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                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              And Other Lessons on Leadership
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       values, character, trust, and humility
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       The Big Idea
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       It is always best to learn from those who have learned these lessons the hard way - instead of having to learn them for ourselves.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                  No leader can escape the standing rule: a confrontation delayed is a confrontation escalated.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           It shows constructive and courageous ways to deal with common leadership problems
                                                                 1. Never loses connectional relationships when making convictional decisions;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Why You Need This Book             distils time-tested insights into twelve maxims, each one beginning with Never

                                                                                                   2. Never casts blame when stating the case;

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Leaders who are vaulted to the pinnacle of power are particularly susceptible to the temptation to upstage whoever may be ahead of them.
3. Never puts on a gas mask in a toxic environment (never hides behind anything just to avoid confrontation, but deals with the matter head-on);
                                                                                                                                                       With full credit to Rabbi Friedman, the proponent of self-differentiated leadership, here are some principles on what a self-differentiated leader is like:
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Leadership Maxim 9 – Never Hide behind a Gas Mask                                                                                                     Your problem begins when you try to play god.
                                                            4. Never creates a triangle (involves a third party) in order to diffuse responsibility;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            The temptation to play god is a never-ending one for leaders, and it must be constantly fought.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Leadership Maxim 1 – Never Play God
                                                                                             5. Never delays direct confrontation when needed;

                                                                                                   6. Never hesitates in dealing with saboteurs.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 President Lyndon Johnson said that being a leader was often like being a jackass in a Texas hailstorm.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 As lonely as you may very well be in your leadership role, you will never know real isolation. Your loneliness may be real, but it is never ultimate.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 If you can't stand loneliness, stay away from leadership.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Human beings make symbols; great leaders master them.
                                                                                                                                  Time and time again, stories are told about executives who are captives of their office and known to the rank and file of employees only in a formal setting on the boss' turf.                                                                                                        Leadership Maxim 2 – Never Blink in a Hailstorm
                                                                                                                                                                                                        In such cases the leadership symbols of time and place are still operative, but the results are negative.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                               "Strategic presence" is one of the most powerful symbols for the exercise of leadership.             Leadership Maxim 10 – Never Sniff at Symbols
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                As an antidote to loneliness, leaders need someone reliable and reputable in whom they can confide.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Leaders may often be lonely, but they must never go it alone.
                                                                                                                                                        Like a pendulum that swings from one pole to the opposite, a leader is under constant pressure to take an extreme position or swing between the poles.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Leadership Maxim 3 – Never Go Solo
                                                                                                                                                       A swinging pendulum also describes the environment within which leaders must work. Opposite poles represent the paradox that defines the leader's task.

                                                                                                                                                                          In every decision, a leader is suspended on the horns of the dilemma posed by these questions: "Who am I?" and "What is my nature?"
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Leaders are particularly vulnerable to the test of integrity. The more visible you are, the more vulnerable you are.
                                                                                                                                                                      Until you answer the deepest of these vocational questions for yourself, you will ride the pendulum between extremes and resolve nothing.                                                                                                                                                                               If every one is honest, each has to admit that every one has a point of weakness.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Leadership Maxim 11 – Never Ride a Pendulum                                                                                                                  Unless you are on guard, the seduction of money, sex, or power can be your downfall.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Leadership Maxim 4 – Never Steal a Paper Clip
                                                                                                                                                        Saying "Thank You" does not come naturally for most leaders. After assigning a task or delegating a responsibility, a leader expects results without adulation.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        A word of thanks, judiciously given, is far more than a leader's last responsibility.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           It is a special privilege that goes with the role.          Leadership Maxim 12 – Never Expect Thanks                                                                                                             Leaders who come from humble beginnings are most susceptible to public attention and praise.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             If the praise is swallowed, humble people become arrogant and people with a little knowledge become "legends in their own minds."
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Enjoy the fragrance of praise, but don't swallow it. If you do, the effects can well be fatal.
                                                                                                                                                                          Like the human heartbeat, freedom to lead has two strokes in the cycle - "freedom from", something that is self-destructive, and "freedom to", the freedom to be someone who is self-giving.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Leadership Maxim 5 – Never Swallow Perfume
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   From: pride in position
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              Never play God frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            To: lead with CREATIVITY
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            From: cowardice under pressure
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    Never blink in a hailstorm frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               To: lead with CONSISTENCY
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  From: betraying trust                                                                                                                                                   Every leader needs to build a balcony and know when to go there.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                Never go solo frees you                                                                                                                   To make the view from the balcony a perspective for all of life is quite another, as this has repercussions not only for your life as a leader, but for all of life.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           To: lead with ACCOUNTABILITY
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        From: fearing exposure                                                                                                                                                            As going to the balcony gives you perspective in difficult negotiations, looking up to the mountains frames the big picture for all of life.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     Never steal a paper clip frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      To: lead with INTEGRITY
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       From: falling for flattery                                                                        Leadership Maxim 6 – Never Build without a Balcony
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Never swallow perfume frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      To: lead with HUMILITY
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     From: making regrettable decisions                                                                                                                                                            Interruptions are particularly frustrating.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             Never build without a balcony frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           To: lead with PERSPECTIVE
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   author Henri Nouwen teaches us that interruptions such as these may not be as useless as we may think
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       From: being enslaved by schedules
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               Never waste an interruption frees you                                                                                                               he used to get so engrossed in his research and writing that he resented students who dropped in without an appointment
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            To: lead with SPONTANEITY                                                         Free Indeed!              Leadership Maxim 7 – Never Waste an Interruption
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           From: dreading a risk                                                                                                                                                   he suddenly realized that he had his most meaningful encounters with students during those unscheduled times                  Nouwen drew the conclusion that the students did not interrupt his business, they were his business
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Never die from failure frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         To: lead by LEARNING
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          From: avoiding confrontation                                                                                                                                                   Usually when you think about great leaders, you begin by noting their successes.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            Never hide behind a gas mask frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           To: lead with CONVICTION
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         When they go a step further, they will remember that they learned more from their failures than from their successes.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      From: fear of imagination
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       Never sniff at symbols frees you                                                                                                  Winston Churchill once quipped. “Success is going from failure to failure without losing your enthusiasm.”
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         To: lead with ARTISTRY
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     From: paralysis at extremes                                                                                                                                                             To Lead is to Risk. Risk is synonymous with leadership. Anyone who is averse to risk will never be able to lead.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      Never ride a pendulum frees you
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       To: lead with BALANCE
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            From: overdependence upon affirmation                                                                                                                                                            To Risk is to Fail. Great leaders who take risks know the reality of failure.
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          Never expect thanks frees us
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         To: lead with SELF-WORTH
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         Four realities
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        Leadership Maxim 8 – Never Die from Failure
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             To Fail is to Learn. Of course such an outlook requires a good dose of self-esteem.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             To Learn is to Grow. Leaders grow when they learn from risk that may include failure.

                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              David L. McKenna
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           OMF Literature Inc., 2005
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           ISBN 978-971-0495-38-3
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  188 pages

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