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									                                                                            version 2.2 september 2007

        eat... sleep... poop... repeat.
                 a journey to motherhood
                   & the first six months
                CAUTION: unsolicited advice included
                         take it or leave it

             the very best advice is to just find
                  what works for you, and
            enjoy every moment and milestone.
              having recently survived the first six months of
           motherhood, trying a little bit of everything, i wanted
             to share my findings with other mamas from the
                 perspective of being helpful, not critical
 Look for the rattle throughout this little document and you will find corresponding
editable spreadsheets and helpful extras on the enclosed CD that go with that topic.

this is a work in progress, so if you have a suggestion, interesting tidbit or amazing
                   discovery, please fill me in!
eat.                                        top ten power foods for pregnant and nursing women.

 BERRIES                                                 DARK LEAFY GREENS
 These colorful fruits top the charts with their         Dark leafy greens, such as kale and collards, are
 antioxidant content and have been shown to              nutrient powerhouses, containing calcium, fiber,
 help with brain, eye and vascular health.                    and vitamins A and C, and also rate high on the
 Antioxidants are compounds that protect                      antioxidant scale. Dark leafy greens are also an
 cells from free radical damage. Free radicals                 important source of folic acid. The U.S. Food
 are highly reactive particles - induced by                    and Drug Administration (FDA) recommends
 such things as cigarette smoking, sunlight and                that all women in their childbearing years
 excessive exercise - that damage cells throughout            consume 400 micrograms (or 0.4 mg) of folic
 the body by triggering oxidative reactions. Berries       acid every day to help prevent neural tube defects
 also provide fiber, which is beneficial for pregnant    in their children. Other foods high in folic acid
 women.                                                  include oranges, beans, asparagus, avocado, and
 One way to ensure you are eating the                    berries. Many vitamin supplements contain folic acid
 recommended servings and variety of fruits               as well.
 and vegetables is to eat a colorful diet. Most                 Dark leafy greens are an easy-to-absorb
 experts agree that the colors in foods, also                    source of non-dairy calcium. This is because
 known as phytochemicals, impart numerous                        they contain the optimal phosphorus to
 health benefits. As a general rule, have at                    calcium ratio to enhance calcium absorption.
 least three natural colors on your plate at                  Important exceptions to note are spinach and
 each meal.                                              Swiss chard, which contain compounds called
                                                         oxalates that interfere with calcium absorption.
 AVOCADO                                                 Although spinach and Swiss chard are nourishing
                                                         foods, do not think of them as a significant source
 Enjoyed by many due to their smooth texture and
                                                         of minerals. Eat with a little fat for better absorption
 mild flavor, avocadoes are an excellent source of
                                                         of nutrients. Add a little vinegar for optimum
 potassium, folic acid, and vitamin C. Nutrient-dense
                                                         availability of minerals.
 avocados also contain healthy monounsaturated
 fats.                                                   Other Non-Dairy Sources of Calcium: Fortified
                                                          orange juice, sesame seeds, almonds, dried
 Avocadoes contain significant quantities of the
                                                              fruit, corn tortillas, tofu, sardines with bones,
 antioxidant lutein, which has been shown to
                                                                legumes, fortified foods and supplements.
 be beneficial for eye health.
                                                                FATTY FISH
                                                             Fatty fish, such as salmon, sardines, black cod,
 Sweet potatoes have a stellar nutrition profile. They
                                                         anchovies, herring and trout, provide omega-3 fatty
 are an excellent source of vitamin A (as colorful
                                                         acids, which are the primary components of brain
 beta carotene) and a good source of vitamin E.
                                                         tissue and are vital for brain and visual development.
 By eating sweet potatoes with a little fat, you will    Studies have shown women who eat fish during
 increase the absorption of nutrients, including         pregnancy have children with better visual acuity,
 beta carotene. Be sure to eat the skin for              higher IQ, better in language and communication
 added nutritional benefits.                             skills, and decreased rates of allergies and asthma.
                                                             The FDA recommends that pregnant and
 LEGUMES                                                      lactating women have no more than 12 ounces
 Legumes, or dried beans, are a vegetarian source             (2 servings) of low mercury fish a week.
 of protein and are fiber-rich. Many varieties are           Pregnant and nursing mothers are also advised
 an excellent source of iron, folate and magnesium.       to avoid larger, long-lived fish with more dark meat
 These are an important source of minerals and           - particularly tuna, shark, swordfish, king mackerel
 nutrients for vegetarians.                               and tilefish - as they contain high mercury levels
 In a recent study, certain colored beans — including     which may harm a baby’s developing nervous
 kidney beans, pinto bean, and black beans — were         system. As an alternative to eating fatty fish, fish oil
 found to contain high levels of health-promoting         supplements that have been processed to remove
 antioxidants.                                            contaminants are available.
LAMB                                                   NUTS
An excellent source of vitamin B12 and a good          A satisfying, versatile and nutritious food, nuts
source of highly accessible iron and zinc, lamb        provide fiber, vitamin E and magnesium. Specific
provides important nutrients for pregnant women.       types of nuts have their own nutrition specialty;
Zinc, in particular, is vitally important for growth   for example, walnuts have omega-3 fatty acids and
and development, because it is required for cell       almonds provide calcium.
division, DNA/RNA synthesis, and protein synthesis.    Although nuts are high in fat, they contain primarily
Adequate zinc levels also ensure optimal bone          monounsaturated and polyunsaturated fat, and have
growth in developing babies and are necessary for      not been shown to promote weight gain when eaten
immunity. Because zinc is difficult to absorb from     in moderation — about a small handful five times a
plant foods, you may consider supplementing if            week. You can also try a variety of nut butters like
following a vegetarian or vegan diet.                      almond butter and cashew butter.
Minerals compete with each other for
absorption in the small intestine. It is best to
eat calcium-rich foods and zinc-rich foods                   For further information on these powerfoods and
at different times for optimal absorption of                recipes, visit
these important nutrients.                             healthinfo/wholebaby/powerfoods.html

Vegetarian sources of zinc: legumes (especially
adzuki, navy beans, and split peas), nuts and seeds
(especially pumpkin seeds, sunflower seeds and         THINGS TO AVOID!
cashews), whole grains (fortified cereal and wheat     During pregnancy, the foods you eat have an effect on
germ), fortified soy foods, supplements.               your developing baby. It is important to be aware of foods
                                                       that may present hidden consequences. Avoid these
YOGURT                                                   foods when pregnant and nursing:
The need for calcium increases to
                                                              Unpasteurized dairy products and unpasteurized
approximately 1300 milligrams a day
                                                              juices, which may contain bacteria dangerous to a
during pregnancy. If you are not obtaining
                                                              developing baby.
this quantity from your diet or vitamin
supplement, your body will meet your baby’s            Anything containing Caffeine-including green tea,
calcium needs by pulling from your own supply,         alcoholic beverages and cigarettes.
which makes calcium-rich foods like yogurt, dark
leafy greens, sardines with bones, and calcium-        Green tea contains a compound — epigallocatechin
fortified orange juice important at this time.         gallate — that blocks the enzyme necessary for folic
                                                       acid to be utilized in the cells. Folic acid is needed for
In addition to calcium, yogurt is a beneficial
                                                       cells to divide, which is especially important during the
fermented food that provides probiotic bacteria,
                                                         critical periods of growth and development during the
which promotes intestinal and immune health
                                                            first trimester of pregnancy. Without folic acid, cell
for baby and mom. Probiotic bacteria are
                                                             division is slowed down. In fact, inadequate intakes
cultures of beneficial bacteria found in
                                                              of folic acid have been linked to an increased risk
healthy gut microflora. Yogurt, probiotics and
                                                             of giving birth to an infant with neural tube defects.
fermented foods help us to keep our intestinal
                                                            While green tea can be beneficial at other times,
ecosystems healthy.
                                                         to be safe, pregnant women should avoid green tea
                                                       throughout their pregnancy.
When it comes to value and high quality nutrition,     Raw or undercooked meat, poultry and seafood, including
eggs are a good choice since they contain important    oysters and sushi, which can carry parasites or foodborne
nutrients for pregnant women, including vitamin        illness.
A, iron, and protein. Protein needs increase by 10
                                                       Some species of fish, including tuna, shark, swordfish, king
grams daily for pregnant women, and an adequate
                                                       mackerel and tilefish, due to their mercury content.
protein intake often helps to temper sugar cravings.
Note that most of the nutrition in eggs is found in    Processed foods and “junk foods” with artificial flavors,
the yolk.                                              colors, preservatives and hydrogenated oils, especially
For extra nutrition, look for DHA-enriched eggs.       fried chips and French fries. Trans fat-containing
DHA is an omega-3 fatty acid important for brain       hydrogenated oils prevent the synthesis and inhibit the
development. The chickens that produce these eggs      utilization of the long chained omega-3 fatty acids-EPA
have been given a special fed containing marine        and DHA-that are vital for brain development.
algae, which increases DHA levels in the egg.
sleep.                                                                 get plenty of it before baby comes.

A few tidbits to study and sleep on, before baby arrives. I also recommend signing up for a weekly update email
from or similar. I really enjoyed reading about baby’s development in the womb and what was
going on inside me. So interesting and miraculous.
Exercise is Key. In addition to Kegels, Yoga, Pilates and Swimming are all great choices for prenatal fitness and
keeping your pelvic floor strong for birth and easier transition back to your own body once baby is born.

B Vitamins and Ginger can soothe
morning sickness and nausea.
Increase your B Vitamin intake and
try some Ginger Tea or nibble on
some candied Ginger.
Raspberry leaves have been
used for thousands of years to
encourage easy childbirth and
stimulate milk production. Try a
Raspberry Leaf tea.

It’s worth it to interview several
OB’s, Doula’s, Midwives and
Pediatricians during this 40 weeks.
It is important to choose providers
that you feel comfortable with.
Other things to research and get
in the works? Childcare, Education
Savings Funds, Life Insurance and
a Will.

at 4 months in the womb,
    babies can hear ... sing them a song!
I still sing Go to Sleep Little Baby from the Oh! Brother Where Art Thou soundtrack almost every night. It works!

                                           What can you do to make life            Domestic maintenence
                                           easier once baby arrives? Here’s a      Create a Chore Calendar
                                           checklist                                 (for watering plants, etc.)
                                                                                   Get a tune up/oil change for car
                                           Stock up on household supplies:         Take your pet to the vet
                                           Dish Detergent
                                           Mild Laundry Detergent                   Personal Care
                                           Healthy Frozen & Canned Foods            Get Prescriptions Filled
                                           Healthy Snacks                           Schedule Hair and Dentist Appts.
                                           Paper Plates                             Baby Items
                                           Paper Towels                             Keep all instruction manuals and
                                           Pet Food                                 receipts for baby gear in an easily
                                           Plastic Ziplocs                          accessible folder
                                           Toilet Paper                             Plan birth announcements and
                                           Toothpaste                               pre-address envelopes

                                           Streamline your finances                 Prepare the Nursery
                                           balance the checkbook
                                           buy stamps                               Wash and fold all baby’s clothing
                                           set up bills for auto-pay                and linens
                                           get online banking access
     Here starts my buy-for-baby list and my suggested brands and notes. I have included a
     blank version of this chart on the enclosed disc so that you can keep tabs on your own
     search for the perfect baby gear. The stars mark can’t-live-without things.

    ITEM                      BEST BRANDS                 NOTES

                                                          we chose the stokke sleepi b/c it converts from bassinet,
                              stokke, oeuf, netto, duc-   to crib, to jr bed, having the potential to last to 3+ years of
    Crib                                                  age. a con would be that it is “egg” shaped so sheets are
                              duc, litto, ooba
                                                          specialized. love it nonetheless.
    Smoke Detector
                                                          phillips the hightest rated one that has a “walkie-talkie”
                                                          like feature and many others, but it is expensive. i would
    Baby Monitor              phillips, mobi, angelcare   be sure and check customer ratings on the one you are
                                                          looking at. there are ones being sold in europe that look
                                                          better, but i can’t seem to find them for sale to the US.

                              stokke, arm’s reach,        in hindsight, I would have gone for a cradle instead. it’s all
    Bassinet/Co-Sleeper                                   about motion with the little ones and sleep. those mama’s
                              lullaboo, cariboo           that have a co-sleeper love it.
    CD Player                 munchkin                    munchkin makes an iPod dock for the crib

                              pottery barn kids,          i think combining this as a topper for a dresser/chest
    Changing Table                                        makes the most sense
                                                          crane makes fun ones such as a frog or a pig and they are
    Humidifier                crane                       ultrasonic, so no filter to change. though i hear a vaporizer
                                                          is really best.
    Laundry Hamper
                                                          good for keeping you and baby asleep once you finally
                                                          make it to dreamland. cloud b makes an on-the-go sleep
*   Noisemaker                brookstone, cloud b         sheep which is great for travel. brookstone is expensive
                                                          but has more sounds. sleep is priceless.
                                                           this is completely baby-dependant, but nice, no essential
    Pacifiers                 soothie, avent, koeka       ... if they work for your baby, koeka makes a tiny blanket to
                                                           help prevent losing it & keep baby happily sucking
                                                          i like the slipcovered dream rocker b/c the cover is
                              pottery barn kids,          removable and washable. i felt like the common wooden
*   Rocking Chair/Glider
                              nurseryworks, gaiam
                                                          gliders are two narrow and less comfy for nursing.
                                                          definitely invest $10-20 in a swiss ball, made for exercise,
                                                          but excellent for bouncing baby to sleep when all else fails
                                                          brand is not important, but we had a memory foam
                                                          wedge with two pieces to hold baby in place, but check
    Sleeping Positioner                  out this Zaky thing. they are truly those extra hands that
                                                          mama is always wishing for!
    Crib/Bassinet Sheets      gus&max, posh tots
    Recieving Blankets        baby gap, under the nile    nice thick organic cotton

    Waterproof Mattress Pad
    Crib Set/Bumper           dwell baby
                              babybonkie, miracle         an absolute must, one of the five S’s! especially for the
*   Swaddling Blankets        blanket, swaddle            houdini-babies that can wiggle out of even the best
                                                          swaddle, which can startle them from a nice deep sleep
                              designs, aden+anais
    Mobile                    haba, flensted
    Crib Mirror                                           babies love faces, especially their own
    ITEM                     BEST BRANDS               NOTES

                             O.R.E., petunia pickle    love the foldout, attached changer and the fun modern
                                                       designs, i felt like my original diaper bag was too big
    Diaper Bag               bottom, skip*hop, 2red-   after the first six months and downsized to the versatile
                             hens, fleurville          skip*hop duo - love it.

*   Car Seat/Base            britax, peg perego        choose well here - this is your child’s life.

                                                       lucky-baby/goo-ga style is great for certain positions and
                             mobywrap, lucky-baby,     stages, but over-all the mobywrap is hands down the most
*   Sling
                             goo-ga                    comfortable and versatile. baby’s favorite spot is right
                                                       next to mom and you still have two hands!
                                                       nice to be free of lugging the whole diaper bag
    Quick Changer            skip hop pronto           sometimes, we keep ours in the stroller
                                                       different than a sling, these have their advantages and
                                                       applications as well, such as quick shopping runs and
    Baby Carrier             ergo, baby bjorn          even hikes or city adventures. i found the baby bjorn to be
                                                       quite uncomfortable once baby got over 15lbs.
    Backpack Carrier         deuter, sherpani          for backcountry adventures, overnights, toddlers

                             bugaboo, maclaren,        i survived not having a travel system, but i can certainly
    Stroller/Travel System                             see the advantage to being able to snap the carseat on to
                             bumbleride, bob, orbit    the stroller and go. rule #1: never wake a sleeping baby!
    Car Sunshades
                                                       the chariot is superior to the burley in design if you want
                                                       to be able to convert from jog stroller, to bike trailer and
    Sport Trailer            chariot, burley           more, if you only need a bike trailer, save the expense and
                                                       go burley
                                                       love the bumbo seat, builds core and enables baby to sit
    Seat                     svan, bumbo seat          up as soon as they have the neck strength
                                                       lights and sounds, high-contrast patterns and textures are
    Activity Gym             kushies, haba             what to look for here
                                                       different babies seem to show preference to the vast
                                                       offerings in baby entertainment. some prefer the johnny
    Swing/Exersaucer/        evenflo, svan, haba,      jump up, some an exersaucer, some like to swing or
                                                       bounce and vibrate, borrowing these types of items to
    Bouncy Seat              maclaren                  experiement or getting them used is a good route for
                                                       these items, their value is fleeting and seemingly ever-
                                                       changing as well.
    Pack N Play              graco, phil & ted         look for light and easy up/down

    Music                    putumayo
                             manhattan toy, haba,      watch out for certain plastics. love the organic cotton
    Rattles/Teethers                                   teething veggies by under the nile
                             under the nile
                             melissa & doug, haba,     don’t go overboard, mine is just as happy, if not happier,
    Toys                                               with a spoon, my watch, a lint roller, or a penny or two in
                             bilibo                    one of those plastic easter eggs
                                                       too many good stories to list. goodnight moon and my
    Board Books                                        many colored days by dr. seuss are favorites
    Storage/Toy Box
                                                       without another idea where to list these items, they are
                             itzbeen, days ago,        modern mommy helpers. itzbeen makes a timer for all
    Gadgets                                            of babys functions so you know how long it’s been! days
                             strollometer              ago helps keep up with baby food spoilage, and the
                                                       strollometer keeps track of all the miles you’ve covered

                                    I always said I wouldn’t be “that” mom that parked her kids in
                                     front of the electronic babysitter. BUT ... From a VERY young
                                    age, babies are mesmerized by Baby Einstein DVDs, I use that
                                     to my advantage. Sometimes you just need to take a shower!
     ITEM                            BEST BRANDS                     NOTES

                                                                     the birdseye cloth diaper is so soft and you can never
                                                                     have too many of these handy. they make cute ones, with
 *   Burp Cloths                    gerber                           fun fabrics, but i think it hinders their usefulness, save
                                                                     them for outings so you know it is yours
                                    glamourmom, majamas,             i liked the simplicity of the crossover style. the
     Nursing Bras/Tops                                               glamourmom tanks have easy hidden access.
                                    bella materna
                                                                     i think in the beginning you have to use the disposable
                                                                     pads to make sure your milk supply is in and steady. i
 *   Nursing Pads                    lilypadz                        found the lilypadz to be irreplacable once you are past
                                                                     that stage.
                                                                     great for nursing, tummy time and proping baby when
     Nursing Pillow                  boppy                           they are really small

                                     born free, think baby,          it’s nice to pump and let dad feed sometimes. plastics
     Bottles                                                         should be watched here too
                                     medela, avent
     Sterilizer                                                      we just use the medela microwave sterilizing bags
                                                                     medela seems to be the brand of choice and we have
     Breast Pump                     medela                          been happy with everything they make
     Storage Bottles/Bags
                                                                     purelan 100% lanolin, don’t have to wash off before
     Nipple Cream                    medela                          feeding. crucial in the beginning to keep sore nipples at
     Dishwasher Basket               munchkin
     Drying Rack                     skip*hop
     Insulated Carrier               fleurville, skip*hop
     Bottle Brush
                                                                     these run the gamut, i found the soft cotton ones nice for
     Bibs                                                            drooling once baby gets to be about 4mos, so they don’t
                                                                     soak the outfit you just put on
                                                                     this was an essential in my bag so that i could actually
                                                                     get out of the house and feed anywhere on the go.
 *   Nursing Apron/Poncho            bebeaulait, L’oved baby         somewhere around the 6mos mark it ceased to work b/c
                                                                     baby gets distracted by their surroundings and it was best
                                                                     to just be off by myself in a quiet calm feed-friendly spot
                                                                     love the tripp-trapp - another thing that grows with baby
                                                                     and comes in great colors, for on-the-go meals fisher
     High Chair                      svan, stokke                    price makes a good booster with a tray that goes in the
                                                                     dishwasher and the me too chair suspends on the table

The 5 S’s as suggested by Dr. Harvey Karp in The Happiest Baby on the Block
Swaddle Tight swaddling provides the continuous touching          Swing Newborns are used to the swinging motions that were
and support the fetus experienced while still in Mom’s womb.      present when they were still in Mom’s womb. Every step mom
Side/Stomach You place your baby, while holding her, either       took, every movement caused a swinging motion for your
on her left side to assist in digestion, or on her stomach to     baby. After your baby is born, this calming motion, which was
provide reassuring support. Once your baby is happily asleep,     so comforting and familiar, is abrubtly taken away. Your baby
you can safely put her in her crib, on her back.                  misses the motion and has a difficult time getting used to it
Shush These sounds imitate the continual whooshing sound          not being there. “It’s disorienting and unnatural,” says Karp.
made by the blood flowing through arteries near the womb.         Rocking, car rides, and other swinging movements all can help.
This white noise can be in the form of a vacuum cleaner, a hair   Suck “Sucking has its effects deep within the nervous
dryer, a fan and so on. The good news is that you can easily      system,” notes Karp, “and triggers the calming reflex and
save the motors on your household appliances and get a white      releases natural chemicals within the brain.” This “S” can be
noise CD or Noisemaker which can be played over and over          accomplished with bottle, breast, pacifier or even a finger.
again with no worries.
    ITEM                  BEST BRANDS               NOTES

                                                    i tried to do cloth and found it to be inconvenient and
                                                    leaky (wet), but i think if i could have invested in the
    Diaper Covers         fuzzi bunz, kissaluvs     kissaluvs liners or fuzzi bunz, it would have yielded more
                                                    favorable results

    Pre-Folded Cloth                                if this route works for you, the unbleached organic kind
                                                    are probably best, or find a service near you to have them
    Diapers                                         washed and delivered to your door
                                                    now, i did discover something really different and
*   Something Different   g diapers                 innovative - g diapers. these are really nice cotton wraps
                                                    with flushable/compostable liners. check them out!
                                                    pampers are the only ones we found to fit the tiniest
*   Newborn Diapers       pampers swaddlers         babies (under 10lbs) – i tried them all. they also NEVER
                                                    leaked even with breastfed baby poop
                                                    breastfed baby poop doesn’t really stink, so you may not
    Disposal System       diaper champ              need one of these right away
    Diaper Stacker
    Changing Pad
    Changing Pad Covers
                          seventh generation,       target soft cloth “sensitive” baby wipes are the best for
    Wipes                                           the price, crappy wipes are no fun whan you have a big
                          target                    poop to clean up
                                                    diaper rash is inevitable at least once in baby’s life, we
    Diaper Cream          weleda                    found the calendula creme to be best and have a home
                                                    remedy for the worst of the worst (recipe on page 15)

                                                    never tried it myself, but they now make more of
    Infant Tub            eurobath, washpod         an upright “bucket” design for baby’s bath, looks &
                                                    sounds innovative!

    Washcloths            under the nile            i thought these were the softest
    Hooded Towels
    Bath Wash             california baby
    Shampoo               burts bees                i like the no-spill shampoo bar
                                                    keep a nail clipper or file in every nook and cranny!
    Nail Set                                        baby’s nails grow so fast and then they claw their
                                                    face and draw blood!
                          Jason/Earth’s Best        the extra rich calendula creme worked best, even on
    Lotion                                          baby’s cradle cap
                          Organic Baby
                                                    apricot smells yummy and is good for right out of
    Oil                   burts bees, erbaviva      the bath skin

                                                    ask a pediatrician about using sunscreen on babies
    Sunscreen             california baby, aveeno   under 6mos. watch for parabens!

                               A brand to stay away from in this category is Mustela. I loved it
                               until I was informed that France is one of the few contries that
                               allows cancer-causing Parabens in their products, bummer.
ITEM                      BEST BRANDS                  NOTES

Baby Hangers
                                                       robeez/bobux are great leather shoes with fun designs for
Booties                   robeez, zutano, bobux        baby. zutano’s snap on fleece slippers are so soft. baby
                                                       can’t kick or pull either of them off like socks
                          smartwool, trumpette,
                                                       babylegs aren’t truly socks, but are super fun and great for
Socks                     gymboree, janie & jack,      protecting knees during crawling stage.
                                                       check for consignment stores in your area, this is a great
Bunting/Snowsuit          patagonia                    place to get this type of item
                          under the nile, gerber,
Cotton/Knit Caps
                          tea collection
Cold Weather Hat                                       everyone has a friend who knits these days, don’t they?

                          under the nile, tiny birds   can’t really have too many of these. i preferred the
Long/Short Sleeve
                          organics, gerber, old        kimono/side-snap style to the over-the-head style for
Onsies                                                 easier on/off
                          navy, petit bateau
                                                       the newborn size says “up to 7lbs” but they lasted until at
                                                       least 10lbs. the elastic bottom was GREAT for the millions
Pajamas/Gowns             babyGap                      of diaper changes you do in the middle of the night with
                                                       one eye slightly opened

                          old navy, janie & jack,      old navy is the best for good quality low cost clothes.
                                                       babyGap and janie&jack offer nicer fabircs and things for
Shirt & Pant Sets         feathered baby, tea          special occasions, they have really good deals when there
                          collection                   is a sale going on.
Sun Hat                   zutano, cabana life
                          cloud b, zutano, david       keep baby perfectly warm for sleeping, no blanket to kick
Sleep Sack                                             off or cause SIDS scares
                          fussnegger, halo
                          see kai run, stride rite,
Shoes                                         has them all
                          ecco, pedipeds, primigi

                                                       if you plan on baby doing any type of water activity, which
                                                       i recommend, an infant lifejacket is essential. make sure
                                                       the “float” is only in front and behind the neck, this will
PFD                       kent (            ensure baby is positioned face up on her back in the water.
                                                       kent is the only one i could find that seemed to be rated
                                                       for infants under 20lbs.

Zinc Oxide                                             Thermometer
Lotrimin                                               Nasal Aspirator (Bulb)
Hydrocortisone                                         Oral Syringe
Diaper Rash Creme (w/ Calendula)                       Heating Pad/Hot Water Bottle
Tylenol Infant Drops                                   Cotton Swabs
Gas Relief Drops                                       Nail Clippers
Gripe Water                                            Nail File
Teething Tablets or Gel                                Tweezers
Saline Nose Drops                                      Cradle Cap Brush
Dry Skin Lotion                                        Boo-Boo Gel Pack (tiny tillia)
   ITEM                     BEST BRANDS               NOTES

                                                      great for trouble-shooting, i recommend taking a class
                            Nursing Mother’s          during pregnancy so you’ll know what to expect, and take
   Breastfeeding                                      advantage of any lactation consultant services at your
                                                      we buy in to the whole attachment-parenting style for the
                                                      most part, so the Sears books were helpful for us. you can
                           The Baby Book (Sears),     find any book that will tell you what you want to hear is
   Babycare Books          Happiest Baby on the       the right way. the right way is the way that works for you
                           Block                      and your family. there is a happiest baby DVD out now
                                                      that i’ve heard rave reviews about. especially good for the
                                                      first 3mos.
                            Let’s Sign, Early-Start
   Specific Books
                            Potty Training
                            No-Cry Sleep Solution,    definitely find a sleep method that you agree with and
   Sleep Books                                        find a book that will help you with that. no one book has
                            Good Night, Sleep Tight   the answer for you but they serve as a good baseline
                                                      this one was personally empowering and gave me
   Childbirth Books         Birthing from Within      confidence as a mother that my body would know what to
                                                      do when the time came
   Pregnancy Journal       40+ Weeks
                                                      unique take on the search for a baby name, not just a list
   Baby Names              The Baby Name Wizard       of names to choose from
                           Junior: Pregnancy &        Junior P&B is out of the UK, so the language is something
   Pregnancy                                          to get used to, but I really liked the european perspective
                           Baby, Fit Pregnancy
                            Cookie, Junior:           Cookie is a little on the upscale side, but i like to keep my
   Baby                                               ear to the ground on the latest, hippest baby gear
                            Pregnancy & Baby
                            Wonder Time, Martha       Both great for activities to do with your kids, art-related
   Preschoolers+                                      and otherwise. Martha is especially seasonal.
                            Stewart Kids

   Parenting                Child

                            goodnight moon            several favorite famous children’s books have a keepsake
   Milestone Book                                     calendar which i found to be a great quick way to jot
                            calendar                  down milestones as a busy mama
   Photo Album              kolo
   Birth Announcements      bird dog press            of course i had to plug myself ;)

   Camera/Video Camera      canon elph                does both and is a great size

   Growth Chart             eeboo

I am an online shopper, so I have included a list of bookmarks for your surfing pleasure.
To name a few favorites off the top of my head:
Wee Citizens
poop.                                                     yes, it’s called labor, and you’ll be pooped.

You can definitely worry too much over birth and
labor. Now that I have experienced it, I for one spent
way too much time pouring over information on this
topic, probably out of fear. I wish I had skipped the
birth plan and read more about what my path would           The Birth Labyrinth
be once baby arrived.                                       trust your body – don’t hold on to fear – release
On the next page, you will find my birthplan, which         your emotions – let it happen
went out the window as soon as the contractions
started, but if you are still interested in formulating     EARLY Labor 1-4cm
one it can stand as an example and you can use the          at home excitement
included checklist to write your own. For the record, I     usually lasts 12-18hrs
listened to my body and gave birth on all fours: two        efacing: thinning/softening of cervix
pushes, done. Here are my notes from birth class,
taught from a doula’s perspective.                          dialation: opening of cervix
                                                            station: depthwise position of baby in the pelvis
Be a part of the decision making process along the          protect your energy
way – during your pregnancy and during the birth            take care of yourself
process – don’t just let doctors and others tell you        eat, walk, hydrate - TAKE A NAP!
what to do, be informed and form your own opinions,
it’s good practice for parenting.
                                                            4 - 1 - 1 When do you go to the hospital?
Address your fears.                                         Contractions 4 minutes apart
PAIN “pain is fear escaping the body”                       Duration is 1 minute each
                                                            Continuous for 1 hour
   focus on outcome
                                                            factor in your mental state
   look to next moment
   all other pain is something “wrong”                      ACTIVE Labor 4-8cm
                                                            can be anywhere from 4-8hrs
endorphins: laughter, exercise, toning, meditation          position changes
laborland: right-brained, intuitive                         massage, water, music, aromatherapy

                                                            TRANSITION 8-10cm
                                                            extremely intense
                                                            typically this is the shortest lasting period
                                                            mindset may change here
                                                            affirmation, focus, ...
                                                            soon to push

                                                            Are you ready to push?
                                                            let it build to feel pushy with EVERY contraction
                                                            contractions will usually space out,
                                                            you will have rest time.
                                                            listen to your body
                                                            the average first time mom pushes for 2 hours
                                                            avoid tearing and episiotomy:
                                                            start perineal massage at 36 weeks
                                                            vitamin E oil, stretch and massage
protein: 60-75g a day (reduce risk of preeclampsia)
calcium (replace what baby depletes)                        HOORAY baby is out
iron (help keep your energy up)                             APGAR score: 1min/5min
vitamin c (strong cell membrane)                            based on: breath, reflex, color, muscle tone, heart
herbs: raspberry leaf, nettles, oat straw                   placenta delivered within 45min
hydrate, hydrate, hydrate                                   baby starts rooting within 10-30min
                                                            let them latch on!
                        some of my most treasured advice from another mama when i was
                pregnant was to read up on breastfeeding, it’s not as easy as it would seem.

Breastfeeding is Best for Baby ... and You
Mother’s Milk is the best and only food a child
needs from 0 to 6 months.
Breastmilk can help boost and infant’s
immunity and has been shown to positively
affect both baby and mom’s health. This
perfect food is bursting with antibodies that
sheild your newborn from ear, respiratory and
other infections.                                      First Foods : Starting Solids
                                                       You can introduce solids between 4 and 6
Many herbs promote the flow of breastmilk.             months of age, although it is advisable to
Look for herb teas specific to nursing mothers.        wait until closer to 6 because the earlier you
Fenugreek is one herb that stimulates lactation.       introduce other foods, the more likely you are
                                                       to induce food allergies.
                                                       Until baby is a year old, food should be
Newborns typically eat 8 to 12 times in a 24-
                                                       viewed as a way to explore new tastes and
hour period. Breastfeeding works by Supply
                                                       textures and join in mealtime, rather than their
and Demand where baby tells your body
                                                       primary source of nutrition.
what she needs by feeding regularly and your
body gets in sync. Before syncronization,
Engorgement can happen and is painful. Try             Start with foods low in protien and easy to
continuing to feed as much as possible and hot         digest, such as Bananas or Unsweetened
showers or compresses can relieve some of              Applesauce and other fruits. Next try
the pressure until everything equals out.              Vegetable like sweet potatoes, carrots, and
Going the other direction, sometimes it can            winter squash. After baby is tolerating these
take longer for your milk to come in or you            well and shows no sensitivity, try whole grain
may have concern that there is not enough. If          cereals such as oatmeal and brown rice.
you nurse your newborn everytime they give
you the cue, called On Demand Feeding, your            After a year, when baby’s diet is more
body will regulate and begin producing exactly         developed, good sources of protein include
what baby needs. Don’t let them fall asleep at         yogurt, beans, and seed or nut butters (eg.
the wheel, or pump if they can’t get organized         tahini and almond butter)
and become disinterested and everything will
equal out sooner than you think.                       Rapley Method, popular in Europe seems to
                                                       suggest skipping purees altogether

                                                       Avocado Chunks : soft and slightly mashed
                                                       Baby Carrots : well-cooked and thinly sliced
                                                       Banana Chunks
                                                       Beans : well-cooked and mashed
                                                       Broccoli Florets : well-cooked
                                                       Brown-rice Pasta : tossed with flaxseed oil
                                                       Chickpeas : pureed
                                                       O-shaped Cereal
                                                       Pear Chunks : slightly mashed
                                                       Sweet Potato : well-cooked
                                                       Tofu Chunks
sleep.                              this was and probably still is the toughest thing for us, ... that
                                  whole “sleep like a baby” saying is bogus. i wish that i had read
                                      up and made a plan for what to do when it became an issue.
                                  everyone told me i had to let baby cry-it-out, i didn’t believe in
                                that theory, and i still don’t. sleep for us still isn’t perfect, but it is
                                   so much better and baby is learning to go to sleep on his own.

Sleep is not a state you can force baby into :
Create an environment that allows sleep to
overtake baby.

20min initial REM light sleep
<1hr deep sleep (3 Levels)
10min vulnerable period/re-entering REM sleep
<1hr deep sleep (3 Levels)
10min vulnerable period/re-entering REM sleep

Birth to Six Months : 14-18hrs
Three to Six Months : 14-16hrs
Six Months to 2 Years : 12-14hrs

By Six Months : should be able to do 10-11hrs
uninterrupted sleep at night

By Seven Months : may drop to only two naps
per day, instead of three

Ferber : let baby cry-it-out and check on them
in increasing intervals
Weissbluth : let baby cry as long as it takes
West : sleep lady shuffle, teach them to sleep
without you gradually with reassurance and
slowly remove your presence
Sears/Pantley : parent your child to sleep

Develop a bedtime routine that gives
consistent cues that it is time to go to sleep
and stick with it. If you are patient, use the
included spreadsheet to keep a diary of naps,
activities, wakings and details, it will help you
learn about your baby’s patterns and find
problem spots to work on.

cloud b is a company founded on
helping babies sleep better, i love
their sleep sheep, lullabags, and the
twilight turtle. it’s worth reading the
articles they have written on sleep.
                    not necessarily the most fun part of new parenthood, but it happens, and
                       it’s nice to be prepared, especially when you get the surprise fountain.

We tried them all. And here’s what we found.

Traditional Cloth with Wraps : there are probably
services in your area that offer packages for
delivery and cleaning, it’s worth looking into, but
the brand I tried seemed to leak a lot and caused
even more laundry which was inconvienient.
Fuzzi Bunz : some companies, like kissaluvs/
fuzzibunz make a super soft fleece diaper and
then have wraps for water-proofness. it is a big
investment for enough diapers to do this full-
time, but i think this solves the leaky problem of
traditional cloth. and disposables aren’t cheap.
g diapers : now this is innovation! a cool cotton
wrap with removable waterproof liner and inserts
that are compostable and/or flushable. and it
really works.
                                                             Although it is difficult to gauge how many
DISPOSABLE                                                   ounces of milk a breast-fed baby is getting,
Pampers : best we found, and yes they are the                you’ll know it’s enough if he seems satisfied
most expensive. the only ones we could find to fit           and has 6 to 8 wet diapers and 2 to 5 poopy
our tiny <6lb baby. for at least the beginning when          diapers a day.
you are changing upwards of 10 diapers per day
and the breasmilk poop is a bit on the loose side,
                                                             Allow your child to get 10 to 15 min diaper-
we never had a leak
                                                             free daily sun without sunscreen to ensure
Huggies : if there is explosive poop involved, go            baby gets enough Vitamin D and a little dry-
ahead and get the washing machine ready. you                 out time can save baby from diaper rash too.
will have a mess. these will probably be okay once
you start solids.
                                                             DIAPER RASH
Target & Luvs : didn’t fit well and have the same
                                                             Sadly, I’ve never heard of any baby who
problem as huggies
                                                             escapes the first 6 months without getting
Seventh Generation : these were probably 2nd
                                                             this at least once. For everyday and mild
favorite to the Pampers for their environmental
                                                             redness, I love Weleda Calendula Diaper
responsibility. A little less shapely than some of
                                                             Creme (or anything with Calendula), but
the others.
                                                             when it’s bad, here’s the home remedy that
                                                             will wipe it out:
                                                             2 parts Zinc Oxide to 1 part Hydrocortisone
                                                             and 1 part Lotrimin mix and use small baby
                                                             food jar or similar to store. Use up to 3x per
                                                             day or put on right before bed and you will
                                                             see quick results.

                                                              you can learn a lot from baby’s bowel
                                                      movements. it may be something you’d like to
                                                       forget as soon as it’s over, but tracking input
                                                                    and ouput is sometimes helpful.
love.                                of course this is the most important thing of all. but i don’t

 I leave you with this. It’s worth the read.
                                                       have to tell you that, it will come naturally.

 Anna Quindlen, Newsweek Columnist and Author has this to say about Motherhood:
 All my babies are gone now. I say this not in sorrow but in disbelief. I take great satisfaction in what I have
 today: three almost-adults, two taller than I am, one closing in fast. Three people who read the same books
 I do and have learned not to be afraid of disagreeing with me in their opinion of them, who sometimes
 tell vulgar jokes that make me laugh until I choke and cry, who need razor blades and shower gel and
 privacy, who want to keep their doors closed more than I like. Who, miraculously, go to the bathroom, zip
 up their jackets and move food from plate to mouth all by themselves. Like the trick soap I bought for the
 bathroom with a rubber ducky at its center, the baby is buried deep within each, barely discernible except
 through the unreliable haze of the past.
 Everything in all the books I once poured over is finished for me now. Penelope Leach., T. Berry Brazelton.,
 Dr. Spock. The ones on sibling rivalry and sleeping through the night and early-childhood education, have
 all grown obsolete. Along with Goodnight Moon and Where the Wild Things Are, they are battered, spotted,
 well used. But I suspect that if you flipped the pages dust would rise like memories. What those books
 taught me, finally, and what the women on the playground taught me, and the well-meaning relations --
 what they taught me, was that they couldn’t really teach me very much at all.
 Raising children is presented at first as a true-false test, then becomes multiple choice, until finally, far
 along, you realize that it is an endless essay. No one knows anything. One child responds well to positive
 reinforcement, another can be managed only with a stern voice and a timeout.
 One child is toilet trained at 3, his sibling at 2. When my first child was born, parents were told to put baby
 to bed on his belly so that he would not choke on his own spit-up. By the time my last arrived, babies were
 put down on their backs because of research on sudden infant death syndrome. To a new parent this ever-
 shifting certainty is terrifying, and then soothing. Eventually you must learn to trust yourself. Eventually the
 research will follow. I remember 15 years ago poring over one of Dr. Brazelton’s wonderful books on child
 development, in which he describes three different sorts of infants: average, quiet, and active. I was looking
 for a sub-quiet codicil for an 18-month old who did not walk. Was there something wrong with his fat little
 legs? Was there something wrong with his tiny little mind? Was he developmentally delayed, physically
 challenged? Was I insane? Last year he went to China. Next year he goes to college. He can talk just fine.
 He can walk, too.
 Every part of raising children is humbling, too. Believe me, mistakes were made. They have all been
 enshrined in the, ”Remember-When-Mom-Did Hall of Fame.” The outbursts, the temper tantrums, the bad
 language – mine, not theirs. The times the baby fell off the bed. The times I arrived late for preschool
 pickup. The nightmare sleepover. The horrible summer camp. The day when the youngest came barreling
 out of the classroom with a 98 on her geography test, and I responded, “What did you get wrong?”. (She
 insisted I include that.) The time I ordered food at the McDonald’s drive-through speaker and then drove
 away without picking it up from the window. (They all insisted I include that.) I did not allow them to watch
 the Simpsons for the first two seasons. What was I thinking?
 But the biggest mistake I made is the one that most of us make while doing this. I did not live in the
 moment enough. This is particularly clear now that the moment is gone, captured only in photographs.
 There is one picture of the three of them, sitting in the grass on a quilt in the shadow of the swing set on a
 summer day, ages 6, 4 and 1. And I wish I could remember what we ate, and what we talked about, and how
 they sounded, and how they looked when they slept that night. I wish I had not been in such a hurry to get
 on to the next thing: dinner, bath, book, bed. I wish I had treasured the doing a little more and the getting it
 done a little less.
 Even today I’m not sure what worked and what didn’t, what was me and what was simply life. When they
 were very small, I suppose I thought someday they would become who they were because of what I’d done.
 Now I suspect they simply grew into their true selves because they demanded in a thousand ways that
 I back off and let them be. The books said to be relaxed and I was often tense, matter-of-fact and I was
 sometimes over the top. And look how it all turned out. I wound up with the three people I like best in the
 world, who have done more than anyone to excavate my essential humanity. That’s what the books never
 told me. I was bound and determined to learn from the experts. It just took me a while to figure out who
 the experts were.

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