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					DWELL IN POSSIBLILITY:
THE PLACE OF HOPE
IN WORK WITH CHILDREN

TED BOWMAN
EDUCATOR
RESILIENCY
• The capacity to spring back, rebound, and
  successfully adapt to adversity

• The ability to connect, reconnect, and resist
  disconnection in response to hardships,
  adversities
FACTORS THAT PROMOTE RESILIENCY
•   Stable, emotional relationships
•   Social support
•   Active involvement in coping
•   Problem-solving Skills
•   Sense of Hope
•   Ability to Make Meaning
•   Rituals, Stories, Traditions
PROTECTIVE FACTORS
STABLE CARE

PROBLEM-SOLVING ABILITIES

ATTRACTIVENESS TO PEERS AND ADULTS

COMPETENCE AND PERCEIVED EFFICACY

IDENTIFICATION WITH
COMPETENT ROLE MODELS

PLANFULNESS AND ASPIRATION
                        Norman Garmezy
Some day I will have a best friend all
my own. One I can tell my secrets to.
One who will understand my jokes
without my having to explain them.
Until then I am a red balloon, a balloon
tied to an anchor.

From House of Mango Street by Sandra Cisneros
FUTURELESSNESS
For some children, repeated exposure to violence can
produce what appears to be a functional adaptation to
the violence but is actually a pathological effect.
Although the adaptation is successful in the short run,
it may prove detrimental in the long run. For example,
some children develop a sense of "futurelessness," or
   a
profound fatalism about their lives. They come to
expect more violence directed at them and death at an
early age. Participation in dangerous, violent activities
loses its threatening character and takes on a special
psychology for them, since they expect to die no matter
what they do. Having a big funeral is the most that
some children can look forward to.          James Garbarino
MANY KINDS OF HOPE
Hope is important, but we have been too limited in
the kind of hope we prescribe...Our idea that the
  only
kind of hope is hope for cure limits what we can
  offer.
There are, in fact, many kinds of hope: hope for a
good period of life ahead, hope for enriching
relationships, hope for control of pain, hope for a
strong sense of care and support from your
  doctors.
HOPE IN BAD TIMES
To be hopeful in bad times is not just foolishly
romantic. If we see only the worst, it destroys our
capacity to do something. If we remember those
times and places -- and there are so many -- where
people have behaved magnificently, this gives us the
energy to act, and at least the possibility of sending
this spinning top of a world in a different direction.
The future is an infinite succession of presents, and
to live now as we think human beings should live,
in defiance of all that is bad around us, is itself a
marvelous victory.
Howard Zinn
Hope differs from optimism. Hope does not arise
from being told to "think positively," or from
hearing an overly rosy forecast. Hope, unlike
optimism, is rooted in unalloyed reality. Hope
acknowledges the significant obstacles and deep
pitfalls along that path. True hope has no room for
delusion.

Clear-eyed, hope gives us the courage to confront
our circumstances and the capacity to surmount
them. For my patients, hope, true hope, has proved
an important as any medication I might prescribe or
any procedure I might perform.
Jerome Groopman
BUFFERS OF MEANING
The genius of our black foremothers and forefathers
was to create powerful buffers to ward off the nihilistic
threat, to equip black folk with cultural armor to beat
back the demons of hopelessness, meaninglessness,
and lovelessness. These buffers consisted of cultural
structures of meaning and feeling that created and
sustained communities; this armor constituted ways of
life and struggle that embodied values of service and
sacrifice, love and care, discipline and excellence...
These traditions consist primarily of black
religious and civic institutions that sustained familial
and communal networks of support.
        CORNEL WEST
 Little Boy / Old Man
Said the little boy, "Sometimes I drop my spoon."
Said the old man, "I do that too."
The little boy whispered, "I wet my pants."
"I do that too," laughed the old man.
Said the little boy, "I often cry."
The old man nodded, "So do I."
"But worst of all," said the boy, " it seems
Grown-ups don't pay attention to me."
And he felt the warmth of a wrinkled old hand.
"I know what you mean," said the old man.
                               Shel Silverstein
It must be borne in mind that the tragedy of life
doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy
lies in having no goal to reach. It isn't a calamity to
die with dreams unfulfilled, but it is a calamity not
to dream. It is not a disaster to be unable to capture
your ideal, but it is a disaster to have no ideal to
capture. It is not a disgrace not to reach the stars,
but it is a disgrace to have no stars to reach for. Not
failure, but low aim, is sin.            Benjamin Mays
AN ORIENTATION OF THE HEART


 Hope is an orientation of the heart...The more
 unpropitious the situation in which we
 demonstrate hope, the deeper the hope
 is...(Without hope) it is impossible to live in
 dignity and meaning much less find the will for
 the 'hopeless enterprise' which stands at the
 beginning of most good things.
                            Vaclav Havel
Early in his career Robert Coles, the immanent psychiatrist
and prolific writer went to visit Dorothy Day, the great
Catholic humanitarian and social conscience. When he
arrived at the facility, he was told she was busy but would be
with him in a moment. Please wait, he was told. He did, and
as he waited he began to walk around. To his surprise he
came upon Day talking with someone. Standing away from
them he observed the interaction. His attention was drawn to
the man who appeared to be rather disheveled, unkempt, and
behaving, to Robert Coles' professional eyes, a bit strangely.

Soon, the conversation ended. As Dorothy Day and the man
approached, she saw Coles and said, "Now, which of us are
you here to see?"
Coles, Robert. (1983) story heard during a Westminster Town Hall Forum.
WHAT HE DIDN’T SAY
 The debt I owe my psychiatrist is beyond
 description. I remember sitting in his office a
 hundred times during those grim months and each
 time thinking, What on earth can he say that make
 me feel better or keep me alive? Well, there was
 never anything he could say, that’s the funny
 thing. It was all the stupid, desperately optimistic,
 condescending things he didn’t say that kept me
 alive; all the compassion and warmth I felt from
 him that could not have been said; all the
 intelligence, competence, and time he put into it;
 and his granite belief that mine was a life worth
 living.                        Kay Redfield Jamison
HOPE IS A MEMORY OF THE FUTURE
                            Gabriel Marcel


HOPE IS THE DEEP LONGING FOR A
FUTURE REALITY THAT IS NOT
CLEARLY SEEN               Kelly James Clark



A BIRD DOESN’T SING BECAUSE IT HAS AN
ANSWER. IT SINGS BECAUSE IT HAS A
SONG.                      Unknown
  Hope includes a future story.


  Hope includes a shared story.


Hope includes stories of meaning.


Hope includes an affirmative story.


   Hope includes the real story.
SUGGESTIONS: HOPE PROMOTION
1) HOLD ONTO YOUR HOPE
2) CREATE A CULTURE OF HOPEFULNESS
3) SEE, EXPLORE, GRASP FOR POSSIBILITIES
4) INVITE COLORING OUTSIDE THE LINE
5) USE ASSIGNMENTS THAT INVITE
     LOOKING AHEAD
6) USE STORIES THAT INSPIRE
7) OPTIONS / ALTERNATIVES / CHOICES
8) LISTEN, BEFRIEND, SEEK TO
     UNDERSTAND
FOR MORE INFORMATION,
CONTACT TED BOWMAN
bowmaOO8@umn.edu

				
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