Speak to us your message of life and of death, and
give to us hope that we can live as those who are
prepared to die.
Today, I pray that you embrace Sheila with your
never-ending love and that you surround Lucy, and
all of us as family and friends with your unfailing
love and mercy. Help us all to believe that where
we have not seen, that your gift of faith will lead us
into the joy of your home, not made with hands,
eternal in the heavens; through Jesus Christ our
THE SCRIPTURE: Hear these words that bear
witness to God’s nature of enduring love and
mercy, and of God’s gifts of strength and faith.
Old Testament: Isaiah 40:28-31
Psalter: Psalm 23
Sheila Stuckey New Testament:
Romans 8:28, 31-39
John 14: 1-4, 18-19, 25-27
Memorial Service THE MEDITATION: This is a tender hour, but in
no way does it have to be one of distress. It is a time
Friday, November 27, 2009 to share our grief, a time to affirm the gifts of life
and of love, and to affirm the source of these great
Comments from Dr. Timothy L. Bias, gifts. It is a time to confess our sadness, and a time
Sr. Pastor, Hyde Park Community United to express our gratitude for the life of one whom we
Methodist Church have loved and who has loved us.
THE WORD OF GRACE: Jesus said, I am the The facts of Sheila’s life are well known to each of
Resurrection and I am Life. Those who believe in you. Your being here is evidence of that. So there
me, even though they die, yet shall they live, and is really nothing I can say that will add anything to
whoever lives and believes in me shall never die. I her life, yet we have gathered because we have been
am Alpha and Omega, the beginning and the end, touched by God in and through the life of a daugh-
the first and last. I died, and behold I am alive ter, an aunt, a co-worker, neighbor, a very signifi-
forever more, and I hold the keys of hell and death. cant person in our lives.
Because I live, you shall live also.
The impact of Sheila’s life upon our lives will be
THE GREETING: Friends, we have gathered here with us for the rest of our lives. She has touched
to praise God and to witness to our faith as we cel- each of us in different ways and each of us has our
ebrate the life of Sheila Stuckey. We come together own special gifts of memory of her life and love as
in grief acknowledging our human loss. May God she shared them with us. It is through God’s gift of
search our hearts that in pain we may find comfort, memory that we can celebrate the moments and ex-
in sorrow hope, in death resurrection. periences that have helped to make us who we are.
Dying, Christ destroyed our death. Rising, Christ You and I may not know what the weather was like
restored our life. Christ will come again in glory. As on December 14, 1941, but for Grady and Lucy
in baptism Sheila put on Christ, so in Christ may Stuckey of New York, it was a glorious day. On that
Sheila be clothed with glory. day, they welcomed their daughter, Sheila, into the
world. From that day to this, our lives have been
THE PRAYER: O living and loving God, the Lord touched and shaped by Sheila Stuckey.
of life and of death, we come to this moment know-
ing that you are with us in every situation and There will be memories…
circumstance of our lives. Today we pray that you a child growing up,
will help us look beyond the shadow and sadness of a young girl in school,
death into the light of your comforting and eternal a young woman in college.
There will be memories… Sheila, all of her life, was being made perfect in
Maybe you remember Sheila as a survivor, one God’s love. At the core, at the depths of her life,
who knew how to make the best of every situation. was a dependence upon the living God she knew
Maybe you will remember her greeting, her smile, personally in Jesus Christ. She began this journey
her positive attitude. when she became a Christian. Along the way she
fought the battle courageously, and continued the
There will be memories… journey all the way home.
Maybe you will remember Sheila from the
Mayfield Clinic. There will be memories…
Maybe you worked together. Sheila faithfully Each of us will have our own, even though Sheila
served the Clinic for over 30 years, scheduling ap- opened her life to us and allowed God to reach out
pointments and greeting patients. and to touch us through her. She has left an im-
pact upon our lives that will be with us for the rest
There will be memories… of our lives. It is a gift, a precious gift from God,
Memories of a woman of courage. At age 7, Sheila that no one can take away.
contracted polio and suffered with many complica-
tions, spending a full year in a total body cast, flat Today, we not only celebrate Sheila’s life, we cel-
on her back. She learned early on how to receive ebrate God’s love and acceptance.
the care and compassion of a loving caregiver.
Sheila lived her life sharing the care and compas- We hold special thoughts and memories. Each of us
sion she received. has known Sheila in different ways, but no one of
us holds the whole truth of his life.
There will be memories…
Memories of a woman who lived by faith. Lucy, All of our reflections are partial and fragmentary.
I understand that you and Sheila prayed every Even if we took the total of all our memories in this
night, giving God thanks for His grace, and for the room this evening, it would be less than the whole
strength to face the night and a new day. truth of her life.
There will be memories… The very goodness of her life lies not in what we
Memories of a woman who made the best of life, hold of her, but in what God holds of her. For the
and who enjoyed living life with you, her family living and loving God holds each of us with a love
and who enriched our lives just by her presence. that will never let us go. I have no doubt that God
holds Sheila today with that very love.
There will be memories…
Memories of a daughter who needed your uncondi- There is much we may not have known or under-
tional care and at times, your total attention. stood: the depths of her life, the uniqueness of her
personality, the talents of her caring, the wisdom of
There will be memories… her thoughts, the joy of her giving, and the commit-
Memories of an aunt who could see things in you ments she made. But even though we may not have
that no one else could see. understood, God has seen and God has understood.
Who more would be embraced by God’s redeeming
You as family and friends are a testimony to her love and acceptance?
character. She lived out her greatest joy with you,
what a gift all your memories are today. Over her 68 years of life, God has known her fears,
her struggles, her courage, her resistance, her
Sheila has had a powerful impact upon our lives. exhaustion. God has been working for her good,
knowing what to provide for her when she could not
There will be memories… provide for herself or for others. God knows exactly
Of special meals, of her smile, of her laughter, what we need when we need it. That is why I have
simple terms of endearment, no doubt that God holds Sheila today with His love
Of the way she said things, her wisdom, her pride that will never let her go.
of her independence,
Of her stubbornness, her sense of humor, and the God, in his all-knowing love, has held her 68 years
way she had of letting you know that you were in life and now holds her in death. God has taken
loved and had a special place in her heart. her to himself and where God is, there is peace,
healing, and life.
Today is a time of celebrating life, memories, love I have no doubt that God was with Sheila every day
and acceptance. Today is also a time to celebrate of her life. God knew her joys and sorrows. God
eternal hope. The apostle Paul announced, “Noth- knew her pain and difficulty. God knew when she
ing, absolutely nothing, can separate us from the needed reassurance and when she needed wisdom
love of God as experienced in and through Jesus and strength to give assurance. Then on a Tues-
Christ.” That is the story of the resurrection. God day evening, God said, “We are not going to make
is with us, working for our good, and nothing— it back to your house before dark,” and Sheila
no disease, no disaster, no destruction, not even replied, “That’s okay, we are closer to your house
death—can separate us from God’s love. anyway.”
Because of God’s love and care in Sheila’s life, On that day, Sheila and God were so close that it
death will not have the final say. Because of Je- didn’t make any difference where they spent the
sus Christ, God has had the final say in the life of night. When she arrived, her father, many people
Sheila Stuckey. Even though we feel the pain, the she greeted at the Clinic, several good friends and
Lord’s unfailing love and mercy still continue, fresh other family members had painted a sign and had
as the morning, sure as the sunrise. The Lord is all hung it over the door. The sign said, “Welcome
we have. In him, we can place our hope. Home, Sheila! Welcome Home!”
Sheila in her physical body is gone from us now. Servant of God well done
Her physical presence, has served its purpose in Thy glorious warfare’s past
our lives. Let us remember that to be absent from The battle’s fought…The victories won
the body is to be present with the Lord. And thou art crowned at last.
In a little United Methodist church, here in the Thanks be to God for the life of Sheila Stuckey and
Midwest, there was a custom where everyone came for all God has done to make us who we are in and
into the sanctuary after Sunday school to review through her.
their Sunday school lesson. The Sunday School
Superintendent would ask someone in the congrega- PRAYER: Blessed are you O God, creator of the
tion to stand and review the lesson. universe and giver of all good gifts to your children.
We praise you for the great company of all those
One Sunday, the Superintendent asked a twelve- who have finished their course in faith and now rest
year-old girl to review the lesson. She stood and from their labor.
spoke to the congregation, “Our Sunday School les-
son this morning was about Enoch and about how This evening, we especially praise you for daughter,
Enoch walked with God. Our scripture was, ‘Enoch Sheila. Receive her into the arms of your mercy.
walked with God and was not, for God took him.’” Raise her up with all your people. Receive us also,
and raise us into a new life. Help us so to love and
The girl went on to explain, “Enoch and God were serve you in this world that we may enter into your
best friends. Every morning when Enoch would get joy in the world to come.
up to walk through the community, God would walk
with him. Every place Enoch would go, God would Thank you, O God, for all you have done in and
go, because Enoch and God were really close. But through Sheila to make us who we are today. Thank
about Enoch’s death, here’s how it happened. you for this time we have shared together in our
Enoch and God were out walking one day and on grief. We ask that in the days to come that you will
their way to Enoch’s house, it got dark and God give us the gift of joy, that we may have health and
said to Enoch, ‘I don’t think we are going to make strength and that we may know your abiding pres-
it to your house before dark.’ And Enoch said, ence and promise in days of pain and grief.
‘That’s okay, we are closer to your house anyway.
Let’s just go and spend the night at your house.’ We praise you for home and friends, and for our
So, Enoch went to spend the night at God’s house.” place in your Church with all who have faithfully
lived and died. Above all else, we thank you for
She ended the story by saying, “Enoch and God Jesus, who knows our grief, who died our death,
were so close that it didn’t make any difference to and rose for our sake, and who lives and prays for
either one of them whether they spent the night at us even today. We are grateful, O God. In Jesus’
Enoch’s house or whether they spent the night at name. Amen.
In 1991, Sheila was promoted to the Communica-
tions Department where she served as the Meeting
Planner and Administative Assistant. She joined
Tom Rosenberger, Debbie Burlage, Kathy Brady
and the growing Communications team.
Sheila had served extensively as the Administrative
Director of the Hilton Head Neurosurgical Sympo-
sium and numerous other national and internation-
al meetings developed by the Mayfield organization.
In this capacity, Sheila became an international
figure in neurosurgical education. She and Lucy
Comments from John M. Tew, Jr., MD enjoyed the exposure and new friends immensely.
Sheila Stuckey lived a life full of giving and smiles. Throughout her wonderful career at Mayfield,
So, it is appropriate that all remarks celebrate her she made many friends there. In addition to Dr.
extraordinary life. Mayfield and Ada Fagin, Dr. Dick Budde, Stewart
Dunsker, Kerry Crone, Tom Saul, Jeff Keller, Bill
Sheila Stuckey came into the world as a gift, the Tobler and Harry van Loveren, as well as Marie
first child born to Grady and Lucy Stuckey. She Tepe and Jo Shade stand out in my mind, but there
grew up in Cincinnati with her brother Bill. She were so many others. She was loved by everyone at
and Bill had wonderful childhoods, but both the Mayfield Clinic.
contracted polio at an early age. While Bill recov-
ered quickly, Sheila spent months in an iron lung When Sheila retired from Mayfield in 2002, the
and was disabled by the disease for her entire life. board unanimously agreed to rename the board
Remarkably, she was able to finish high school room in her honor because she had touched so
and eventually graduated from the University of many people during her tenure at Mayfield. The
Cincinnati. At an early age, it was clear to all who plaque that hangs outside the Sheila Stuckey Board
knew her that Sheila was a phenomenally tough, Room of Mayfield’s corporate office is on display
and courageous young woman. I remember a story here today.
that Eleanor Roosevelt told about her husband, the
president. When asked “Did Polio interfere with his Sheila’s contributions extended to the community
ability to relate to people?” The first lady replied, in her roles as a member of the Medical Advisory
“On the contrary, it made him more accepting of Committees at Cincinnati Technical College and
all people, particularly those with infirmity.” This Southern Ohio Business College. She was a member
story characterizes our friend Sheila so perfectly. of the Madison House Resident Council, and mem-
ber and officer of the Polio Connection. As a young
Fortunately for my colleagues and me, Dr. Mayfield lady, she was crowned Polio Queen in Cincinnati,
recruited Sheila as a receptionist for the group of and made many friends through that organization,
Mayfield, Lotspeich, Hunter and Budde in 1962. some of who are here today.
She served as assistant to Ada Fagin who became
a close ally. Sheila subsequently served as secre- Besides the loving support of Lucy, Bill, Kellie,
tary to Drs. Earl Jordan and Charles True until Jason and all of the family, there were others. Dr.
1969 when she was assigned to provide instruction David Wiltze, her primary physician, is a miracle
for me, a new recruit to the group and to the city. worker who guided Sheila though many difficult
Sheila was directly responsible for teaching me the encounters when there appeared to be no hope. So
nuances about the community, the practice and for many times we thought Sheila was gone, and Dr.
making certain that I did not make any social or Wiltse would find a way to help Sheila fight back.
business mistakes. Tom and Judy Rosenberger, and Peg Bach were
incredibly good friends. They were always there for
In those days, the practice was small; everyone was both Sheila and Lucy. Marietta Garber, Dorothy
in the Oak building where we held all the events Lockspeiser, and Carolyn McFarlane are wonderful
such as picnics and Christmas parties. The families friends and neighbors, who helped with groceries
came and brought all of the children. Sheila was and provided uplifting inspiration and support for
always in charge of the details and knew everyone. both Lucy and Sheila. Everyone at the Madison
For us at Mayfield, Sheila was the symbol of our House was their extended family.
spirit and became our image to the community. Continued on p. 7
38 Years with Mayfiel
Graduated from University of
Cincinnati with BA in History
Joined Mayfield, Lotspeich, Hunter, and Budde Corporation renamed the
as Receptionist and Assistant to Ada Fagin Member, Medical
Mayfield Neurological Institute Advisory Committee,
Hilton Head Cincinnati Technical
Organized the first Microsurgery Symposium,
The Christ and Good Samaritan Hospitals
Member, Medical Advisory Committee,
Southern Ohio Business College
President, Medical Assistants of Cincinnati
Secretary to Organized the first Laser
Dr. Earl Jordan, Microneurosurgery Course,
Neurosurgeon Good Samaritan Hospital
Dr. John M. Tew, Jr., Administrative assistant,
Neurosurgeon Neurosciences Foundation
Secretary to Dr. Charles True,
Neuropathologist and Anatomist
for Primary Care Physicians
Symposium Mayfield Neurological Institute
renamed Mayfield Clinic, and the
Mayfield Spine Institute established
The Christ Hospital Organized the first National Leadership
Conference Trigeminal Neuralgia Association
Organized the Organized the Midwest Regional
Contemporary Brain Tumor Conference
Techniques Courses, Organized Acoustic Neuroma Association’s
Goodyear Lab 15th National Symposium
2002 Retired after 38
Meeting Planner and
Officer, Mayfield Organized Snowmass
The Polio Society Neuroscience Symposium
to Tom Rosenberger,
Connection formed VP Communications
Organized the Four-State
Moved to the Madison House,
Member of Resident’s Council
Comments from Tom Rosenberger
Continued from p. 4
Barbara Lynch and her sister Debbie Leonardi How do you begin to talk about someone as special
have been incredibly supportive. Barbara lives out as Sheila Stuckey? She was an amazing woman. She
west, but was still able to come back several times accomplished so much, while dealing with the debil-
and stayed in constant touch with Sheila and Lucy. itating affects of polio her entire life. What is even
Her sister Debbie was at Drake at least once a more amazing was her manner: such style, grace
week, even though she had very ill members of her and genuine human kindness. She loved everybody,
own family. and everybody loved her. My wife Judy and I, and
our daughter Katie, love her very much.
Glen Mayfield has been a faithful friend and master
financial advisor. Sheila didn’t have to worry about As Dr. Tew mentioned, Sheila and I began working
her finances because she knew that Glen always had together in the early 1990s, but I knew of her years
her security preserved. before. When I started working at Mayfield, Mike
Gilligan asked me to stop in and meet with Sheila
Sheila always talked so fondly of the late Reverend and Debbie beforehand because they were worried
Helferick who was such a strong influence, and about “the new guy.” But as soon as we met, we
helped the Stuckey’s through the loss of Sheila’s fa- both knew this was going to be fun. By the end of
ther Grady several years ago. They loved the “Rev” that first meeting, she was batting those big eyes at
very much. me and grinning from ear to ear. And it WAS fun.
Sheila had a unique way of making everyone who
Of course, no one can speak of Sheila without men- worked with her feel good. She was always very
tioning her lifelong companion, her mother Lucy. optimistic and could find the good in anyone.
What a wonderful relationship they had. Lucy, you
were a fantastic mother, partner, and friend for One time a woman came into the office and saw
Sheila. All of us are so amazed by the love, care, the nameplate on her desk which read “Sheila
dedication, and support you have for each other. Stuckey”. The woman couldn’t read very well and
We know that this love will live on for eternity. blurted out, “Are you Shelly Tucker?” And Sheila,
afraid to offend her, said, “Why yes, I am.” From
Sheila has had a phenomenal impact on literally that time on, I called her Shelly Tucker, especially
thousands of people’s lives. But Susan and I will when we disagreed about something. Then, she
always have a special place in our hearts for Sheila. would grin, bat her eyes and say, “Oh my heavens”
Her gentle kindness, her love of life, her passion or “You’re a silly, silly man.” Then I’d give in and
for her career, her steadfast loyalty and love for do whatever she wanted me to do in the first place.
her mother and family, and her commitment to her She had a knack for getting her way just about
friends, are all things that made Sheila a beautifully every time and making me feel like the hero in the
unique individual. She touched our lives in count- process. It was just her way.
less ways, and we are better because of it. We love
her and will miss her very much. When my daughter was three, Sheila joined Katie
and me in the American Heart Association’s annual
We are all mindful that Sheila’s body has suc- Heart Walk. I was so worried Katie might get lost
cumbed to the ravages of polio but her spirit among the thousands of people, so I bought one of
remains undaunted and will always be full of love those little pink “child harnesses” with a long belt
and hope. attached to keep us connected. Judy didn’t think it
was a good idea because it looked like I was pulling
my daughter along on a leash. Sheila rode along be-
side us in her little red scooter as we walked down
Columbia Parkway. It was a beautiful morning and
a very fun day, but I have to tell you, it wasn’t long
before Sheila went scooting past me with Katie on
her lap helping her drive the scooter. They both
waved at me and laughed as they drove past. And
suddenly, I realized that THEY were pulling ME
along on the leash! Sheila’s scooter ran out of juice
about a half mile from the finish line, so Kate and
I pushed her over the line so she could finish the
walk. It was a gloriously fun day and we laughed Peg Bach was phenomenal in her constant visits to
about it for years afterward. the hospital week after week, bringing clothes, fans,
laughter, love and whatever Sheila or Lucy needed.
Sheila was amazingly connected. Peg Bach and I Carolyn, Marietta, Dorothy, as well as all the
were often amazed by the scoop that Sheila had people who live and work at the Madison House,
about current events and everyone famous in have been phenomenal. They have become our good
Cincinnati. You could always count on her to have friends now too, and I am grateful for that.
the latest news. She somehow made it all seem so
innocent and fun. And I had no problem sharing And like Dr. Tew, I have been so impressed with
everything I knew with her. All she had to do was Glen Mayfield, Frank Jr., and all the Mayfield fam-
look at me with those big eyes and say, “OK buddy, ily, who have cared so deeply for Sheila all these
give it up.” and I would spill my guts. I think she years and have done so much to help her. They,
had that affect on a lot of people. too, have become my good friends along the way.
But to me, the most amazing thing about Sheila was And of course my beautiful wife Judy, who helped
the awesome relationship she had with Lucy. Their with groceries, doctor appointments, and overnight
incredible love for each other was like nothing I stays on multiple occasions when either Sheila or
have ever seen. They were connected in a way that Lucy was in the hospital for a day or two. She also
is hard for most of us to fathom. They could fin- put up with my frequent late night visits to the
ish each other’s sentences. When Sheila attended a ladies on the way home from work. She had a few
work party or function, she would come home and late night visits with the ladies after work as well.
tell Lucy everything about it. I know this for a fact, To all of these people, and so many more I have not
because when I visited with them a few weeks later, mentioned, please know how much Sheila appreci-
no matter what the event, I swear Lucy knew more ated your kindness and commitment to her and her
about it than I did. It was like she was there! They mother.
shared everything with each other, and both would
gladly give their lives for one another. All of us I thank God for the wonderful gift he gave me: to be
should be so lucky to have such unconditional love able to work with, know, and love Sheila Stuckey.
for someone else. And I think that same uncondi- I am a better man because of that gift, and I will
tional love is what kept Sheila alive for so long. She never, never forget her batting eyes, glowing smile,
did not want to leave sweet Lucy alone. and incredibly kind heart.
And who would blame her. Lucy epitomizes all that Sheila…Judy, Katie and I love you very much, and
is Sheila: the same sweet smile, goodness, gentle we always will. God Bless.
nature and kind soul. Like Sheila, her mother Lucy
is one of the sweetest and kindest people I have ever
met. Lucy…Sheila was so lucky to have you in her
life. You gave her such a wonderful existence. You
stood by her no matter what. And you were as loyal
and committed to her as anyone I have ever seen.
She was able to live her life in a relatively indepen-
dent way, because you were there every step of her
journey. You dedicated your life to Sheila, and so
many times she told me how grateful she was for
you. She loved you dearly.
There were so many people in Sheila’s life who
provided wonderful support. Dr. Tew mentioned
many of them already, but there are a few people
who were there so often for Sheila that they deserve
Dr. John Tew and his wife Susan have been so com-
mitted to the Stuckey’s throughout their lives. Both
Sheila and Lucy depended on them for so much,
and they always came through for them. It was
Tribute to a Perhaps, it was Sheila being “our peer,” or maybe
it was “Dad’s fondness for her,” whatever, there al-
Remarkable Lady ways existed a special bond between Sheila Stuckey
and the Mayfield children. It would not be surpris-
ing, if every other constituency that floats around
Presented by Frank Mayfield, Jr., at Sheila’s the INSTITUTE would feel similar. The fact is,
retirement celebration at Mayfield, June Sheila bonded with all whom she served.
She followed a tradition…Ms. Ivy, Ms. Fagin, and
Mrs. Tepe, all able associates, and great guardians
At the inception of Sheila Stuckey’s association with
in their own right. But none stands taller in stead-
the INSTITUTE, Dr. Mayfield’s children were just
fastness, faithfulness, and years of service, as does
beginning their adult lives. Sally was a new school
teacher, Frank Jr. was in graduate school, Glen
was a commissioned first-year officer in the Marine
The essence of this remarkable lady is found in her
Corps, and Vicky was a college freshman.
brand of stewardship. It was born of the pride she
held for a truly celebrated practice, in the style she
As a new Administrative Assistant at Oak Street,
coveted in protecting her practitioners, and by her
Sheila readily recognized the close relationship Dr.
noble trait displayed in recognizing privilege and
Mayfield enjoyed with his children. The children
professionalism as partners.
simultaneously, and smartly, grasped that the ‘new
kid on the block’ had somehow been anointed one
It has been suggested certain tenured retirees as-
of the gatekeepers at the INSTITUTE. Gatekeeper
sume over time the very characteristics of the insti-
was a position, which the good Doctor’s children
tution. Some could see this as a case in reverse…the
paid particular homage. When a pressing problem
institution elevated to the greater extent. Through
required getting through to their father, penetrat-
those 38 magnanimous years, the INSTITUTE
ing the invisible wall was far easier if the impor-
seemed to almost take on the face of Sheila Stuckey.
tance of the gatekeeper was aptly appreciated.
At the very least, the two could be viewed as one.
The artwork throughout
this tribute was taken
Each card has a small sticker on the
back that reads: “Emilie Hauck Heine
Home, 1904, now Mayfield Clinic.
Delft tiles line kitchen. Art Nouveau
and stencilled geometric tiles line
bathrooms. (Sheila Stuckey)”