Mardi Gras dance confusing by ozr46981


									TO PROVIDE INFORMATION,CALL 728-2543                                                          PAGE 2C                                                                                                                         SUNDAY,MARCH 16,2008

SOCIAL CALENDAR                                                                                                                                                                          MISS MANNERS | BYJUDITH MARTIN
            SUNDAY,MARCH 16
        Registration is under way for a
“Sounds of Spring”camp at the Imaginar-
ium of South Texas, Mall Del Norte. The
camp will be held during Spring Break from
8 2 p.m.,Monday through Thursday.
Camp participants will have the opportu-
nity to make their own instruments, exper-
iment with sound and write their own lyrics.
                                                  GIRLS GONE MILD                                                                                                                         Mardi Gras
                                                                                                                                                                                        dance confusing
                                                                                                                                                                                            DEAR MISS MANNERS —           queen. However, Miss Man-
Guest musicians will make appearances to                                                                                                                                                I am on the clergy staff of the   ners feels that you actually
help the students develop original pieces.                                                                                                                                              local cathedral parish. At our    did better than that. You de-
To register, visit the Imaginarium or call                                                                                                                                                                 annual         ferred to the wishes of your
728-0404. Registration costs $85 for                                                                                                                                                                       Mardi Gras     congregation, who set this up
members and $115 for nonmembers. The                                                                                                                                                                       party, I had   for the fun of watching you
deadline for registration is Monday morn-                                                                                                                                                                  the honor of   both making fools of your-
ing.                                                                                                                                                                                                       being elect-   selves.
                                                                                                                                                                                                           ed king. The       Now please see if you can
           MONDAY,MARCH 17                                                                                                                                                                                 dean was       keep calm until next year.
       “The Face of the Human”is current-                                                                                                                                                                  elected            DEAR MISS MANNERS —
ly on exhibit at the Yeary Library at Laredo                                                                                                                                                               queen.         About once a month I attend a
                                                                                                                                                                                            MARTIN            We soon     professional luncheon at a lo-
Community College. The 25 photographs
from the 1950s are drawn from the pages                                                                                                                                                 found ourselves dressed in        cal luxury hotel. When we ar-
of U.S.Camera,a popular photographic an-                                                                                                                                                royal drag and it was all great   rive at our tables, the desserts
nual of the time.The exhibit may be viewed                                                                                                                                              fun — until time came for the     are already on the tables at
Monday through Thursday from 7:30 a.m.                                                                                                                                                  “first dance.” As so often hap-   the 12 o’clock position above
                                                                                                                                                                                        pens when two men are ex-         the salad plates. The servers
to 9 p.m.,Friday from 7:30 noon and
                                                                                                                                                                                        pected to polka together on       clear the salad plates after we
on weekends from 1 to 5 p.m. It will be on
                                                                                                                                                                                        the spur of the moment, we        have finished that course and
display through Friday, April 4. For more
                                                                                                                                                                                        began dancing before decid-       then serve the lunch plates.
information, call Wisner at 721-5280.                                                                                                                                                   ing who was to lead, and nei-     However, 95 percent of the
        Texas A&M International University                                                                                                                                              ther of us had any experience     time, the servers do not ever
College of Arts and Sciences Center for the                                                                                                                                             following.                        clear the lunch plates, leaving
Fine and Performing Arts is exhibiting “For-                                                                                                                                                A most unedifying spec-       me with a dilemma as to how
gotten Memories,” paintings and drawings                                                                                                                                                tacle ensued. In order to         to eat the dessert. Some peo-
by Miki Rodríguez. The exhibition will be                                                                                                             Photos by Michael Williams | AP   avert complete disaster, I de-    ple switch the positions of
on display through March 27. Gallery hours        This photo provided by Michael Williams shows   This April 2007 photo provided by Michael Williams shows, from left to right,         cided to defer to the dean and    their lunch plates and their
are Monday through Thursday, noon to 5            Morgan Morrissette as she walks the runway      Christine Prosser, Gabrielle Fain and Maribeth Rauh as they walk the runway           the situation stabilized. Most-   dessert plates, but there is not
p.m.The event is free and open to the pub-        during the Pure Fashion Show in Raleigh, N.C.   during the Pure Fashion Show in Raleigh, N.C.                                         ly.                               enough room in the center of
lic. For more information, contact Alma                                                                                                                                                     As you have no doubt gath-    the table for everyone to do
Haertlein at 326-3041.
        Panic Relief Inc., a nonprofit educa-
tional organization dedicated to helping in-
dividuals who suffer from panic disorders,
                                                  Teenage girls sneak a peek                                                                                                            ered, the congregation is very
                                                                                                                                                                                        naughty and I am already get-
                                                                                                                                                                                        ting alarming vibrations
                                                                                                                                                                                        about next Mardi Gras. How
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          that. Some people stretch
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          across their lunch plates to
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          access their dessert plates
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          still in the middle of the table,
has a Panic and Anxiety program Mondays
from noon to 1 p.m. and Wednesdays from
6:30 to 7:30 p.m. For more information,
call PRI at (732) 940-9658.
                                                     at dressing modestly                                                                                                               should I handle the in-
                                                                                                                                                                                        evitable? It seems to me that
                                                                                                                                                                                        allowing the dean lead was
                                                                                                                                                                                        an un-Mardi Gras thing to do.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          and others stack their dessert
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          plates on top of their used
                                                                                                                                                                                                                          lunch plates.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                              None of these seems quite
                                                                     By MARTHA WAGGONER                                                                                                 But he was also the queen,        right to me. What is one to do
         Oasis of Love Ministries has a daily
                                                                       ASSOCIATED PRESS                                                                                                 and letting her lead would be     in such a situation if one does
study of God’s word with prayers for the

                                                                                                                                                                                        in keeping with the spirit of     want to enjoy the dessert?
sick and brokenhearted at 2103 Reynolds
                                                        ARY, N.C. — Imagine a home with a teenage                                                                                       the day. In order to set cor-         GENTLE READER — Find
St. For more information, call 744-7775.                girl where the most contentious argument                                                                                        rect precedent for the many       a hotel with decent service?
          The Jarvis and Lane Alcoholics                over clothes involves whether it’s OK for the                                                                                   years to come, I need to know:        Yes, Miss Manners knows.
Anonymous Group meets every Monday at             lace on a camisole to peek through the top or bot-                                                                                    Should I defer to the Dean, or    You (or your employer) will
8 p.m. at Christ Church Episcopal, 2320           tom of a shirt.                                                                                                                       should I assert my kingly au-     argue that it costs more, just
Lane St. For more information, call 324-              That seems to be the case with 15-year-old Mor-                                                                                   thority and bring the queen to    as the hotel argues that it costs
8445.                                             gan Morrissette, whose mother, Shelley, is the                                                                                        (high) heel?                      more to hire enough waiters.
        Alcoholics Anonymous meets Mon-           founder and organizer of a local Pure Fashion                                                                                             GENTLE READER — It is         And thus sub-minimum serv-
day through Sunday at 7 p.m. at 102 W.            group, a Catholic-based organization that pro-                                                                                        Lent now. Aren’t you sup-         ice is perpetuated under the
Hillside Road, Classroom A. For more infor-       motes modesty and purity among teenage girls.                                                                                         posed to be concentrating on      name of luxury.
mation, call 206-6411 or 579-2691.                    “I think it’s modest because it’s a camisole with                                                                                 something other than how              Under such conditions, the
          Gratitude Group of Alcoholics           lace on it,” Morgan says. “And my dad’s like, ‘You                                                                                    soon you can get back into        hapless diner must impro-
Anonymous meets daily at noon and 8 p.m.          know what the guys think, they think it’s under-                                                                                      Carnival mode?                    vise, which is what your col-
at 4120 San Bernardo Ave., Suite 4, and           wear with lace on it.’ ”                                                                                                                  However, to answer your       leagues are doing. Of course,
Sunday at 10 a.m. and 8 p.m. Spanish                  It’s a small quibble in these days where fashion                                                                                  question: The theatrical rule     none of the methods seems
meetings are Monday,Wednesday and Fri-            seems to find a new body part to expose each sea-                                                                                     is to keep in character, in       “right.” The situation itself is
day at 6:30 p.m.                                  son — from bare midriffs to cleavage to the cheeks                                                                                    which case the king leads the     wrong.
         Primary Purpose Group of Cocaine         not on the face.
Anonymous meets Monday through Sat-                   Pure Fashion is one group of teenage girls mov-
                                                  ing the other direction. At spring fashion shows by
urday at 7 p.m. at 102 W. Hillside Road,
                                                  18 affiliates in the U.S. and Canada, teens model
Classroom B. For more information, call
                                                  clothes that abide by guidelines such as “neck-
                                                  lines no lower than four fingers below the collar
                                                  bone” and pants that fit loosely enough that they
           TUESDAY,MARCH 18                       can be pulled away from the leg.
        Cirque Du Soleil’s “Saltimanco”will           Groups such as Pure Fashion could be a mere
perform today at 7:30 p.m. the Laredo En-                                                                         This April 2007 photo provided by Michael Williams shows Rita
                                                  blip on the fashion radar screen, aided by a poor               Dear as she walks the runway during the Pure Fashion Show
tertainment Center. Tickets are on sale at        economy that says hemlines go up when life is
the LEC box office and through Ticketmas-                                                                         in Raleigh, N.C.
                                                  good and down when the dollar plummets. Or it
ter by phone at 712-1566 or online at             might be the start of a movement to excise from They range from             public memory images of Janet Jackson’s nipple or
$40 to $90 for adults and $32 to $72 for          Britney Spears’ nether regions.
children under 12 years of age.                       Shelley Morrissette of Cary hopes it’s the latter.
        Is Laredo a Spring Break destina-         She and Morgan went to a Pure Fashion Show in At-
tion? It is for the Zula Patrol’s green leader,   lanta two years ago, attended by about 2,200 people.
Captain Bula, and the absent-minded Mul-              “At least for that day, everybody was embracing
to the Scientist, on their way from the or-       the message of modesty and purity, and the girls
ange planet Zula and looking for their            were on board,” Shelley Morrissette said of the At-
weather-collecting pet, Gorga, who ran            lanta show. “It felt good, I think, to them to know
away. The two will be here for the Texas          that there were others out there who want the
A&M International University Lamar Bruni          same message.”
                                                      When Pure Fashion began about 10 years ago,
Vergara Planetarium premiere of “Zula Pa-
                                                  the fashion was cropped shirts with low-rise jeans.
trol: Under the Weather”and encore shows.
                                                  Keeping the girls’ stomachs covered was the major
“Zula Patrol: Under the Weather”is sched-         issue, said Therese Walters, another mother in-
uled today at 3:15 p.m., with two encore          volved in Pure Fashion
shows scheduled for Wednesday at 3:15                 “Today, the shirts are much longer, but now the
and 4:30 p.m.A Spanish version of the fea-        challenge is the plunge, the cleavage, everything is
ture,“La Patrulla de Zula,” is scheduled for      cut so low and the spaghetti straps,” Walters says.
Tuesday at 4:30 p.m.                                  Her daughter, Hannah, is a 17-year-old who at-
                                                  tends a Catholic school, Cardinal Gibbons in
         WEDNESDAY,MARCH 19                       Raleigh. Morgan is in her first year of public school,
        Cirque Du Soleil’s “Saltimanco”will       attending Green Hope High School, where she
perform today at 3:30 and 7:30 p.m. at the        says she works at converting friends to dressing
Laredo Entertainment Center. Tickets are          modestly.
on sale at the LEC box office and through             They may have help this year, when a quick                  This April 2007 photo provided by Michael Williams shows Kel-
Ticketmaster by phone at 712-1566 or on-          glance through stores shows high-collared, demure               ly Burt as she walks the runway during the Pure Fashion
line at They range          dresses and coats with names like “The Jackie,” as              Show in Raleigh, N.C.
from $40 to $90 for adults and $32 to $72         in Kennedy, or “The Audrey,” as in Hepburn. In Feb-
for children under 12 years of age.               ruary, London Times Fashion Editor Lisa Arm-                   When You Have These?” as an example. The girls
                                                  strong said that “sex is starting to look very last            “just wanted a different definition of empower-
                                                  season” and described models at Milan fashion                  ment,” she said.
            FRIDAY,MARCH 21                       shows as looking like geography teachers.                          National Pure Fashion director Brenda Shar-
       Laredo Morning Times will host a
                                                      So, are high-waisted jeans a replacement for the           man, herself a model who’s signed by Elite Model
blood drive in the front parking lot of the       low-rise variety? What do we make of CEO Sharen                Management in Atlanta, says that while Pure Fash-
office, 111 Esperanza Drive, from 9:30            Turney’s statement that Victoria’s Secret has be-              ion has guidelines for how to dress, fashion has too
a.m. to 3 p.m. All presenting donors will         come “too sexy” and that the lingerie chain needs              many variables for hard and fast rules.
receive a Spurs T-shirt and refreshments          to focus on feminine?                                              “I think we’re trying to remind our kids that cer-
and will be eligible to win Spurs tickets.            “I think what’s happening is that we’ve reached            tain outfits are appropriate at some times and not
Participants must be at least 17 years            the limit of the ‘if you’ve got it, flaunt it,’ philosophy     appropriate at some times,” Sharman said in a
old, weigh at least 110 pounds and be in          and we’re seeing the power of a little mystery and             telephone interview. “I think that women need to
general good health. For more informa-            glamour,” said Wendy Shalit, author of 1999’s “A               examine their intentions when they’re getting
tion or to register, call Cesar Martinez          Return to Modesty: Discovering the Lost Virtue”                dressed. Getting dressed with the intention to be
at 728-2530.                                      and 2007’s “Girls Gone Mild.”                                  pure is different than getting dressed with the in-
                                                      “When exhibitionism becomes the norm, the                  tention to lure. Out in public, people will get an im-
          SATURDAY,MARCH 22                       fact is, it gets boring,” Shalit wrote in response to e-       pression about them, and they need to be aware
        Cinemark Mall Del Norte will screen       mail questions.                                                that their clothing sends a message about them.”
the Metropolitan Opera’s version of Wagn-             Pure Fashion is an outgrowth of Challenge                      Pure Fashion does have its “modesty guide-
er’s “Tristan und Isolde” at 11:30 a.m. It        Clubs, groups for girls in Catholic Churches. The              lines,” including that “undergarments should nev-
stars Deborah Voigt and Ben Heppner and           local group’s membership is about 60 percent                   er become outer-garments.” Still, Shalit says re-
is conducted by Met Music Director James          Catholic and about 40 percent other Christian re-              porters enjoy portraying “the modesty movement
Levine. One of world’s most celebrated            ligions. But modest clothing has roots in many re-             as if it’s some kind of dress code (or soon will be),
                                                  ligions; Shalit, for example, is Jewish.                       and that’s because everyone hates someone who
Wagnerian sopranos and the leading Tristan
                                                      She thinks the role of religion has been over-             tells them what to wear. It’s a clever way of trying
of our time star in this much-anticipated re-
                                                  stated, citing the “girlcotting” of Abercrombie &              to make the movement seem really unappealing,
vival at the Met.                                 Fitch for its T-shirts that read “Who Needs Brains             without ever honestly examining it.”

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