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									                         Session Two
                         Personal Identity
                    To understand what makes                     Your personal identity is
                    up our personal identities by                perfectly acceptable, and
                    recognizing, exploring and                   you have a right to express it.
                    expressing who we are as

                            Name Game – Divide the mentors and mentees into small groups of three to six
                             people. Instruct each person to introduce herself to their group by giving her first
                             name with a word in front of it that starts with the same letter as her name and
                             describes her (for example, “Caring Carla” or “Dancing Donna”). Explain that
                             each person must repeat all the previous names and descriptions before giving
                             her own. When everyone is finished, each group introduces itself to the rest of
Check-in                     the WYSE members. Make a large circle and have everyone go around and say
                             their name and the previous person’s name and description. The last person has
Pick at least one
                             the challenge of saying everyone’s name and description.
of the following
                            Gotta Have Shades – Everyone sits on the floor in a circle. Tell them that you
                             would like them to each tell a story about a time when they made a spectacle of
                             themselves – when they wanted to disguise themselves because they felt so self-
                             conscious or embarrassed. Have a mentor begin by putting on a pair of dark
                             sunglasses and telling a story about her. Then choose the next storyteller by
                             handing her the sunglasses. That person should put on the sunglasses, tell a
                             story and then pass the sunglasses on to the next storyteller. Continue until
                             everyone has a turn.

                            Color Jacuzzi – The facilitator asks a mentee/mentor to call out a color from the
                             rainbow. Then, the facilitator asks the color’s appropriate question based on the
                             list below. Every mentee shares her answers with the group. This can be played
                             in small groups.
                              Red – is the stop/turn-off color, share the one thing that really turns you off.
                              Orange – is the motivation color, share what motivates you.
                              Yellow – is the inspiration or creativity color, share the best idea you have
                              Green – is the money color, share how you plan to make a living and support
                              Blue – is the sky’s the limit color, share your favorite fantasy about your
                              Indigo – is the odd or different color, share the most daring thing you ever did.
                              Purple – is the color of royalty, if you were ruler of the universe for a day,
                                  share the first thing you would do?
                Human Gift Wrap – You will need newspaper, masking tape and ribbon. Form
                 teams of four. When the leader says “Go!” each team chooses one person who
                 will be their “gift.” Teams must wrap the gift person in newspapers using
                 masking tape and ribbon in just 2 minutes. After time is up, all the wrapped gifts
                 stand together while everyone applauds and cheers. You can also judge the
                 Best Wrapped or Most Creative Gift and give prizes.

                Guess Who - Everyone will be given a small piece of paper. On this paper
                 everyone will write something unique or that no one know (Ex: I can wiggle my
                 ears or I am allergic to peanut butter). All the papers will be collected by the
                 facilitators and then mixed up and passed out to everyone. Then one by one
                 everyone will read out what their paper says and try and guess who it is. This can
                 be followed by a discussion about personal identity.

             Introduce the purpose and message to the mentees.

             This should be done by sharing the information using three learning approaches. It
             is important to include all three because each mentee learns differently and most
Clarify      mentees will understand the information if you use the following three approaches.
Session      Some mentees will process the information better through hearing the message,
Purpose &    others through seeing the message, and others through performing a related activity.
                Verbally – announce the purpose and message to the group
Message         Visually – write the purpose, message and new vocabulary on poster board
                Physically – do an interactive activity which you now explain

  ?             Madalas or Identity Puzzle - A mandala is a picture representation of you, using
                 symbols, words and pictures. The identity puzzle is a variation of the coat of
                 arms tradition. The coat of arms has a long history-- they were traditionally used
                 to represent a family to its community and to people they met in passing. Each
                 mentor and mentee draws the characteristics that make up her identity on her
Activity &       Identity Puzzle. Remember that the point of the activity is to use symbols,
Discussion       pictures and words to express individuality. When everyone is finished, each
                 person can share their mandala or coat of arms with the group. Sample Prompts:
                 What is your greatest personal achievement? What do you like most about your
                 family? What are you are good at? What is one thing you would like to improve
                 about yourself?
                Skit making (10 minutes): Split big group into 4 small groups. Each group will
                 plan a short skit demonstrating the situation. Two groups will be given situation
                 #1, but one group will portray a positive outcome while the other portrays a
                 negative outcome. The same goes for situation #2. Situation #1: There’s a new
                 girl in school and she dresses and talks funny. How do the other girls react to
                 her, and how does she handle the situation? Situation #2: There’s a tight knit
                 group of friends that likes to do girly things together. However, one of the friends
                 wants to join the football team, but is afraid of her friends’ reaction. How do the
                 girls react to her, and how does she handle the situation?
   WYSE Bracelets - Each mentee and mentor makes a bracelet which she can
    wear for the duration of the WYSE program. You can use letter beads to spell
    WYSE, mentee’s names, or the names of mentor-mentee pairs. Each week,
    mentees can add an extra bead to their bracelet.

   “I am” Sheet - Mentees and mentors take turns completing prompts that have
    been written on poster paper. Example Prompts: “I am…”, “Something I like to do
    is…”, “Something I did that people said I couldn’t was…”

   I Love My Neighbor Who

   5 Similarities - Split mentees up into groups of 5 or 6 and have them work as a
    group to discover five things that they all have in common. Share with everyone
    what they find.

   Quienes Somos? - Display large sheets of butcher paper with grid lines and
    identity categories. Mentees and mentors go to the signs and fill in their personal
    information in the boxes. There should be a line on the chart for each person.
    When everyone is finished, individuals read and explain their answers to the
    group. Example Categories: culture, race, the way we dress, economic status,
    hair color, gender, hobbies, beliefs, education, etc.
   Mock Interviews - Pair off with someone you do not know (preferably, mentors
    pair with mentees). Each person interviews her partner. When the pairs are
    finished, each person will introduce her partner to the group. What is your full
    name? What is the name you would like to be called? How old are you? How
    many people are in your immediate family? Where do you like to hang out? What
    is something you are really good at? If you were an animal, what would you be,
    why? If you had three wishes what would they be?

   I Love, I Hate, I need! - The group stands in two concentric circles facing each
    other. Individuals facing each other say quickly “I love… I hate…I need…” and
    the circles rotate in opposite directions so you are facing someone new each
    time. Example: “I love ice cream, I hate racism, and I need my family.”
    Encourage creativity, saying different things to each person you face.

   Human Scavenger Hunt - Before the session begins, have everyone e-mail or
    tell you an interesting fact about themselves. Create a sheet with two columns.
    On the left column write the interesting fact and on the right draw a line for each
    fact. Make a copy of the sheet for everyone in the group. Mentees and mentors
    go around the room and try to find the person that matches each interesting fact.
    Mentors’ names can be on the sheet so mentees learn their names.
   Circle Story Telling - Divide the group in half and form two circles, one inside
    the other. Each person should match up with someone in the other circle, and
    stand facing each other. Give the group 30 seconds to share their story about
    one of a set of questions. Have the inside circle rotate to the right and answer
    another sharing question. By rotating the circle, each person should have a
    chance to share with a different person each time. Example Questions: The story
    of where my name comes from, my favorite way to make a sandwich, etc.
                       Publicity Poster - Explain that sports stars, actresses and rock stars use posters
                        to advertise and promote themselves. Each person will make a poster to
                        advertise herself. Ask mentees to include at least one good thing about their
                        body, family and talents on their posters. After discussing the posters, have
                        everyone walk around the room and write at least one positive comment on the
                        back of each person’s poster.
                       Let Out the Real Me - Instruct the mentees to complete this phrase on their
                        piece of paper: “One neat thing about me that people don’t see is…” Have
                        mentees roll up the papers and put them into their balloons and blow up the
                        balloons. Think of one thing that is not true about each mentee that others think
                        about her. Use the markers to carefully write/draw these untrue or partly true
                        images on the outside of the balloons. Separate into two teams. Have each
                        team line up on different sides of the room and place two chairs in the front. At
                        the signal, the first person from each team runs to the chairs, and tries to pop her
                        balloon by sitting on it. When the balloon pops, she grabs the paper, stand on the
                        chair and yells the “real me” statement. The person runs back and tags the next
                        runner. The first team to finish wins.

                       Spectacles Spectacle – You will need scissors, markers and pencils. Give each
                        person a sheet of construction paper and have them draw and cut out a pair of
                        spectacles for themselves. The spectacles should be large and have blank
                        space on each lens to write on. Show them a sample. Tell mentees and mentors
                        to write 5 things that they are self-conscious about on the right lens of their
Journal                 spectacles. For example, “the way I walk” or “the size of my nose.” On the left
Writing                 lens, tell them to write 5 things they notice or watch critically about other people.
Pick at least one       When everyone is finished, ask group members to stand and hold their
of the following
                        spectacles in front of them. Give them a few minutes to walk around the room
                        and read one another’s spectacles. Then, as a group, discuss the differences, if
                        any, between the right and left lenses. Suggest that we tend to notice many
                        things about ourselves that other people don’t see.

                       Journal Decorating - Think about who you are as a person and ways you would
                        express yourself. Outside of journal is a representation of yourself and your
                        individuality, and when you write in it you’re expressing even more who you are
                        as an individual. Breaking into small groups (5-7 people). Provide with
                        magazines (to cut up words, pictures and patterns), blank paper, markers, glue

                       Three-Way Mirrors – Ask mentees and mentors to draw a mirror with three
                        sections. Encourage them to be creative, but to leave plenty of room to write in
                        each section. Have mentees label each section with one of the following:
                        “Family,” “Friends” and “Teachers.” Each person then writes words in each
                        category that they think their families, friends and teachers would use to describe
                        them. Encourage them to write a minimum of three positive things in each
                        category. Next, ask mentees to circle all the words they agree with. After they
                        have finished, have everyone sit facing a partner. Have partners share with each
                        other one of the items they circled from each category and explain why. They can
                        also write responses to the following questions: “Does what some people say
                        about you affect you more than others?”; “Do you worry more about what one of
              these groups thinks about you?”; “Do one of these groups tend to see more
              good things in you?”

             “I am” – Ask mentees to freely fill in the blanks with whatever comes to their
              minds. Spend 1-2 minutes on each, with enough time to come up with 5-10
              responses for each statement.
                                   I am _________            I am not __________

             Marvelous Mirrors – You will need one small mirror for each person, and either
              poster board, cardboard or foam core for this project. Also, prepare a large
              amount of craft material. Have each mentee decorate a mirror for a friend to
              keep in her locker or room. Encourage the mentees to write a positive message
              to their friend so that each time she looks in the mirror, she will be reminded of
Closing       what an important person she is.

             WYSE Identity -- (expanded activity from session) Once the group understands
              the concepts behind personal identity and each person has completed her
              Mandala/Puzzle, you can create a collage of them into a giant new coat of arms
              representing the WYSE group as a whole. Then display the poster in a public
              place, such as the middle school hallway or university women’s center. Add a
              title that promotes uniqueness, such as “WYSE, We’re all different and lovin’

             I’m Thankful for You! – Close the session by having group members stand in a
              circle holding hands, with their backs towards the center. The leader begins by
              saying to the person on her right: “Thank you _____ for being who you are.”
              The leader then turns to face the center and takes the hands she was holding.
              The next person then says to the person to her right: “Thank you _____ for being
              who you are.” She then turns to face the center and the message continues
              around the circle. The closing is finished when everyone faces the centers.

             Rhythm Game – This game follows a simple four-beat rhythm. On the first beat,
              slap both hands on knees; second beat, slap both hands on knees again; third
              beat, snap fingers; and fourth beat snap fingers again. Begin that rhythm and
              have all group members do it together. Then explain that you will say someone
              name on the third beat while snapping, and one word that describes that person
              on the fourth beat while snapping. Then the whole group repeats what was said
              and the person who was named now repeats the process, saying someone
              else’s name and a word that describes them. The goal is to play without missing
              a beat and without repeating the same name twice.
                      WYSE Identity Puzzle

Instructions: On each puzzle piece, draw an aspect of your identity.

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