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                                                                                                                                                           Sexual Abuse
                                                                  Kentucky Campus
children aware of the dangers of                                  Open 24 Hours
molestation and abuse. The goal                                   P.O. Box 2048
                                                                  Louisville, KY
    should be to educate children                                 (502) 581-7273 Rape Crisis Line
                                                                  (800) 656-HOPe Rape Crisis Line
      rather than frighten them.                                  (502) 581-7242 TDD
     Children are taught to view
                                                                  West Louisville Campus
           adults as being honest                                 (502) 775-6408
                  and trustworthy.                                Mt. Washington Office
                                                                  (502) 538-0212
     Sexual abuse is devastating                                  Shelbyville Office
  because of the betrayal of that                                 (502) 633-7800
    trust. When the offender is a                                 IndIAnA
   member of the child’s family,                                  Southern Indiana Campus
                                                                  Open 24 Hours
  there are additional problems.                                  New Albany, IN
                                                                  (812) 944-6743 Crisis Line
    There are, however, services
       available to help the child    The National Center         Corydon Office
                                                                  (812) 734-0280
          and entire family work      for Missing & Exploited
         through this experience.                                 Marengo Office
                                      Children states that        (812) 365-2338
                                      sexual molestation          Scottsburg Office                                                      Scott Co.
                                      occurs when:                (812) 752-7996                                                         United Way

                                                                                     (877) 803-7577                                                           Information from
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                                      older individual                 
                                      engages in any type       The Center for Women and Families is committed to creating an
                                                                environment in which diversity is valued and assures no person shall be
                                      of sexual activity with   excluded from participation in, denied the benefits of, subjected to
                                                                discrimination under, or denied employment on the basis of race, religion,
                                      individuals legally       sex, national origin, sexual orientation, gender identity, age, handicap,
                                                                disability, veteran status, familial status, or political opinion.
                                      defined as children.”
                                                                These programs are funded, in part, by the following: U.S. Dept. of Health & Human
                                                                Services, U.S. Dept. of Housing and Urban Development, U.S. Dept. of Justice (OVC), U.S.
                                                                Department of Labor, Kentucky Justice Cabinet, Kentucky Housing Corporation, Dept.
                                                                of Mental Health/Mental Retardation Services, Kentucky Domestic Violence Association,
                                                                Kentucky General Assembly, Indiana Family & Social Services Admin., Community
                                                                Foundation of Southern Indiana, Metro Louisville City Government, Metro United Way,
                                                                United Way of Scott County, Harrison Co. Community Foundation, Scott County Community
                                                                Foundation, Floyd County General Fund, Indiana Criminal Justice Institute, Preventative
                                                                Health & Health Services Block Grant, Fiscal Courts of Spencer, Shelby, Trimble, Oldham,
                                                                Bullitt, and Henry Counties in Kentucky, Younger Woman’s Club of Louisville, Target,
                                                                Caesars Riverboat Casino Foundation, UPS Foundation, General Mills, and other grants
                                                                received from local businesses, foundations, and contributions.
           Parental Reactions                                     Progression of Molestation                                              Reporting the Abuse                                             Steps to Healing
Finding out your child has been                                                   • Offender exposes child to                 As a parent, reporting the abuse is the only way to have      The following is a list of common feelings that parents
the victim of sexual abuse can be                                                 pornography.                                the molestation stopped legally and to ensure your            experience after they become aware that their child
one of the most difficult situa-                                                                                              child’s safety. As a child’s caregiver, if you suspect a      has been sexually abused.
                                                                                  • Offender exposes himself or
tions for parents to face. If you                                                                                             child is being abused, you must report it to the proper
                                                                                  herself or views child’s body.
learn your child has been                                                                                                     authorities.                                                  It is very important to allow yourself to experience
sexually abused, keep in mind                                                     • Offender touches own body
                                                                                                                                                                                            these feelings as they occur. You may experience all or
that to a great extent, your                                                      first then child’s.
                                                                                                                              Steps to reporting consist of the following:                  only one of these steps on your way to acceptance.
reaction will determine how                                                       • Offender touches child’s
                                                                                  genitals and has the child touch            • File a police report.
your child will heal.                                                                                                                                                                       • Shock and denial - feeling of disbelief.
                                                                                  him or her.                                 • Report the abuse to Child Protective Services.
                                                                                                                                                                                            • Anger - can be vented through family quarrels,
• Listen carefully to your child.                                                                                             • Police officer and/or social worker from Child
                                                                                  • Offender performs oral sex on                                                                             threatening the molester.
                                                                                  the child or has the child perform             Protective Services will interview the child.              • Guilt and depression - victim or victim’s parents
• Support your child for telling                                                  oral sex on him or her.                     • Have the child examined by a qualified or specially           feel responsible.
  through praise, belief,                                                                                                        trained doctor.                                            • Bargaining - trying to forget by becoming too
                                                               • Offender performs actual penetration -
  sympathy, lack of blame.                                     usually with tongue, fingers and then, the penis.              • If there is substantial evidence of abuse, the                involved in other activities.
                                                               Penetration can be vaginal/anal.                                  case is referred to a prosecuting attorney.                • Acceptance - dealing with what happened.
• Reassure your child that you will protect him or
                                                                                                                              • A warrant is issued for the arrest of the offender.
  her from further abuse. He or she is safe now.
                                                                                                                              • If his whereabouts are known, he is arrested.
• Provide opportunities for your child to talk
                                                                       Facts about Abusers                                    • At the first court appearance the judge will
  about the abuse.                                                                                                               determine if there is a probable cause to pursue
                                                                                                                                 the case. If so, the defendant is released on bond,
• Realize the recovery process takes time and
                                                           Molesters cannot be classified in any set group of race,
                                                           age, gender, religion, economic status, level of intelli-             or held without bond. If not, the case is dismissed.               Safety Rules for Parents
  the help of supportive professionals.                    gence, profession or marital status.                               • The next court appearance is to give the defendant
                                                                                                                                 an arraignment date for court-this could be days or            • Know where your child is at all times.
• Believe your child.                                      Sexual abuse is a highly repetitive, compulsive                       weeks later.                                                   • Don’t leave your child alone in any public
                                                           behavior. Most people who molest children are not                  • Plea bargaining may take place.                                   place - even a restroom, a toy store or in the
Parents are not always the first to hear about the         insane.                                                            • Arraignment-judge will hear a plea or the date                    car in a parking lot.
abuse. Abused children sometimes fear that their
parents won’t believe them or would be burdened                                                                                  for a jury trial is set. If there is a plea, the case is       • Don’t put your child’s name, first or last, on
                                                           97% of known abusers are male, relatively young, and
by the knowledge.                                                                                                                closed and the child doesn’t have to testify.
                                                           start abusing as teens. Women can be abusers as well.                                                                                  clothing or belongings. A person who calls
                                                                                                                              • If no plea bargain is reached, the judge will hold a
                                                                                                                                                                                                  your child by his or her first name may be
Therefore, children will sometimes report the              Most sexual offenders molest numerous times before                    competency hearing to decide if the child will be a
abuse to someone they trust at school. Teachers                                                                                  competent witness. The child will be asked if he or              trusted by your child.
                                                           being apprehended.
may notice indications of molestation in the child’s                                                                             she knows the difference between a lie and the truth.          • Make it clear to your child to whose home he
drawings or writings, or in the ways in which the                                                                             • Jury trial.                                                       or she may go to play or visit.
child interacts with other children. A physician may
                                                                                                                                                                                                • Know your child’s friends and those
discover suspected abuse during a routine physical
examination. Child Protective Services may receive                                                                                                                                                responsible for supervising them.
a call from a suspecting family member, friend or        If you suspect a child is being physically or sexually abused or neglected,                                                            • Notice if someone pays undue attention to
school official. Don’t allow your feelings of guilt or   you must report it to the proper authorities.                                                                                            your child.
anger stand in the way of good communication with
                                                                                                                                                                                                • Respect your child’s reluctance to be
your child.                                              We at The Center are here to provide support for victims of sexual abuse
                                                         and their loved ones. We provide support and advocacy at hospitals, police                                                               with someone, even if it is someone familiar.
                                                         stations and in court, as well as counseling with qualified therapists.                                                                • Be involved in your child’s activities.
                                                                                                                                                                                                • Never belittle any fear or concern your
                                                                    Rape Crisis Hotline: (800) 656-HOPE                                                                                           child has - real or imaginary.
                                                                     Child Abuse Hotline: (502) 588-4550                                                                                        • Encourage parent-child communication.
                                                                 Crimes Against Children Unit: (502) 588-2465

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