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									Parenting Preschoolers with a Purpose
Author: Jolene L. Roehlkepartain
Table of Contents

How You Parent Makes a Difference
Part 1: Becoming an Asset-Building Parent
Parenting with the Asset Framework
Boundaries and Expectations
Constructive Use of Time
Commitment to Learning
Positive Values
Social Competencies
Positive Identity
Part 2: Taking Care of Yourself
Adult Relationships
Job Demands
Letting Go
Personal Purpose
Reenergizing Yourself
Sleep Deprivation
Taking Breaks from Parenting
Unsolicited Advice
Part 3: Taking Care of Your Child
Blankets and Security Items
Child Care
Doctor and Dentist Visits
Emotional Outbursts
Hate-You Outbursts
Holidays and Family Gatherings
Imaginary Play
Intergenerational Relationships
Kindergarten, Getting Ready for
Media Use
Nightmares and Night Terrors
Puzzling Behaviors
Sleeping Issues
Social Gatherings
Thumb (and Finger) Sucking
Traveling with a Preschooler
Other Resources from Search Institute
About the Author
About Search Institute
Topical Index
Asset Index

From bed-wetting and eating to bath time and siblings, this guide helps parents foster rewarding
relationships with their preschoolers through practical, creative solutions to sticky everyday situations.
Imaginative and innovative approaches to 40 common challenges not only solve the immediate problems 
but also enhance the parent-child relationship, while 15 common issues that parents find themselves 
facing, such as finances, isolation, job demands, guilt, sleep deprivation, boredom, and unsolicited 
advice, are tackled with simple yet effective solutions. Incorporating elements of the Search Institute's 40
Developmental Assets® for Young Children, parents learn how to avoid the pressures of "going it
alone" by building a web of support with their family, friends, and community that promotes the physical, 
social, and emotional well-being of both child and parent.

Part 1: Becoming an Asset-Building ParentParenting with the Asset FrameworkIt’s easy to get swept up
in the problem of the day. Oh, my!
My son refuses to eat any vegetables. Oh, no! My daughter
keeps waking up at night and wanting to sleep with me.
Oh, dear! My preschooler is bouncing off the walls!Child-development experts contend that the acting out
behavior of preschoolers is normal. “You will feel
less hopeless and less angry if you can keep in mind that
behaving in an out-of-bounds manner is not only an
almost inevitable but probably a quite necessary part of
[preschool] development,” suggest researchers from the
Gesell Institute of Human Development. They say the
most difficult times during the preschool years tend to
happen when a child is 3½, 4½, and 5½.The truth is, you will encounter problems in parenting
your child, and you will continue to stumble into new difficulties
as your child grows up. If you continue to keep
your focus only on the problems that come along, you’ll
become a reactive parent instead of a purposeful parent.All parents want their children to grow up well
to succeed. To guide your child along this positive path
requires having a practical parenting framework that helps
you to be intentional—a road map that helps you clarify
what you need to do to raise healthy, caring children.Search Institute’s Developmental Assets framework
can offer this perspective. Research on more than two
million young people across North America makes it clear
that children and teenagers with more Developmental
Assets are:
• More likely to act in ways we value (such as exhibiting
leadership and maintaining good health habits);

• Less likely to get into trouble (such as hurting
someone or becoming depressed); and

• More likely to bounce back when life gets hard and
bad things happen.David builds assets. He says he now reads a picture
book to his son each night before going to bed, and he
feels closer to his son because they have this time together.
Gina builds assets by taking an anger-management
class. She used to yell and hit her child, but she doesn’t
anymore. Hector builds assets by coaching a preschool
soccer team in his community, and his 4-year-old daughter
thinks he’s the best soccer coach ever. Deshona builds
assets by playing games with her son every day.What about you?
Some of the examples listed above probably seem
like common sense, but the Developmental Assets framework
gives you a proven, practical approach to parenting
preschoolers. Not only will it help your child succeed,
but it also will make your job as a parent easier. Instead
of always dealing with problems, you’ll be creating a positive
home atmosphere where both you and your preschooler
will thrive.Asset-Building Parenting Ideas
Whenever you try something new, start with something
easy. Become an asset-building parent with these ideas:

1. Learn more about the Developmental Assets framework.
Download a copy of the Developmental Assets for
Early Childhood by visiting
assets/assetlists.html. Post a copy in your home. Carry
another copy with you and periodically read it when you’re
stuck waiting in line at a store.
2. Scan the list of 40 Developmental Assets and focus
on one asset that you can begin building in...
Author Bio
Jolene L. Roehlkepartain
Jolene L. Roehlkepartain is the author of more than 20 books, including 101 Great Games for Kids, 150
Ways to Show Kids You Care, Fidget Busters, Nurturing Faith in Families, and Raising Healthy Children
Day by Day, and the coauthor of What Young Children Need to Succeed. She is the founder of Ideas Ink.
She lives in Minneapolis.

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