You Make Me Feel (DOC) by snoopdoggywuf

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									Title:
You Make Me Feel

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760

Summary:
Do you spend your life feeling things because of what the people around
you say and do? Discover how you can take charge of your life and your
emotions and life a powerful life.


Keywords:
goals, goal setting, motivation, success, living motivation, jason johns,
sanjo, hypnosis, achieving your goals


Article Body:
Do other people make you feel things?

Do they make you feel happy or sad?

I’m curious. How do they make you feel this way?

Do they say, “Hey, here’s a tin of sadness.”

Or maybe they say, “Ahh, you need a bucket of happiness. Hold on, I’ve
got one here you can have.”

Can you find happiness or sadness on the supermarket shelves, pre-
packaged and ready to go?

Shopaholics amongst you would argue that you could; however I would say
you can’t.

We often rely on other people to “make” us feel a certain way. We rely on
them to do something, say something, be something in order for us to feel
happy. If they don’t do what we are expecting them to, we get upset, sad
and hurt.

In short, we often attempt to control other people in order to control
how we feel; that is, our emotions.

And when we do this, we are setting ourselves up for failure, because we
can’t control anyone else. We cannot force anyone to do anything or
assume they will.

There is just one person we control; ourselves.

People don’t make us feel certain emotions. We choose to feel them. We
decide to react in a certain way. We make assumptions about what people
mean. We leap to conclusions.
No one can give you a tin of unhappiness, or a bucket of joy. These
things are not physical items that can be passed from person to person.
They are intangible items that exist only in ourselves.

In fact just the other day I was at a wedding. I told one of my friends
how wonderful she looked and how much I liked her outfit. She leapt to
the conclusion that I was being sarcastic and chose to be offended by
what was a genuine compliment.

Had I even been being sarcastic, she could have chosen to be complimented
and replied with a, “I’m glad you like it” and felt better about herself.

There was a guy I knew when I was younger. He was short, balding, spotty
and he had been short changed in the looks department. Yet whenever we
went out to bars, he’d wander up to any pretty woman and start talking to
her. If she turned him down, he’d shrug his shoulders and continue.

I don’t think it ever even occurred to him to feel bad about these
rejections. He’d just smile and say, “Your loss” and move on to the next
one.

Believe it or not, each of you are in control of yourself and how you
feel. You can choose to feel anyway you want. Right now, you could choose
to feel happy; or I am sure you could choose to feel sad. Just by
thinking about it, you could change how you feel.

It’s almost magic isn’t it?

So what about choosing how you feel when you are interacting with other
people?

The vast majority of people run on auto-pilot. They allow their body and
mind to more or less get on with it, not worrying too much about the
programs that are running or the condition of it. It doesn’t interfere
with them too much so they allow it to get on with it.

It’s like watching all the cars driving around a city and not realising
there is someone inside controlling them.

Most people have forgotten there is this “person” inside of them
controlling them.

If you choose, you can take back control of how you feel and stop relying
on other people to meet certain conditions.

When you go to the office and someone says, “Good Morning” to you, you
can choose to grumble and mutter, “There’s nothing good about it.” Or,
you can choose to reply in kind and say, “It’s a fantastic morning.”

That is, you can choose to feel bad or choose to feel good.

Which do you prefer?
Realise that you are the only person who can make you feel anything and
stop allowing the people around you to make you feel bad. Decide to feel
good and enjoy yourself.

If someone turns you down or rejects you, “It’s their loss” or something
similar.

If someone says insults you, “Poor thing, must be confused” or something
similar.

Decide to take back control of yourself and your life and to stop being
on auto-pilot. Choose how you are going to feel instead of allowing other
people to choose for you.

								
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