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BULLYING INFORMATION AND INTERVENTION Training Objectives Recognize the different forms of Bullying Recognize the Warning Signs that a Child is Being Bullied Identify ways parents or other adults can help a child who is being bullied Identify things children can do if they are being bullied Identify things children can do if they witness bullying Training Objectives Recognize how technology can be used to bully children Identify internet terms such as blogs and chat rooms Identify reasons why kids cyber bully Identify what parents can do if their child is being bullied on-line Recognize ways teens and children can protect themselves on-line What is Bullying? Bullying is intentional harm inflicted on another person over a period of time. A child who is bullied finds it difficult to defend themselves. Bullying can be physical, verbal and emotional. Cyber Bullying involves using computers and Mobile Bullying or Text Bullying involves using cell phones to bully other students. Physical Bullying Examples of Physical Bullying: Hitting Kicking Punching Shoving Pushing Verbal and Emotional Bullying Examples of Verbal Bullying: Teasing Name Calling Examples of Emotional Bullying: Rumor Spreading Social Exclusion: Leaving someone out of a group Warning Signs a Child is Being Bullied Comes home with torn or damaged clothing Comes home with missing books or other belongings Unexplained bruises, cuts or scratches A child may appear sad, anxious or depressed, when he or she goes to school in the morning or comes home from school. Warning Signs a Child is Being Bullied Frequently has stomachaches or headaches when it is time to go to school Children who are bullied may be students who used to have a great interest in school but now does not. Effects of Bullying A child who is bullied may feel they have nowhere to turn. They're depressed children whose self-esteem will be lowered due to the bullying. These are children who often feel like no one cares for them. They may attempt suicide, or seek revenge against those who have hurt them, due to the repeated abuse and torment they receive. What Can Parents Do if Their Child is Bullied? Parents must be supportive and ask their child about bullying incidents. It is important for parents to let their child know they are concerned and care about them. Parents need to contact the school their child attends. Teachers and the school principal should be alerted about the bullying incidents. Parents can also ask teachers and/or principal if they have ever observed students bullying their child. What Can Parents Do if Your Child is Bullied? Parents should keep a journal of the bullying events their children reports to them. If a child is being bullied, parents should not wait for the children involved to "work it out themselves." This is rarely effective. Allowing bullying to repeatedly occur, with no intervention, can greatly impact a child's health and mental well-being. What Can A Child Do if They Are Bullied? It is important for children to tell their parents, teachers, school resource officer, or other adults they trust about the bullying. Children who are bullied need to know that being bullied is not their fault. Children should not fight back. Fighting back will get them in trouble. What Can A Child Do if They Are Bullied? Children should avoid situations where they may be bullied and use a "buddy system." Common places where children are bullied at school include hallways, the bathroom, or cafeteria. Children who are bullied should sit up front on the school bus where they can be seen. If a child is bullied, they can tell the bully to stop and then walk away. They must then immediately tell an adult what has happened. This is telling, not tattling. What Can A Child Do if They Witness Bullying? “Bully By-Standers” are children who witness bullying. Many kids witness bullying, but they do nothing to stop it. They may even participate in the bullying by laughing or joining in. Children should not laugh at the bully. This only reinforces their behavior. Witnesses to bullying incidents should tell an adult what they have seen. What Can A Child Do if They Witness Bullying? Bully By-Standers can tell the bully to stop, but only if they feel comfortable doing this. Children who have witnessed bullying can give support and encouragement to the person who is being bullied. Using Technology to Bully Not all bullying behaviors happen at school Many children (and in some cases adults) use technology such as computers and cell phones to torment and bully other children Text messages and e-mails can be used to humiliate another person Cyber Bullying Examples of Cyber Bullying: Threatening and intimidating E-Mails Harassing and Threatening Instant Messages (IM) Sending or posting cruel rumors about someone to damage their reputation Posting inappropriate pictures of someone on-line (locker room pictures for example) Cyber Bullying Cyber Bullying also can include: Breaking into someone’s account, posing as that person, and sending messages that make the person look bad. This is why it’s very important for children not to give out their passwords to their friends. Mobile Bullying Examples of Mobile Bullying or Text Bullying: Mean or Offensive Text Messages Receiving a Large Number Messages a Day (e.g. over 25 a day) Offensive or Upsetting Photos or Videos Threatening Text Messages Internet Definitions Many adults in the United States do not understand cyber bullying because they are not familiar with computer terms or the applications their children are participating in on-line. The following slides describe some internet applications. Internet Definitions Blog: A blog, or web log, is an on-line web site that contains journal and diary entries, photos, and other images. Blogs are very popular with teens. Parents should ask their child if they have created a blog. Some popular blog web sites include Xanga, MySpace, Friendster, Facebook and others. Parents can always ask their child to show them their blog. Internet Definitions Chat: Real time communication between two users via computer. Once a chat has been initiated, either user can enter text by typing on the keyboard and the entered text will appear on the other user's monitor. Most networks and online services offer a chat feature. Chat Room: A virtual room where a chat session takes place. (Webopedia) Internet Definitions Instant Messaging, or IM: Real time communication exchanged between two people (or more) on-line using typed words as the form of communicating. Ask your child if they are instant messaging and who they IM or chat with on-line. Learn what your children are saying on- line. “Chat lingo” has become the new way to communicate. For example, “P911” means parents are coming. “LMIRL” means let’s meet in real life. “PA” means parent alert. How Prevalent is Cyber Bullying? 22% of students know someone who has been bullied on-line. 19% of students admit to saying something hurtful to others on-line. 12% of students have personally became upset by strangers on-line. (2005-06 i-SAFE pre-assessment survey of 13,000 students in grades 5-12) Why Do Kids Cyber Bully? Many times cyber bullying or mobile bullying is an extension of bullying that is occurring at school. Sometimes cyber bullying is based on hate or bias. Some children see cyber bullying as being entertaining. Why Do Kids Cyber Bully? When friendships crumble or relationships dissolve, one person may use the internet or cell phones to bully the other person. Sometimes the cyber bully may be a stranger to the victim. Many times when people use the internet, they feel as if they’re invisible. They will type things on- line they would not say in public. Effects Of Cyber Bullying Many children who are cyber bullied are also children who are bullied every day in school. While school lets out for the day, cyber bullying does not have a time frame. These children are bullied 24 hours a day, seven days a week. There is no escape for them. They may not tell they are being bullied because children may fear losing their computer if they tell what is happening to them on-line. Warning Signs a Child is Being Bullied On-Line Children who are cyber bullied may be children who were always “chatting” with their friends on-line. Now they have no interest in using the internet. They may show fear or distress after using the internet. Children who are bullied on-line may be hiding information by quickly switching computer screens when their parents come into the room. What Can Parents Do if Their Child is Bullied On-Line? Parents and guardians must save the evidence from cyber bullying. Save e-mails and chat sessions. Download all web pages. If you do not know who the cyber bully is, contact your Internet Service Provider or another company that will trace the identity of the person on-line. What Can Parents Do if Their Child is Bullied On-Line? Change your child’s e-mail address or usernames, or block or filter further communications from the cyber bully. Let the Internet Service Provider know the cyber bullying incidents are occurring. If the cyber bullying is occurring through the use of a blog (MySpace, Friendster, etc), contact the provider. What Can Parents Do if Their Child is Bullied On-Line? If the cyber bullying is about threats, harassment, obscene messages and images, sexually explicit images, or hate, contact your local police department or the Cybertipline. This national hotline is operated 24-hours a day, 7 days per week online at www.cybertipline.com or by calling 1-800-843-5678. Cyber Bullying Prevention Tips for Children and Teens Children should never post their full name, age, address, name of their school, or any other identifying information on-line. They should not give out personal information to people they are “chatting“ with on-line if they do not know them in real life. Friend’s names, ages, addresses, or other identifying information should not be posted on-line. Posting their information puts them at risk. Cyber Bullying Prevention Tips for Children and Teens Children and teens should not give out passwords to anyone but their parents or guardian. The privacy settings of social networking sites (MySpace, Friendster, etc.) should be set so that other users can only be added if the child approves them. Cyber Bullying Prevention Tips for Children and Teens Teens should not allow other internet users to read their blog or site if they do not know them. Users should not be added to Instant Messaging lists unless the child knows them in “real life.” Cyber Bullying Prevention Tips for Children and Teens Teens should not respond to inappropriate and lewd comments. They should report anything they see or receive on-line that makes them feel uncomfortable to their parents, guardian, or other trusted adult. Parents can then contact local internet service providers, local law enforcement, or the CyberTipline. Cyber Bullying Laws According to a February 2008 USA Today report, Missouri is one of five states (Maryland, New York, Rhode Island and Vermont are the other four) that are considering cyber bullying laws. There were seven states, including Iowa, Minnesota, New Jersey and Oregon, that passed cyber bullying laws in 2007. For More Information, Visit these Web Sites: Stop Bullying Now, www.stopbullyingnow.hrsa.gov/index.asp SAMHSA's National Mental Health Information Center (Bullying Is Not a Fact of Life), http://www.mentalhealth.samhsa.gov/pub lications/allpubs/SVP%2D0052/ National Education Association, http://www.nea.org/schoolsafety/bullying. html For More Information, Visit these Web Sites: Missouri School Violence Hotline, www.schoolviolencehotline.com Missouri Center for Safe Schools, http://education.umkc.edu/safe-school/ Netsmartz (from the National Center for Missing & Exploited Children® and Boys & Girls Clubs of America), www.netsmartz.org i-SAFE, www.i-safe.org For More Information, Visit these Web Sites: Center for Safe and Responsible Internet Use, www.cyberbully.org Play it Cyber Safe, www.playitcybersafe.com Cyberbullying.us (Features News Stories about Cyber Bullying), http://www.cyberbullying.us/index.php Stop Cyberbullying, http://www.stopcyberbullying.org/index2. html Missouri Department of Social Services State Technical Assistance Team Address: PO Box 208 Jefferson City, MO 65102- 0208 Telephone: (573) 751-5980 (800) 487-1626 (8 a.m. to 5 p.m. CST, Monday – Friday) Email: email@example.com
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