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					         CHOICES
Preteen                       Teen
Version                      Version


         Written by Sarah Jones

Published by Children’s Alliance of Kansas
The greatest gift you
  can give a child is
 the ability to make
   good decisions.
 This program focuses on
helping preteens and teens
     understand how
          values,
         attitudes,
peer and family pressures,
      responsibilities,
         and goals
 influence their choices.
Preteen Version


       A program for groups of
         children ranging in age
               from 9 – 13.
Teen Version


     A program for groups of
       children ranging in age
            from 14 – 18.
CHOICES & CHICKEN SOUP

The descriptive real life stories from the
Chicken Soup for the Preteen and Teenage
Soul are examined and discussed within the
group through the Choices program. The
group may discuss what they think motivated
the decisions or they may be given a chance
at a “Do-Over” to decide a new ending for the
stories, making different choices.
Part 1




         4C Decisions
          Challenge yourself to stop and think
          Consider positive and negative consequences
          Choose the best option for you
          Commit yourself to learn from past choices
                 4C Worksheet

                4 STEPS TO MAKE A DECISION

CHALLENGE      CONSIDER positive and      CHOOSE the       COMMIT
 yourself to   negative consequences       best option    yourself to
  stop and                                   for you      learn from
    think                                                past choices

What are my    Positive      Negative     Best option     How did it
 options?   consequences? consequences?    for you?       work out?

Option 1:


Option 2:


Option 3:
Part 1            4C Decisions

         Through Chicken Soup stories teens
         learn that:

            Decisions can bring them new opportunities
            as in “Challenge Days” as told by Andrew
            Tertes. “It wasn’t magic – we just looked at
            each other in a different light. Now it is up to
            us. Do we look through these eyes for just
            one day, or do we have the courage to
            remember that most people are just like us,
            and help others learn that it is safe to be
            themselves.”
Part 1              4C Decisions
         Chicken Soup conversation cards provide the Choices groups with
            heartwarming conversation starters. Each card in the deck
            condenses a favorite Chicken Soup story, then poses a soulful
            question to share.
Part 2

                  4C Values
           Values have a big impact on who you choose as
           friends, how you act at school, work, and in the
           community. ONLY YOU will decide what your
           values are; however, the people around you,
           family, friends, teachers, as well as life
           experiences may influence you.

   When making the
                           Everyone views situations differently. What
   choice to lie, ask
                            might be no big deal to one person could
 yourself how you feel
                             cause another person to lose it. This is
  when someone you
                           because everyone is unique and we all have
 care about lies to you.
                                different values and experiences.
Part 2           4C Values

         Through Chicken Soup stories teens
         learn that:

              Values will be formed by the people in
              their lives and by the situations they
              experience as in “Lessons in Baseball” by
              Chick Moorman. “I learned that everyone
              has worth, whether they can hit .33 or
              .030. I learned that we all have value,
              whether we can stop the ball or have to
              turn and chase it. I learned that doing
              what is right, fair and honorable is more
              important than winning or losing.”
Part 2               4C Values
         Chicken Soup conversation cards provide the Choices groups
            with heartwarming conversation starters. Each card in the deck
            condenses a favorite Chicken Soup story, then poses a soulful
            question to share.
Part 3

                   4C Attitude
                When making decisions, identify your
                  emotions and what part they are playing
                  in your decision.


 I’m sure you can think of things
 you did because you wanted to       The next time you are about
 be nice to a person and you can     to make the choice to pick
 probably also think of some         on someone, think about
 things you have done because        how it would make you feel
 you were angry with a person.       if you were in that person’s
                                     shoes.
Part 3            4C Attitude
         Through Chicken Soup stories teens
         learn that:


         Attitude affects their choices in positive and negative
         ways as in “First Kiss – First Lesson” by Jennifer
         Braunschweiger. “In other words, why didn’t I just
         think about what I was doing and realize my actions
         affected other people? Uh, good question.” “It kills
         me that I cornered Jon – who had betrayed me – and
         made him talk to me, but I never even gave my mom
         that chance.”
Part 3               4C Attitude
         Chicken Soup conversation cards provide the Choices groups
            with heartwarming conversation starters. Each card in the
            deck condenses a favorite Chicken Soup story, then poses a
            soulful question to share.
Part 4
         4C Peer / Family Pressures
           You cannot control others you can only control
           yourself. So instead of looking at how others
           may put pressure on you, we will be looking at
           how you respond to that pressure.
                                       Assertive Allen: I express
                                       my feelings and thoughts in
    Passive Phil: I talk softly        a confident manner. I make
    and don’t stand up for             sure others have the
    myself. I tend to avoid            chance to do the same.
    conflicts. People take
    advantage of me! I have
    trouble saying “no”.

                      Aggressive Alex: I bully others by using my loud
                      voice and body language to take control of the
                      conversation. I often interrupt others since my
                      viewpoint is more important.
Part 4          4C Peer /
                Family Pressures

         Through Chicken Soup stories teens
         learn that:

             Peer / Family Pressures may impact
             their lives but ultimately the decisions are
             made by them as in “Betty Ann” by Ina
             Hughs. “…but by far, the toughest lesson I
             learned was that life doesn’t come with
             erasers. I couldn’t make something that
             had happened, not happen.”
Part 4              4C Peer /
                    Family Pressures
         Chicken Soup conversation cards provide the Choices groups with
            heartwarming conversation starters. Each card in the deck
            condenses a favorite Chicken Soup story, then poses a soulful
            question to share.
Part 5
           4C Responsibilities
            Life is full of experiences, as a preteen/teen you
            may feel like you are on an emotional roller
            coaster. In this period of your life you are learning
            that what you feel one moment will change, even
            if it seems as though your life is ruined. Tomorrow
            brings a new day and with it new hopes and
            dreams. Your responsibility as a preteen is to not
            give up and live life to the fullest.

 We all have expectations and          If your parents viewed you as
 responsibilities, that is just part   more responsible, how would
 of life. The trick is balancing       that relate to you getting more
 the things you need to do with        freedom to make your own
 the things you want to do.            choices?
Part 5           4C Responsibilities


         Through Chicken Soup stories teens
         learn that:
           Responsibilities are inevitably part of life and
           that overcoming obstacles build character as in
           “To track Down My Dream” by Ashley Hodgeson.
           “That day I learned two things: First, a little
           kindness and confidence in people can make a
           great difference to them. And second, strength
           and courage aren’t always measured in medals
           and victories. They are measured in the struggles
           we overcome. The strongest people are not
           always the people who win, but the people who
           don’t give up when they lose.”
Part 5               4C Responsibilities

         Chicken Soup conversation cards provide the Choices groups
            with heartwarming conversation starters. Each card in the
            deck condenses a favorite Chicken Soup story, then poses a
            soulful question to share.
Part 6

     4C Goals
         Life presents challenges and opportunities
         and by overcoming the challenges and
         taking advantage of these opportunities we
         can change and grow in ways we never
         would have imagined when setting our goals
         for the future.
Part 6           4C Goals
         Through Chicken Soup stories teens
         learn that:

             Goals can be achieved or lost by the choices
             they make as in “I’ll Be Back” by Jack
             Cavanaugh. “Mom, I think I know why this
             happened to me…God knew I could handle it.
             He saved my life because he knew I could
             handle it.”
Part 6              4C Goals
         Chicken Soup conversation cards provide the Choices groups
            with heartwarming conversation starters. Each card in the
            deck condenses a favorite Chicken Soup story, then poses a
            soulful question to share.
   CHOICES
The Choices program was developed to
encourage preteens/teens to stop and
think about the consequences prior to
making decisions. They also discover
how to overcome obstacles standing in
the way of happiness and realize that
they are not alone in their feelings.

				
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