009 available in the community can be These meetings are offered free of Gray Funeral Homes DOOLEY COLONIAL beneficial. Currently a columnist for the quar- terly newsletter of the New Jersey Chapter of the American Parkinson charge. For more information, call Barbara Ringk at (908) 322-9214 or The Presbyterian Church office at (908) 233-0301. Since 1897 FUNERAL HOME Society to Learn to Identify, Preserve Photos and Papers WESTFIELD – The Genealogical display examples of each. Society of the West Fields will wel- Discussion of the ways in which come Joan Shipley to its regular meet- print photography can be preserved ing on Thursday, March 12, at 1 p.m. and displayed will be supplemented in the meeting room of the Westfield with advice and available professional Memorial Library, located at 550 East resources for the preservation of ear- Begun in 1876 by William Gray, in Cranford and later Incorporated in Broad Street. lier forms of photographic prints such 1897 as the Gray Burial & Cremation Company. Ms. Shipley will address identify- as tintypes. Additionally, Ms. Shipley Today, known by many simply as Gray’s. We continue to provide the ing and preserving heritage photo- will address the preservation of old personal service that began with Mr. Gray, whether it be for burial or graphs and documents. She will be- documents and other heritage memo- cremation. gin by familiarizing attendees with rabilia. the various types of photographs and Audience participation in the form Gray Funeral Home Gray Memorial Funeral Home of small groups given a preservation 318 East Broad St. 12 Springfield Ave. Meeting the needs of our SHERIFF’S SALE “task” will follow. The session will Westfield, NJ 07090 Cranford, NJ 07016 SHERIFF’S FILE NO.: CH-(09000889) end with discussion of the groups’ Community with comfort, care and compassion SUPERIOR COURT OF NEW JERSEY findings and a question-and-answer William A. Doyle Mgr. Dale R. Schoustra Mgr. CHANCERY DIVISION NJ Lic. Number 2325 NJ Lic. Number 3707 Since 1913 UNION COUNTY DOCKET NO. F-711808 session. (908)-233-0143 (908)-276-0092 Plaintiff: INDYMAC BANK F.S.B. Ms. Shipley is a longtime member VS. 556 Westfield Ave. Westfield, NJ Defendant: BARRY ROGERS, JUNE of the Monmouth County Genealogi- WHITEHALL ROGERS H/W cal Society. The public is invited to 908-233-0255 Sale Date: 04/01/2009 Writ of Execution: 01/28/2009 participate. More information about Charles J. Tombs By virtue of the above-stated writ of execution John L. Dooley NJ. License NO. 4100 to me directed I shall expose for sale by public this program or the Genealogical So- NJ Lic. Number 4006 vendue, at the UNION COUNTY ADMINISTRA- ciety of the West Fields can be ob- Director Manager TION BUILDING, 1ST FLOOR, 10 ELIZABETH- TOWN PLAZA, Elizabeth, New Jersey on tained by sending an e-mail to Carolyn WEDNESDAY, at two o’clock in the afternoon of said day. All successful bidders must have 20% Watson, the society president, at www.grayfuneralhomes.com of their bid available in cash or certified check at email@example.com or by calling the conclusion of the sales. The judgment amount is: ***Two Hundred Nancy Humphrey at (908) 612-6029. Ninety Three Thousand Seven Hundred Fifty Five and 46/100*** ($293,755.46). The property to be sold is located in the TOWN- N SHIP of WESTFIELD, County of UNION and State of New Jersey. Commonly known as: 223 MYRTLE AVENUE, WESTFIELD, NEW JERSEY 07090. ow Offering the New Tax Lot No. 83 FKA 20 in Block No. 4001 FKA Dimention of Lot Approximately: 35 x 211 Nearest Cross Street: GRANDVIEW AVENUE BEGINNING at a point on the northwesterly Willow View Mausoleum, sideline of Myrtle Avenue, said point being 424.15 feet southwesterly from the intersection of said northwesterly sideline of Myrtle Avenue with the southwesterly sideline of Grandview Avenue, A Unique Concept in and from said point then running. PRIOR LIENS/ENCUMBRANCES TAXES OPEN: $1,478.85 Memorial Properties. TOTAL AS OF February 10, 2009: $1,478.85 Total Upset: ***Three Hundred Thirty Three Thousand Eighty One and 75/100*** ($333,081.75) together with lawful interest and costs. Surplus Money: If after the sale and satisfac- tion of the mortgage debt, including costs and expenses, there remains any surplus money, the money will be deposited into the Superior Court B Trust Fund and any person claiming the surplus, or any part thereof, may file a motion pursuant to Court Rules 4:64-3 and 4:57-2 stating the nature and extent of that person’s claim and asking for eauty, Dignity & Peace an order directing payment of the surplus money. The Sheriff or other person conducting the sale will have information regarding the surplus, if Overlooking Bunnell Pond. any. There is a full legal description on file in the Union County Sheriff’s Office. LENT BEGINS…Martha Byrne, a stu- The Sheriff reserves the right to adjourn this dent at Holy Trinity Interparochial Family Lots, Single Graves, Niches & Community Mausoleums sale for any length of time without further adver- School in Mountainside, participates tisement. Faithfully Serving the Public Since 1868, on 105 Picturesque Acres. Ralph Froehlich in Ash Wednesday services at the Our Fairview Cemetery Sheriff Attorney: Lady of Lourdes Roman Catholic FEIN, SUCH, KAHN & SHEPARD, PC Church in Mountainside. All students 7 CENTURY DRIVE Nonprofit • Nonsectarian SUITE 201 received ashes as part of the Lenten PARSIPPANY, NEW JERSEY 07054 ceremony, which also marks the first 1100 East Broad Street • Westfield, NJ 908-232-0781 (973) 538-4700 4 T - 03/05, 03/12, 03/19 day of the period of fasting leading up & 03/26/09 Fee: $177.48 to the feast of Easter.