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					Dating a Co-worker – Good or Bad?

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Summary:
In our days more and more people decide to start a relationship with a
co-worker. There are many risks that make this very difficult to
maintain. But not many people know about this before they start a
relationship. So, if you are a very busy man too and spend all your time
in an office, and decided to date with a co-worker, you should take a
closer look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could be
associated with this new career move.


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Article Body:
In our days more and more people decide to start a relationship with a
co-worker. The reason why this happens is that many young professional
men and women are spending almost all their time at the office, so they
have less time to go out and meet new people. So, it is natural to seek
friendship and companionship from colleagues.

But for many times, this friendship transform into a relationship that in
most of the cases fail. There are many risks that make this very
difficult to maintain. But not many people know about this before they
start a relationship. So, if you are a very busy man too and spend all
your time in an office, and decided to date with a co-worker, you should
take a closer look at all the potential benefits and disasters that could
be associated with this new career move.

There are some aspects that you should take in consideration:

-Before you ask your co-worker for a possible date, check if your company
has an employee dating policy; the company may have strict rules about
any relationship that forum between you two; also think about how much
you are wiling to risk your career for this relationship from the
beginning

-If you didn't ask her for a date already, and don't know how to do it,
you may organize a group outing or event and invite her; but if she
refuse, you have to think at something else; suggest something casual
like dinner or movie

-Before ask her for a date, make sure that you know as much as you can
about her; so develop an office relationship before you develop a
romantic one
-You must think about what happens if your relationship doesn't work;
will you be able to handle the situation to see your co-worker every day,
to interact her daily? It may be very difficult to re-establish a
professional demeanor with a person

-At final one of you have to leave this job because thing's don't work
out or because it's against the company policy to date fellow employees

-Or worst, you don't know what your partner is capable to do if things
don't work between you two, it may be ruining your career

-Dating a co-worker can affect your work, if you are unable to
differentiate between work and pleasure; so agree to not flirt at work,
you have to set up relationship rules for the workplace

-Avoid signs of affection in public such as hand holding, kisses,
flirting; you'd better meet off-site for lunch or after program hours

-It is true that you have a lot in common, that you will go with pleasure
every morning at the office anxious to see her, and it is a person with
who you will always have what to speak about;

-You have someone to confide in concerning your work problems; she may be
a great help; but, there are more negatives aspects about this kinds of
relationships

-Remember that you have to maintain a professional image, so don't let
your relationship affect your performance; if your romance is affecting
your work, you may be asked to end your relationship or to find another
job

-A relationship like this can create problems in your promotion; the boss
may see that you are more preoccupied by your partner than your work

-Develop open communication, if you are dating with a co-worker think
about the fact that you have to have two different types of
relationships, business and romantic, with the same person;

-Never date with a subordinate because you may be accused for favoritism
by the others employers; the others co-workers will exclude you now from
certain conversations, will not discuss anymore with you about privacy

-If you spend more and more time with her during the office hours, the
more and more you will distance yourself from your associates, those
you've developed personal relationships with;

-If you start a relationship with a co-worker it is better to keep it
secret; it will need a lot of discretion, energy and effort to keep your
office romance just between you two; so don't tell your colleagues about
your romance because your both work will be definitely affected

-Also avoid sending electronic love messages or letters because some
companies prohibit the use of company e-mails system for personal use,
others reserves the right to access or disclose electronic messages or
files of an employee

-As a benefit, you get to have lunch together; so from a usual boring
office lunch, you can have part of one full of flirting

As you see there are some benefits but most of them are downsides. I
suggest you to think very well if you really want to get into a
relationship that may affect your career and if you are ready to do this.
As I said, it may be very difficult to make it work. But, it remains at
your choice what you are going to do.

				
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