Life continues after sixty! Joy, fun, love, goals, excitement, acceptance, and freedom: Kids 59.99 is a journey for all of us! This joyful, nostalgic read includes ideas for having fun, waking up with purpose, feeling good, dealing with twenty-first century technology, grown children, and other life issues related to aging. Carol Stanley shares personal stories both serious and humorous. She practices what she preaches in For Kids 59.99 and Over.
For Kids 59.99 & Over By Carol Stanley © 2008 All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced or transmitted in any form or by any means, mechanical or electronic, including photocopy- ing and recording, or by any information storage and retrieval system, without permission in writing from author or publisher (except by a reviewer, who may quote brief passages and/or show brief video clips in a review). ISBN: 978-1-60037-435-7 (Paperback) Library of Congress Control Number: 2008923661 Published by: Morgan James Publishing, LLC 1225 Franklin Ave. Suite 325 Garden City, NY 11530-1693 800.485.4943 www.MorganJamesPublishing.com Cover & Interior Designs by: Megan Johnson Johnson2Design www.Johnson2Design.com megan@Johnson2Design.com DISCLAIMER Statements in For Kids 59.99 and Over regarding diet, ex- ercise, vitamins, and supplements are not meant as treat- ments or cures for illness or medical conditions. Please consult your health provider before making any changes or additions to your diet or exercise program To my great sons Scott and Eric, their beautiful wives Rym and Tracy, my perfect grandchildren Ryan, Sara, Annemarie and Charlotte. A ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS First, I acknowledge all of us over sixty who have reached this pinnacle in life. Some of us are still working, some may have children or grandchildren at home, some of us look back at a life of great achievement, and others have details of our situations, we can still create excitement and do whatever we want with all the years in front of us. I would like to acknowledge my friend, Kathy Bunte, whom I have known just for a few years and has become ground, but inspired by each other, we have written our own books. I wish us luck and lots of success! I acknowledge my editor, Charity Heller Hogge, who amazingly put music to my words, and without changing my story, made everything work. I must thank my husband, Jim, who has done all my graphics and setting up of formatting—areas in which I am totally helpless. He has been patient yet again with another of my many ongoing projects. I also give a special thanks to my mother. Even though learned a great deal from her. vii TABLE OF CONTENTS Introduction......................................................................xi 1. 2. 3. Turn and Twist….Life Changes..............................13 4. 5. Prescription Medicine Today...................................27 6. Those Designer Diseases and Labels......................31 7. 8.. 9. 10.. 0 10 11. 12 2 12.. Stay Centered..........................................................53 13. 14. 15. Attitudes, Attitudes.................................................66 16 6 16.. 17. Life….Manual to Automatic...................................73 ix x For Kids 59.99 & Over 18. 19 9 19.. The Power of Vitamins and Supplements...............77 20.. 0 20 21. 22. 23. Changing Life Patterns...........................................97 24. 25. 6. 26. No Complaining Allowed......................................107 27. 27 Ventures and New Horizons..................................109 28. Please Daydream and Pray....................................113 29 9 29.. 30 0 30.. The Law of Attraction...........................................119 31. Dealing with Illness in Life...................................123 32.. 2 32 The Virtues of Appreciation..................................125 33. 34. 35. 36.. 6 36 37. Epilogue.........................................................................139 INTRODUCTION T Aging is a fact of life, but growing old doesn’t have to be. I am proud to have reached this pinnacle in my exis- I have come to grips with the fact that I will probably not be training for marathons or venture into sky diving. My bones feel a little achy in the mornings, and it takes me a little longer to get my energy going for the day. It is not really necessary to plan for the far distant future, as it gets closer every day. look good along the way. I remember thinking that a large and trim, and they had many complaints in the physical, mental, and emotional department. I decided that scenario was not going to happen in my life. xi xii For Kids 59.99 & Over In my little saga here, I will include some personal sto- strong; I’ll also incorporate ideas about the many joys and many challenges that modern technology has brought into our lives. Since we were not born into this era of advancing tech- nology, most of us over 59.99 have had to adapt if we want to survive comfortably and converse intelligently with the new generation. It seems like an easy task for little pre-school children to program cell phones, and operate computers, iPods, and DVDs. Many of us technologically- challenged adults have to read and reread directions to get things up and running—and even then, we often cannot ac- complish setting up or programming our new equipment. How many times a day do we say these things to ourselves: on and on. I am not a professional on the subject of aging, health, nutrition, or personal relationships, and I hold no degrees in these subjects. I am not a popular celebrity . . . or even an unpopular one. However, I am an expert on the subject of reaching sixty, since I am already there. I have worked hard to stay Introduction xiii have my own fears, concerns, challenges, and personal baggage to deal with, but I have enjoyed writing this book for these very reasons. It has allowed me to deal with my own insecurities. Turning sixty is quite a milestone in life, a time of seri- ous evaluation of years gone by. Each decade seems to go faster and faster, and now my sixties are quickly ebbing away. I spend each day with continued awareness, and I work diligently to make the most of it. - ing ourselves but rather a time of creating new directions with you my thoughts and feelings, offer some helpful ad- vice, and give you a laugh or two. I hope you identify with these situations and thoughts. Thank you for joining me on this journey! “Thank God for friends in small numbers true. They’re often there . . . when you’re feeling Blue.” F riendship is one of the most essential and wonderful parts of our existence! Life would be very dreary without woes, laugh at our silliness, and are there for us when we need them. 1 2 For Kids 59.99 & Over Think of friends whom you cared deeply about, friends whose relationships you ended, friends with whom you spent your childhood . . . and those friends you have known for a long time and are still with you. There are the friends with whom we share a common interest or activity. There are the friends we make because - cally chosen, and this friendship may terminate after one friend moves to a new location or changes jobs. There are some friends that we can only deal with in very small doses—any more than that, and they will drive us nuts! (This is when caller ID on our phone comes in handy.) There are the friends whom we connect with on a very deep level, and we never want the friendship to end. Sometimes friendships can be extremely fragile; one thoughtless comment can end it forever. Throughout my life, I have gained and lost friends for all of these reasons. Don’t you wish that you could go back in time and take back some of your words, or perhaps miss because we had a silly misunderstanding which was never resolved. loyal, supportive friends. It becomes increasingly chal- We Love Our Friends 3 longer have children at home to introduce us to the parents of their friends, and sometimes a simple lack of our in- volvement in community activities prevents us from con- necting with new people. Not working outside the home aging people become increasingly withdrawn from new situations, preferring instead to stay in their comfort zone. do not actively search out new ones. In personal experiences that many others have shared with me, there is a consensus: vital, attractive, stimulating people are generally friendly and show an interest in what we do and think. They are always happy to add one more person to their list of friends. My husband and I have moved to quite a few new - ous and restless spirits and love living in different cities. Sometimes I connect closely with two or three people, and who share my ideas, beliefs, and goals. If a goal in your you are. As we age, we are faced with a whole new bundle of is- sues that people acquire as they travel through their golden that others may not care as deeply about friendships and 4 For Kids 59.99 & Over life as we might. Not everyone we meet is eager to become our friend. People seem to have more problems and chal- lenges in the areas of health, money, and family as they age. Sometimes these problems take over their lives, mak- exciting friendships and experiences. - ing of loneliness. It is a basic desire to feel needed and be productive. Most of us hunger to have a strong pur- kids have left the nest and old activities no longer having objectives in life. Happily, there are many places to con- nect with others and feel needed, such as activity groups, churches, interesting classes, charity work, and a variety of volunteer services. The bottom line is that we must extend ourselves to others, be open and available. Sitting back and waiting for people to call us will not accomplish anything. - pecially when family relationships are stressed or strained... friends more kindly and have more understanding about their circumstances than we do our own families. The people we come in contact with may not be able to We Love Our Friends 5 connect closely with us in the way we want our friendship to develop. Every once in a great while, we meet someone with whom we share an immediate, amazing connection. were once in our life; I have had the opportunity to look up lots of old friends! I have become a great detective on the computer and have discovered enormous amounts of pa- tience in my searches for old friends. Sometimes we stay in touch for only a short period of time and the friendship ends once again. By and large it is fun and rewarding to reconnect with old acquaintances, even for a short while. As you can see I am a consummate analyzer of life, friend- ships and others’ behavior. I wear myself out at times with my overactive examination of people! Most of us like folks who view life in a way that is similar to the way that we do. But friends who possess completely different philosophies of life are so very in- teresting! This creates great conversations and intriguing interaction between friends. As we age, we tend to enjoy more autonomous relationships, yet we so dearly want to keep a few close connections. I am blessed to have three very close girl friends. Even though they do not live close, we stay in touch frequently by telephone and e-mail. Now there is one wonderful result of our current tech- nology! “Problems and stress are the order for the day . . . Always be sure . . . They will go away.” Y ou have heard of road rage . . . but what about “tech- your telephone against the wall while trying to solve one of many problems that occur with regularity in modern 7 8 For Kids 59.99 & Over faulty merchandise, a cancellation notice for no apparent reason, or even not receiving a bill. Pressing buttons on the telephone is fast becoming an American pastime. It is quite possible that you have felt like cutting your telephone wire after being on hold for over half an hour . . . only to get accidentally disconnected. - - the gratitude you experience when a voice comes on and asks if you would like to speak with a customer service when you discover that this person resides in India and English. Their scripts do not provide for anything out of the ordinary. Now you have reached the point of total frustration and your voice begins to go up a few decibels. After much ado, you are hopeful that your problem has been solved. The next month, however, the faulty bill or cancellation notice appears in your mail once again. Somewhere along the way, someone dropped the ball or hit the wrong key on the computer, and your problem has returned. My husband and I received a cancellation of our insur- ance policy due to our accidentally writing the check one cent short. After trying to solve the problem on-line and on The Twenty-First Century is Here 9 the telephone, we still received reminders that our invoice had not been paid. I felt very anxious at the prospect of being cancelled due to the one-cent error I made. But, yes, drinks to calm down. Stuff like that is not for the weak of heart. Recently, we received a notice from our homeowner’s association were charged huge late fees. The association threatened to - other account. The young lady called to say, “Everything on our part. The stories of people getting $10,000 phone bills, or electric bills for their home that could have heated the Ve- netian hotel in Las Vegas, are of epidemic proportion. In our hearts, we know the problems will get solved at some point, but the work and aggravation we endure is devastat- ing. Being retired can turn into a full-time job! In the good old days, customer service reps were actu- al people and tried to solve our problems with great effort. Since the onset of modern technology, I have developed other technological mistakes! Do you think that Merriam 0 10 For Kids 59.99 & Over ebster will want to add this great new word in the latest voice who answers the phone to take our order for a prod- uct. Though we enunciate as clearly as possible, the voice - ly, we cannot complain to this animated voice. So we get louder and more frustrated. It is just easier to hang up and forget it. little frightened, by all of this technological progress and continuing annoyance. Much of it is still relatively new and different from our previous experience in life. the guise of being easier. Solutions for Avoiding Twenty-First Century Stress: 1. Never change your residence; 2. Keep your old car (it has no computers to freeze up); 3. Keep your old computer and never buy new software; it won’t be compatible; The Twenty-First Century is Here 11 4. Don’t buy a cell phone; 5. Pay all major bills annually; 6. Pay bills when you receive them with an enve- lope and stamp; 7. Never order from catalogues; 8. Keep all of your receipts (in case you have to return the item); 9. searching only; 10 0 10.. Never give out personal information unless you absolutely have to; 11. Never change insurance companies unless nec- essary; 12. Always read the small print on anything you 12 For Kids 59.99 & Over 13. Ask if payments are going to increase for that special deal you are getting; 14. Always get the name, rank and, serial number of anyone along the way of your purchase or attempt to solve a problem; 15. Did you actually think life would get easier as the years - “Life full of issues takes many a turn. With each one comes . . . a lesson to learn.” I t is amazing how one incident can change our entire life’s path. Many decisions we make on a daily basis can redirect our lives. It can be as simple as turning left instead of going right. 13 4 14 For Kids 59.99 & Over - feeling very lonely, I quit school and went to work in an more than a few times, but that is another story.) I was going out to lunch one day with a friend, and we picked a restaurant that was new to us. At the restaurant, - sity of Arizona. He said, “Larry is coming out for my wedding; he is though someone propped him up and dialed the telephone If I had not gone into that particular restaurant on that particular day, I more than likely would never have seen A good friend of mine had planned to come over and have dinner one night. She was so late in getting back to me that I was annoyed enough to not answer the phone when she called. (Again, thanks to caller ID) She decided to go out to one of the local bars, and, lo and behold, she met her future husband that night. If she had come for din- ner, she probably would not have met him. Turn and Twist....Life Changes 15 each decision affects our lives. If I had not gone to the someone else and not had my great boys. If we take time to think this all over, the possible re- sults are amazing! Each time that we make a call, take a can take an entirely different turn. “Time was, it is, and always will be . . . Try hard to understand and never will see!” T i fun it goes fast, and when we are nervous and waiting for an answer to a pressing problem, it goes slow. Several months ago, I had lunch with a high school 17 18 For Kids 59.99 & Over where have all these years gone and what have I accom- and give ourselves credit for the achievements in our lives. There are many, you know! Time is said to be technically non-existent. If this is the case, why do we get wrinkles and sags and bags, all the in- - turn twenty-one and become a true adult. Now, of course, we are just growing older, and our birthdays are not quite so exciting. I have to admit I still love my birthdays, and always do our birthdays–we are alive another year! Remember when we were young and told people our twelve-and-a-half. No one ever says that they are sixty- and-a-half! During our youth, we are considered skinny and gor- geous, but when we are old and happen to be thin, we are our younger years . . . now we want to slow the clock and up with activity: dating, attending school, earning a living, new and changing careers, mortgages, raising our chil- Time. . . .Fast, and Yet So Slow 19 gave our lives meaning, and certainly we didn’t take a lot of time to appreciate all the good things in our lives. The key to making the most of our days here on earth is to take stock of each hour of the day and appreciate each - up with joy every day and acknowledge all the good things we have! with life in general, sometimes just pretending that things changing our unhappy mo
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