Communication Skills A Quick Start

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Here is the easy way to learn about Communication skills without going
through a 300+ pages book which, one can forget about before he finishes
it

Always start with an Intention:

Anything we start, including communication skills, usually has reason and
a starting point. While we become conscious about this fact for the
obvious things like brushing our teeth to avoid tooth decay, we forget to
give the same importance to our communication. We start talking, go
through all...


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Here is the easy way to learn about Communication skills without going
through a 300+ pages book which, one can forget about before he finishes
it

Always start with an Intention:

Anything we start, including communication skills, usually has reason and
a starting point. While we become conscious about this fact for the
obvious things like brushing our teeth to avoid tooth decay, we forget to
give the same importance to our communication. We start talking, go
through all the niceties and then some how stumble upon the reason for
conversation or make it up by that time.

The problem with this approach is that the message looses its power. If
you keep doing this often, you loose the power to bring it to work when
needed. As a soldier polishes and keeps his guns fit even during
peacetime, we have to keep our arsenal of communication skills handy to
use, when required.

Develop flexibility in language and in approach:

Most people will think being flexible means using all the words in the
Dictionary. Having a good vocabulary does not mean that people have to
run for a dictionary every time you speak. Instead, a good vocabulary
means that you have created enough choices and variety in your language
to suit the listening or reading requirements of many people.

Flexibility is also needed in your approach to communication. Developing
more than one approach is really good. If your style of approaching women
is the Nice Guy, try the cocky and funny approach. See how that works.
One more area that we can change and notice the results very quickly is
by modulating our voice. Here is quick exercise to learn how to modulate
your voice. Practice speaking a Para in a British accent. Do your best to
be British. If you find it hard watch BBC and imitate them. Next, try
sounding American and then French or Chinese (speaking in English).

Once you have done at least 4 accents, switch between them as often as
possible, in practice. After you do this for a while, notice how you
naturally are modulating your voice and how you find it easy to choose
from different tones and tonality. More about this, on my website.

One Caution: Please do not measure any new skill by the initial response
you get because, all new skills need to be naturalized before it becomes
effective. (http://www.communication-skills-4confidence.com/effective-
communication-skill.html)

As you develop flexibility, you will find yourself more comfortable to
live with and then others will also find you comfortable to be with.

Forget techniques and learn the principles:

A lot of managers are fond of using something called a Sandwich
technique. It is situation where you slip in a negative comment or
feedback layered in between two positive comments. It is a good technique
no doubt. But if you repeat it to the same old staff for 2 years, it
means you are not capable of innovating. People get conditioned to any
one particular behavior over time and so the technique looses its impact.

We all have a favorite way of reacting to situations. We gather these
techniques by experience and by learning from others. What we eventually
forget is that they are just techniques, and are replaceable. Something
like software programs which almost always gets replaced by a better
version. But since it works so well to us, we get possessive about it and
find our selves bound by it. It becomes difficult to break that mould. A
person in a mould is like a frog in the well. He has limited reach and
limited awareness.

Using techniques is like giving a fish to the hungry man while
understanding the principles is like teaching him fishing. So, instead of
getting all cluttered up with techniques understand the principles
driving them. You will find many on my website. (See
http://www.communication-skills-4confidence.com/good-communication-
skills.html)

So to be the survivor of the fittest in the field of communication
skills, always start with an intention in your mind. Once you master
this, your level of influence will increase rapidly. Take away your focus
on techniques and learn the principles. This way you tap the source of
power itself rather than a branch. The last and most importantly, develop
flexibility in your language and approach. It will maximize your capacity
to reach your audience and thus your power.

				
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