How to Survive a Divorce

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                                                          How to Survive a Divorce
                                                                   By Terry Ross

   With so many marriages ending up in divorce (around 50% in America) there has become an ever
increasing need for help in surviving the ordeal of a divorce.

 The first thing to you need to do is make doubly sure that there is no way you can save your marriage
and that divorce is the only option. If you can be sure that you are not making a mistake in getting
divorced the easier it can be to come to terms with the separation.

 Once you have made your decision you need to start mentally preparing yourself for the life beyond

 Once you have reached this point and you have filed for divorce there is no point looking back, what
has happened is in the past and you now need to look to what needs to be done to make the
separation easier and start planning for the future.

 Don't go blaming yourself and don't start thinking of yourself as a failure. Divorce happens and so you
and your partner haven't got the marriage idea quite right but you now need to learn from any
mistakes, let go and move on.

 I know it's easy for me to say and the concept of divorce is probably a crushing blow but you can and
you will survive this. You know your marriage and you know it can't be saved and that you are seeking
divorce with good reason. It makes sense to move on.

 You need to try and let go before the end, begin to start making a new life (at least in your mind)
before that final bit of paper comes through the door.

 Divorce is a whole lot easier if the whole process is amicable. The more fighting and arguing that
occurs over custody and finances the more stressful divorce can be. Divorce is hard enough you just
don't need or want any added animosity. The harder the divorce the slower the recovery process will

 Divorced spouse can often be filled with feelings of hatred, anger and self-loathing. Stress levels run
high and it just seems impossible to get past the frustration and the continual memories of the failed

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marriage but divorce has to mean 'the end'. To survive divorce and get on with your life you need to
visualize and understand the line drawn under your marriage. You might not like it but you have to
accept it.

 Don't ever think that because one marriage is failed you won't enjoy a loving relationship again. You
need to re-build your self-esteem, accept that many marriages fail and that your divorce doesn't mean
you are a failure.

 Try and start rebuilding your life and doing something you enjoy every day. Make sure you have time
out from going over and over your marriage. Deliberately make extra time for things you enjoy and try
and keep your mind occupied for as much of the day as possible.

 Obviously evenings are harder and this is when you need to start rebuilding your social life. Don't lock
yourself away, get out there, do thinks you enjoy, meet new people and start learning that there is a
whole new life waiting for you. See divorce as the beginning and not the end!

 If you have children don't use them to get at your ex-spouse. Children suffer enough after a divorce
and you need to make it as easy as possible for them. It's also easier for you if you can learn to let go
of the anger.

 If you believe you can do it then you can do it. Don't let divorce ruin your life, it's your decision to go
down with the sinking ship or get back out there and start swimming. You can do whatever you want,
you can make it happen. There are a whole load of new opportunities out there just waiting for you to
grab them. It's a bit like riding a horse or a bicycle, if you fall off you have to get back on if you don't
you'll loose your nerve.

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                                                   Moving Beyond Your Divorce
                                                            By Brad Jefferson

There is no way around it; divorce is a painful process to go through. Even when the relationship has
been on a downward spiral and both parties have been miserably unhappy, ending the relationship
with a divorce is a tremendous loss on both sides. Many who go through a divorce will grieve the loss
of the partnership in the same way one grieves for a person who has died. In some cases, more years
together will result in a greater sense of loss and abandonment when the divorce takes place. For
others, even the end of a newer marriage can trigger similar feelings, with grief for the loss of a
companion during a divorce compounded by the shattered dreams and hopes of the life together that
was anticipated. If you are currently going through a divorce, or still reeling from a separation that is
now legally complete, there are people who can help.

The Divorce Process

 The main person who will help you get through the divorce process itself can be your divorce attorney.
Your divorce attorney will see to it that your rights are protected, your property is divided fairly and your
children are well cared for. Sometimes simply knowing that your divorce is in the able hands of your
attorney gives you the necessary confidence to make it through the process. Your divorce attorney can
even guide you through a mediation and amicable divorce agreement so you can avoid the stress of
court altogether. This is especially true if you have children involved in the process and you are
concerned about whether their rights are being protected under divorce law. If you need further
assistance dealing with your divorce and don't know were to turn, your divorce attorney may also be
able to point you in the direction of a competent individual who can help you work through the many
negative emotions you are reeling from.

Support Groups or Group Therapy

 If the pain and loss are not getting any easier after the divorce process is complete, it might be time to
consider joining a support group or group therapy. There are many divorce support groups in every
area of the country, so you should be able to find one that you are comfortable with and that works well
with your schedule. If you are unsure where to look for these groups, you might ask your divorce
lawyer that handled your divorce proceedings for a recommendation. At the very least, you may take
comfort in the fact that others are experiencing similar situations. You may also get sound advice from
people who have gone through the process before you and have learned methods of coping with the
situation through their own experiences.

 Divorce is a challenging situation that can bring up feelings of abandonment, loneliness, anger and
even grief. Don't try to go through the process alone. If you are unsure where to turn, ask your divorce
attorney for assistance in getting the support you need to survive this difficult process.

Brad Jefferson has worked with many couples and individuals dealing with divorce. If you are going
through a divorce, he highly recommends the law firm of Persily & Associates.

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