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Students Honor MLK Day of Service Homecoming Week kicks off


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									                                                                                                                                                      Vol. 3 No.4 Jan./Feb. 2010

A newsletter from the Office of Parent and Family Ser vices

 CONTENTS                                                                                                                                     Students Honor MLK
 Upcoming Events  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 2
 Campus Safety/Security  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 3
                                                                                                                                              Day of Service
 Student Feature  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 4                                                                Students from UNC Charlotte participated
 Cold /Inclement Weather  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 4                                                                          in the annual Martin Luther King Jr. Day of
 Family Day  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 5                                                         Service Jan. 18 by volunteering at the histor-
 Helping Build Healthy Relationships  .  .  .  .  .  . 6                                                                                      ic Westview Cemetery in Wadesboro, N.C.
 Development Feature: Atkins Library  .  .  .  .  . 7                                                                                         Members of the Africana Studies Club, a stu-
                                                                                                                                              dent organization within the Africana Studies
 Department Feature: Bioinformatics  .  .  .  .  .  . 7
                                                                                                                                              Department, lead the project, which involved
 International Coffee Hours  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 8
 Useful Contact Numbers —  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 8                         Homecoming Week                                       cleaning and documenting grave markers.
                                                                                                                                                  According to organizers, since the passing
 Important dates  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  .  . 8
                                                                                        kicks off February 12                                 of the cemetery’s caretaker in the 1960s, the
                                                                                                                                              more than 200-year-old cemetery had become
                                                                                           Show your Niner Nation spirit and support          overgrown and neglected.
                                                                                        Habitat for Humanity during Homecoming                   “There are graves located there from the late
                                                                                        Week, a celebration of activities and events          1800s,” said club president India Solomon.
                                                                                        planned for February 12-20 at UNC Char-               “This place has a lot of history that should be
                                                                                        lotte. The festivities culminate Saturday, Feb-       preserved and disseminated.”
                                                                                        ruary 20, with a parade and tailgate prior to            Solomon heard about the cemetery through
                                                                                        the men’s basketball game, Charlotte 49ers vs.        a local broadcast news story. During a visit to
                                                                                        Xavier Musketeers, at 2pm in Halton Arena.            the cemetery, Solomon and club vice presi-
                                                                                           This year’s 3rd Annual Homecoming Parade           dent, Tiffany Hock, learned about the Friends
                                                                                        begins at 10:30am, following a route that in-         of Old Westview Cemetery, a non-profit orga-
                                                                                        cludes the Student Union. The parade arrives          nization established to raise awareness of and
                                                                                        at the Tailgate site in Hayes Recreational Com-       restore the cemetery. The duo worked with the
                                                                                        plex Lot 23 (near Grigg and Duke Centennial           organization to set up this volunteer project.
                                                                                        Halls). The tailgate will continue from 11am             Akin Ogundiran, chair of the Africana
Homecoming 5K set                                                                       to 1:30pm, and is walking distance from the           Studies Department, said the project advances
                                                                                                                                              students’ learning and research about African-
for February 20                                                                         2pm basketball game in Halton Arena.
                                                                                           Candidates competing for the Royal Court           American history, provides an opportunity for
                                                                                        will conduct fundraising efforts, which are           public education and community service, and
   The 2010 UNC Charlotte Homecoming 5K
                                                                                        considered with student vote and an interview         helps with the documentation and preserva-
Run/Walk will be at 9 a.m., Saturday, Feb. 20.
Proceeds from this annual event, sponsored by                                           process to determine who is crowned Home-                                          continued on page 2
the Office of Recreational Services, will benefit                                       coming King and Queen. All fundraising
the American Heart Association.                                                         proceeds benefit Habitat for Humanity. Class
   Early registration is through Friday, Feb.12                                         court competitions are determined by fund-
and is $15 for UNC Charlotte students and                                               raising and student vote only.
$20 for all others. If registering between                                                 The Homecoming Day of Service, “Homes
Feb.13-19, the cost is $25 per person. On the                                           for Homecoming”, will take place Saturday,
day of the race, registration is $30 per person.                                        February 13. Volunteers will participate in a
Registration includes a long-sleeved T-shirt,                                           Habitat for Humanity home-build and offer
race admittance and post-race refreshments.                                             service in the retail stores. Advance sign-up is
Entries postmarked after Feb.12 are not guar-                                           required; transportation and lunch is provided.
anteed a T-shirt on race day. To register and pay                                          Other activities include spirit competi-
online, visit the recreational services web site.                                       tions such as banner and window decorating
For more information, e-mail Kemet Gatchell                                             contests, a Norm Look-Alike Contest, dance
at kegatche@uncc.edu or call ext.7-2564.                                                                              continued on page 5     India Solomon and Tiffany Hock

                                              PAGE     1                     Relatively Speaking           The newsletter from the Office of Parent and Family Services
                                                                          Women’s Leadership Conference
Africana Studies colloquium to                                               UNC Charlotte students, faculty, staff, and community members
examine Obama presidency                                                  are invited to the Becoming a WISER Woman Women’s Leadership
                                                                          Conference on March 20, 2010, from 8 a.m. to 3 p.m. at the Bonnie
                           During the spring semester, the Africana       E. Cone University Center.
                         Studies Department is sponsoring the col-           The event, designed for Wise, Intelligent, Successful, Empowered,
                         loquium “The Presidency of Barack Obama          and Respected (WISER) women, features guest speaker Marshawn
                         Across the Disciplines.” Involving 16 fac-       Evans, the author of SKIRTS in the Boardroom: A Woman’s Guide
                         ulty members from diverse scholarly back-        for Success in Business and Life. Evans has also appeared as a cast
                         grounds, this event will examine President       member on NBC’s The Apprentice and is a graduate of Georgetown
                         Obama – from the man and his ideas to his        Law School. Samara Foxx, the first lady of Charlotte, will be the
                         thoughts and political practices to his policy   opening speaker.
                         implications and their public response.             The Becoming a WISER Woman conference also features network-
Ojaide                     Professors Tanure Ojaide and Greg Mixon        ing opportunities, a panel discussion, vendor fair, and educational
                         were the first colloquium speakers on Jan.       sessions on a variety of topics concerning women’s leadership develop
                        20 and presented two lectures, “Obama’s           and women’s issues.
                        ‘Dreams of My Father:’ Interrogating Auto-           A continental breakfast will be served. Registration fees for UNC
                        biographical Genre in African and African         Charlotte students are $10, $20 for faculty and staff, and $50 for
                        Diaspora Literature” and “Searching for an        vendors and the general public.
                        Identity: Barack Obama from Boyhood to               To register online, go to wlc.uncc.edu. For more information,
                        Politician”, respectively.                        contact Lorraine Acker at (704) 687-2541 or ldacker@uncc.edu.
                            For 12 weeks, faculty members will lec-       Conference sponsors
                        ture on various topics related to the Obama       include: the Dean of
Mixon                   presidency. The weekly colloquiums, which         Students Office, Mul-
                        are open to the public, are held from 5 to        ticultural     Resource
7:45 p.m., Wednesdays, in Fretwell, Room 128. The colloquium              Center, Wellness Pro-
concludes with a day-long symposium, “Integrating Barack Obama            motion Department,
Across the Disciplines”, on April 21.                                     MOVE (Mothers On
Upcoming speakers and topics are:                                         the Verge of Excel-
  • Feb. 17 – Joseph Winters, religious studies, “Obama, Progress         lence), the Office of
     and the Taming of Public Memory”                                     Women’s       Programs,
                                                                          the University Career
  • Feb. 24 – Richard Leeman, communication studies, “Rhetorical
                                                                          Center, and Women of
     Practices of the Obama Presidency”
                                                                          Worth Network.
  • March 3 – Cheryl Hicks, history, “The Gender Factor in
     Obama’s White House”
  • March 17 – Beth Whitaker, political science, “Obama as the
     Native Son: U.S.-Africa Relations at a Crossroads” and Veronica
                                                                          International Women’s Day
     Nmoma, Africana studies, “Obama’s Vision for Africa and the             The Office of International Programs and the Multicultural Re-
     African World”                                                       source Center will be co-hosting UNC Charlotte’s 5th annual Inter-
  • March 24 – Honore Missihoun, Africana studies, “Critical              national Women’s Day. This is a day recognized nationally and inter-
     Pedagogy and Social Theories of Obamaism” and Charles                nationally by many countries and organizations around the world.
     Hutchison, middle, secondary and K-12 education, “The                   The day honors all women who have worked hard to overcome
     Obama Factor and the Education of the Youth”                         political and social obstacles and who have made the world a better
  • March 31 – Mohammed Harris, philosophy, “Obama and the                place. It also gives a chance for women to think and reflect about
     Islamic World”                                                       women’s past struggles and to be reminded of those who still struggle
  • April 7 – Debra Smith, Africana studies, “Obama and Popular           for basic human rights.
     Culture” and Charles Pinckney, Africana studies, “Obama and             The event will take place on March 25 rather than March 8, the
     Hip Hop Culture”                                                     actual International Women’s day, due to spring break. Both the Of-
   The departments of Communication Studies, History, Middle,             fice of International Programs and the Multicultural Center believe
Secondary and K-12 Education, Philosophy, Political Science and           that all women at UNC Charlotte should have the opportunity to
Religious Studies are cosponsoring this event. Due to limited seating,    participate and believe that moving the date will benefit everyone to
prospective attendees should pre-register via e-mail to africana_stud-    be able to attend.
ies@uncc.edu.                                                                The event will start with a reception and a few words from the
                                                                          guest speaker before recognizing nominated women for all their
                                                                          work. This year’s guest speaker is Linda Tarr-Whelan, who is the for-
MLK Day of Service               continued from page 1
                                                                          mer Ambassador to the United Nations Commission on the Status
tion of the cemetery.                                                     of Women under the Clinton administration. The event is free to all
   “We would like people from all the surrounding areas to not only       students, faculty and staff. Any UNC Charlotte student, faculty or
be aware of the cemetery in Wadesboro but also similar cemeteries         staff member who works hard to support women can be nominated
in their own areas,” said Ogundiran. “We would like to encourage          for an award, including international students.
a widespread effort to preserve these cemeteries for public education        For questions, nominations or more information on the event go
and to document the stories of the people who helped shape our lives      to http://oip.uncc.edu/intwomenday.htm or contact Rebecca Vin-
today.”                                                                   cent at Rebecca.Vincent@uncc.edu

                      PAGE   2          Relatively Speaking        The newsletter from the Office of Parent and Family Services

Live Shooter Simulation Successful
   It was a chilling scene on the        shooting and hostage scenarios, the
UNC Charlotte campus Jan. 5              exercise also included a hazardous
when the sound of blaring police         materials response.
sirens pierced the cold silence, even       Starting at approximately 9:25
though the event was simulated for       a.m., the simulation involved a pair
an important training exercise.          of “assailants” who made their way
   As part of the “active shooter”       inside Duke Centennial Hall. The
simulation, police and emergency         campus was placed on lockdown
personnel rushed across the UNC          for a time, and crisis management
Charlotte campus to confront two         teams sprung into action.
fake gunmen “who had opened fire            “While it would be great if this
in a classroom building before one       kind of training wasn’t necessary, it’s
of them took several hostages.”          become a fact of life for campuses
   The pretend gunfire set off a fast-   across the country to drill for the
                                                                                   Four principal capabilities were evaluated: communication, on-
moving chain of events that left one     worst-case scenario,” Chancellor          site incident management, emergency public information and
actor “dead” and more than 30 oth-       Philip L. Dubois said after the drill     warning and emergency public safety and security.
ers “wounded” in a scenario that was     ended. “You can’t really say you are
designed to test the response capa-      fully prepared without testing your
bilities of the UNC Charlotte po-        response to a real-world situation.
lice and law enforcement and emer-          “That’s what we did and we found
gency personnel from Charlotte and       it to be very useful,” Dubois added.
Mecklenburg County.                      “We did a lot of things very well.”
   The simulation was staged during         Following a directive from UNC
winter break to minimize confusion.      system President Erskine Bowles, all
It involved numerous state and local     UNC institutions must conduct this
law enforcement and fire and rescue      type of drill this school year. The or-
personnel. The activities were closely   der was issued last year so campuses
monitored by officials with the con-     are prepared in the wake of the 2007
sulting company EnviroSafe.              Virginia Tech rampage; in April
   Participants were required to re-     2007, 32 students and faculty mem-
spond as expected in the event of        bers were shot and killed on the Vir-     UNC Charlotte’s Maj. Jeff Baker is interviewed by the local media
an actual emergency. Besides the         ginia Tech campus by a gunman.            about Tuesday’s emergency response exercise.

A word to parents regarding sexual assault and crime on campus
   The Office of Parent and Family Programs has communicated with                 around campus and normal walking paths.
numerous concerned parents regarding several serious safety inci-             • Program the number for Campus Police on your cell phone’s
dents on campus and in the vicinity of UNC Charlotte, including a                 speed dial.
sexual assault, armed robbery, room break-ins and vehicle break-ins.           • Keep doors and windows closed and locked at all times and do
As on any college campus, students must be aware of safety issues,                not open the door for strangers.
particularly at night.
                                                                              • Report suspicious activity immediately to police, on-duty
   The UNC Charlotte Police Department issues advisories to stu-
                                                                                  security officers and landlords.
dents, faculty and staff through e-mail when it verifies that a serious
                                                                               The UNC Charlotte Police Department also offers Rape Aggres-
incident has occurred on or off campus to increase everyone’s aware-
                                                                            sion Defense (RAD) classes throughout the semester. Students who
ness and safety. For preventative measures, UNC Charlotte Police
                                                                            live on campus can attend this class for free, which demonstrates re-
have several recommendations for students to remain safe:
                                                                            alistic self-defense tactics and techniques for women. For students
   Walk/jog/bike in groups of three or more in well-lighted and well-
                                                                            who do not live on campus, faculty, staff, and those unaffiliated with
traveled areas. UNC Charlotte has many parking lots and trails that
                                                                            the university, the cost is $10. The schedule of classes for spring 2010
could be dangerous at night. Tell your student to always walk with
                                                                            is as follows:
someone, especially if they have night classes.
                                                                              • March 6, 13, 20: Saturday 9:00am – 1:00pm
  • Never accept rides from strangers.
                                                                              • April 5, 12, 19, 26: Monday 6:00pm – 9:00pm
  • Only invite guests that you know well or who your good
     friends know well to parties. Do not allow uninvited strangers           • June 1, 8, 15, 22: Tuesday 6:00pm – 9:00pm
     into your social functions.                                               All classes will be held at the UNC Charlotte Police Department
                                                                            training room at the police headquarters. For more information on
  • Avoid using headphones or cell phones while walking, which
                                                                            RAD, please visit the UNC Charlotte Police Department’s website at
     are popular robbery items and can distract a potential victim
     from a robber. Avoid wearing flashy or expensive jewelry.
                                                                               The Office of Parent and Family Services is working with several
  • UNC Charlotte has a free evening safety escort service                  other administrators on campus to create or sponsor a program that is
     (safeRide) that can be reached through campus police dispatch,         open to males to protect them from attacks. The Office of Parent and
     704-687-2200.                                                          Family Services will keep families informed about further updates on
   • Be aware of the nearly 300 “blue light” emergency phones               this issue.

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                      Cold Weather Driving Information and
Karina Florian-Huaman Inclement Weather at UNCC
                                                      Students who travel on weekends and breaks need to prepare their cars for dangerous win-
                                                   ter weather. Although it may seem unlikely when warm winter temperatures occur, Charlotte
                                                   receives ice and snow storms almost every year. There may be less snowfall than in northern
                                                   cities, but there are significantly fewer snowplows and smaller roads may be covered with
                                                   snow for days. When icy conditions are combined with drivers unaccustomed to the inclem-
                                                   ent weather, accidents can occur and drivers may become stranded.
                                                      Tell your student to take preventative measures now before travelling. The best way to pre-
                                                   pare is to create an emergency car kit with warm jackets, mittens, hats, scarves and blankets,
                                                   a first aid kit, water bottles and non-perishable food, and extra batteries. To ensure that your
                                                   student does not lose communication, he or she should carry a portable phone charger and
                                                   charge the phone completely before beginning to travel.
                                                   The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention recommend that certain actions be
                                                   taken to prepare:
   Born in Lima, Peru, Karina Florian-Hua-           • Listen for radio or television reports of travel advisories issued by the National Weather
man moved to Salisbury, North Carolina, as               Service.
a child and lived there for 13 years before at-      • Do not travel in low visibility conditions.
tending UNC Charlotte.                               • Avoid traveling on ice-covered roads, overpasses, and bridges if at all possible.
   Florian-Huaman, now a junior, is working
                                                     • If students must travel by car, they should use tire chains and carry a mobile phone.
towards a degree in business management
and hopes to work in human resources af-             • If students must travel, parents should find out their students’ destination and when
ter graduation. When she is not studying,                they should arrive. Notify authorities if they are late.
her time is filled with leadership roles in her      • Never pour water on a windshield to remove ice or snow; shattering may occur.
extracurricular endeavors, Catholic Campus           • Don’t rely on a car to provide sufficient heat; the car may break down.
Ministries (CCM) and her sorority, Sigma           What your student should do if he or she is stranded:
Kappa.                                               • Staying in the vehicle when stranded is often the safest choice if winter storms create
    “At the CCM house, which is close to                 poor visibility or if roadways are ice-covered.
campus, we meet up every Wednesday for
social activities and fellowship,” says Florian-     • Tie a brightly colored cloth to the antenna as a signal to rescuers and raise the hood of
Huaman. “Depending on the week we do                     the car (if it is not snowing).
different activities like pray and grow within       • Move necessary items from the trunk into the passenger area.
God, service projects, go on retreats and have       • Wrap entire body, including head, in extra clothing, blankets, or newspapers.
game nights.” She encourages any students            • Stay awake. Your child will be less vulnerable to cold-related health problems.
who are interested in joining to contact her.        • Run the motor (and heater) for about 10 minutes per hour, opening one window
   Sigma Kappa also impacted her experience              slightly to let in air. Make sure that snow is not blocking the exhaust pipe—this will
as a UNC Charlotte student.                              reduce the risk of carbon monoxide poisoning.
   “Being a member of Sigma Kappa has been           • Keep moving arms and legs to improve circulation and stay warmer.
more than just having friends on campus,”
                                                     • Do not eat unmelted snow because it will lower body temperature.
says Florian-Huaman. “It provides leader-
ship opportunities, a chance to serve my             • Huddle with other people for warmth.
community, peer support, and sisterhood.”          UNC Charlotte’s policy on inclement weather:
Throughout her three years at UNC Char-               In the event of severe inclement weather, the University will operate on its normal schedules
lotte, Florian-Huaman has been involved in         unless the Chancellor (or appropriate designee) publicly announces otherwise. Faculty, stu-
other extracurricular groups, such as Leader-      dents, and staff are expect-
ship Fellows and Pilot, which train students       ed to use personal judg-
to increase their leadership abilities, skill      ment concerning travel
building, diversity, and self development.         safety when the weather is
   For the future, Florian-Huaman would            inclement. In the event of
like to see more diversity on campus and a         extreme emergency condi-
football team to increase school spirit. In        tions, every possible effort
20 years, her ideal goal for UNC Charlotte         will be made to communi-
would be to increase its nation-wide recogni-      cate procedures to be fol-
tion.                                              lowed by the University
 Is it best to buy or rent books?                     The telephone number,
   To read about pros and cons of both:            704-687-2877, has been
   http://aux.uncc.edu/news/index.                 established to provide a
 php/2010/01/28/textbooks-be-informed-             recorded announcement
 when-considering-buying-vs-renting/               to answer inquiries regard-
 Meal plans explained:                             ing the status of campus
                                                   conditions during inclem-
   http://aux.uncc.edu/mealplans/                  ent weather.

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Family Day
Come visit your student and enjoy Family Day 2010 on Saturday, Feb. 20. Celebrate your student’s success
at a breakfast with Chancellor Dubois, Homecoming parade, library showcase event, tailgate party, 49ers vs.
Xavier men’s basketball game, and movies in the Student Union Theater. It is guaranteed to be a fun, memo-
rable time with your student and one that we are sure you will never forget!
Please register online at http://parents.uncc.edu. Family Day 2010 is sponsored by Residence Inn.

Homecoming – continued from page 1                                                                 Niner Nation Family
                                                                                                      9201 University City Blvd.
showcases, scavenger hunts, water gun games, and more. Evening                                       Charlotte, NC 28223-0001
events include a kick-off event, dance and theater performances, and                           P: 704-687-2541 • F: 704-687-2616
athletic events. Faculty and staff are invited to taste and judge their     Relatively Speaking is a publication of the UNC Charlotte Dean of Students
colleagues cooking skills on February 16 in the Staff Council Chili           under the direction of Kesha Williams, Assistant Director for Parent and
Cook-Off.                                                                                                 Family Services.
   The Homecoming 5K and UNC Charlotte Family Day will also                                            Edited by Laura Henry.
take place Saturday, February 20. Expect road closures and traffic           You are receiving this email because you signed up to receive parent
rerouting during the 5K and Parade.                                           communications from UNC Charlotte at an orientation session or
   For more information on Homecoming events and activities, visit             through our Web site. If you would like to unsubscribe from this
http://homecoming.uncc.edu or contact Ebony Ramsey, Assistant                           mailing list, please email parents@uncc.edu.
Director of Student Activities and Programming, at 704-687-7156              For questions, comments or suggestions, contact parents@uncc.edu.
or emramsery@uncc.edu.

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Helping Students Build Healthy Relationships
   As Valentine’s Day approaches, many students may find them-
selves thinking more about romantic relationships than at other
times of the year. For some, this holiday brings a sense of excite-
ment for celebrating a happy relationship, but for others, it may
bring worry or sadness about an unhappy relationship or about not
being in a relationship at all. For parents and families, it is natural
to wonder about the student’s relationships and if they are happy.
   At this stage of a student’s life, they are experiencing increased in-
dependence while also attempting to solidify their sense of identity.
It can be difficult for parents and families to begin playing a differ-
ent role in their student’s life than they have been accustomed to.
While in high school, parents and families may have been able to
meet their student’s prospective dates, set curfews, or establish rules
around dating. As students begin increasing their independence
during college, they begin to make more decisions for themselves.
   There are, however, still ways that parents and families can com-
municate with their student about building healthy relationships
while still allowing the student to foster their growing sense of self.
1. Understanding boundaries                                                 pressing and interpreting love, and problems may arise when part-
   Good boundaries are essential for any relationship. A “boundary”         ners have different “love languages.” Partners don’t have to change
is a border or a limit between one person and another. Each person’s        their own preference for how they like to feel loved; instead, they
boundaries will be unique to them, but in general, healthy bound-           simply need to understand how their partner wants to feel loved.
aries include: being able to say no and also being okay with others         You can discover what your “love language” is by taking a 30-sec-
saying no to you; knowing and communicating needs and wants;                ond test at www.5lovelanguages.com.
expecting reciprocity in relationships, and maintaining your own
sense of identity in a relationship. People with good boundaries are        3. Discerning healthy vs. unhealthy relationship patterns
also able to assert when their boundaries have been violated. Some-            Finally, it is important for both students and their parents and
one with too rigid boundaries may avoid developing intimacy or              family members to be able to discern whether a relationship is
trust, may not ask others for help, or may have difficulty identifying      healthy or unhealthy. The Domestic Abuse Intervention Project of-
needs, wants, or feelings. Those with too flexible of boundaries may        fers these guidelines for recognizing when a relationship begins to
not be able to say no, may consistently put others needs and feel-          become abusive or controlling:
ings before their own, and may compromise their values or beliefs              One partner will use coercion or threats to force the other to do
to avoid conflict.                                                          something they don’t want to do. Or, they will use intimidation
                                                                            - making their partner feel afraid by throwing things, displaying
2. Having good communication strategies                                     their strength, or making threatening gestures. Other characteristics
   Being able to express feelings, identify and assert their needs, and     include isolating the partner from their support network, telling
stand up for your rights are all parts of healthy communication             the partner where they can or cannot go or whom they can or can-
- important for healthy relationships. Assertive communication              not see. Also, they will often use subtle insults/name-calling or use
encompasses these abilities, and generally assertive communicators          humiliation, all in an attempt to make the partner feel bad about
can also listen well, feel connected, and fell calm and in control of       themselves. Finally, the controlling partner will also deny that any-
themselves. Those with passive styles are generally not able to assert      thing of concern is going on, will justify their actions, and will even
themselves, speak softly or apologetically, or even allow others to in-     blame the partner for “making” them act out.
fringe on their rights. Aggressive communicators are the opposite,
in that they tend to use domination or humiliation in an attempt            On the other hand, characteristics of healthy relationships
to violate the other person’s rights. Finally, passive-aggressive com-      include:
municators appear to be passive in that they do not outwardly assert           Both partners have a mutual say in decisions. There is negotiation
their feelings, but they actually act out in indirect ways to express       and fairness, and both partners are willing to compromise. They
their anger. Passive-aggressive communicators will appear coopera-          interact with each other in a way that is not threatening or intimi-
tive while purposely doing things to annoy their partner, will deny         dating. Rather, both partners feel safe and comfortable expressing
there is a problem, and will use subtle sabotage to get even. Of all        themselves. Each partner trusts and is able to respect the other; they
these communication strategies, the assertive style is the most egali-      listen to each other non-judgmentally and value each others’ opin-
tarian and will most likely lead to a healthy relationship.                 ions. There is honesty and accountability in which both partners
   In addition to these general communication strategies, in dating         take responsibility for their actions. Finally, each partner supports
relationships it is also important to be able to convey love to your        the other and respects that their partners have their own feelings,
partner. Dr. Gary Chapman’s book, The Five Love Languages, of-              their own friends, and their own opinions.
fers insight into how partners try to express their love and affection         It is a very normal part of the growing process for a student not
to each other. Dr. Chapman argues there are five main ways, which           to share everything about their dating relationships with their fami-
he calls “love languages.” They include: saying words of affirmation;       lies. It can be tough for parents and family members to balance be-
spending quality time; receiving gifts; doing acts of service; and          ing loving and supportive while also “backing off” and allowing the
physical touch. These categories represent the primary way of ex-           student to experience the normal ups and downs of relationships.

                                                                                                                                    continued on page 8

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dEVELOPMENT:                                       dEPARTMENT FEATURE

J. Murrey Atkins                                   Bioinformatics
Your Gift Counts!
   Research shows that students who use the
campus library perform significantly bet-
ter in many academic measures, including
grades earned, content learned, and degree
completion. This is especially true at UNC
Charlotte where the Atkins Library provides
students with safe, comfortable study spaces,
over a million volumes carefully tailored for
students’ curriculum, and librarians assigned
to help students with assignments in every
class taught. Atkins Library provides the
most comprehensive array of academic sup-
port services on campus, from early morning
until late at night, on weekends, and during
most holidays.                                        Bioinformatics is one of the newest programs at UNC Charlotte, and it graduated its first
   UNC Charlotte parents and family mem-           three doctoral students in December 2009. Bioinformatics is a blend of information technol-
bers have given their time, talent, and trea-      ogy with molecular biology and uses computers to store, retrieve, and analyze data.
sure to the university for years. Private sup-        The Bioinformatics Research Center, which opened in 2009, is the first at UNC Char-
port provides needed funding for teaching,         lotte to receive a silver-level certification for Leadership in Energy and Environmental Design
research, learning, and a variety of scholarly     (LEED). LEED buildings are recognized for meeting standards in environmentally sustain-
activities on campus. The need for a full-         able construction. UNC Charlotte’s research campus, where the Bioinformatics Research
service, well-equipped library is a necessity      Center is located, will eventually have a research park for university, private, and medical
and countless people work hard to make it          researchers. The Bioinformatics Research Center will have an additional location in Kan-
a reality for our students, faculty, staff and     napolis, N.C. at the North Carolina Research Center campus. Directors at the Bioinformatics
community partners.                                Research Center hope that having two locations will offer more opportunities to students and
   When a parent or family member contrib-         researchers.
utes to the J. Murrey Atkins Library, the gift        The bioinformatics department currently offers two graduate degrees: a Professional Sci-
directly and immediately benefits the library.     ence Masters in Bioinformatics and a PhD in Information Technology with a bioinformatics
The library offers book purchase programs          track. Undergraduate degrees such as biology, chemistry, and computer science have bioin-
for as little as $100, with options for recogni-   formatics tracks.
tion of a student in book plates, even in the         If an undergraduate student is interested in bioinformatics, advisors recommend that the
library’s online catalog. A person might also      student chooses a major in biology or chemistry and a minor in computer science. However,
wish to consider having a library chair, study     the graduate program accepts students that major in biology, chemistry, computer science,
table, or carrel named in honor of a student.      mathematics, and other related concentrations.
The options for giving to Atkins Library are          Undergraduate students majoring in a life or computer science can take introductory class-
virtually limitless!                               es in bioinformatics. This spring, the bioinformatics department is offering an Introduction
   For more information on how you can             to Bioinformatics class that concentrates on evaluating data and tools used in bioinformatics
support the J. Murrey Atkins Library, con-         research.
tact the Director of Annual Giving, Stacie            For those interested in bioinformatics, the department holds free weekly seminars on dif-
G. Young, at (704) 687-7203 or e-mail sgy-         ferent topics related to the field. The seminars, which are open to the public, are held in the
oung@uncc.edu. Or, visit us online now at          bioinformatics building in room 105 on Fridays at 3:30 p.m. A schedule of topics and speak-
www.giving.uncc.edu.             — Stacie Young    ers can be found at www.bioinformatics.uncc.edu.                                 — Katelynn Black

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International Coffee Hours
New friendships forged over games, snacks and conversation
                                                                                                                         The 1st and 3rd Thursday of every month the
                                                                                                                      Office of International Students and Scholars hosts
                                                                                                                      International Coffee Hour. The event was created
                                                                                                                      to help UNC Charlotte students, faculty, and staff
                                                                                                                      members to come together from different cultures,
                                                                                                                      backgrounds, and beliefs and get to know each oth-
                                                                                                                         International Coffee Hour is held at Prospector
                                                                                                                      in the faculty and staff dining room from 4pm until
                                                                                                                      6pm. While enjoying fun games such as Connect
                                                                                                                      4, Jenga, Chess, and Checkers, coffee hour attend-
                                                                                                                      ees can relax in an entertaining environment that is
                                                                                                                      perfect for conversing and making new friends. If
                                                                                                                      attendees are not interested in games then they can
                                                                                                                      enjoy refreshments and friendly conversations.
                                                                                                                         The event is open to all UNC Charlotte students,
                                                                                                                      faculty and staff members and is free of cost. This is
                                                                                                                      a great chance for students that do not have time to
                                                                                                                      participate in the Friendship and Culture exchange
                                                                                                                      to come out and talk with others who are different
                                                                                                                      from them and learn about a new culture.
                                                                                                                         For more information go to http://isso.uncc.edu/

Relationships – continued from p .6
However, if you are concerned that their relationship may be un-                                         To find out more information, or if your student wishes to make
healthy, you may want to consider encouraging the student to talk to                                  an appointment, they can call 704-687-2105, or stop by the Coun-
a counselor. The counseling center offers free and confidential group                                 seling Center, 158 Atkins, any time from 8-5 Monday-Friday.
and individual counseling for currently enrolled students. Addition-                                                               — Ashley Boester, M.A., Pre-doctoral Intern
ally, the counseling center also offers a workshop on how to build
healthy relationships. This group meets Tuesdays from 2:00-2:50,
beginning March 23.

                              — Useful Contact Numbers —
  Niner Nation Family . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .            704-687-2541
                                                                                                                                      Important dates
  Student Health Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .            704-687-4617
  Housing and Residence Life . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .               704-687-7501
  Office of Disability Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .            704-687-4355
  University Career Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .             704-687-2231
  University Counseling Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .               704-687-2105
  Dean of Students . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .         704-687-2375
  University Center for Academic Excellence . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .                      704-687-2162
  University Advising Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .             704-687-7717
  Writing Resource Center . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .              704-687-4357
  University Police . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .      704-687-2200                          Feb. 20
  University Library . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .       704-687-2030                         FAMILY DAY
  Belk College of Business . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .           704-687-2165                        Mar. 8-13
  College of Architecture . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .          704-687-4841                  Spring break, No classes
  College of Arts & Sciences. . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .            704-687-4303                           Mar. 8
  College of Computing Informatics . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .                   704-687-8379                Fall 2010 Schedule of classes
  College of Education . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .         704-687-8722                      available on Web
  College of Health & Human Services . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .                     704-687-4690                         Mar. 29
  Graduate School . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .        704-687-5503          Registration for Summer 2010 and Fall
  Lee College of Engineering . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .             704-687-4157                        2010 begins
  Freshmen . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .     704-687-3271
                                                                                                                                                April 2-3
  Transfer . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .   704-687-8250
                                                                                                                                         Spring Recess, No classes
  The Honors College . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . .           704-687-4824

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