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DMI 2009 Convention
       Who I Am




….the guy from out of town…
        What’s the Problem
• We got into this mess by having our last
  solution become our next problem.
• We also kept trying to solve the wrong
  problem, over and over again.
• “It helps to know what the problem is”
  before attempting to solve it.
• If we don’t have a clear understanding of
  the problem, we might lose our way.
Evolution of the Problem



 “I’m Fat”
      “I’m Fat”
…because of my parents
      “I’m Fat”
…because of my parents
….because of my metabolism
       “I’m Fat”
…because of my parents
….because of my metabolism
…..because I don’t get enough exercise
       “I’m Fat”
…because of my parents
….because of my metabolism
…..because I don’t get enough exercise
……because I probably have a huge
 tumor in my belly that’s been growing
 since 1982…
     Evolution of the Problem
• We try to fix the “I’m Fat” problem
  – Diets
  – Exercise
  – Bulimia/Anorexia
  – Various Medical Remedies
• We get Un-Fat
• What happens next?....
Evolution of the Problem



 “I’m Fat –
  Again!”
   Evolution of the Problem



Eventually, we are left with a simple,
reasonable statement of the problem:
Evolution of the Problem


“I Eat Too
   Much”
     Evolution of the Problem
• We try to fix the “I Eat Too Much” problem
  – Diets (to decrease the amount we eat)‫‏‬
  – Exercise (to increase the allowed amount to
    eat)‫‏‬
  – Self-Discipline
  – Various Medical Remedies
• We go a long time without eating too much
• What happens next?....
 What Happens?


“I Ate Too
  Much –
  Again!”
   Evolution of the Problem


“Once I get started eating
 particular foods, or once
 I start bingeing in
 general, I can’t seem to
 stop…”
 Evolution of the Problem



“No, that can’t be it – it
 must be that tumor…”
   Evolution of the Problem


“Once I get started eating
 particular foods, or once
 I start bingeing in
 general, I can’t seem to
 stop…”
        Evolution of the Problem
• “We believe, and so suggested a few years ago, that the action
  of alcohol on these chronic alcoholics is a manifestation of an
  allergy; that the phenomenon of craving is limited to this class
  and never occurs in the average temperate drinker.” - The
  Doctor's Opinion
• CRAVING - an intense, urgent, or abnormal desire or longing
• ALLERGY - exaggerated or pathological immunological
  reaction (as by sneezing, difficult breathing, itching, or skin
  rashes) to substances, situations, or physical states that are
  without comparable effect on the average individual. (emphasis
  mine – jim p)‫‏‬
   Evolution of the Problem



“Okay, I won't do that anymore”
       Evolution of the Problem
•   Avoiding particular foods
•   Avoiding particular eating habits
•   Avoiding excess volume
•   Changing times and places that I eat
•   Trying to remember how bad I feel when it
    happens
      What Happens?


“I Ate Too Much, Again, And It
      Turned Into A Binge”
      Evolution of the Problem
• “I need to remember not to do that”
  – That doesn't work
• “I really need to remember not to do that”
  – That doesn't work'
• “I need to tell my friends and family to not
  let me do that”
  – That doesn't work
• “I need to get locked up in a fat farm”
  – That doesn't work
Evolution of the Problem



  Powerless
    Evolution of the Problem

“He has lost control. At a certain point in
the drinking of every alcoholic, he passes
into a state where the most powerful
desire to stop drinking is of absolutely
no avail. This tragic situation has already
arrived in practically every case long before
it is suspected.” - pg 21-22
    Evolution of the Problem
“The fact is that most alcoholics, for
reasons yet obscure, have lost the power
of choice in drink. Our so-called will
power becomes practically nonexistent.
We are unable, at certain times, to bring
into our consciousness with sufficient force
the memory of the suffering and humiliation
of even a week or a month ago. We are
without defense against the first drink.”
                                       - pg 22
               Powerless
• Our WILL is the capacity to make decision

• WILL POWER is the ability to stick to a
  decision once it has been made

• We are able to make decisions about
  overating, but we are NOT ABLE TO
  STICK TO THOSE DECISIONS on our own
  WILL POWER
    POWERLESS over FOOD
• To be “powerless over food” in this context
  is to be unable to choose not to overeat.

• The Big Book never mentions being
  powerless over anything else – in fact, it
  says that many of us are able to exert our
  power of will in many areas with good
  results.
         Powerless – forever?


• Book says “We have lost the power of
  choice”

• It never says that we get it back : )‫‏‬
                        Insanity
• “Whatever the precise definition of the word may be, we
  call this plain insanity. How can such a lack of proportion,
  of the ability to think straight, be called anything else?” --
  pg 37
• “Our sound reasoning failed to hold us in check. The
  insane idea won out.” -- pg 37
• “However intelligent we may have been in other respects,
  where alcohol has been involved, we have been strangely
  insane.” -- pg 38
• “I rather appreciated your ideas about the subtle insanity
  which precedes the first drink...” -- pg 40
• “The insanity of alcohol returns and we drink again.” -- pg
  66
Insidious Insanity of the First Bite

When the Big Book talks about insanity – and
 'being restored to sanity' – it is not talking
 about the insane things that we did while
 overeating, or the fact that we couldn't stop
 once we got started (that's a physical
 compulsion)‫‏‬
Insidious Insanity of the First Bite

When the Big Book talks about insanity – and
   'being restored to sanity' – it is not talking
   about the insane things that we did while
   overeating, or the fact that we couldn't stop
   once we got started (that's a physical
   compulsion)‫‏‬
It is referring to our taking the first excess bite
   WHEN WE HAVE BEEN ANSTINENT.
     Evolution of the Problem
• Once we start overeating, we can't stop of
  our own accord – we continue until
  something breaks the cycle.
• When something has broken the cycle and
  we have not binged for some length of time,
  we are unable to avoid the first compulsive
  bite on our unaided will power alone.
• THIS IS NOT OUR PROBLEM.
      Evolution of the Problem
• Problem - a question raised for inquiry,
  consideration, or solution

• If you can't do anything about
  something, then it is not your problem.

• We are powerless over food; we are
  unable to effect any solution at all.
  Therefore, that is not our problem.
      Evolution of the Problem
• We can't do anything about compulsive
  overeating. That's why the First Step is the
  First Step – and food is not mentioned
  again in ANY OF THE STEPS.
• The Second Step says that there IS
  Someone who can solve this problem.
• If He can solve it, then that makes it His
  problem.
• Then what is OUR problem? What problem
  are we supposed to solve?
     Lost the Power of Choice
• I've lost the power of choice as to whether
  or not I will compulsively overeat. I cannot
  exercise choice in that decision.
• I DO have the power of choice as to
  whether or not I will the Steps and have a
  spiritual awakening.
• My choice of whether – or not – to work the
  Steps will ultimately result in a binge, or the
  blessing of abstinence.
             The Problem


“Selfishness - self-centeredness! That,
  we think, is the root of our troubles.”
-- pg 62
             The Problem
• Our problem is the same as every other
  human being's problem – a separation from
  God, and a reliance on our self-will.

• Our SYMPTOM of the problem is different
  from regular people, but the PROBLEM is
  the same.
                 Self-Will

What's the first requirement to working the
 Third Step?
              The Problem

What's the first requirement to working the
 Third Step?

“The first requirement is that we be convinced
  that any life run on self-will can hardly be a
  success.” -- pg 60 (emphasis mine – jim p)‫‏‬
                   The Problem
The Big Book gives FIVE examples of human beings who
  suffer from self-centeredness; who are “ego-centric”.
“He is like (1)the retired business man who lolls in the
  Florida sunshine in the winter complaining of the sad state
  of the nation; (2)the minister who sighs over the sins of
  the twentieth century; (3)politicians and reformers who are
  sure all would be Utopia if the rest of the world would only
  behave; (4)the outlaw safe cracker who thinks society has
  wronged him; (5)and the alcoholic who has lost all and is
  locked up.” pgs 61-62
                   The Problem
The Big Book gives FIVE examples of human beings who
  suffer from self-centeredness; who are “ego-centric”.
“He is like (1)the retired business man who lolls in the
  Florida sunshine in the winter complaining of the sad state
  of the nation; (2)the minister who sighs over the sins of
  the twentieth century; (3)politicians and reformers who are
  sure all would be Utopia if the rest of the world would only
  behave; (4)the outlaw safe cracker who thinks society has
  wronged him; (5)and the alcoholic who has lost all and is
  locked up.” pgs 61-62

...ONLY ONE OF THESE EXAMPLES HAS TO GO TO
   MEETINGS
             The Problem

We suffer from the simple problem of being
 people – people who were born with a God-
 shaped hole, and tried to fill it with
 something else.

 We are mentally ill, and physically sick – we
 must have a SPIRITUAL SOLUTION.
                   The Solution
“This is the how and why of it. First of all, we had to quit
  playing God. It didn't work. Next, we decided that
  hereafter in this drama of life, God was going to be our
  Director. He is the Principal; we are His agents. He is the
  Father, and we are His children.” -- pg 62
           A Spiritual Solution
“....we have been not only mentally and
   physically ill, we have been spiritually sick.
   When the spiritual malady is overcome, we
   straighten out mentally and physically.”
-- pg 64
       ...that Solves the Problem
“And we have ceased fighting anything or anyone - even
  alcohol. For by this time sanity will have returned. We will
  seldom be interested in liquor. If tempted, we recoil from it
  as from a hot flame. We react sanely and normally, and
  we will find that this has happened automatically. We will
  see that our new attitude toward liquor has been given us
  without any thought or effort on our part. It just comes!
  That is the miracle of it. We are not fighting it, neither are
  we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been
  placed in a position of neutrality - safe and protected. We
  have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been
  removed. It does not exist for us. We are neither cocky
  nor are we afraid. That is our experience. That is how we
  react so long as we keep in fit spiritual condition.”
             Summing Up
• We have a physical allergy and a mental
  illness. We can't do anything about them.
  No human power can.
             Summing Up
• We have a physical allergy and a mental
  illness. We can't do anything about them.
  Nobody can.
• Our will is not sufficient to solve the
  problem.
              Summing Up
• We have a physical allergy and a mental
  illness. We can't do anything about them.
  Nobody can.
• Our will is not sufficient to solve the
  problem.
• God won't just take away the problem; He
  doesn't just want that part of our will that
  overeats. He wants ALL of our will, and our
  lives as well.
    A Solution Bigger Than the
             Problem
• God won't just solve our food problem – He
  wants ALL of our problems.
• He does better at running our lives than we
  do.
• Thus, we are better off with this solution
  than we would be if we never had the
  problem at all.
    A Solution Bigger Than the
             Problem

“When we look back, we realize that the
  things which came to us when we put
  ourselves in God's hands were better than
  anything we could have planned.”-- pg 100
                   Spiritual
• Not physical
• Not mental
• Not emotional

• “Having had a spiritual awakening as the
  result of these steps, we tried to carry this
  message to compulsive overeaters, and to
  practice these principles in all of our affairs”
       Spiritual Awakening


“Having had a spiritual awakening as the
result of these steps....” ”
        Carry This Message

“Having had a spiritual awakening as the
 result of these steps, we tried to carry this
 message to compulsive overeaters...”
    Then What's the Message?
• Don't eat so much
  – Nope, that's not it
• Lose weight
  – Nope, that's not it
• Follow this food plan
  – Nope, that's not it
• Avoid temptation
  – Nope, that's not it
Sidebar – Avoiding Temptation
“In our belief any scheme of combating
alcoholism which proposes to shield the
sick man from temptation is doomed to
failure. If the alcoholic tries to shield himself
he may succeed for a time, but he usually
winds up with a bigger explosion than ever.
We have tried these methods. These
attempts to do the impossible have always
failed.” -- pg 101
   Then What's the Message?
 “Having had a spiritual awakening as the
  result of these steps, we tried to carry this
  message to compulsive overeaters...”

THIS message. Located HERE.
              The Message

...is that we've had a spiritual awakening...
             The Message
...is that we've had a spiritual awakening AS
   THE RESULT OF THESE STEPS.
                 Spiritual
• The problem is a spiritual malady
• The solution is a spiritual awakening
• How we get there is “as the result of these
  Steps”
          Problem to Solution
• If I forget that the problem is a spiritual
  malady, then I will forget that the solution is
  a spiritual awakening.

• As long as I am attending to the spiritual
  awakening, I never have to worry about the
  problem recurring.
         We're Done Now : )‫‏‬
• Q&A

                      ???

• Contact info:
  – Jim Puckett
  – Cell 623 853 6031
  – Home 623 465 7065
  – Email jimp@fatcharliesdiary.com

				
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