Spirituality in Addiction Treatment Body + Mind + Emotions = Spirituality Holistic Understanding of Empowerment Spirituality is being positive and creative. Key 1 - The Power of Spirituality Spirituality is not the same as religion. Healing religious abuse is the key to discovering empowerment Often religious abuse is the trigger for codependency issues, shame, guilt, eating disorders and sexual addiction/abuse Important to have a personal definition of spirituality that works for you: e.g. spirituality = being positive and creative Physical, Mental and Emotional empowerment is all an aspect of spirituality; spirituality is not only about prayer and meditation! Key 2 - Getting Honest Fear & Shame often keep people dishonest. Look at Family & Personal Issues – Addiction – Adult Child symptoms – Belief’s about self & God – Co-creation - God as a partner. – Being Real Key 3 - Focusing on Family of Origin Issues Addiction Issues - Alcohol, Food, Sex Codependency, Religious Abuse, Poverty, Violence, Racism, Sexism, Homophobia General Characteristics – Don’t Talk – Don’t Trust – Don’t Feel Start Therapy = healing the freeze Key 4 - Challenging Unhealthy Beliefs & Attitudes I’m not good enough; a sinner. Sex is dirty. Don’t doubt, think, or question. God is in Charge. Jesus is the Way, Truth & Light. Religion is above Science, Medicine and Therapy. I suggest you write a personal prayer or affirmation. (e.g. in The God Game I reinterpreted Psalm 23 and created a new prayer) God is my friend. What more could I want? God sits with me in the quiet times of my life, God explores with me the meaning of my life God calls me forth as a whole person Even though I walk along paths of pain, prejudice, hatred And depression, my fears are quieted because God is with me. God’s words and thoughts challenge me. God causes me to be sensitive to the needs of mankind, Then lifts up opportunities for serving. God’s confidence stretches me. Surely love shall be mine to share throughout my life, And I shall be sustained by God’s concern forever. Oh God, you have given me the power to determine my life. May I remember to include myself in my amends. May I never be afraid to reveal my anger or concern to those who have abused me. Today I know that I can never love you or others fully and healthily until I begin to love myself. With you as my Partner and Co- Creator I am discovering all that is loveable and powerful within me. Thank you for guiding me as I reclaim myself. Key 5 - Listen to your Feelings Be still and know that I am God Meditation technique – Stop…be still – Be quiet – Feel Utilize music, movies, art that evoke in your feelings Often the pathway into our feelings is through the Mind &/ the Body Key 6 - Sharing and Honoring your Feelings God is discovered in the risks we take. So, God is at work in a hug. We become vehicles for God’s grace and love when we physically demonstrate our caring for each other. Religious teachings which tell us to avoid physical contact miss an important point: God took physical form in order to talk to us through the burning bush, through Jesus and other holy teachers. God also talks to us in a hug. In a hug, we re-create Incarnation. Many addicts and other compulsive people feel so worthless and unlovable – this is what feeds their dysfunction. Hugs are tangible signs of self- acceptance and self-love. Hugs embody the healing miracle of risk. Hugs: Demonstrable humility. They say “I need you.” Need your touch, Need your warmth, Need your strength. They say I need you. A stranger came to a support group. He was covered in black leather With chains and sharp studs, Had a mustache and beard, Many tattoos – The uniform of machismo He sneered, Scowled And occasionally grunted. Everybody stared. His presence was alarming. The woman who had been sharing Abruptly fell silent. The empty pause stretched on for a long minute. It seemed an eternity. I wanted to fix the awkwardness With magic words: That’s priestcraft Then an old Jewish lady got up, Put her coffee on the table And walked over to the man. She looked at him, Smiled And hugged him. “Welcome,” she said. She held him, Touched him, Felt his pain. Then he began to talk. His name was Henry. He was a recovering heroin addict. He was very depressed. He was lonely And afraid. He needed to be held, Touched And hugged. He did not need magic words. His clothes were a mask. They covered his pain, Loneliness And fear. The hug was the miracle. The old woman risked rejection. She loved unconditionally: Spirituality. (from Meditations for Compulsive People, Fr. Leo Booth) Sharing & Honoring Your Feelings (continued) Only when I know you can I love you. Exploring your feelings allows me to know you! You can learn to feel. Attend therapy groups or Twelve Step where people feel safe enough to share their feelings. Notice how it affects you. Remember, your feelings are not good or bad…they are real. Honor them! Key 7 - Letting Go Stop: You cannot plan and reorganize your life’s goals if you are too busy to think. Look: – What needs to change? – Who needs to go? – How are you to create a better life? – Joseph Campbell, The Creation of Bliss Change: Implement (no more thinking or procrastination) the Plan. God is not a Codependent Here is a prayer that explores this theme: God, sometimes I want You to come and fix my life, remove my problems, and make my path straight and clear. But in my better moments, I know it is in the challenge and effort of life that my glory and power are made manifest. (from The Wisdom of Letting Go, Fr. Leo Booth) Key 8 - Co-creativity God invites us to create Understand the difference between Miracle and Magic. Interesting question: Does unhealthy religion make us codependent? i.e. Prayers that begin: – God help us… – God save us… – God show us… – God give us… What is our part? Not to discount God’s grace, but we need to acknowledge our part. A young man went daily to his fruit tree and lay beneath it with mouth wide open. The gentle breezes stirred the tree, and the fruit would drop down into the young man’s mouth. He loved his fruit tree for the way it dropped the fruits so abundantly to him. One day, he went to the tree and lay down as usual with his mouth open, but nothing happened. The breezes did not blow, so no fruit fell. He lay there for many days, with his mouth open, and still the winds did not blow the fruit down to him. He began to curse and cry because the tree did not give him fruit. A wise old man happened by and saw the young man lying there with his mouth open, crying and tantruming. “Whatever is the matter with you?” The old man asked. “I’ve been lying here for days and my fruit tree will not drop fruit. I’m so hungry,” cried the young man. “Well then, why don’t you just get up and shake the tree? Then you can get all the fruit you need!” The old man exclaimed. So the young man got up and shook the tree, and sure enough, down came the fruit. From that day forward, he stopped waiting for fruit to drop down. Instead, he shook the tree to get his fruit and never went hungry again. Key 9 - Healthy Relationships Creative and Boundaries intimate Patience friendship Compassion Trust Spontaneity Honesty Understanding Communication Forgiveness Humor Key 10 - Moving toward your Heart’s Desire Do you have Dreams? Can you see where you want to be? Can you see what your Bliss looks like? Do you have a plan that takes you into health, happiness, and prosperity e.g. Twelve Steps, Master- Plan Program?
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