The news is not good for black women when it comes to finding a partner. Where not long ago there were roughly two married women to every single woman, those numbers have gradually reversed over the past few decades—now, more than 60 percent of black women have either never married or are divorced. These numbers are far greater than those of any other social group, and the trend shows no sign of reversing.
So what are black women to do if their odds of finding a husband or life partner are getting longer every year? How do they find their way through life as “sole sisters”? What are the unique challenges they face in terms of companionship, love, sex, and motherhood?
In order to find out, veteran journalist Deborah Mathis—herself the divorced mother of two daughters—interviewed 125 single black women in order to delve into the realities of life as they’re living it today. What she found were women taking a wide variety of different approaches to their singlehood.