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Marriage And Self Help

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830

Summary:
Love is the royal road to salvation. It doesn’t matter what race,
religion or gender you are, love is available to everyone as a way of
getting yourself up out of the problems in your life and finding the road
to happiness. One thing that many people fail to realize, however, is
that marriage does not equal love. You can get married as many times as
you like but love doesn’t come out of marriage no matter what religion,
church or spiritual organization you come from. In o...


Keywords:
Marriage,Self Help,Determination


Article Body:
Love is the royal road to salvation. It doesn’t matter what race,
religion or gender you are, love is available to everyone as a way of
getting yourself up out of the problems in your life and finding the road
to happiness. One thing that many people fail to realize, however, is
that marriage does not equal love. You can get married as many times as
you like but love doesn’t come out of marriage no matter what religion,
church or spiritual organization you come from. In order for marriage to
work, love has to be there first and it has to be something you can
nourish and help to grow or it will surely dry up and fade away.
Marriage needs love the way a flower needs water. Without love, you have
nothing.

     When we talk about love, what is it we are talking about exactly?
What can we do to get this love and keep it? Self help in marriage is
all about finding the way to feed your love and make it grow. Love isn’t
something that just anyone can maintain although it is available as an
option to everyone. Maintaining love is something that only a few select
people are capable of and the percentage is surprisingly quite low. It
is estimated by some of the greatest psychiatrists in the self help field
that love is really an energy that can only be maintained by something
close to two percent of the population! Do these numbers sound low to
you? They sound low to a lot of people and yet, statistics often show
that the feelings people identify as love often turn to discouragement
and resentment after only a few short months and breakups are a dime a
dozen in the game of love.   If the numbers sound low, there is no need
to feel discouraged. Although love may only be possible for a small
percentage of the population, it doesn’t have to be you who loses out.
Seeing the pitfalls ahead of time and developing a sober attitude toward
the difficult challenges of love can be the very thing that saves you
from the overwhelming statistics. This is especially true if you
discover this valuable information early. Most people don’t learn this
until after their first marriage is over. Even divorce doesn’t have to
mean discouragement as people’s second marriages often tend to be more
successful than their first. This is because some sobering lessons are
learned the first time around that were just to difficult for most people
to swallow in the beginning.

     One of the most sobering truths about successful marriages that most
people don’t want to admit is that money plays a much bigger role in the
outcome of the marriage than was ever expected by newlyweds. The number
one topic of argument among married couples is money. Money plays a role
in everything we do, from our self esteem in our careers to the much
needed vacations we take when the stress becomes too much. If the money
is short, the tensions tend to rise and then the arguments begin.
Married couples who have no money ordinarily need to be exceptional
individuals with great inner strength and determination to make things
work. This is already a great truth for those who already have a lot of
money so it is even more true for those who don’t.

     Another extremely sobering truth for married couples is that
partnerships often survive because of a common project of goal that each
partner has with the other. Oftentimes, couples bond for life because of
their children who, after the initial joy of the marriage begins to fade,
the children come along to bring a renewed sense of purpose into their
lives and keep them together no matter what the problems are that they
face. Couples who share a business together or similar careers can also
find mutual respect and joy for each other. Even these commonalities,
however, are often not enough to sustain the marriage in many cases.
Many marriages have failed even though the two are from similar careers
start with children early on.

    All is not lost! The most common factor which is identified in
successful marriages is an importance which is placed on spiritual growth
and self help between two people. This spirituality that exists between
two people is hard to define and may even come in the form of two people
being driven in their careers. Underneath all of this, however, is a
commitment to better themselves and the belief that love is a great power
which is deserving of respect and reverence.    The mystery of love and
marriage may never be solved but it certainly benefits a person early on
to know the stakes and to be aware of the many pitfalls. Only in this
way can you make your chances much better for finding and fulfilling love
in your life.

				
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